| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:01:51 AM | I'm a virgin. Almost all my guy friends don't believe me. I want to wait till marriage.
Everyone wants to look their best in their profile photo! It's what catches people's attention, so maybe after they stare at the picture they will read your profile. It's a marketing tool. Use it. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/21/2009 8:14:52 AM | Who knows...maybe we know a "relationship" in the form of endless talk is going to be filled with a lot of pain and torment for us so we figure we'd better seal the deal and get some pleasure quick before the pain and torment sets in...
"Getting to know you": Hmmm, well, what would you like a man to know about you? And isn't sex a part of your desires? Men and women relating...isn't sex a part of that? Good conversation etc. is wonderful, but I think the reason men and women really need each other is primarily sexual (and warmly affectionate). If not, what's the point? Yeah, the sexes can be good friends, but that gets boring at times and doesn't really glue a man and a woman together.
I agree, doing it on the first night is a bit rushed...3 date rule seems to be sensible. Before then and we're sluts and whores. After that and we wonder if sex is ever going to happen. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/26/2009 3:58:40 AM | | guys want sex before they even meet you. or even no you exits. They are visual creatures except it. its not gonna change for you. sorry so blunt but truth is real sorry so harsh | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/26/2009 7:31:46 AM | river said: For guys I've found that the three date method is far more productive with a much lower strike out rate. Spend the 1st three dates with physical contact, no kissing, holding hand etc. and then by the end of the 3rd date you make your move and they are so relieved that your not homosexual that they can't get their clothes off fast enough.
Too funny have you really been successful with this method??? I think a couple of months would be prove more fruitful.. Helps you separate the wheat from the chaff sorta speak..
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/26/2009 7:47:59 PM | there19 is half right (though I believe he meant exists, not exits...)
I'm going out on a limb and saying that yes, us guys really do have sex on the brain and that even the respectful and charming guys are thinking about it at some level. You just have to accept that and try to weed out the ones too stupid to control themselves until the appropriate time. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/26/2009 9:05:17 PM |
I'm going out on a limb and saying that yes, us guys really do have sex on the brain and that even the respectful and charming guys are thinking about it at some level. You just have to accept that and try to weed out the ones too stupid to control themselves until the appropriate time.
rhodax, you got it dead on! Not all men are panting dogs when it comes to sex.
But my view on the subject is very colored by my religion, as a Buddhist for nearly 4 decades now, I attempt to cross the sex line only after it becomes a committed long-term relationship. The parts of a woman most important to me are the heart and mind, the other fun bits come farther down the list. (But they are still on the list  ) | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:16:39 AM | My favorite (humorous wise) profiles are those that state in the title "looking to have some fun" so you go to the profile after seeing "hang out" in their title look at their pics and its of them in a bikini..one in nothing but a towel..one in a rather seductive looking pose...another looking as if she just O'd...and finally one of her (which she uses as her main pic) of just her face in thumbnail but then looking at the full thing its her in her underwear....her handle says "horny" i the name or some other word as such... in their profiles they state how much they love all sorts of "touchy feely" type stuff....their description describes what they want in a relationship and what they want for hanging out wise.....then in the bottom it says in big bold lettering to contradict everything they have posted before...."no sex" 
but seriously... some guys are like that ...others arn't you just gotta keep trying til you find the one that is right for you.........regardless of some of us men that think with our smaller brains before our main one.....er...bigger one..<.< some of us our smaller one is our main...whatever =3 | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:44:29 PM | | Personally most guys are only thinking about sex while others dont think about on a paticular level. But to be honest I dont know what the big deal about it is I mean the only times I had it, it sucked and filled me with regret (forced) so I Just dont see the point in it. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:31:48 AM |
The only caveat that we have, is the simple hope that things will progress as rapidly as possible.
