| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:36:15 AM | Wow....I am exhausted. Getting through your first post was painful, but your responses to anyone who thought you might want to re-evaluate your choices and behavior makes me "want to take a nap".
He took a nap as it appears you suck the oxygen right out of the room.
Your profile is clearly a rant, you may want to re-think it in order to attract the kind of gentleman you are seeking.
And heaven help the man who checks his e-mail before calling you.... | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/21/2009 12:05:20 PM | In the first place, why were you checking to see if he checked is mails? This is a NO!NO! So he slept over and maybe you had great time with him does that mean he did too or just wanted to get into your pant?
You as a woman should love and respect yourself, have great safe and wonderful sex if it comes to that without reading meaning into it. If he actual is into you or want you, nothing will keep him away and neither will he result to making excuses.
Make dating fun for you, this is all about you having a great time, if he chose not to call , Oh Well life goes on and don't be comitting yourself except he can actually commit and willing to give you everything that you deserve.
You should'nt be looking at others to complete you. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:54:56 PM | Cynthia.... isn't it obvious? He's just not that into you! I KNOW you can do a better job of smoking 'em out! Confidence in YOURSELF, Beautiful Woman.....
You will always know how a man feels about you by the way he treats you, by the way he makes you feel, by the way he shows you every minute of every day, that he loves you, cares about you, that he's INTO YOU. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:13:31 PM | people tell you that you are pushing it.. you aren't.. if he promised to call.. and didn't .. has no valid reason except that he didn't want to.. he's done.. no matter when who said what.. people should stick to thier word...trust me.. i know it hurts.. but you have to deal with it.. just like i do.. met a lady at a friends house.. thought she was so damn cute.. went over again.. she was there .. after a while playing video games..be her dinner.. then i lost on purpose.. told her that to let her know i liked her.. but she didnt believe me.. to make a long story short.. she ended in my bed off and on for about 3 weeks.. i let her know that i am not a "booty call".. treated her like a lady.. bought her flowers.. took her every where i took my kids.. out to interesting sights.. promised to treat her like a lady.. gave her nothing but respect, honesty and admiration.. nothing but a gentleman if i do say so.. asked her to be my girlfriend.. to make something nice of this.. haven't seen or heard from her in several weeks now.. heard she went back to her drunk, woman beating, jailbird x.. go figure.. god gives us lessons in life.. sometimes they hurt .. bad.. all we can do it learn, or re-learn.. and hopefully be a better person for it.. i pray for that lady every day.. that she doesn't end up beat up..
i will pray for you also.. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:17:49 PM | my friend went on a date with him and poured red wine on him. she let him know that t is rude to tell a woman that you are calling.
not call. go out looking for more a ss.
using women is not cool
knowing that my son is autistic.
he called the cops
he screamed at the cop that he fuchked me and is on the dating site to pick up women and was trying to score with her
the police gave them breathilizers
she passed drove home
mr law enforcement ~yeah animal patrol~failed the breathizizer and was let off because the cop knew him
had to leave his car because he was drunk
and call for a ride
 
FUNNY AS SCHIT
Revenge is a ****
I don't appreciate being lied to
if someone wants to use me ~just say it
don't manipulate me and LIE
 His shirt was stained with red wine red blue food dye ~~Boo HOO | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:31:52 PM | Did I miss something? What does your son have to do with this?
That's really mature - having your friend throw red wine on him. It speaks volume about the company you keep.
I still don't understand why you are so angry over this. You seriously need to deal with these issues professionally.
Personally, I think the guy got off well if it only cost him a shirt. Your behaviour is stark raving mad and that demonstrates you are no where near ready to date. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:40:08 PM | Atonement...I understand that you are hurt by his behavior, but do you think you might be going a bit far? I know how it is to be disappointed. All of us have been disappointed at one time or another. You have to learn not to get this upset over things. You had your friend go out and pour red wine on him? That's a little drastic, don't you think?
I'm going to agree with the others. I think your profile screams needy and is somewhat scary. You are a pretty woman, but I think you may be running men off with your profile and your actions. I'm not trying to be insulting, but I don't think you are seeing this. People here are really trying to give you good advice. I don't think most are trying to put you down. It just seems you are shooting yourself in the foot with your over-the-top profile and your actions.
Just think about it. Maybe you are coming off as clingy to men, and that is why you are getting dumped. Most people find clingy as unattractive, so as attractive as you are physically, you could be running men off with your actions. Just a thought. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:41:01 PM | I think before you told him to lose your number you were reading way too much into it. He is not inconsiderate or inconsistant he calls you everyday. You may have scared him he maybe overwhelmed with his own emotions right now and you putting pressure will not help.
The true problem here is that you allowed someone to come into your personal space before you felt comfortable and safe with this person the evidence of this is that now you are scared and worried.
If you really want to feel safe with someone than wait until you do already before exposing yourself to vulnerabilities.
