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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 7/25/2006 10:42:42 AM | Will the 3rd Part for Men have a tagline below it like "Revenge of the Dating Guide" or "The Dating Guide Strikes Back" 
Great stuff!
Read through it and now when a women gives me the "It's hard to be a women" line i'm going to give them a big hug and say "I know, be brave." 
It is amazing how knuckleheads do manage to use these date sites let alone are capable of reading?
I'll stick to the Bermuda Triangle, that mystery I think is allot easier.
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 8/4/2006 9:56:30 PM | Wood have done a supper good job on making the guides. You too. You mentioned something I am seeking the answer but just couldn't find the right word. Thank you.
-have an aversion to communicating online (where do you think you are? it makes no sense)
So many guys contact girls and asked for phone number or meet in person right away. Excuse themselves "I don't like to only chat/find it waste of time doing IM/don't want to waste time in front of the screen. If they don't like sitting in front of computer chating, why the hec using online dating service?
For guys who don't want to email/chat to communicate and give a girl sometimes to know you a little better. Please go meet a girl at the bar or club then you will get to see her face to face right away. Do not push to go on a date in 2 seconds. When we want to take our time, we should be respected.
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 8/7/2006 5:27:40 PM | I agree. However alot of guys here would say, we don't want waste three months emailing you before meeting you in person and discovering that the email chemistry didn't cross over so well into the "real" world. The point of a dating site is allow you to new meet people and go out on dates. It's not to find a pen pal I can email back and forth with a milllon times an day.
Sorry, but dating is a numbers game. So, bring on the numbers.
I'm not saying go on a date after one or two emails. But once you get a sense of who they
are, if your interested. Take the plunge and go for it. Meet someplace outside of the normal date time.
Make it a public place or bring a friend who watches you over at the end of the bar for saftey sake.
All I'm saying is if you are here to meet people, do it. Don't tippy toe arround it. Take the plunge. Fear is counterproductive. No guts no glory. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 8/12/2006 9:57:43 PM | haha! Great response O-T-B! I agree with certain things woody says, most of it actually. Although I would be more interested in some form of more sophisticated dating advice, all of this advice is pretty much common sense and doesn't really help you in terms of how to get the girl you want. Perhaps something more insightful would help, I'm sure the advice Woody gives is helpful to some lower forms of the male species but not to real men which is what we should be proud of, and I'm still stuck trying to get the girl I want, and yes, I know, it's called stalking, but I haven't practiced it yet, so no name calling please.
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 8/22/2006 2:50:51 PM | Very good advices. Below are some more.
1. Become less upbeat. Stop expecting a positive partner to share your fun-loving activities, say that your shoulders are always available to any sad attractive lady who wants to cry on them in a company of a man.
2. Do not post your picture. Honestly say that you do not think that you are handsome but a lot of women fiercely disagree with you including your sister who unfortunately you do not have, so as much as you want to convince her otherwise you can't.
3. Do not try to exaggerate your professional success. Confess that you hate your job and would be glad to be fired, but you can't fire yourself so you continue to drag on your own business to be able to keep your yacht and private airplane. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 8/26/2006 12:04:25 PM | i found your thesis interesting reading and the hints will usually serve one very well. Over the years, though, I find that Murphy's Law seems to operate sometimes. Whatever can go wrong will go wrong whenever you lose your mental balance.
Also "lets be just friends" although an involuntary ejaculation (not in the sexual sense) is not always a matter of self-delusion. Sometimes it can be a cry for help to regain your dignity. Generous women who heed that cry often find a lasting friendship even if it is devoid of romance. But I agree with you entirely; don't believe yourself when you say you just want to be friends. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 9/2/2006 5:43:08 AM | I for one have not been called a name because of my boobs. I have been asked when i will be getting implants though. I was not blessed in the gene pool when it comes to this. I have actually had guys tell me "hey sweetheart toots, babe, or baby, why don't you e-mail me back when you lose a little bit of weight and get a boob job"
Now I have never lied about what I look like. In fact I tell the truth. I evwn have an ACTUAL PIC of me on my profile. (wether it be on here or anywhere) and they say this even after they e-mailed me first. Now what I say to them is "I didn't like your man boobs anyway do you plan on getting a reduction?"
As my dad says "boobs don't make the heart or the mind in a woman" Just remember men If you make fun a womans breasts make sure YOU DON'T HAVE ANY!!!!
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 9/11/2006 8:28:48 PM | Hi Woody,
Here's one for ya...I've only been on here for 5 days. Day (1) I get this in my inbox...
Don't pull the trigger just yet you have not had a chance to get to know me. Maybe after anyways, I live in Williams Lake at work and local mill here. And I come to the coast quite often to visit family and friends he my interests are horse fine dining going to the casino listening to live music, movies live theater and the beach and much more if you like to have fun let me know. Yours truly Mark
I checked out his profile and he has No photos in it, I wasnt going to reply but yesterday i thought well maybe i would just ask him for one so i sent him " Got a photo Mark ?"...Today i got a reply...he sent me a pic of him ??? riding a horse to far away for me to tell wot he even looks like and 2 scienic pics and saying...AngiePie
I have these pictures that I'm sending and hope to send you more when I get your e-mail address I will even send you some ideas on where I could take a lady. Such is yourself out for a night of fun. Yours truly Mark...
Well, My mouth is still open in shock...I didnt know if I should just ignore him or if I should just ask him if he had just been born under a rock or the horse he's riding...why would I send "my email address" to someone I dont know,never talked to and cant tell by the pic what he even looks like...
Got any suggestions ?
