| Wonderful suggetions Woodrow
Posted: 7/27/2005 7:54:10 AM | Longest thread I have read yet very well written I however do not agree with one point that he made
“This is not a competition. You aren’t out to ‘win’ a gal.”
Admit the truth ladies, if there is not something that catches your eye quickly then you move on to one that does. And the average guy profile sits in the stack while you read up on witty comments from woodrow or the hot pic of the guy with great abbs. Woodrow mentioned that some girls will post a pic of their chest, why? To gain attention, is that not a form of competition?
Men may not be competing with other men directly but this is a competition | |
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LANGA
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Joined: 8/28/2005
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 9/11/2005 1:12:48 AM | Part two? LOL ok simple, ask her out !!
LADIES AND GENTeLMEN- look if this was a competition, believe me, alot of guys and girls out there would NEVER give up , ever, even once the "competition" is married, they would never stop. Do you see what I mean? So obviously this ain't no competition, if it was i think things would be alot worse. But luckly it isn't thank God.
Having a mate is a privilage and a God given right. NO NEED TO COMPETE!! | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 9/11/2005 1:38:57 AM | Woodrow, I don't know you, but I can tell you are the ambassador of kwan around here! Too bad you're advice to the "nice guys" hasn't taken, though. There are a record number of "woe is me, I'm a nice guy" threads around here! To the contrary, the women that have passed me over in the past ended up with, well, nice guys. I'm even good friends with one of the lucky ba$tards.
But I do have one question: how do you (ahem!) feel about profiles that have "Prefer not to say" in the "Drugs" category? Just curious... 
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 9/11/2005 11:35:08 PM | Two things to add.
Guys using the number 69 in thier ID or saying they are "very oral". 
Giving their phone number in the first message they send. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 9/15/2005 8:13:36 AM | | I've seen advice about listing some creative things to do on a first date, and I just wanted to share this one that a guy suggested to me recently. I still haven't forgotten what a great idea it was! He said, We can go to an animal shelter and comfort the animals. He and I are both animal lovers, and I thought, What a great idea! I'd love to do that! | |
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| Wonderful suggetions Woodrow
Posted: 9/15/2005 12:16:18 PM | | Mr. Woodrow......well done and I think you need to do one for the ladies. You hit several points and I passed it on to some of my male friends in the Online Dating arena. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 11/3/2005 1:21:48 AM |
But I do have one question: how do you (ahem!) feel about profiles that have "Prefer not to say" in the "Drugs" category? Just curious...
Well, in the paranoid culture that we live in, jumping to conclusions is granted. An example of dealing with it: I went out for a glass of wine with a pof-lady who stated "prefer not to answer" in her profile. I gave her the benefit of the doubt; perhaps others might be offended by that question (do we need to submit the results of urine analyses? Do we have a "are you a virgin?"-question?). So I asked her face-to-face about her answer, and she explained that, very occasionally, she enjoyed a joint.
While not a pot-smoker myself, I could deal with a partner who blows a spliff every few weeks, but not a tobacco smoker (speaking as an ex-nic-addict)
Too bad that the US constitution is written on hemp...
ciao
G.U.
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Hezron
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:52:10 AM | Very well put btw...
I deal with e-mails from idiots all the time....but my fav is when you don't respond to their e-mail, and then they e-mail you back and say, HEY! you whore, or some other not so nice thng...to which i usually send back something along the lines of, "OH, did we hurt your feelings by not responding? You weren't my type, and your little fitsy-witsy you just threw certainly confirmed my inital impression of you." and then I block them...LOL
Yeah, there are lots of ar$eholes and idiots online, but there are also just as many great people on line too...the key is knowing one from the other... | |
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| Wonderful suggetions Woodrow
Posted: 2/16/2006 8:54:24 AM | Longest thread I have read yet very well written I however do not agree with one point that he made
“This is not a competition. You aren’t out to ‘win’ a gal.”
Admit the truth ladies, if there is not something that catches your eye quickly then you move on to one that does. And the average guy profile sits in the stack while you read up on witty comments from woodrow or the hot pic of the guy with great abbs. Woodrow mentioned that some girls will post a pic of their chest, why? To gain attention, is that not a form of competition?
Men may not be competing with other men directly but this is a competition I just want to ask you a simple question, vulture. How many women have you inquired what turns them on? Simply put, there's alot of real (read: not imaginary) women out there who actually don't get wet looking at hunky pecs, but say "alternative skater dudes" and a host of other types that i can't be bothered to remember off the top of my head.
