| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 3:11:05 PM | [ Wingsonmyfeet, Are you talking about 'mail order brides' by any chance?]
Yea, all those dam American women trying to move to Texas 
[I will say that I have noticed a difference in city folks vs a smaller town folk.]
I have too, the country girls all know how to shoot better than me | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 3:39:50 PM | All the good one are far away from me because I live in the fattest, least educated, poorest part of the United States.
It's really not a mystery to me. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 3:39:55 PM | The last two women that I dated more than twice, were both an hour away. Is that long distance? I don't think so, but sure it was inconvenient. That is what I see from a lot of fish here. They want convenient, with every little requirement all lined up. If you really want to find what you are looking for you are just going to have to make the effort. The rest are satisfied to come on the forums as jokers and naysayers.
In the area I just moved to my matches look like this. Within 25 miles 6 matches. Within 50 miles 8 more. Within 75 miles another 60 but only half have been online in the last 30 days. So it is obvious to me that if I am going to find the one I am looking for, I'm going to have to consider long distance, whatever that is. Another statistic.. my town of 900 has 12% single, widowed or divorced. Estimate 6% female, that's 54. Now how many of those would be in my age range of 47-62 and still interested maybe 2. Wonder where they are?
So it looks like the odds are not in my favor, but I am still trying | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:07:31 PM | All the good one are far away from me because I live in the fattest, least educated, poorest part of the United States.
It's really not a mystery to me.
I had to check and see if we were neighbors. You win. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:10:29 PM | I've lived by High Point, NC too. I dated an Eskimo girl there who went "cruisin'" all the time in her f-150... which is quite possibly the dumbest hobby on the face of the planet.
Believe it or not, High Point is like Malibu compared to Huntington, WV.
I'm serious. WV is the fattest state in the country. Huntington is the fattest town in WV.
I am seriously one of the only men in this who area who is in good shape over the age of 24 - and who is not a meth head beanpole.
I cannot wait to move. :( | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:16:27 PM |
ForumFilly, I've been reading posts about you and Paul in several threads...from both of you. I wanted to congratulate you both on finding each other over the miles. I thought about you guys a bit when I did this thread, because that is a LOT of miles....and crossing the country lines...that would REALLY take a lot! I hope I never fall for someone that far away because I don't think I could handle it...even if I was rich enough to do multiple visits, I don't know if I could ever leave the country...nor could I expect it of anyone else. Have you met yet? Have you decided who was going to make the move? There is a lot to be considered in a LDR...even when it's within the USA...let alone when it isn't. I wish you two the best of luck...
Yes, according to the airlines, we are 9200 miles apart. Quite a distance! Paul wrote to me after he had read some of my posts and liked what he read. I certainly had no idea that we would ever become more than online friends due to the huge distance. He was the one who said he would never let something as minor as distance stand in the way of love. How can you not love a man who is such a romantic? He calls me at least several times a day, often just to tell me I'm on his mind and he loves me. We have gotten to know each other so well... the people we really are deep down inside, not just on the surface. Neither of us have any doubts about this being real. Paul is arriving Sept. 30th. After that, we don't plan to ever be apart again, if we can help it. We are planning on living in both countries. Neither of us has a problem with moving for the other one. It will mostly depend on his work. Wherever he can be the most productive and fulfilled in his career is where we will call our homebase, but we both plan to spend time in both countries, as much as possible.
Thank you for you for all your good wishes and we'll keep you all informed as time progresses.
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 7:35:12 PM | | simply put...because they are safe. you can be completely honest, completely vulnerable, because you know you will never meet. I honestly think people on these sites really aren't looking for a relationship, it's just a clever rouse. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:00:55 PM | It was a joke Steph, sorry you didn't catch it.
Ummm... Duh!!
Perchance that's why I was joking back Justmeandmax. Sorry YOU didn't catch it! | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:05:35 PM | "All the good one are far away from me because I live in the fattest, least educated, poorest part of the United States."
And I thought that's where I lived but apparently not, and I think this is also Singleparentville too which would be great if that were what I'm into, but it's not. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:19:23 PM | Wildheart, I can tell a big difference in city folks vs smaller town folk, too. While I notice several comments on getting more responses in the bigger cities...(which I never noticed)...I happen to LOVE rednecks, so here I'm more likely to find what I want, which equates to quality for me.
Justmeandmax, does that mean you don't clean up well? 
