| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:42:46 PM | what a little **** whine...albeit justified, usually.
and here be the hows and why in true reality format.
Wicked-shoe-theorem
Girl gets 100 pairs of dubious shoes thrust under her nose. (100 emails)
Girl bemoans the content whiny style.
Girl requires a new pair of shoes (actual shoes)
Girl visits many shoe shops, a great many shoes shops.
Girl chooses from a gabillion million shoes she went to the actual bother of looking at - real choice.
Thus in theory many a girl, not all, hold in higher esteem the action of picking a new pair of shoes as opposed to the complete apathetic inaction of choosing ones true love and have the brazen cheek to whine about it.
You got what you asked for in my opinion and yet seem oddly confused doh!
Merely talk pantaloons to this lot if you want/need there pathetic attention
Best avoided imo | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:44:48 PM | Prince......If you never take a chance you will never know and always wonder. Being cautious is good however if you do not meet face to face you never know if there is true chemistry. There have been many who say they waited until they had feeling from someone on line before they met only to find they had no chemistry in person.
What I am trying to say is you will never know if a relationship will be like your friend's or not there is never a guarantee to any relationship, marriage, life. If you feel it is right go for it never look back.
I have known people that dated for years and then got married and until they lived with that person they didn't know them. Who knows the answer to anything in a relationship. You get what you give and then it takes two to make and just one to break it. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:01:28 PM |
Is it worth having an account here ?
Online dating isn't for everyone. Not taking this site too seriously, can relieve stress, and annoyance. Take my word for it, OP.
I'm tired of games and if I'm talking to someone here it's only them who I'm messaging no one else.
Good for you. That doesn't mean the women you correspond with, are doing the same.
I chat with multiple people all of the time.
You shouldn't think for one second, that these women are only corresponding with you. Besides, she found someone that she was more interested in.
At least she was honest with you. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:17:12 PM | I have a female friend that posted a profile with no pic. 6 hours later she had 30 messages.
Personally I'm not holding my breathe. I can't tell you how many times I've started a dialogue with someone then they just disappear. One was at least honest enough to say she has alot of guys messaging her and I didn't make the first cut. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:57:30 PM | I get maybe 4 or 5 on the average....the day I posted the picture of me in a bathing suit I had over 60 messages in less than 24 hours. A lot of those messages were from guys I had contacted before and they were not interested until they saw that picture (go figure).
I have some male friends that have accounts on here also and they do not get as many messages as my female friends. Though some girls will not admit it, most of us prefer that the man make the first move. Most girls on here are talking to several guys at once, not dating them all but they are talking. If you do not make a move then you could get stepped over.
Look at it this way...if it was meant to be then it would have been. There may be a better fish just waiting for you on the other side of the lake!
Cheers and good luck!
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:02:01 PM | 1.395,489,208.5
You have been here three weeks, get a grip. People talk to more than one person because that is what they are here to do, get to know people. People may even date more than one person because they are meeting people to determine if there is any chemistry and to consider whether there is enough compatibility to pursue a relationship.
Things clicked with this other guy but she liked you enough and was a decent enough person to tell you what was up instead of leaving you hanging. Should this guy prove to be the wrong guy, it is up to you whether you liked her enough and are a big enough person to meet her and find out the same.
You should evidently have the exclusivity talk more quickly than most of us. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:20:22 PM | Prince,
A bit of advice I picked up many years ago on an Hawaiian Island Golf course from a golf instructor has returned many dividends over the years.
His bit of advice was this.
"If you swing slow, you will always rake in the dough."
"If you swing fast, you will always lose your ass"
I can't tell you how many times in my life that lesson has been so right on.
I might add at the peak there are about One hundred thousand people on POF. There are three hundred and thirteen million citizens in the USA, Twenty some million in both Australia and Canada, and I give what the UK numbers are. You have a better chance of getting bit by a rhino through your internet connection then finding someone here.
