| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 6/30/2009 8:13:13 AM | | Ah, this place rocks! My heart really belongs to the nutjob from Ontario at the moment, but if that doesn't work out you can slap my salami anytime. I don't mind the functionally illiterate. The warm weather might do me some good. | |
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Joined: 6/10/2009
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/1/2009 5:51:25 AM | | life is way to short to be hung up on this guy - im at the point where if u call fine if u dont whatever! i have other interrests which keep me busy and friends who i hang with ! so hon just let it go and enjoy yr life | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/1/2009 4:11:57 PM | TorontoWriter....
By the way, did anyone else get email from the OP about this thread?
Not only did the OP email me, it was titled (of all things possible): Bible ... ** drinking **
My reply:  ... Unread/Delete | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/3/2009 2:46:14 PM | You know i gotta say im really dissapointed. Apparently she has issues...who doesnt??? None of you are perfect, theres no such thing. Men are**** plain and simple. So she fell for the whole " i like you i think this relationship could be going somewhere" BS. I've said it once ill say it agian, men are our weakness they say something we wanna hear and good decisions fly out the window. So its not your fault. Regardless of what these other ppl say. Men just know exactly what to say to get women to do what they want. I know tho that there are some good guys out there, they are few and far between but they are there. So dont give up, dont be discourage. U know what you want dont settle for less.   | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/3/2009 2:50:56 PM |
You know i gotta say im really dissapointed. Apparently she has issues...who doesnt??? None of you are perfect, theres no such thing. Men are**** plain and simple. So she fell for the whole " i like you i think this relationship could be going somewhere" BS. I've said it once ill say it agian, men are our weakness they say something we wanna hear and good decisions fly out the window. So its not your fault. Regardless of what these other ppl say. Men just know exactly what to say to get women to do what they want. I know tho that there are some good guys out there, they are few and far between but they are there. So dont give up, dont be discourage. U know what you want dont settle for less.
So women are not responsible for their bad decisions? Men control you? | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/3/2009 3:01:32 PM | | More or less, they are very crafty. Especially with i love you phrase. A man says that to you and you melt you cant help it. You stop being mad at him for whatever it is he did. You know what im talking about. Im not saying woman cant think for themselves or anything OR that men control us thats not what i was getting at, but all it takes is a couple of nice words from a guy and we are hooked. Dont deny it, you with a guy for say 3 months he says he loves you, you belive him. You think you've found your guy and everythings going great next thing you know he cheats on you. You get all pissed off and try to leave him but he uses those 3 little words again.....what do you think happens. Its a horrible cycle. It usually takes a while to smarten up and realize the guy is trash. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/3/2009 5:37:24 PM |
More or less, they are very crafty. Especially with i love you phrase. A man says that to you and you melt you cant help it.
You have a lot to learn, Peachez. I can't believe you actually believe this. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/4/2009 2:14:40 AM | | How am i being naive? My age dont mean anything, i've learned all i need to know, and i've already been burned more than once....why do you think it is i think the way i do? Its not just for the hell of it i can tell you that. If you can prove to me that guys arnt like that i ll apoligize and admit i was wrong. Until then, thats my opinion and im sticking to it thank you very much. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:27:27 PM | Come on guys he said he would call. It not like he she gave him a number at the club. They kind of got to know each other first.(Take longer next time) On the other side of the coin don't put yourself in the situation where this could happen.
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:48:18 AM | I think we have all been hit by this at one time or another, or seen it at least. Your situation could be many things. Yet I have to agree with what most are saying. He may have not have called for a million reasons. I have to ask, you said he checked his email? So what were you doing? You telling all of us you didnt open any emails you had? You ignored every email in your inbox just to check to see if he checked his? That is a huge red flag, I MEAN HUGE!!! Yes, I think deep down we all want that connection, and bond with the right person. How ever not giving them enough space to really let things set in is bad. You had sex pretty quick with this guy?? First or second date? Well, to us guys, most of us. That means you and he would do that with anyone. Sex to you is what? and sex to him is what? To me? sex is sex at first, if you are using sex as man trap its gonna spring on you more than them. I wish I could say Im sorry for you, but I wouldnt be honest in saying it..You are more wrong than he is in my opinion. Just because he had sex with you makes him a player? I think not, the ideas behind it are, and its yours. Never use or rely on sex as a relationship "Sealer" Sex never SEALS THE DEAL..Freindship, laughing, bonding, common interests, and general all around chemistry does. Live and Learn Bella..Best of luck to you..
PS...Please dont become a "Man Hater" over all of this? and remember Sex is just Sex at first, what the Heck else could it be???? | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:00:10 AM | Lets see, OP talked to this guy for many months. Thought there was a good connection. Decided that she would advance to "consumating" a relationship. Went online and saw him there when HE told her he would call. Yes, disprespectful on his part.