So take a step back and relax.
mmmm...i'd like to add something, woodrow. 'Interests' (for both sexes) really should describe what one does regularly. like say, once a week or more. Personally, i've trimmed my interests to eliminate stuff like "kissing", "cuddling" because, if i get that regularly why the HELL am i on this site? (actually, hugging female coworkers and friends seems to be on par with handshakes with males but whatever, that's another topic) ...oh, i love cats so i posted that; on the other hand, i love soccer, but since i'm too cheap to purchase cable (i don't watch TV much) i couldn't name any strikers that Chelsea employs, therefore i haven't listed it.
Oh, and snowboarding. i love it but the last time i went was a year or two ago. So i nixed that one as well. This makes me wonder WTF goes through female minds when they post, "golfing", "Boating" and "fine dining" ...all i see is GOLDDIGGER / high maintenance. lol ooops, guess that's off topic here.
oh and i have one criticism. only one. It's about the issue of internet abbreviations. If some gal happens to know what the hell, "roflmao" or something similar that makes internet chatting more convenient i'm not going to get in a snit and assume she's uneducated....especially since i've seen my aunt start spouting this stuff the very day i taught her how to chat with her sister long distance over the internet. Okay, so she's a nurse and i've got a soft spot for them, so there. This goes for the guy's perspective as well - this is the INTERNET. Say i post "WTF" and some troll in sheep's clothing gets all self-righteous about my lack of respect for blah blah blah, i'm going to laff. oh sorry, that's L.A.U.G.H. for you mensa types. | |
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Joined: 10/26/2005
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| Wonderful suggetions Woodrow
Posted: 2/16/2006 9:03:53 AM | Woody--lengthy......but well done
2 steps sideways---Love that sexy pic....the other one in your profile is hot to. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 3/22/2006 3:55:22 PM | nice post. i'd like to add my own what not to do on a dating site list. (i may add to this.)
what not to do on a dating site:
say you want to find someone who "doesn't cheat"
specifically state you have unresolved issues ("my ex cheated, so now you'll have to earn my trust." or worse, "i've learned not to trust anyone")
display a picture of you with your ex
display a picture of you before you gained weight
display a picture more than two years old
try to make your profile match someone's profile you like (be who you are, dammit!)
say "we have so much in common" for no apparent reason
talk about communication being important because you think that's what we want to hear
take it personally (or get mad) if someone doesn't email you back or take an interest in you
ask someone "why" they're not interested in you
mispell every other word (try to make a good impression...it shows)
forget to take your psych medication before you go online
contact someone who wants a serious relationship when you just want an intimate encounter
be unrealistic (if you're 52, overweight, and underemployed, don't be shocked if a young, athletic, professional is not smitten with you)
have an aversion to communicating online (where do you think you are? it makes no sense)
come across as overly negative or pessimistic about relationships or life in general.
communicate "poor me"
if you want to find the right person, be the right person. if you want to be liked, be likeable.
be patient. if you're lonely, find other things to do. read a book. get a hobby. learn. grow. become a better person while you're waiting.
if you're waiting for someone else to come in and change your life, that could be why your single. think about it. maybe it is you. maybe not.
like yourself anyway. either way.
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 3/22/2006 4:02:17 PM | forgot one:
do not
post a picture of yourself with our ex quit obviously cut out. this does not send a good message.
take a new picture. and get over what ever she did to you, please.
(the worst i ever saw was where a guy had actually "rubbed out" his ex from the picture using digital imaging. and he even explained what he did. very eerie,) | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 5/2/2006 3:25:29 AM | | I'm not sure if this was added in part one but I know it wasn't in part two, but just to let you guys/men/boys whatever the case may be, know if you don't like what you read in the profile, do not waste my time nor yours and send me a email about what you think about it. It just shows great insecurity to me (my perception) just move on. If you don't l;ike me it doesn't hurt my feelings really, just takes my time and energy away from people I enjoy chatting with. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 5/3/2006 10:27:52 PM | you forgot something.....
the overly used whiney "nice guys finish last"....it is a major turn-off. When I see it on someone's profile I immediately stop reading. To me, it is a mopey, negative, bitter, BAD BAD BAD way to try and use as a pick-up line.
Counselors are semi affordable, and if you have that many relationship issues, please seek professional help!
So far (on the 3rd thread) I am laughing my ass off at your very true advice!
Wanna send me a pic of your willy? KIDDING! no really. please dont. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 5/4/2006 12:35:40 AM | | I'm about an average guy in this day and age. Somehow I managed to read your online dating advice, although it took a few hours (I had to look up words that had more than three syllables). Also, confusing sarcasm and metaphors had me struggling for air, but I managed to make it to the end. Luckily I have seen the movie Hot Shots: Part Deux, so I understood the meaning of that strange bit of an unknown foreign language you threw in there. Thanks for the advice on not sending pictures of my****to girls...I wrote that one down on a post it note and stuck it to my moniter so I don't forget. | |
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