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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/3/2009 3:17:50 PM | | I hear ya, it's a total turn off for me too. Don't they know us pretty women are/can be deeper than that. I even have specified at the bottom of my profile that I am not interested in that yet still, some are AGGRESSIVE! I'm new to this online dating and it's becoming something I really don't care too much for. Good luck finding a man who's profile is honestly written, not just want you want to hear to get you in bed. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:17:01 PM | Hey! We are all adults and whatever you do to float your boat is strictly on you. I am all about passion and romantance and if all a guy wants sex and you are not a consenting adult, weed those buggers out! We are (some of us) really broken trying to heal and trying to find another honest chance at love. I am a true optimist so I won't give up, so ladies put those sexy pics out there and be proud. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:07:31 PM | THANK YOU ..THANK YOU..SUNGODDESS1....I WILL TAKE ALL OF WHAT YOU HAVE SAID..AND HOLD IT CLOSE & DEAR...AND A LOT OF PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'VE GONE THRU...AND HOW YOU HAD TO FIGHT TO GET OUT OF IT...AND WHEN YOU DO COME OUT YOU FEEL GOOD...YOU DON'T HAVE TO HIDE OR BE ASHAME ANYMORE...ALOT OF PEOPLE DON'T KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE DEPRESSED,ABUSED & USED...WHEN YOU STEP OUT FROM UNDER SOMEONE WHO HAS DONE THOSE THINGS TO YOU..YOU FEEL FREE.... .... ... .... | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:16:30 AM | I know this question is a bit old, but there can never be too much help for someone asking for it.
I'll tell you what I tell models when they complain that other photographers only want to shoot them nude. "What are you photos screaming, verses what you think your words are saying?"
When all that a stranger has to go by is your photos, when trying to get an idea of who you are beyond words, each photo you have tells a collective story.
When I look at your photos I see a very friendly, happy person. But to be very honest, you are leaning forward in your closeups and your full shots show you with nothing on below.
There are men out there who are looking for more than sex. Yes. That is the answer to your question. And I promise you - when such men see women with photos that give them any sense that the woman behind them may be too quick to show their goods or "hint" at them, they will pass you by.
And another thing that sends a bad signal to such good men are the conflicts in what a woman says and how she shows herself. Your photos are not that bad in relation to the problems you're experiencing. But I've seen a lot of women on here that say they are not looking for a good time, don't even ask, and don't consider them easy to get in bed.
Yet, these very same women are doing the poses with their butts towards the camera, pushing their hair up in other shots and blowing kisses at the camera. Now, what fool isn't going to call them out on that?
For those men that are looking for sex from you, more so than a relationship, they are just waiting for photos like yours to pop up.
Men are not completely stupid. They sense a woman's willingness to open up her sexuality in her photos. There is a big difference between a head shot that is for showing your personality and happy spirit, verses one that accentuates your goods, up top.
I suggest you put some effort into taking photos that show you in a more upright position in your closeups without your cleavage being seen at all. Then take some full shots with some pants, a longer skirt or a full-length dress on.
I'm not suggesting you cover up like a school teacher. But trust me, if you want to show off your sexuality, this isn't the time. Men can gather that info in your words and how you express yourself through thoughts.
I'm telling you flat out: Your photos are a conflict of interest. You are smiling, look very sweet and personable. But when you don't have what looks like anything underneath your top (in your full shots) and you're leaning forward in closeups with your cleavage front and center, the whole package of YOU can come across as a subtle invitation to those that you are trying to avoid.
And not to toot my own horn, but making people look their best is part of my living. Another part is helping people brand themselves or their businesses. And not many people are aware of how the smallest thing in their image portrays the very things they are trying to avoid in attracting to them.
Now, go get yourself some pics that show off that sweet side and save the desert side for the man that proves to you he's worthy of you for who you are, first.
