| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:56:54 AM | LOL Candid!
OP, if your physical needs are met by self-handshaking, who the hell cares? When you're emotionally ready, you'll get where you need to be. Better to come alone at home than create yourself a big huge drama mess with the wrong person.
Have I been celibate for long chunks of time? Sure. I'd rather not have sex with the wrong person than have sex for the sake of sex. Less mess all around.
-DD. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/20/2009 2:52:35 PM | I used to take anti-depressants. I found out that eating something with protein such as Soy or Meat and having a Baked Potato (eat the skin too) 4-5 hours before going to sleep, improved my mood considerably without the side effects of prescription drugs.
I have also found even more positive benefits to my over-all health and sense of well being after I eliminated all procressed refined sugars, High Fructose Corn Syrup, and products containing Aspartame, from my diet.
I now drink water and stay away from drinks containing high fructose corn syrup, sugars, and/or aspartame, and "junk" foods.
http://www.alternet.org/healthwellness/111801/sugar_is_the_new_heroin/
I also increased my intake of Vitamin D3. I try to spend an hour in direct sunlight. Sunlight is a free source of Vitamin D. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/20/2009 8:07:24 PM | | I think you have an inadequacy or self esteem issue. Take care of that and get the hell back out there. What in the world are you waiting for? If you’re that nervous, order in an escort. She will help with your confidence without an emotional investment. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/20/2009 8:31:01 PM |
Romantic love remains a mystery to me.
All the more reason why intimacy should be shared between two like minded individuals.  | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/21/2009 8:16:55 AM | Sometimes the end product just isn't worth the effort. Yes, it is possible to get laid through sites such as PoF but as a fat ugly guy of minimal means the only women who find themselves attracted to me seem to be of similar ilk, so it's just not worth the effort. The "find a fun and attractive soulmate and fill the rest of our lives with love, sex and adventure" ship has long since sailed. It's such a pity that youth is wasted on the young.
Edit: But I wouldn't be dead for quids. ;-) | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/21/2009 8:41:22 AM | Oh my! That would make (calculating...uhm...er.....) 17 years without some nookie?!!!!
No, never experienced this. Maybe the meds caused this? | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:08:35 AM | wow. Im impressed... that's a long time.
So.... you havent had to deal with the whole STDs kinda thing at all. You havent had your heart broken and felt like a bag of poop after youve been with someone who only wanted a freebee....wow.
You havent been one to play with a girl's heart just to get laid....wow.
You were even faithful thru your seperation?....wow.
*sighs...
Its been a long long time for me now..Ive decided its been long enough that Im a new virgin.. LOL..
Im very much a lady...and Im sick of it.. (<---humor) | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/21/2009 10:55:40 AM |
MarvaJanuice: Im very much a lady...and Im sick of it..
We can tell by your 4th photo! :-) | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/21/2009 3:09:06 PM | I had to actually go back and look at the photos..its been so long since Ive seen them now...
You mean the tongue shot? Well, I get alot of slack for that photo. Its me..it was silly..spur of the moment. Im NOT removing it because some say its sexual in nature. That's their opinion and I have a feeling no matter what pic one puts up some will find it sexual. At least Im not showing my boobies!
Sorry to say but I actually often stick out my tongue at others...always spur of the moment..and shows I like you or have played a practical joke on you...or well....wanna tick off my Boss....LOL
*sticks out her tongue at all the threaders...
:p | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/21/2009 3:49:18 PM | December 31, 1993 for me. Not a problem getting it up, just a problem to find someone to get it up for. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:27:51 PM | Don't go feeling insane and freakish. Seriously, some people just could take or leave sex.
I am NOT one of those people but if you choose not to have it and you;re fine, rock on!!!
I have not read all the posts on here but it looks like at least there are some women you could possibly connect to that also feel the way you do.
I have been on many depression/anxiety meds. I never went without sex though, I would have switched immeditley if any of them decreased my want for sex. That's just me | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/22/2009 2:17:23 AM | | OP, my bet is that the medication you are taking for depression is an SSRI. Good news...bad news; Good news: they are currently the first line agent for depression, and, for a lot of people do very well. Bad news: one of the potential side effects is exactly what you are describing...sexual dysfunction; both physical and psychological, in the areas of desire, arousal, and orgasm. The issue with side effects is that they effect all of us differently, some people won't be bothered at all, some slightly annoyed, and some devistated. The "good news" in your case, if you can call it that, is that it effected your desire; i.e. you really don't miss it, so it's no big deal. If your meds are working for you depression wise, you may be hesitant to change; if however, you are receptive to changing, ask your doc about Welbutrin. It's a very good antidepressant that has a MUCH more favorable side effect profile than the SSRI's. Good luck. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/22/2009 2:17:23 AM | You probably are looking for something else in a relationship, and if you meet a lady who satisfies that, you may start to want sex with her. Maybe you have enjoyed the non sex situations because there is less commitment or you had such a difficult time in your last marriage that you are afraid to move on.
