| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/19/2009 6:15:32 PM |
how did you find out they were married? i've run across two kinds of men. some will openly admit it and the other kind will hide it for a while until you get suspicious and figure it out on your own. i've even told off some of the married ones and then they insult me!! wow, imagine that, i'm such a horrible woman because i actually want to date a single man, lol. LOL... yep, yep, and yep...I've not gotten as far as actually meeting someone who is married, it comes out willingly or unwillingly before that. It is amazing though how they try to turn it back on you, like you're some kind of uptight prude because you don't want to date a married guy. Amazing. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/19/2009 10:26:19 PM | i just met one yesterday !
on his profile he put single ...my bs detecter was working ...and i came right out and asked "are you married ?" i then pointed to his wedding hand ...hmmmm white where
ring stopped tan ...bye bye
theres some interesting fish in this here pond !
where are all the honest , nice guys ?! | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:43:55 PM | | I could've swore I saw one of the maintenance guys from work on here, but diff name. It was a dead ringer for the guy married, 3 daughters. Or is he playing around like they do over there? | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:18:11 AM |
Realize also that there are different degrees of sex offender crimes, in some States indecent exposure is consider a sex offender crime!
Even Jesus was arrested for a crime..imagine that.
This comparison is ridiculous. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:21:55 AM | Keep your eyes open OP and you'll eventually see dozens more of these men who pretend to be separated/single or whatever. I have learned how to suss them out now but when I first joined the site I must admit I was pretty naive to it all.
One guy contacted me and said straight up he WAS married and not about to leave his family but was looking for something on the side....................so he was honest to me yet dishonest to his wife...............LOL | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:25:57 AM | It truly makes me laugh. They are on here because so many women are giving away the coochie for free. Why shouldn't they be on here if momma is making them pay for it at home?
Don't act so surprised ladies. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:28:10 AM |
One guy contacted me and said straight up he WAS married and not about to leave his family but was looking for something on the side.................. Yep, I had one like this the other day....just hit 'block.'  | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:10:53 AM | Married Men on POF
Don't act so surprised ladies.
...I'm not!
sic | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:22:16 AM | dont just meet them right away...take TIME to know them well before YOU decide to meet them to avoid frustrations.Men and women will tell lies...its up to us..how we spot them.
Observe what they say thier doings, its better also to see them first on cam...look around the backgrounds, etc.
If they made an excuse why they dont have a cam....ask them why they cant get one from there weigh up if its a valid reason or just purely lies. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:57:41 AM | Ahhhh...here's a little tip, ladies...
In almost every county, divorce filings are available on-line. Get the guy's name...first and last...then point blank ask him "So, what county is your divorce filed in?" (yes, even if it's not completed and they're just separated, there is a publicly accessible filing).
Pull it up...check it out. If there is no record of a Petition for Divorce or a final Divorce Decree...chances are there's another truth for you to learn.
No sense in meeting someone who can't be honest.
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:20:02 AM | | I've had a few men message me from here who are married, but I've shot them down and explained that I wasn't looking for the same thing as them. As far as I know, I haven't met anyone who has been married, but, we all know people lie ... I guess I'm a little naive in the thinking that the men I meet and date are single, though I'm sure I've been dupped a few times unknowingly, but thankfully, I've not gotten into a relationship with anyone who was married. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:23:10 AM | I'm kind of shocked at how naive people are. So OP you expected the internet to be different and all men on it are going to be single, not cheating on someone, and not married.
It's also not right to speed or run red lights but people do it.
The internet is much more difficult to date on than the real world. In the real world tons of people cheat on someone.
I'm shocked you think the internet should be a perfect world. Thats why instinct, intelligence, and savvy is what you should worry more about I think. Too many people make terrible decisions on who they date, and they want to blame everyone else. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:36:31 AM | My suggestions for screening out married men on POF:
1) No picture = married
2) Will email you his picture = married
3) Available to meet between 2 and 4pm on Tuesdays = married and in sales profession
4) Never available on Holidays = married
5) Separated and his wife doesn't understand him = married (she does not know they are separated)
6) Never takes you to his place = married
Now if you are thinking of getting with a guy, but you aren't sure about him. Ask to see his photo ID, a copy of his divorce papers and his electric bill. If they all match up - it's still no guarantee, but at least you'll know he put some effort into it, and you'll have the address to contact his wife if you find out he's married. The same system applies to live-in girlfriend.