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 10/3/2006 4:03:11 PM | | i do not know why most men do such dumb things Woody ii AGREE to everything you said..... I have to read what was written for the women yet cause i have to know a few things on that part yet lol | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:58:36 AM | | I was wondering if you or anyone else has noticed this phenomena? It seems that " The closer the location a woman is to you on a dating site is inversely proportional to your chances of winning her over". | |
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| Photos - the Good The Bad and the Ugly
Posted: 10/10/2006 3:55:08 PM | I apologize if this has been mentioned previously - I didn't read all the posts.
I think all people are interesting, but I really do get stopped at the photos, but not because of looks, but becuase of what the pictures are telling me. Here are some examples:
Photo of man wearing speedo in body-builder pose: "Look at my six-pack and pecks. I'm in perfect shape and you better be too!" Unfortunately not a lot of women will take the chance on putting themselves out there for scrutiny by a body builder. It's intimidating.
Photo of a man standing next to a woman who's been cut out of the frame: She's either your wife, girlfriend or ex-whomever. That'll probably be me next. Take the time to remove the evidence of a previous relationship. That's what photo editors are for. Or better yet, get a new picture.
The blurry photo of a man that's too small to see: You don't want to be seen. Period. That, or one of your buddies posted your profile and photo without your knowlege. ....or you're afraid that your buddies might SEE your posting online and raz you for it. Or maybe your wife/ex will see it...... oh whatever! Bite the bullet and put a decent photo up!
Webcam photo taken in the dark: You're online at 3 am while the wife and kids are asleep, and you have your laptop hooked up in the closet and this is the best photo you could take.
The photo of your dog instead of you: You are a) in the witness protection program, or b) you have a third eyball and an extra ear growing out of your cheek and you want people to get to know you first before you remove the sack.
****Tip: Take the time to get a nice photo of yourself. You could look like a troll on steriods, but if it's an honest and genuine representation of yourself, you will get a genuine response. When you take the time to get a proper photo done it shows a level of self-respect and esteem that all women/men admire*** | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 10/10/2006 4:05:33 PM | I apologize if this has been mentioned previously - I didn't read all the posts.
I think all people are interesting, but I really do get stopped at the photos, but not because of looks, but becuase of what the pictures are telling me. Here are some examples: Please note - I am not slamming men, I am just talking about the photos only. If this offends anyone, my sincere apologies.
Photo of man wearing speedo in body-builder pose: "Look at my six-pack and pecks. I'm in perfect shape and you better be too!" Unfortunately not a lot of women will take the chance on putting themselves out there for scrutiny by a body builder. It's intimidating.
Photo of a man standing next to a woman who's been cut out of the frame: She's either your wife, girlfriend or ex-whomever. That'll probably be me next. --- Take the time to remove the evidence of a previous relationship. That's what photo editors are for. Or better yet, get a new picture.
The blurry photo of a man that's too small to see: You don't want to be seen. Period. That, or one of your buddies posted your profile and photo without your knowlege. ....or you're afraid that your buddies might SEE your posting online and raz you for it. Or maybe your wife/ex will see it...... oh whatever! Bite the bullet and put a decent photo up!
Webcam photo taken in the dark: You're online at 3 am while the wife and kids are asleep, and you have your laptop hooked up in the closet and this is the best photo you could take. Tip - use one of the snake lights from Home Depot. Seriously - webcams make lousy photos.
The photo of your dog instead of you: You are a) in the witness protection program, or b) you have a third eyball and an extra ear growing out of your cheek and you want people to get to know you first before you remove the sack.
****Tip: Take the time to get a nice photo of yourself. You could look like a troll on steriods, but if it's an honest and genuine representation of yourself, you will get a genuine response. When you take the time to get a proper photo done it shows a level of self-respect and esteem that all women/men admire*** | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 10/10/2006 4:29:39 PM | | Real nice. Another hero boy attempting to score brownie points with the ladies by ragging on his fellow man. It's been done before buddy..ad nauseum. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 10/21/2006 1:10:27 PM | Just wanted to say that although your advice sounds good on paper if you will but the reality is that no matter how well written a profile is, a person ,mainly certain men, will not get a response from a female solely on the bases of his looks. In other words LOOKS seem to be the major factor when replying to a person's profile. Yeah you have writen a good advice for us guys about writing a profile, however, it has bee my experience from this dating site as well as others that looks are the first thing that a female looks for before replying to a male.
Number three of your advice is WRONG in every aspect it is nothing but false reassuarance my friend. Nice to see that your trying to down play this. How do you know what you know is true, with this matter?
So maybe you should re-write that part and state that there WILL be times when a female will solely judge a male on the bases of his looks regardless of how well his profile is writen.
This is FACT my friend, let me refer you to an example, I written a nicely detailed profile for eharmony after two weeks I was contacted by a female who took an interest in my profile after reaching stage four she asked to see my photo after which she'll show me hers. So up to this point it APPEARS to be that my personality was great. but guess what? As soon as I showed her my photo, She CLOSED communication status with me and selected ALL options as to why she CLOSED communication and just as I showed my photo others who were matched according to my profile also CLOSED communication status before even giving me a chance. SO I am sure you are familiar with eharmony and what is the reason behind her CLOSING communication status? Gee if it was personality she would NOT have reached stage four. The fact that she did showed she LIKED what she READ about me but as soon as I showed her my photo she STOPPED communicating solely on my LOOKS.
So you see your so called response or so called explaintion in #3 is full of crap. and therefore guys like me DO have a rigth to make those statments and your so called rational response is nothing more than self serving based on FALSE REASSURANCE.... | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 10/21/2006 1:15:57 PM | | YES SHe does have to expalin WHY I am certain if you were turned down by a guy that you were really into YOU would WANT an explaination | |
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