| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 7/19/2009 1:04:47 PM | If it feels like shit .. smells like shit.,.. tastes like shit and sounds like shit ... it most likely is shit..
If a guy is invested in you .. he will act accordingly .. he is not into you .. get out.. any bozo. is online here still looking.. call it friends .. call it the second coming of christ.. .. great sex and great love takes work.. any guy sitting with his balls bouncing off a computer chair .. and has you needs a wake up call.. dump him.. a guy into you proves it by being the man,,.. sorry but this guy is no horn dawg.. he is just a dawg.. he should be way way into .. needing to hear you howl........... throw.. this one to the curb, actions are louder than words and you will not get stimulation from mister "I need to befriend all the girlzz" ... you only get good at something by practise, guys know that .. that is why they practise.. .. and any guy that spends his azz here looking needs to practise .. beyond the typing screen.. if his brain is not into you .. get out .. it never will be... insecure.. nah .. seduction requires work.. not cyber typing to the planet... if you don't feel seduced.. chances are you are being reduced... he ain't worth his short and curlies move along.. some guys need a woman.. some guys need cyber friends.. you are telling us it ain't working.. now dump his azz and get a real man.. k,,,
real men want real sex.. not cyber sex .. that is for artificial men.. and you don't need one of them .. you can buy that anywhere... | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 7/19/2009 1:18:28 PM | OP, has he ever told you directly, in words, that he believes having a 'perfect woman' means he will not find other women attractive and want to interact with them?
It sounds like a belief system/value discrepancy between you two. To you, it goes without saying that once a person is happily involved, there's no need for more attention outside. This may not be how he sees it.
It's something I encourage you to consider asking him. | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 7/19/2009 1:27:33 PM | | ^^^^ I got news for yah.. you ask anyone in a situation of exclusiveness if their SO needs to chat it up with the crowd. Any old gal that got her man will tell you she would have dumped his ass when they first met if he needed the company of a ton of women.. see that is what is wrong with now.. a guy not only knows he can.. he knows that .. the woman will tolerate it .. there is the difference in women who understand how to keep a guy.. knowing that you are it.. and that you would not tolerate it... too many tolerate emotional abuse .. and call it .. insecurity .. secure women walk,.. and walk proud.. they know that they deserve to be treated like they matter deeply to another ... | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 7/19/2009 1:30:37 PM | | I think you should for sure talk to him about it and let him know that it's not ok with you and is making you feel like you aren't enough. Also I think that if he respects you and what you have with eachother then it shouldn't be a problem for him to close his account. If he isn't willing to do that, then he doesn't respect you and you need to have enough respect for yourself to not settle for someone who doesn't make you fel valued and appreciated. (I'm sure it's easier said than done lol) But start by talking to him... | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 3:23:51 AM | [hi .. i need some good unbiased advice... i am in a new relationship with a great guy from here... he tells me i am perfect ... that he is going nowhere and he is 110% happy...so why does he still need to talk to other women on here? what is it that i am not giving him? my profile is turned off his still says that he is divorced and looking for friends. Do you think that he should change it to say not single/notlooking and make it plain that he has someone and is in a relationship?}
You're not perfect to him. He doesn't have eyes for just you. He is not in love with you, not even close. You decide what to do. | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 5:14:43 AM | If he loves you he will want to stop talking to other women.
Don't believe the lies. He is still looking for someone better.
Women don't know how to read a guy the riot act and leave him for good when they should. If you are in love, do you need to stay on a dating site trolling for more male "friends"? Of course not. | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 6:56:41 AM | Why would you ask yourself what it is that you aren't giving him? It's him that's not giving you his all. If he's 110% happy, then he doesn't need to keep meeting and talking to new people. Turn your profile back on. Tell him you are 110% happy with him, but you are just looking for "friends," like him.
Men like him are 100% happy with what they've got only until something better comes along. And if he keeps looking, he's going to find it (or he's going to think he's found it.) Either way, you'll be left in the dust.
"Friends" can be found on myspace or facebook. You don't need to use a dating site to find new "friends." | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 7:08:03 AM |
Call it the male's natural tendency for pollagamy. He says you're "the best" but it's the tendency of ALL human beings to be looking for the BBD - "Bigger, better deal!"
Sorry - but few males on these sites are "one girl" guys!
Jack I have to strongly disagree. I myself when I'm in a relationship I don't feel a need to look elsewhere or a need to talk to other women at all. And I know a majority of the guys I hang out with are the same way. | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 12:13:43 PM | | Men regard women like a TV set. Once they have that remote in their hand, and they're watching a show they like, they still channel surf to see 'what else is on'. It's just the way they're wired. They are never satisfied. You could be a goddess in bed, a great cook, make a million dollars a year, and yes, they will still look around anyway. This reminds me of a joke I heard a while back. Adam asked God, why did you make women so beautiful? God answered, 'so you'd like them'. But then Adam asked God, 'why did you make them so stupid'? God answered, 'so they'd like you'. That's it in a nutshell. Good luck. | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 12:20:58 PM |
Men regard women like a TV set. Once they have that remote in their hand, and they're watching a show they like, they still channel surf to see 'what else is on'. It's just the way they're wired. They are never satisfied. You could be a goddess in bed, a great cook, make a million dollars a year, and yes, they will still look around anyway.
No men don't! Horribly inaccurate post. | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 4:23:53 PM | | Some time men do talk to other women, not because their current lady is doing nothing wrong, so i will strongly advise you to stop beating yourself. I think men do "chase" other women because we like the challenge that comes with chasing. men are competitive and our egoes get a boost and we've accomplished something. I dont know what your man's motive is, but i think men tend to want to go for something just to prove to themselves that they can go after it. On the other hand he needs to respect that being in a relationship restricts how he talks to women. that may be something you and him may have to discuss. hope my 2 cents help | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/6/2009 4:37:19 PM | | Hi i agree with u .If ur in a commited dating relationship with this guy and ur both happy with one another.Then yes he should have no reason for interacting with the other lady's from here.He should take off the profile he single and put not single/not looking.Im in a similar thing myself.I think it wrong that eiher person is still on here for whatever the reason is.I would ask ur guy if he still talking to people from here as friends or not.If its just as friends and he in groups or whatever.Then i maybe ok.But he not talking with other people as friends then he need s not do that. | |
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| if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:56:21 PM | Rule # 1 When you meet someone and have a relationship " get off the dating sites"
If I meet someone and even "think" we might have a connection I am off any sites online immediatly and tell my friends, I met someone and working to see how it will go.
Have had this happen to me where I was even at his home meeting his children family and all and he was on a site telling women HOW yummy they are and such. Needless to say I said--BYE BYE. | |
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