See? It's easy when you know how! | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 4:49:33 PM | Simple screening process:
- see if he's ok with pics of the two of you
- call him Sunday evenings at his home phone
- meet him and his friends at a random outing
- spend a major holiday with him
- saturate him in your perfume so if there is a woman in his life, SHE will straighten him up.
All of the above BEFORE you go for a shag | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 5:53:38 PM | the only way to know if someone is being truthful with you is to spend the time getting to know them... and that means those we meet in 'real life' as well as 'online'
Recidivism study estimated that within 3 years, 51.8% of prisoners released during the year were back in prison either because of a new crime for which they received another prison sentence, or because of a technical violation of their parole.
Therefore 48.2% became productive citizens without the need to recommit crime.
48.2% imagine that.
Within 3 years, 2.5% of released rapists were arrested for another rape. Which means 97.5 failed to recommit the crime of rape.
actually, it really means that that many ex convicts were *caught* and or *convicted* of re-offending... it's not proof that everyone else stayed clean... | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:11:10 PM | Actually message 38 while those points are all good, I have one sure fire way of finding out if they are with someone - married or living together. I won't reveal it because then all the married men will know my plot to catch them out.................LOL  | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:46:22 PM | OP...I see that you have a lot of mail restrictions already in place on your profile but it's missing the most important one (IMO) - only accept mail from those who have a picture ON their profile - very few married men/people will risk having their spouse, friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, etc. see them actively looking on a dating site.
Having that filter alone works better than all the other filters, including the "must not be married" one - the few times I have removed it, my inbox would fill with married men looking for a friend, with at least HALF of them claiming to be single (or divorced or whatever)...only when I insisted they put the photos they were all willing to send me privately ON their profiles would they admit they were married.
And I'm NOT saying that all photo-less people are married by the way - only that all married people who contacted ME had no photos on their profiles.
Anyway, good luck to you OP...:)
JMO | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:28:02 AM | The funniest thing I've seen is a profile where the guy states he is single, yet in his profile picture I noticed he's wearing a ring on his wedding finger :-)
Miss Marple | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/21/2009 9:49:59 AM | | I got a call from this gentleman asking me out etc. So a few days later I called to confirm the date. I could here on the background the sound of lil children and he told me I called the wrong number! I jut laugh because he was trap and try to get out! | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/21/2009 3:47:34 PM | It's not right, but its what is. So instead of complaining, just come up with a game plan to deal with those fools and knock them out of the running early.
Might I suggest that you request their home number. If he has any excuse why he won't give it to you, then cut him. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:04:52 PM | ^^^^^^^
They'll just give you their mobile and tell you it's easier..................been there.
Miss Marple in all honesty it could well be a photo taken during a time they were married so I'm not sure that is altogether accurate. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:19:29 PM | Well gee Baldy, its cause you are so darn sexy. Those married guys take one look at you and start panting.
Thanks for the smile. A bit of humor sure lightens the day. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:36:02 PM | | This post is HILARIOUS lol. I've only been on POF for 4 days so I haven't met any married men yet well not to my knowledge. I guess I have to wait about a month before I become a victim LOL | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:42:30 PM | i have seen some of my friends, men/women who are married, an inquired about what they were doing on, all of them were sayiung they were just looking for friends or checking out the sites/pics/etc.
the net is just like real life, people play games/people lie and people are married; its no shock or surprise, if you thought the net was oblivious to that then your gonna be dissapointed its the same people who date in the real world online. | |
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| Married Men on POF
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:38:39 AM | As far as the married men go-
to me they must have just low enough self esteem or their wife can kick their butts if they would try to leave the marriage.If married men are going to be "out their" w/ the singles-and trust me im not saying this is right either-but the least you can do is-tell people your married and let other decide if they want to see a married person.
But lets not forget the other people that could be affected by these actions-the kids! | |
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