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:41:02 AM | | I hear you loud and clear, I had that happen to me so many times, it just makes you want to give up for good and just stay single forever. I thought this guy that I was talking to and two dates and spend the night with him on the 3rd and 4th time I seen him, but on that 3rd and 4th time I seen him we didn't even go out, we just stay at his house, and then we had sex and then after that, he didn't txt me or anything, before the sex part he would call me baby and stuff like that well when we had sex, i txt him to say have a good night at work and he just said thanks u to, didn't add the baby or hun part in there like he did before, then he said the was busy at work, but the first time I talked to him he was work and kept txting me at work but now he doesn't. So I think he just was using me to get what he wanted which was sex and that''s not right at all. I want someone that I can be with me and will wait when i'm ready for sex. | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:21:57 AM | Well, I tell you what. I have seen very few professional pics on this site but I won't sit in judgement . Everyone can't afford professional pics. As far as sending out the right signals, unfortunately that is society talking.
My motto is : Dance to the beat of your OWN durm, you can't please everyone so please yourself because that is the person you have to see EVERY morning..
Should a women not wear clothes she likes becuase some man thinks that it is too provocative? Excuse me ! In this society, sex sells everything. Advertising gear the public in that direction. If you feel good about yourself, then play your position.. And as far and making the first move, well let me tell you , I have done it more than once, on this site and gotten totally ignored and I CAN wait. Those men who don't respond, screw them! It's thier lost. Be yourself , do you, and I believe the decent men will gravitate your way. The pics are showing your body, your best asset is your mind! | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:10:59 AM | Ineedsun,
When all that a stranger has to go by is your photos, when trying to get an idea of who you are beyond words, each photo you have tells a collective story.
I am glad a guy tells it like it is, and it was something I had said...
I know that it doesn't seem to be to popular with some of the women, but the fact is their pics are generally the first and last thing a man notices. Therefore is she is sexy, and showing the goods, then they are going to think she's selling her goods...
It is sad, because sure it would be really nice to be able to do what ya want, express yourself how you feel, but sometimes that is something you don't do on a dating site, but rather for yourself...
Nicole
I seen him we didn't even go out, we just stay at his house, and then we had sex and then after that, he didn't txt me or anything, before the sex part he would call me baby and stuff like that well when we had sex, i txt him to say have a good night at work and he just said thanks u to, didn't add the baby or hun part in there like he did before, then he said the was busy at work,
Yep that happens more than most would like to have happen. Taking a stand for yourself, and your own self respect means listening to how they talk... If a man starts off with baby, and hun this and that in the get, there is a good chance he's looking to get laid... For a gal, those are feel good, he really is into me words, and a smooth mover will use them in hopes they will work, and it did...
Dating is tough, because the rules change from person to person, and it is hard to know who is playing you, and who really means what they are saying...
SADLY if you read the threads about getting used, and why did he do that, men will come out and say they will wait to hit it and split, just for the thrill of the score. Hun there is no hard stead fast rules, just a lot of being patient and deciding where your boundaries are, then just have fun...
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:13:10 PM | I've been with my dearest for 5 1/2 months now.. and still no sex? Why? We're both waiting for that perfect moment.. like when we can go on vacation or something. Oh sure, we love foreplay and what-not.. but no true sex yet.
Therefore, I shall shun the quote "Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?" into oblivion.  | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:44:03 PM | When I look at your photos I see a very friendly, happy person. But to be very honest, you are leaning forward in your closeups and your full shots show you with nothing on below.
In response to that...Like i once said ..I can't help that my boobs are a lil larger than avg...But i feel good being me..I get the looks at work..even going to church...I can have i T-neck on and still get the looks from guys...so what do you have to say about that...
FYI..that black dress really is a skort dress...It's a dress with shorts underneath..i just didn't untie it..Now if i would have untied it...You would have call me a (PORN STAR)...So when i wear it i always tie it...SO RUN TELL DAT!  | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:04:07 PM | | I agree to some extend...if you show it...you cant blame the guy for thinking about it...so I intentionally have only face pictures....and honestly they still bring up sex on the first date...so I dont think if you dress different it takes sex out of the mind....we all think it...but of course most girls dont want to do it on the first date...guys just a hint...get to know the girl...give her a little time...you never know she just might knock your socks off in so many ways....including sex...lol.... | |
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| Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:09:31 AM |
please she could be wearing a nun's habit and some guys will want sex, and if he does not, then he will come out of the closet in a few years.
That’s a VERY naive statement, never heard of Aspersers syndrome then?
The same as every other guy, will act very slighty shy, however will likly have 0% sex drive, he will want sex, just no drive at all.... More have it then you may think, unless you know what to look for (and you need to have Aspergers to spot them) your never really know. | |
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