Only you know yourself. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/22/2009 4:28:11 AM | [/Have any of you similar experiernces?]
I did. I was diagnosed by depression. My doctor prescribed some medicine called PAXIL.
After two months of use I lost all my desire for sex. I had soft flimsy erection. Noway in hell I could achieve an orgasm. If I lucky and get an Orgasm it is completely dry, no semen.
My girlfriend said I understand bit she was sad, mad and angry although she always tried to hide it. I took the Paxil bottle and spilled int the toilet and flushed. I called my doctor and told him I will come to his office and cut his love stick. He told me all depression medicine has this side effect and nothing we can do.
I became my own doctor. When I get depressed
* I go out and run two hours until I collapse and can not breathe, call my son to come to take me home. or
* I go play three sets of tennis or
*Go to the Gym and join the Muscle boys and left weight with them until I feel my muscles are tearing down.
I am back to old bad boy habits of chasing women and having sex as much as I can find a chick welling to jump in the sack with me.
By the way I heard that WELLBURTIN does not has sex side effect. Check with your Doctor. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/22/2009 5:25:59 AM | Off topic here, but....
I too find it interesting that all these folks post about not being able to go more than 2 months or something like that.
If this is the case, there is alot of sleeping around going on and alot of STD's still being unknowingly spread.
I suppose these are the same folks who go on the STD threads and claim they ensure they get tested and practice safer sex. There are mean times for testing for certain STD's and 2 months ain't it.
I'm not judging anyone for sleeping around, but merely pointing out the hiprocrisy of some people on here. | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/22/2009 9:45:33 AM |
I too find it interesting that all these folks post about not being able to go more than 2 months or something like that.
If this is the case, there is alot of sleeping around going on and alot of STD's still being unknowingly spread.
ever heard of condoms? ever heard of testing? ever heard of FWB's?
Having a sex life does not have to mean being "promiscuous" or stupid.
I suppose these are the same folks who go on the STD threads and claim they ensure they get tested and practice safer sex. There are mean times for testing for certain STD's and 2 months ain't it.
refer to above statement.
I'm not judging anyone for sleeping around, but merely pointing out the hiprocrisy of some people on here.
first off......if you're going to rant......at least spell it right!
Hypocrisy!!
and isn't it being hypocritical to say your not judging......yet point out the hypcrisy of others?!!
especially when you have no clue what "some people" on here are doing to protect themselves and others!! | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/22/2009 11:18:59 AM | ^^^c'mon Msmicki, you know as well as I do that most are clueless about STD's and most are running around NOT testing or even asking their partners about it.
I do have a clue as I have read several threads on STD's and sorry but if you've had sex with someone two months ago and then with a different person two months later?
And there are a ton of men who go on on women without asking a thing of them. Alot of us regular posters are pretty savvy, but the majority are not.
Condoms only provide "safer sex", not "safe sex".
You obviously missed the point of my post because some tests don't mean squat until you wait 6 months at least.
And yeah, we all know that a FWB can be soooooo reliable too. There are risks with everything, but condoms don't protect against many STD's.
first off......if you're going to rant......at least spell it right!
Hypocrisy!!
and isn't it being hypocritical to say your not judging......yet point out the hypcrisy of others?!!
hypcrisy
You really should ensure you spell everything right when you play that game.  | |
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| Celibate since April, 1992
Posted: 11/22/2009 11:56:11 AM |
And yeah, we all know that a FWB can be soooooo reliable too.
Then maybe you need to pick a more reliable FWB.
Now, if you're talking about FB's......I would agree.
But, in my experiences......my FWB are true friends first.......there is a high level of
trust and respect in place beforehand. We have our own standard of terms that state if one of the other decides to become sexually active w/ a new partner......then our status goes back to "just friends". We are tested and we are safe (as possible).
My point, since you don't know the details of these other posters sex lives......you cannot judge and point fingers nor call anyone a hypocrite.
Assumptions are never facts.
You really should ensure you spell everything right when you play that game.
Touche.....
but I'll take my typo over your misspelling for $50 Alex!!  | |
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