Good answer, Itechman42...I couldn't come up with anything. (I'm slow, ya know?)
Mandrake, you just gave us a lot of information. I, too, have been in a LDR before. I don't have to tell you that it wasn't successful....I'm on POF, aren't I? It would be a long time before I would make the move again. Now if THEY wanted to come to ME....hmmmm.
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:38:10 PM | Wingsonmyfeet, I love your sense of humor!
8soldierfalcon8, Oh yeah, I remember a thread you started awhile back, wanting to know which state had the best women...or something to that affect. Sooo...did you ever find out? What state won? Please don't say PA...I don't need any more competition!
Uncle Grumpy, (I love that name...I can't say it without a big smile on my face!) Whether an hour is long distance, or inconvenient, depends on the people. Some people really don't mind the drive. I couldn't handle it myself. My last relationship in CA, which lasted 10 years, started out with us having a distance between us of an hour and 40 minutes....beautiful drive, as he lived in the country, which is rare in San Diego. He came down every weekend, and the drive didn't seem to bother him at all. Of course, as your relationship gets more serious, the drive seems to matter less, as you are going the drive for a whole weekend, as opposed to for an evening. Gee Grumpy...with those odds, you are going to have to advertise on a billboard on the most traveled road to find those 2 people...or do some traveling to meet the woman who would be willing to move...or maybe you need to relocate if you don't like the other option of being single forever, huh? (Let me know, if you decide to come my way!) 
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/16/2009 11:48:13 PM | Then I have the worst target area on the face of the planet...New York City..home to 8.72 milliion people, all cynic, all the time.
I have to be in the worst case scenario, because America's great melting pot, is probably the one place in the world that you'd better come prescreened before asking someone out.
There's this place I'd love to go, about 3000 miles away, and find a someone there. If I hurry along to the airport, she will not find a date before I arrive.
Wonder if that will coax her to clean up the place before I arrive? | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/17/2009 6:20:05 AM | | i am new to this and i think that if they are far away its less of a problem and they have there own life to lead.If you think about it how many are going to up and go some where else the one's who are close ??????? are they looking or is it to close for comfort do you realy know what they want more to the point do they. after 10 year's on my own and my boy's grown up i find the same.one other thing what is a good one i would love to know | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/17/2009 10:05:21 AM | Steph, I guess I hadn't had enough coffee when I first read it.
Justmeandmax, does that mean you don't clean up well?
Well I always bring in a warm wash cloth to help clean up and if necessary a dry towel, but us men know that even if you clean up afterwards, sometimes in the morning you still have a double shot. 
I just did a search for 36 to 50 in my area (15 miles) and the results are 188 women. Of the original 188, 83 of them have been on in the past week. Of that remaining 83 I might find 1/3 or 28 attractive to me but of the 28 I know from being on another web site that at least 5 or 6 of them have old pics (5 or 6 years old at least) so that brings us down too between 20 and 25. Even if you figure 1/4 of them can handle me it's still only about 5 or 6 so I guess there is no other option but to have to travel within reason. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/17/2009 10:22:09 AM | Just an opinion..... and I am sure it does not apply to all.
Distance equals safety.
Safety equals lowering of barriers.
No barriers in place, allows one to be themselves.
If you are being 'yourself', that is when you are most attractive.
If you are attractive, people want to get to know you. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:27:26 PM | 8soldierfalcon8, so...have you figured out where you are moving to? It really CAN make a difference! 
ForumFilly,9200 miles apart? WOW!...and I considered a few thousand miles to be long distance! I think the forums are responsible for some people being attracted to someone so far away, because you really CAN get to know someone better that way...and how many of us live close to other forum posters? If not for the forums, maybe a lot of us wouldn't even LOOK at the profiles of those so far away, ya know? Sept 30th...hmmm...I'll keep that date in mind. So when you say he is arriving Sept 30th, and you don't plan to ever be apart again, do you mean that you will have the first meet and move in together right then and here? You are really brave, but really, all it takes are two people who are determined. Then you will have dual citizenships ... cool! Yeah...keep us posted.
Don06, you said,
I honestly think people on these sites really aren't looking for a relationship, it's just a clever rouse. Does that mean that YOU aren't really looking for a relationship? ...because you are 'one of us', you know. Personally, I think most of us ARE...or at least, I think it was the original intention, although I think some are getting disillusioned with it all, which is why you see so many here 'just for the forums'.