But at the same time I will agree with many on here. Why was she online as well? Very likely that she got played. I looked at her profile and personally I didn't see anything stating what she was looking for. But then again she probably changed it since everything started.
I also agree with the poster saying that just because someone dresses sexy doesn't mean that they are looking for sex. But men do see that and will think along those lines.
All the bashing from both sides is a little much in my opinion. People make mistakes. If the guy that did this to her is still around and has looked at her posts, I would agree for him to run. It sounds like she is wanting an instant family.
If I was with someone and they told me I couldn't spend time with my friends and must spend every available moment with her then I would do that just for spite myself. EVERYONE needs ME time.
Live and learn I guess. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:21:12 PM | | There's nothing worse than someone you have feelings for says he is going to call and is fishing on Pof instead....I think you handled him well......there are plenty of deceiving fishes on this site...........you have to know how to weed them out, obviously he is not ready for a serious relationship....next...... | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/6/2009 12:59:24 PM | | The no call break- ups can be terrible. I don't see why one person can't tell the other, "sorry, I wont be seeing you anymore.'..it can be left at that, or further explanation can be given. I think it's very disrespectful to just leave someone hanging. I have experienced this too..(not from someone I met on POF) and it sucks, and it's cowardly. I have always let someone know if I wasn't going to see him anymore. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/7/2009 12:52:08 AM | Dear didnt call, I feel your frustration and understand where your coming from. Its not a matter of the sex "i believe" or is it? Its that he didnt care about how you felt. It was the realisation that the conversations and what was revealed by him were not altogether true, and that HURTS!!! It was commented that women need to stop wearing their hearts on their sleeves I think that men need to START. When a woman decides to become intimate with someone in most cases its beacuse they feel some form of emotion towards that person. Unfortunately this cannot be said of the majority of males out there. Alas this is were lust comes into play. You see we women constantly live in the hope of finding the right person to settle with and this is were our problem begins. As the majority of males just want to have fun until it is absolutely ness that they settle down. WE on the other hand want it as soon as possible, as every thing that is feed to us through the Mediaand our every day lives etc is coupled. Therefore if you dont fit into that criteria then you are not deemed as the norm. We are nuturers on a whole, we multitask, we groom, we all subconciously strive to achieve the mother earth role. This also transpires at some stage into our platonic and non platonic relationships, and is normaly embraced when needed and then disgarded when the reciever is healed and well. Now please dont get me wrong there are also the special times when the nuturer is rewarded with as much support and thus a unity between the two begins. Ms didnt call you are not the problem, the problem are the Male individuals out there who feed into societies ideas of how they should behave. These males do not stop and think for a second of how their mothers, sisters, daughters, neices"you get the picture" would feel if they were on the recieving end of such behaviour. We are are all to quick to judge and say couldda, shouldda,wouldda however we all need love or at least some form of affection to survive and develope. This does not make us desperate, needy, or darn right pathetic it just makes us human and for this we are all guilty.
Stay strong... Jayx | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:42:15 AM | hahahaha....
what a lame....
i get them in my bed before you get there number...
lol
you got to stop liven life the way you do...'
look at your self.... quit that lame ass job you have had for years, get out of this dead end road to nowhere... live life. like you lost it
you got to be more assertive....
and tell them what you want.... and make sure they know they ant shit....
and they cant get any thing out of you, if they even attain you.... the girls pay for everything and i have more girls than i know what to do with...
and i dont go to bars to pick chicks up. it just happens. | |
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| Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:16:40 PM | Don't be so hard on her, she had a right to be upset and we don't know what the dynamics were, what her past relationships have been and what other men may have done to her in the past. Yes ,I have heard the saying your future has no room for your past but everyone's past is in some way going to affect and color their future. I also know that not all men and women are the same.
The first man I met on here had asked me out, we planned on it for that Monday, I had been sick and he told me to get better as he didn't want me sick for our date. Guess what? The day of I hadn't heard from him, actually hadn't heard from him in 3 or 4 days as he was at the beach fishing, well I called and texted him and got no response so I logged on here, he was on here,sent him a message ,nothing. Then he said I will call you in a bit, nothing. A few hours later I called he answered and said he was on his way to the beach but he didn't have time to call me, I said you were on here, the kind, courteous thing to do would have been to call and let me know the date was off for the night, he said he wasn't on here, it was his son who uses his profile to try to hook up with young hotties! What a bunch of bull!
So, was I wrong for calling him, was I chasing him or was he an inconsiderate uncaring jerk? I don't care what anyone says if that guy had time to log on here, he had time to call her. Be glad you dodged a bullet, I wish I would have done that but no, stupid naive trusting me kept going back for more until he finally broke me and my heart. Lesson learned, he was after one thing, he got bored with me, found someone new and he was done. No, we never did get to the sex, he bailed before it got that far.
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