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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:23:27 AM | I am always astounded by the number of "I met this girl/guy here" posts.
I would not want to read about myself or air my dirty laundry when you know the other person is going to find out. Very tacky. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:44:15 AM | Why do women always call guys the break up with "losers." Why were these loser traits not apparent when said guy was banging you?
well...what should we call them? winners?? i prefer douchebag, lol. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:44:20 AM | | It's not at all strange to find that what one person from a failed relationship calls a lie, is really just a different perspective. The truth is, a lack of communication can not only end a relationship, it can leave the participants confused about what happened. Hell, the likelihood of you both having the same opinion about it are slim, even if you do communicate. The truth is usually elusive when it is subjective, and based on perspective. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:51:58 AM | | Im glad you deleted your reply x Why argue x Why defend yourself to strangers and get into a row with him for the publics sake? Sounds like hes a loser to me hun and Im mighty glad you rose above it lol x | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:52:47 AM | Don't you think that's a little naive Carolann0308? Seems to me like I read a post about distance straining a relationship sometime ago. Maybe the bf or ex bf wasn't a member at that time...but could become one in the future. And we can see that some posts as old as 4-5 years ago are suddenly resurected!
And isn't the membership close to 2 million now? these type of things are bound to happen as long as there's an open forum. Everyone has the choice to either join in on a topic or ignore it. And if it gets to personal generally the mods will put a stop to it, and rightfully so.
One of those rare occasions I happen to agree with "The Rock Man", your truth, my truth and the real truth! | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 10:42:52 AM | [Well I guess I missed the "pat the OP on the back for doing the same thing in an indirect way" class!
Gosh rock man ... did you miss the reading comprehension class too? I have not repeatedly said in each post that he was a loser, nor have I called him names or talked trash about him. so, while I dont agree with anything you said, nor is it appreciated , I respect your right to an opinion. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 10:58:57 AM |
Have you ever broken up with a loser, only to come on POF and read a post where he (or she) is professing to be the victim in the relationship?
WOW. It was like a kick in the stomach for me, and made me so mad to read the lies that, I spent an hour composing my own post to tell all his dirty little secrets and expose him for the liar he is.
In the end, I deleted instead of posting. Not sure why.
OP -- It was probably best that you deleted your Grade 3 reciprocation reply. People around here don't wanna get involved in games of "he said/she said". Remember that there are 3 sides to every story...yours, theirs and the truth.
YOU say it was all lies and he was a loser blah blah blah. How are we to know that? 'Cause YOU said so? Same with him. He paints himself as the victim...okay, well how do we know he wasn't? He may be lying just the same but how do we know?
If you date and dump a so-called "loser" and he comes here and reports how he was the victim...so what? If it's true, suck it up instead of trying to spin it in your favor. If it's not true, suck it up and just laugh at the imbecile and be glad you dodged a bullet.
But Grade 3 mudslinging is so juvenile it makes my teeth hurt. I'm sure I ain't the only one here that doesn't like it. You're 55 so just act your age, and don't revert back to a "he said/she said" drama laden post.
At best, both of you will be punted from the site.
Nobody likes being lied about...but because no one else was there, there's no way to tell fact from fiction...so best to just let sleeping dogs lie. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 11:10:26 AM |
Why do women always call guys the break up with "losers." Why were these loser traits not apparent when said guy was banging you?
Excellent point. As evidenced by the post a few down from yours, many females act like big junior high children who have to whine about , insult, and blame others for their own lack of immaturity, class, and ability to make good choices.
If all you date are losers (or douchebags as one child put it), that says a great deal more about you than it does the men you date. Losers date losers.
When a relationship ends, how about learning from it and moving on? Oh, wait. Rationality is beyond the grasp of so many females. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 11:29:51 AM | You deleted because apparently you are intelligent and possess some class. Posting to the thread is only feeding his/her ego and it is not like you are going to post anything that is a news flash.
Taking the high road isn't always easy but then again, the activity in the forums just supports the good decision you already made, and that's a good thing. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 12:00:42 PM | packageddealx3
Thank you . Well said, and to that note I again thank everyone for taking the time to post their opinion. I value the wisdom of those who have shared it, and respect the opinions of others.
With that, I leave the remainder of the thread/post to those who wish to vent, post an opinion, or blindly sling mud. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 12:10:54 PM | | I was reading a post from a guy on here who complained a woman did this and that to him and everybody sympathized with him. A lady who had met him in real life posted her comment that he was all lies and when she met him he was very different from what he claims to be. The guy vanished and never defended himself. I am not saying that you should "retaliate". But standing up for yourself is a good thing and has nothing to do with retaliation. Personally, I would have simply joined his post and "corrected" him in few words and left it there. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 12:16:22 PM | OP... In the end I will agree that it was probably better that you didn't post, but I say that for a couple of different reasons.