Statistically I cannot prove the last item, but it sounds good. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:23:12 PM | IMHO...if you are looking for an EXCLUSIVE relationship then you should specify that from the start.
Personally,I have no desire to share a woman's charms and attention w/ another guy.
Or GUYS.
What's the point?
I'm looking for a relationship...not a competition.
And,frankly,if either her or you aren't giving "it" most of your attention...then it usually fails.
Also,OP,it makes little sense to "wait around" until you have your "turn at bat."
If this woman decides later that she made a mistake...do you really want to come in second place?
Like I said...it's a relationship...not a competition. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:34:51 PM | I think it depends upon the woman and the area and supply/demand :) Theres so many factors involved here..
Myself personally -- I sometimes get 10 a day, and other times NONE a day and other times 2-3 a day; 2-3 a day being the average. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:38:06 PM | OP, you sound like a very insecure person that's spoiled and if you can't have what you want you have a hissy fit......You better learn exchanging e-mail doesn't constitute commitment..... | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 3:01:22 PM | There is a definite answer......and it is crystal clear.
They are not interested in you.
The good news is............there are literally millions and millions of women out there.
Pick one who is...
Voila.......... | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 3:14:14 PM |
It was respectful for her telling me but I would of liked at a chance for us to meet because she's not really dating the guy who she just met. I like to take my time with women.
And there's nothing wrong with that - and sounds pretty sensible to me. I would certainly want to exchange several emails and telephone calls before meeting up with someone, too:-) | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 3:55:30 PM | Well just to inform you, when I first joined this site, I would get literally like 40 messages a day...now I get about half that.
So it's true that women on here are chatting with more than one guy at a time, just so you know...that's pretty much how it works. I mean, men do it too! But women probably get more mail, I'm guessing. So just keep this in mind...don't take it too seriously once you do start out chatting with any girl on here...just take it casually, and if she keeps talking to you, fine, if she doesn't...fine! Just say, NEXT! lol | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 4:16:07 PM | you're a good looking guy and very atlethic. I'm having a hard time believing you're having trouble finding a girlfriend. :)
Unfortunately, this is how the game is played, it's a number game, no matter what site you're on, there's always going to be a competition. I know I've been doing online dating for many years now, resulted in 2 short term relationship, I've stop being on the mindset trying to find 'the elusive one'. If its meant to happen, let it happen.
I used to get at least 1 or 2 messages in day or even if I'm lucky maybe 1 messages in a week but since I've put myself not looking/not single. I'm been taking a break.
If I were you, I tried concentrating on meeting people through common interests too if I can and network with like-minded people.
All the best OP. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 4:24:25 PM | | Online dating sites are so totally unbalanced towards women that is not worth my time. I like to chat, but forget trying to find a gf on here! | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 4:39:00 PM | Hey. Your Majesty. Honestly, it sounds like everything you are saying is that no matter what you do these, and other women, dagnabit, just won't behave the way you have decided they have to/should.
First of all, how come you get to have this power? Ok. How about this. I'm giving some fictional woman who you like, isn't acting like she should and isn't interested in you (and yes, amazingly, she just refuses to agree that you, at least, deserve to meet her and show her your stuff before she gets to decide)...I'm giving her this power you think you should have. She gets to decide how you should act. Ready? She wants you to get the message, grow up, realize we barely have it together to act the way we want ourselves to act, much less another person. So, you are gonna do it right? All those things. Right now. Huh? "No" you say? Wellllll hold on a minute there Mister. You have to do it. She decided. She has reasons. She is right in her own mind. So you just have to do it and that's it.
-Seems pretty ridiculous doesn't it?
-Well, as weird as it seems, that's exactly what you seem to expect from "these" women.
Just work on your own shyt and leave people to work on theirs and keep at it. Every person you meet teaches you something about yourself, Good and Bad, if we get out of our own self-centered musings long enough to pay attention to it. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:57:17 PM | Yes it is worth having a profile on here
for friends, forums,meeting,people
And sory hun, personally I think you have a tad bit of a narrow mind.
