| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:29:29 PM | | When two people nurture each other and build each other up rather than destroy each other. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:51:08 PM | Let's see...what is love to me....hmmm....
Love to me is...
Monogamy - This is not a compromise. This is not up for debate. If you ever feel the need to cheat on me, and decide to lay the blame on me for your cheating, you do not love me, in the way I want to be loved. I don't care what kind of excuses you have, or how sorry you are, if you truly love me, you will tell me what's wrong, so that we can try and work it out, before you start flirting with someone else. If you cheat on me, I will never be able to trust you again...ever, and I will say goodbye to you...forever.
Patience - If you love me, you know that I am not perfect and that I make mistakes sometimes. You have the wisdom to know this and the patience to show it. You also know, that you're not perfect either, and sometimes, you need patience from me too.
Loyalty - This is not to be confused with monogamy although they can both intertwine with each other. If you are loyal to me, you value my opinion on things, above others sometimes. If you are loyal to me, you defend me, if your mother occasionally puts me down. If you are loyal to me, you are proud to introduce me to your friends, coworkers, etc, and don't try to "hide" me from people you know. In other words, it's not all about you, all the time. Sometimes, it is about me. And sometimes, I need you to step up to the plate, and "be there" for me.
Respect - You treat me the way you'd want to be treated, and know that I will except nothing less. I will not tolerate any kind of verbal, psychological or physical abuse from you. I will not tolerate being belittled by you. I will not tolerate you "putting me down" in some way in front of others. If you respect me, you will not ask me to do things that I am not comfortable with. If you respect me, you will know that I have the right to say "no" every once in awhile...to anything that you request.
Support - As man, you want your woman to "have your back". Well, we need the same support from you. I need you to lean on sometimes. I need your advice and guidance sometimes. We may not agree on everything all the time, but I need to know, that my emotional well being is important to you, just as yours is to me. I need to know that if I've had a rough day, I can talk to you about it. I don't expect you to "fix" everything for me all the time. Sometimes, I just want you to listen. Sometimes, that alone, can make me feel better.
Honesty - I need you to be honest with me, and I mean 100% honest. Yes, I do need to know your sexual history if you want to have sex with me eventually. Yes, I do need to know your entire life history, if you want me to tell you anything about mine. Yes, I do need to know about every skeleton in your closet, if you want to know about mine. Yes, I do need to know if you slept with that stripper in Vegas while we were temporarily broken up, before we got back together. Our secrets keep us sick, and the bigger our secrets, the sicker we stay. So, if you love me, you will be honest with me. I can handle the truth. It's the lying about it, that makes me angry.
Compassion - If you love me, you have a compassionate streak, because honestly, I don't click well with people who don't have one. You don't assume that homeless people should just "get a job". You don't automatically write off a recovering addict who's trying to get their life together. You don't automatically judge someone who suffers from mental illness and is struggling with every day life. If you love me, you know that I care about people, and I enjoy helping others sometimes. You don't resent it, because you care about people too. You also show compassion towards me, because I am different and have my own struggles. If you love me, I don't have to explain this one to you. You just know this. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:48:30 PM | | There is also love where a person realizes perhaps it is best to just let the person who does not love you back move on. With understanding and hope that the person in question can find peace and contentment somewhere | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 1:11:07 AM | ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
now I curious to know what you guys think love is ?
I think you have pretty much summed it up:
putting your partner first in life
loving your partner for who they are .
when you cant imagine being with anyone else .
spending plenty of time with each other without being forced
And you forgot one important point:
Love is being able to express your true self and still be free within the relationship.
And as far as the guys that buy their women's affections - that is only "stuff" and those things aren't going to be there for you when you are sick, bedridden, or for the good times either. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 1:27:08 AM | love is a fantasy and everyone has one....
life is what takes you out of your fantasy world and makes you realize that dreaming is fun but has no actual substance..... substance brings happiness
so instead of love we should all seek substance...whatever that may mean to each of us... for me its understanding, compatibility and dependability | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 5:38:21 AM | ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
so instead of love we should all seek substance
So what happens if a man or woman is not ATTRACTED to "substance" ?? | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:23:49 AM | To me, love is when you reach the point where you want to give someone your (hopefully) most prized possession...your heart! I personally don't distribute it often...I've been known to say "I'm not in love with being in love!". This doesn't mean I'm not CAPABLE of loving, I'm just cautious...
When I'm at that point, I'm ready to love that special someone without fear. Once I take the time to get to know him, I'm ready to accept him without change (no one's perfect, right?!), and I desire him without inhibitions.
Our nonverbal communication is often more powerful than simply saying "I love you." From mutual gazes, to the simple way he holds/strokes my hands, to the way our bodies become one, even the little things we do for each other... we possess an endearing erotic uncontrollable passion that knows no bounds! | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 12:36:41 PM | TopChuck : Iam trying to feel that connection of invisible cord to make it visible for connection of your input and mine because I don't thrive on conflicts.