Danzandsing, I would've thought NYC would have a lot of choices, but maybe its the same deal as I had, when I lived in San Diego. Who knew, huh? (It sounds like you already have a long distance person in mind?)
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:47:13 PM | | Maybe that's why they look so good...BECAUSE they're so far away!!! Hang out with them in person for awhile and you might not think so highly of them. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/18/2009 9:15:14 PM |
ForumsGee: "Why are the Good Ones so far away???"........
Because they are sooo far away !! ! LOL
That's what it seems like sometimes, huh? ...but when you think about it, if someone 2,000 miles away from you, seems like such a 'good catch', why isn't that person just as much of a 'good catch' to the men in her area? Do you get what I'm saying? The person they are, hasn't changed.
Dennis115, I can't tell you who is 'a good one'..that's something only we as individuals decide since we are all different...but there should be some 'good ones' close by, too... not just far away. Funny, that just made me think of something else. "Isn't it the 'good ones' that always 'get away'?" Why is that???
Justmeandmax: Even if you figure 1/4 of them can handle me it's still only about 5 or 6 so I guess there is no other option but to have to travel within reason. You don't think that 1/4 can be trained??? Are you really THAT hard to handle? What makes you think the ones you travel the distance to see will be able to handle you? Maybe you should put that in your profile...some women LOVE a challenge! I mean, as long as she can dodge pillows, and food being flung her way...and doesn't interfere with your job as a turd polisher, how hard can it BE? C'mon! 
javalover: If you are being 'yourself', that is when you are most attractive.
If you are attractive, people want to get to know you.
What makes you think the local people aren't being themselves? I know *I* am...I wouldn't know HOW to be someone different. Yet...the ones who want to get to know me are miles and miles away.
The more I read these responses, the more tempted I am, to do my experiment I mentioned in the opening post. If I ever get brave enough to do it, I'll let you guys know how it goes....but...I would have to hide my profile first...long enough for the locals to forget about having seen my mug shot up there. It could make for a lonely life,  because it's not like they don't write...it's just that they never take it any further. Plus....I guess like the rest of you...there is always the hope that our Mr/Miss Right is right around the corner, and just hasn't joined POF yet, ya know? (Otherwise he/she really IS thousands of miles away, and we're all waiting for him/her..(or US?)... to move!)
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:12:47 PM | | hi dceee, how are you? the reason the far away ones look so good is because they live so far away. it's easy to be charming when you know nothing is going to come of it. you look at the positives instead of the negatives, find reasons why you want to talk to someone instead of reasons to reject them. i've talked to women on the other side of the continent and enjoyed it. we could be e-mail buddies and give a good word when the other is feeling down but may not be interested in them as a potential partner. you don't have to listen to all the grief from your friends, deal with exes, or smoking. if he's an alky or she's bi-polar it doesn't matter from 2 area codes away. there are so many nice people on this site but there are so many barriers thrown up to impede actually dating them. if you try your experiment let me know how it works. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:16:38 PM |
the reason the far away ones look so good is because they live so far away. it's easy to be charming when you know nothing is going to come of it. you look at the positives instead of the negatives, find reasons why you want to talk to someone instead of reasons to reject them.
I liked how you said this up to this point. I agree that people can be more relaxed with strangers whom they know can't ask to meet in person this weekend. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:19:10 PM | | They live a fantasy and have no real intentions on meeting someone. That’s why all the good ones are far away…. If they really wanted to meet someone, there would likely be someone worth getting to know locally. | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/18/2009 11:37:03 PM | | Come on DC it's a fishing site. You know even when you're in your boat the guy on the other side of the lake is catching all the fish. Only Jesus could walk on water and make it happen. LOL | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:43:42 AM |
You don't think that 1/4 can be trained???
Umm, no thanks. I don't really want to train anyone, especially in my age group. Besides I think the old addage of "you can't train an old dog" comes into play. LOL
Are you really THAT hard to handle? What makes you think the ones you travel the distance to see will be able to handle you?
I can be hard to handle at times just like all of us can, but the truth is... I'm not for everyone and vice-versa. Myself, I see dating as kind of a "craps shoot", sometimes you win and other times you lose.
some women LOVE a challenge!
Some???? | |
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| Why are the Good Ones so far away???
Posted: 7/15/2009 8:10:47 PM | | Uncle Grumpy I came from SW KS. When you are there, nothing is close. And if you are in a small town of 900 (mine was about 1200) everybody knows too much about everybody and that just isn't good. | |
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