So masculine sense of the word date: Sex please. I can wait, but the sooner the better. I always get a bit of a chuckle when i read things like this. Reason being..... On every "what do guys think of girls who give it up on the first date' thread, most of the guys stress that they don't want a girl (for a LTR)who has been with lots of other men.
So i'm not quite sure how this is supposed to work. Maybe one of the men here can inform me... If a girl uses the 3 date rule (which seems to be the measure a lot of people use) or as the quote above says, "the sooner the better" and has sex with each guy she dates on the 3rd date, how is she not going to rack up a "lot of men"? (And be seen as a slut) Or is it that she should have sex with YOU by the third date but not the other guys she's dated?
Seems to be a tad hypocritical to me.... | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:01:40 AM | | Some girls flirt all night on the date (perhaps earlier via texting, phone, im's, etc.) and then brag to their friends "why do all guys want me on the first nite" ... hard to say. I would keep that to myself (unless I was bragging). Is it possible the boobs falling out of your blouse picture sends the wrong message? Why would you sit in a chair with a short dress and lift your legs? You fooled the men here - us women are on to you. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:34:56 AM | | not all guys seek sex on first date..i think the ones that do might have some security issues with themselves.. i feel i can wait a few times before diving in because i know its not going anywhere but every guy is different..i would rather wait and share some thoughts and anticipate a woman i have gone out with a few times....makes it much more exciting...but thats just me | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/1/2009 12:16:13 AM | Not trying to be rude or anything..But what is so wrong about me sitting in a chair sideways...I can't help if my thighs are ( THICK)..So if i had on some shorts..The same thing could be seen..And with my ( BOOBS )...I can't help what i was blessed with....And its not like i have boobs like Pamela Anderson...At least they are covered...Now some of the pics before showed a bit much but i cleaned it up a lil bit....I know that a lot of ppl will be coming down on what i say & with my pics...But hey like my mom told me:If you are talked about you are thought about... | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/1/2009 12:26:41 AM | | well, as others have stated, your pics are rather steamy and it would even make me think that you are trying to attract guys using physical attraction, instead of who you are. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:29:31 PM | As my 80 year old granddad told me once:
"It's a man's job to try and get them bloomers off, and its the woman's job to try and keep them bloomers on"
Haha that always cracked me up when i was younger.
Any guy with any sort of Alphaness or Manliness will try and get as far as he can as fast as he can. Thats just the gist of it. You work for a kiss, then you work for more. It's just how it is in our brains. You go awesome i got a kiss. Awesome i got a good steamy kiss. wonder if i can touch something? wonder if i can go even farther? it doesnt hurt our feelings when you say no or dont kiss or whatever. We just have to try.
Just give what you wanna give. A kiss, a hug, or nothing at all. If the guy doesnt like it good riddens to him. You weeded out a bad one. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:38:25 AM | I just happened to see your tread and wanted to make a comment. I didn't read the rest but this is my opinion : I went to your profile to see for myself , 1. You look good and you have to be happy with them. 2. They were taken for the purpose that you wanted ,to attract guys. 3.You have lots of competition on this site, and some folks probably would post pics like those, if they could, I prefer not to. With the men that message you, sift through the them until you find the one you want and then, be happy.
That's just what i think.
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/3/2009 2:25:19 PM | | that was the best thing i have heard someone say yet good for you it should be special the problem is most men think with the wrong head including me and u know what for that im single what does that tell you | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/3/2009 2:43:27 PM | | What is wrong with sex on the first night? I have had some great sex that way. And as a bonus I never had to see those women again! Cause Lord knows how many other guys they did that with.... | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/3/2009 3:17:50 PM | | I hear ya, it's a total turn off for me too. Don't they know us pretty women are/can be deeper than that. I even have specified at the bottom of my profile that I am not interested in that yet still, some are AGGRESSIVE! I'm new to this online dating and it's becoming something I really don't care too much for. Good luck finding a man who's profile is honestly written, not just want you want to hear to get you in bed. | |
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