Are you one of those types that think your friend can't have more than one friend too? like back in grade school? | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:09:42 PM | Like someone else said on here, going on dates with a few people at once isn't them playing a game. Both women AND men do this, so don't say women only do this..
If your the type who only goes on dates with one person at a time and wish the person your seeing do the same, well nothing wrong with that. But not everyone feels that way. Nothing wrong with getting to know a few at the same time.
So really you can neither suck it up and continue to see someone who is seeing others at the same time or just walk the other way. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:55:26 PM | Sometimes I feel people's expectations get skewed, I got tired of meeting the same old drab 'I'm never sober' type girls around here so I figured it couldn't hurt to put myself out there in some other way. I've sent a couple messages out, gotten some half ass responses which is fine. My experience with online dating is that it's very hit or miss, which I suppose is why they call this site plenty of fish. I'll use that analogy to kind of allude to your situation.
Let's say just for the sake of this analogy that the girl you were after is a fish and you're standing there with your line. Now what happens if someone else who's fishing nearby has a better line or used better bait? You can't expect to catch a fish every time you go fishing and sometimes you will catch a fish just to have it get away.
Don't get discouraged and keep your head up, this post seems like you're grasping for attention and that's not the right way to go about things :/ | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:02:45 AM | Sometimes I guess you snooze you lose. You can't believe that you were the only person she was conversing with, just as hopefully she wasn't the only person you had been in contact with either. That's dating. Meeting people, conversing with others, until you find that special someone and decide to be exsclusive.
Good luck, and don't take it too personally. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:30:54 AM |
I just got an account here and was talking to a women who finally responded to my first message
You are too impatient, imo. I have been on here for 3 years; get a few emails a week when my profile is turned on (it's off about half the time, sometimes while I explore with someone, sometimes just to take a break). I answer about 99% of any messages I get. I've gone out on dates with quite a few people, had a couple of short "relationships" in that time.
I just got a message today from telling me she met some other guy on here and they were talking while we were at the same time. Is it worth having an account here ? I'm tired of games and if I'm talking to someone here it's only them who I'm messaging no one else.
I suggest you change that - emailing back and forth is not a relationship, no more meaningful than smiling at someone else at a coffeeshop. A phone is slightly more meaningful, but it is really part of the "feeling out" process.
When I first joined POF, I had the same expectation you do: if we're exchanging emails and things seem to be going well, there was no point in continuing to talk with others. I quickly found out that out of 10 email exchanges, 1 might lead to a meeting. Many of the guys who initially email are feeling me out for a hook-up, are married and only want to play online, are perhaps bored and just email on a whim - no serious intent. Some are serious, of course, but we discover via email that we're not really compatible. So I learned not to take the email part of this online stuff at all seriously and will email with several people at once.
Phone suggests more serious intent, as does an actual meeting. Still, I'm disinclined to take anyone seriously till we've dated a few times - it's all part of getting to know someone. I don't consider this playing games, but simply being realistic and not setting myself up for repeated disappointments by placing too much expectation based on on a few emails, some phone calls and the first couple of dates. If, after this point, things are still going well - then I start considering this person as having potential, will turn off my profile and stop emailing with 'potentials'.
Believe me, removing expectation from yourself and others will make this whole online dating thing a whole lot more pleasant for you - may even prevent you from concluding that everyone is "playing games" and becoming bitter.
Anyway, good luck to you. | |
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| How many messages do POF women get a day ?
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:37:53 AM | | I think it's good to talk to mutliple people and keep your options instead of only focusing in just on person. If I'm talking to 4-5 men at the same time, chances are that I would end up going out on a date with just 1-2 of them. Things can appear to be going well. But one person can suddenly lose interest because of a variety of possible reasons. | |
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