We do not jump off a bridge because we want to and then later look to see how deep the water is do we? | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:09:33 PM |
my friend went on a date with him and poured red wine on him. she let him know that t is rude to tell a woman that you are calling.
not call. go out looking for more a ss.
using women is not cool
knowing that my son is autistic.
he called the cops
he screamed at the cop that he fuchked me and is on the dating site to pick up women and was trying to score with her
the police gave them breathilizers
she passed drove home
mr law enforcement ~yeah animal patrol~failed the breathizizer and was let off because the cop knew him
had to leave his car because he was drunk
and call for a ride
FUNNY AS SCHIT
Revenge is a ****
I don't appreciate being lied to
if someone wants to use me ~just say it
don't manipulate me and LIE
His shirt was stained with red wine red blue food dye ~~Boo HOO
He still fu@ked you though. Now you just look crazy and he has been validated. Good to know your acquaintances are nutjobs too. Wow. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:13:09 PM | | This is simple: For many men, once our seed is spilled, so is our passion. Our passion escapes our bodies along with our sperm. You ladies can recharge and reload, having mutliple orgasms, mini-orgasms, pre-shocks and after-shocks on a moment's notice. We fellas have to build it back up again. Don't take it personally, he just had nothing left to give ya. Maybe in a week he'll be reloaded and horny again. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 5:25:00 AM | He still fu@ked you though. Now you just look crazy and he has been validated. Good to know your acquaintances are nutjobs too. Wow.
LMAO! Again, you hit it right on the head! 
Sidenote: The time and energy you are WASTING to seek revenge could be better spent on your children! | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 8:37:38 AM |
i was used
Ummm, you cannot be "used" unless you are raped. You were a willing participant. The outcome is irrelevant. Some men see you after screwing you the first time; some don't. Some men call when they say they will; some don't. You are not 21, so you should know these things by now.
Also, I am shocked by your anger, and yes, you appear to be a very angry woman. We've all been burned -- men also. Get over it and move on, and next time, learn from your mistakes. If you sleep with a guy right away, be willing to not see him again. It's called a double standard (apparently you may not be aware of that).
May I suggest you stop focusing on finding a father for your children and focus on getting your head together and letting go of that anger -- it's not an attractive trait. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just giving you some advice based on your profile and posts. You're a very attractive woman in the physical sense; however, you definitely need to work on your emotional and mental well being, which appear to be very shaky right now. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 10:59:01 AM | OP -- you know, you may have had something with him but you blew it.
Listen -- Most men who have sex with a beautiful woman for the first time go home afterward and "go into a cave" to think about you. Was she great? Could she be the one? She's perfect for me lookswise but can I make her happy? Am I good enough for her? and alot of other questions without answers flow around in our heads. We know we loved the sex, but are we ready for the next step?
He may have just needed some time. He may need to look at his activity on POF to think through if he's making the right decision to be your man instead of someone else's. He may not be sure.
If he took a nap (because he was up all night with you), then he hadn't had any time to think it through. Sometimes its hard to even know what to say to a first time lover the next day and maybe he wanted to work that out.
But you interrupted that process. And accused him of being a lowdown scumbag dirty horndog and you made the decision for him. You gave him the answer "Wow -- I guess I won't be calling her back!!"
OP-- your profile screams that most men are scumbags, but you'll make an exception for a man who is PERFECT. Won't find it--you'll trash them before they have a chance.
Its so obvious from your profile that you've been hurt so many times and continue to find men that make you incredibly unhappy. So, why would I-- a nice man -- and anyone else like me, go into a buzz saw relationship with you? We wouldn't. Only a guy who preys on self-loathers like yourself.
I'd revamp your whole profile by taking any mention of men as users and players, and give your dates -- brave men that they are -- a break. It might just work if you try to understand the good things about men, and not expect the worst from them. Yes, there are some dogs out here, but most are just human. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 11:33:37 AM | | OK, so I just checked out Atonement2009's profile. First off she is a very attractive woman. Second she is batshit crazy if she thinks any "desirable" guy will tolerate all her demands. A man is not allowed to hang out with his friends. Has to spend all his free time with and special needs child. This woman will be looking long past the time her looks fade...then she will have absolutely NOTHING to offer. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 12:06:00 PM | I want to thank everyone who's contributed to this thoroughly amusing thread.
OP
if someone wants to use me ~just say it
don't manipulate me and LIE
His shirt was stained with red wine red blue food dye ~~Boo HOO
So users should just admit that's what they're doing? Novel approach. I'm not sure it's going to work but I wish you the best.
p.s. You really shouldn't drag your poor child into your crazy rants. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 2:48:39 PM | Hi all,
Just want to say, that this lady probably has a hell of a lot of love to give the right man. It always seems to be the players who get respect, never the hurt, vulnerable person, who is more than likely to do anything to please in order to feel loved. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:42:01 PM | | Are you kidding me? Really! I can not imagine that anyone would want to deal with you. I am not trying to be disrepectfull here but I think seeing someone on a professional level is a real must for you. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/23/2009 9:25:32 PM | You blew it; why did you sleep with him? It's amazing how many people sleep with someone then try to figure out if they want to date. This is on you.
This guy was into a one nighter, got what he wanted and move on. I dont understand why you are on a forum asking what happened. Just look at the facts.
He never thought of being in a relationship; he wanted sex. If you are going to have sex right off, be prepared for the consequences.
Of course he will try to patch it up; he wants to hook up with you once in a while and the on again off again will continues. This is a no brainer; be used or be smart. good luck. | |
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