I stand on what I wrote that Love is not submission it is caring for someone as part of yourself.>>>> I take what Submission really means : meekness,docile,yielding, that sound like a doormat or a punching bag to me... in exchange of trust to you and caring for her? Well ,Loving someone is not a business or job contract in exchange of "you work hard for me ,I recompensate you good.."---- If I don't like the policy I can fire myself in a snap of a finger.
Love is a final decision to be compassionate and passionate to someone,= Bonding in harmony. If you gave your best of compassion and passion to someone but it did not enhance your life but drag you down ,then exit out, there are many doors that are open for you .. Sometimes there are some,(love) relationship that doesn't last because these ones are just passing thru on us and vice versa for a lesson.. I wish you love ,happiness and peace for you are valuable,worthy and deserving.. Vannili
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 12:45:16 PM | hmm i don't know if i can really put it into effective words. It encompasses such a wide range of deeds,feelings and emotion.
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 2:09:43 PM | "So what happens if a man or woman is not ATTRACTED to "substance" ??
then another term applies........ S.O.L. !!!
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 2:16:40 PM | Love to me is being able to have anyone but you choose to be with her. When you think of her you think of days where you are in love with a smile plastered on both your faces just doing things together, it doesn't have to be something amazing. What's amazing is the time you spend together, and when your not together the love is still there, it exists until you meet again, it never goes away. The love between two people creates an atmosphere where each persons actions are in the best interest of one another. There's an underlying trust that governs all actions and decisions concerning one another and the most important of all is that each partner treats one another with the utmost respect and doesn't try to project their respected partner into their "ideal" mate.
Love is timeless, it's boundless and it exists ad infinitum. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 2:37:43 PM | | It is a feeling of optimism about life in general, caused by the knowledge that this world is one that supports his existence :) | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 2:49:52 PM | Love is the ultimate confirmation.
In Love we do not live for ourselves alone.
We live for another as well.
We are needed, essential to the well-being of another.
Those who have never known this may scoff.
Those who have loved and been loved will never forget it
And no substitute will ever provide satisfaction.
Love is incomparable.
Only through Love can we learn to be all that we can be.
Only Love provides the necessary motivation to strive for perfection.
Beside Love everything else is mundane, trivial, inconsequential.
We only have one life with which to make a choice.
I choose Love.
I need to be all I can be.
I need to discover my full potential.
Without Love, it will never happen.
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For more refer to my post, "Promises to Live By", and my story, "Love, a Short Trilogy", posted to the Creative/Writing forum. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 2:59:32 PM | | Love is feeling empty inside when you are not with that special someone. Love is willingness to accept that person for all their flaws and see that person as nothing but beauty. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 3:38:42 PM | Love is essentially giving up everything. If you fall in love too often, there is something wrong going on.
I've only fallen in love three times. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:07:50 PM |
Love is feeling empty inside when you are not with that special someone.
I think just the opposite.
To me, love is that feeling of extreme closeness walking arm-in-arm even when they are not there. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:21:45 PM | your right you on many counts,
but to me you must also let the winds of heaven dance between you, I need love in my life, i need, would love to find my soulmate, and i need to do this with out forgetting me along the way. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:35:24 PM | Love is a release of chemical endophorins into your brain to make you feel good when you see someone you want to mate with. It is a evolutionary tool to keep us from not mating and dying out. Nothing more nothing less. Quit making it seem so elegant.
depends how you define love, if you think of love as encompassing everything we know.
what is it that makes atoms come together, fly apart, coalesce, desintegrate, form?
could it be that the very motive power of the universe is love itself? from whence did everything come from? scientists say that life started with a "big Bang", dont we start life with a "big Bang"?
guess you could accuse me of making things elegant.
i'm not ignorant of what you say, if you read desmond morris for example he will back up everything you are saying...
the logical side of me agrees 100% with you
but i have to ask maybe theres more? | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:06:43 PM | | Love is when you can't stop thinking of someone and you crave them constantly and nothing matters if you cant see them today. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:08:16 PM | To me, Love is a day and/or night spent playing in Photoshop...
CMYK is uber sexy!!! | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:32:00 PM | Love is..knowing that someone has the power to break your heart
...but trusting that they won't. | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:10:19 PM | Love is an awesome tidal wave coming to uproot everything in its path without any chance of getting away. Fighting it is like boxing one of those bounce-back inflatable clowns.  | |
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:59:21 PM | Once upon a time in the olden days when communication was limited to crank up phones and signs and waves and the on/off lights the navy ships use love probably is the same then as it is now; buying pads.
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| what is love to you ?
Posted: 7/3/2009 12:45:08 PM | | I once loved a woman enough to go to the store and buy pads for her. I got strange looks from the cashier, but so what? | |
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