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| Cuddling and touching after sex
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:45:15 PM | In a bed, yes. Very much so. In fact w/a FWB I had, the best part was afterwards. LOL When he came over it was like *attack!!!*. THen afterwards we were satisfied and relaxed and would cuddle and talk for awhile and I really liked it.
And sleeping with a guy I like to spoon or be spooned. Touching him in some form all night long.
But if it is sex on a couch, floor, or elsewhere, it's probably pretty crazy wild and afterwards I'll just lay there, arms outstretched, gasping for air like a fish out of water. LOL Then once we recover and can breathe again it's prolly past the cuddle time so we're gonna just chill and talk.
In fact, I think the type of sex does really play into things. The wild monkey sex is less likely to lead to a cuddle then the sweet slow lovemaking.
And of course...I will add that I am a big cuddler and am very likely to be cuddling before sex or 2 hours later. It's not confined to post-sex at all.
Oh, and um not sure I shoudl admit this but drinking wine? makes me cuddle as well. LOL Loosen those inhibitions and I"m all over him. Lay my head in his lap, lean against his side, etc... Yes ok, a bit of a sloppy talkative cuddle, but still...a cuddle for sure! lol
Kaylie who would be happy to be cuddling someone tonight after sex...but tis not to be this night. *sigh* No sex, no cuddle. Just hot muggy air and a puppy dog at my feet.
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| Cuddling and touching after sex
Posted: 6/21/2009 8:10:28 AM | No...selfish is when you don't care what the other person wants or needs so you are not really "making love" you are just haveing sex. There IS a difference.
So if you like slam, bam, thank you now go away....that's fine, but if the other person doesn't feel the same way...THATS SELFISH
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Posted: 6/21/2009 9:06:25 AM | My former wife did not like hearing or feeling my heart beat when we cuddled. I was not pleasaed with the notion of my heart not beating.  | |
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| Cuddling and touching after sex
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:44:55 AM |
No...selfish is when you don't care what the other person wants or needs so you are not really "making love" you are just haveing sex. There IS a difference
And who said the person being kicked out of bed wanted to stay? That's not selfish. That's practical. Stop being selfish and thinking your way is the only way. And there's no difference, in my world, to making love and having sex. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2009 11:50:14 AM | OP -- For me a lot of it depends on the ambient temperature of the area we're in at the time. Space and confinement also play a role.
But generally speaking, I'm a cuddler. When I'm done, and she's done and we're both laying there in spent bliss...I'll usually instigate a cuddle. However, if the temperature is a little fierce then it'll be a brief cuddle if anything. Too much body heat makes me nauseous.
Cuddles for me are the perfect end to a great session.
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| Cuddling and touching after sex
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:53:57 AM |
And who said the person being kicked out of bed wanted to stay? That's not selfish. That's practical. Stop being selfish and thinking your way is the only way. And there's no difference, in my world, to making love and having sex.
Exactly. Cuddling for a while but not perpetually does not make the experience a total waste of time, unless that's how you'd feel in which case you're dealing with a projection there, not an objective opinion.
Again, I don't mind cuddling until I fall asleep, I actually like it. Once I am in sleep mode however then you have to give me space. One could say that if I want space and the other doesn't then they aren't considering what I want. That's just as unfair.
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| Cuddling and touching after sex
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:56:21 PM | OutMind, what is wrong with the cuddling and being touchy after sex and her wanting it again? That means you must have been good in bed and she wants more of the same. Unless you're a "wham bam, thank you mam" kinda guy. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:32:06 PM | Janet, I laughed out loud because I can see myself doing just that.
Communication like that is priceless. :- ) | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 11:08:10 AM | | Huge on cuddling. I think the nap together after sex is one of the best parts of making love with the person. I have a question-if one were to get up almost instantly and get ready to do their errands, is that always a bad thing? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 12:06:08 PM |
I have a question-if one were to get up almost instantly and get ready to do their errands, is that always a bad thing?
No. People have stuff to do outside of the bedroom. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 1:06:12 AM | -if one were to get up almost instantly and get ready to do their errands, is that always a bad thing?]
not unless it happens all the time... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 1:17:55 AM | | To be held and touched and feel like the very act of sex was just not a act of need but an act of care. A way of gently cuddling and then not abruptly getting up and leaving but gentle time afterwards | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 8:25:45 AM | | After the climax, I don't want him to move away from or stop kissing me until he slips away. Then we continue to hold each other and kiss one more time (or two....). Finally, we separate, but I like the spoon position, too, which keeps us close, but gives us some space. To jump out and light up a cigarette is completely unacceptable, as is turning away and going to sleep. I agree with you. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 8:33:02 AM |
The problem with cuddling is that in no time she wants to do it again.
That's a problem. You don't have enough imagination to bring her off several times? Poor woman! I'm shooting for 3 or 4 orgasims before I'm done! Lucky woman. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 5:40:02 PM | I love this. The intamicy before sex is nice, but it's nothing like the afterglow. Especially if your in a relationship and are really into each other. Round 2 can be fun, but for me, so is the shower afterwards when we soap each other up, and make out, and do the other person's back, or I wash her hair for her. Major turn on!
That's where the true trust and intamicy presents itself and I can't get enough of it. The best parts for me are the moments where there isn't necessarily sex, or even words; but you express how you feel through your touch and your eyes... That's the best for me. Looking into each others eyes, reading everything in one moment, and just feeling the pleasure of your skin, next to their skin. The touch and texture of it. And listening to them breathe... taking in their scent... after everything goes all quiet just before you sleep. I wouldn't trade that feeling for anything else in the world.
Now the snoring on the other hand!  | |
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| Cuddling and touching after sex
Posted: 7/24/2009 6:08:11 PM | | I'm not real big on the cuddle bit... but I love lying close to my partner, bodies touching.. and just basking in the afterglow.. In winter months when it can get chilly, then maybe a cuddle wouldn't be too bad, but generally I'm just a close kinda gal. Hope that doesn't put me in the barrel that some other POF'ers wanted to put women in that don't much like cuddling.. not liking cuddling too much isn't a horrible thing, it's just maybe not what you're used to... | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 7:42:58 PM | All for it- love the sound of his heartbeat beginnng to slow afterwards, the (usually) slightly slippery feel of sweaty skin yada yada... We are both rather hot people (temp. wise, not as in hawt... lol) so cuddles/spooning may need tempering with just hand touching or feet-nestling. His biggest thing after sex is to have me run my fingers all over his back, stroking, kneading lightly etc. He could take hours of that!!! And I love doing it for him. Cuddles and touch are very important to me after making love. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 7:47:14 PM | Since I know that guys get overheated, I like play with a guys back and shoulders after making love. Usually within six to ten minutes, the guy will want to roll over to face me, and cuddle. What can I say, I like the feel of perspiration and a relaxed heartbeat, too.  | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 8:38:52 PM | | Oh yeah, Iiiiii'm a cuddler, yep, yep. Oh, and whispery talking and throaty chuckles add to the whole experience for me. Creates an intimacy I LOVE! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 3:47:34 PM |
I've never understood these guys who do the deed, roll off, roll over and then fall asleep...just doesnt' compute...
You know how much work you females take sometimes? Sorry to say but unless your on top males do 80% of the work. Thats why we (sometimes) roll over and go to bed | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 4:21:51 PM | Emmy said:"Here is my veiw...
If i'm really into the guy and hes got something to cuddle... i will..
But if i'm not into the guy so much and hes a bit on the skinny side...then i won't..
So all in all i'm just bias towards men who have something to cuddle..."
As a not skinny teddy bear this made my day! Wish you in Indianapolis Emmy! :) | |
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