One, unless you and he were well known on the forums and a lot of other posters knew you were dating him, OR unless he mentioned your username in his posts, who would have known he was talking about you?
Two, by posting it would have come down to your word against his with no way for anyone to really discern the truth. To the casual reader it would have simply resembled a he said/she said argument, and besides you two, who'd have really cared to see all that?
I agree, that by taking the high road, you were the better person in all this, but you also saved yourself a lot of useless public bickering as well.
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 12:18:41 PM | ~OP~ We're here, sometimes we meet someone, sometimes we break up. Seems logical to me to do what the masses here do: biitch, moan, complain, vent, inquire, whine, etc., etc. I suppose if you were to view this post as indication, you are pretty much doing what he did ~ just in a more politically correct manner. I figured out a long time ago, if I don't want someone talking about you after-the-fact ~ you're best bet is not to get involved in the first place. It's what people do ~ we are a society of "victims" anymore. And it just cracks me up somedays ~ these posters who profess to NEVER trash-talking someone they've dated here. Geezus, I guess we've all (or maybe that should be "a good many of us") have short term memory, loss cause I've seen it from most everyone who's been here a while ~ and I'm certainly NOT exempt. JMO  | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 12:47:05 PM |
Have you ever broken up with a loser, only to come on POF and read a post where he (or she) is professing to be the victim in the relationship?
all his dirty little secrets and expose him for the liar he is.
Gosh rock man ... did you miss the reading comprehension class too? I have not repeatedly said in each post that he was a loser, nor have I called him names or talked trash about him. so, while I dont agree with anything you said, nor is it appreciated , I respect your right to an opinion.
Well of course you don't agree or appreciate what I said. I was calling you out on your hypocrisy! You referred to him as a loser and also called him a liar! So just what is name calling or trash talking in your world if that doesn't qualify?
You post is nothing more then an "I'm a victim" so I can do the same thing but you just did it by coming in the back door! You know he will read this thread!
So I miss stated how many time you directly used those words, but your insinuations are the same either way!
With that, I leave the remainder of the thread/post to those who wish to vent, post an opinion, or blindly sling mud.
What you fail to understand is that my replies are about the same in every rant/whine thread that comes out from someone complaining or dogging an ex!
I'm sure you would have had no problems at all if I had posted in his thread fist, telling him what a whiner he is! If people don't want to hear that their dirty laundry stinks, they shouldn't air it!
And believe me it's nothing personal, I love everyone the same! | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 1:12:03 PM |
WOW. It was like a kick in the stomach for me, and made me so mad to read the lies that, I spent an hour composing my own post to tell all his dirty little secrets and expose him for the liar he is.
In the end, I deleted instead of posting. Not sure why. The reason you deleted is because you have class, and know better than to run your personal life on these boards, especially in responding to/creating new drama.
In the end, holding on to anger and resentment does us no good, so glad you got it out of your system and dumped it for the trash that it was.
Good luck in the future, M | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 1:41:06 PM | OP,
Don't take the high road. Take the Jerry Springer road!
Go back into that thread and compose that message and expose all his lies and air ALL his dirty laundry.
But lets us all know which thread it is and give us all a few minutes to get some popcorn to enjoy the show.
Taking the high road is bad... less entertainment for the rest of us...
Okay... now I'm just kidding around and do not take my words above seriously.
Now seriously... As others have mentioned, you've taken the high road without realizing it. By slinging mud, you also end up making yourself look dirty and you BOTH will look bad in the end.
You should be proud of yourself for having inner strength.
And btw... one of the best way to assess how someone truly is, is to look at how they treat and/or speak of their Ex's... because YOU might be the next person they speak that way about.
And that applies to men and women. | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 6:55:03 PM | sometimes I wonder just why people are so gulla bull!
Yes, there ARE two sides to this story. To me, the only "loser" is the one who tries to hide behind "class", when really, they are probably protecting their own a*s...as some might call it..."saving face".
Airing "dirty laundry" in a public forum isn't classy to me, it's downright childish! | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 7:49:36 PM | | So, from the few forum posts I've read, I see you are quite the antagonist. All spelling mistakes aside...Do the "regulars" here actually go out on any dates? Or are you all too busy giving crappy advice from behind the big black curtain? Huh?? | |
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| Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser
Posted: 6/16/2009 7:53:17 PM | That's not happened to me but I would have done the same and the reason I would never post it is because then I would be no better than him and half the POFs wouldn't believe me anyway, etc. I often make a really blistering post when I read an incredibly stupid post but I never post them, just like to get it off my chest by typing it out.  | |
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