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hellgremlin

Joined: 5/23/2009
Msg: 26
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what's the point in trying Posted: 6/24/2009 5:35:07 AM
A buisness letter is one that is simply worded and will not offend anyone. Something like: "You have received a form letter. I have sent you this because I have expressed interest in your profile. I would ask that you take a look at my own and if you like what you see please message me. thanks. Now this letter needs work but its an easy way of getting a lot of messages out. Ah, excellent! The hellgremlin method appears to be taking off :p

MajinGodchild

Joined: 4/18/2009
Msg: 27

what's the point in trying Posted: 6/27/2009 9:16:02 AM
im just gonna give up thinking that im gonna find that special someone as everyone i talk to and get to know better ends up hurting me i think im just gonna stop trying on everything

bayblue

Joined: 4/16/2009
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what's the point in trying Posted: 6/27/2009 12:56:15 PM
Hi, I think you also have to realise the problem isn't necessarily with you, but with the women! For me personally, i would reply to every message i got (if i ever got any.... that's another story...) That is part of my character - I am polite, caring and try to treat people how i want to be treated. When i send a friendly introductory message of course i expect a reply. Even if people are honest and say "no thanks i'm not religious" or "i dont want children" or whatever. Honesty is always best. I think ignoring is a weak cop-out for some. My other reason is that i was ignored throughout my early teens at school - i considered it a form of bullying as to be ignored is crushing, at least being hated means people react to you, but ignored is like indifference. Not pleasant. So I know it can hurt sometimes internally when you contact someone and you know they have read your message, but then they never acknowledge you with a reply. I also wouldn't worry about your photograph. If a woman judges you by that singular image, then is she the sort of woman you want? I never worry too much about that, and I dont have my image uploaded to stop people judging me. All this means that the best thing i can do is encourage you to persevere :) There are good women out there who will be attracted to you, and have the right personality, character and temperament that fits you too. It won't be perfect, but what relationship is? But someone who is respectful, caring, honest and non-judgemental is a good start. And thats the sort of women who will respond... just keep searching! Bayblue x

lokeylarry

Joined: 6/4/2009
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what's the point in trying Posted: 6/27/2009 1:17:21 PM
You are a good looking young man. Don't go feeling sorry for yourself, it just ain't manly. Women like confidence. I am an old fart but I have started getting a lot of dates. First thing you should do is go for volume. Send out lots of complimentary emails. Sometimes all you get is "thank you" sometimes you get the, foot in the door, "you ain't so bad yourself fella". When I get that I go for it full tilt. I ask her out right away. I have never been turned down once they compliment me back. Oh sure every now and then I have a little pity party when the well drys up for a spell but...there are plenty of fish in the sea. I increase the distance I will travel or lower/raise the age I will date a couple years...vary your acceptable parameters. She's out there you got to believe it. Your little yin is out there Mr. Yang now send out those...I love your eyes. hair, etc.......emails. You can't catch fish without putting bait in the water. This sure beats home depot and target stores.