| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:27:32 PM | | Nope .. not ever. Once I've loved someone I'll always love them.. Love doesn't turn to hate IMO, it just morphs into a sort of indifference. I guess I'm fortunate. I don't comprehend how you can hate someone who you once had love for.. I may hate the outcome, or the action(s) that led to us parting though. | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:00:33 PM | We have a phrase in my country (Peru), that reads like this
"From love to hatred there is only one step...or love and hatred are only one step away."
Id say the bigger the disappointment, the more we could end up with negative feelings, such a hatred. | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:29:40 PM | | I have never hated anybody...I know this may sound far fetched for some, but i honestly have never experienced HATE.....Disinterest maybe, anger yes, hurt definetly..but never hate...hmmm makes me wonder if there is such an emotion... | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:37:11 PM | | You could love someone so much and when they repeatedly let you down with their behavior, you begin to feel ulterly frustrated that you could begin to be repulsed at seeing them. | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:10:32 AM | ^^^ You were in a one-sided love affair if you "love them so much" and you keep letting him repeatedly let you down with his behavior or indifference to your feelings. Don't let it get so far by allowing him to mis-treat you to the point where you feel repulsion (or hate) for him. Get yourself out of any situation like that.
Giving someone the benifit of the doubt at the first signs of mis-treatment is one thing.. letting them mis-treat you until you are repulsed is an issue within yourself that you need to work on. | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:26:54 AM | i think ove and hate collide in a realtionship. you can love someone (if you believe in love) but hate the things they do. and the more you hate someones habits and things they do then thats when hate comes instead of love. love thier habits and thats when ya love someone more.
i dont think we truly hate an ex we are more let down and disappointed that that person dosent feel the same way about us. i think its more of a thing of being let down | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:41:57 AM | | Well i know a lot of people on here are saying you can't hate somebody you love. I beg to differ. I think it is very possible and it is possible to fall in love with somebody you hate, so why can it not be reversed? People take hate as such a powerful word and it really isn't and take love the same way and it really isn't. | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:50:56 AM | | Well maybe You can fall in love with somebody you hate.. but if I had such a strong reaction to someone that I didn't even LIKE them, then I would never be open hearted enough towards them to be able to actually fall in love with them. I would think that anyone who could fall in love with someone they say they hate.. are confused and all they're really experiencing is sexual attraction or, they've mistaken their "hate" for some other emotion. (????) | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:40:28 AM | What caused the hate I felt in my case was the total pain he caused. Suddenly, the love and mutual words of tenderness expressed constantly on a daily basis for over a year became the phrase from him that we are just friends and surprise that I felt otherwise. Followed by the revelation that he had been obsessed with another women the whole time he had known me.
So after fourteen months of loving him and thinking he loved me I felt so much incredible pain, that the love turned into hate. And the hate turned to indifference finally.
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:47:37 AM | | When someone tells you how much you mean to them- how unique you are and how they cant wait to see you again- only to find that they say the same thing to others- it makes you feel so useless- its ashame when 2 people with the potential to be so much turn into such complete morons and that one person in your life can turn you into someone you yourself despise. Time heals all though- and eventually as the original poster says- when it turns to indifference- your over it. | |
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| When love turns to hate..
Posted: 7/4/2009 1:36:04 PM |
What caused the hate I felt in my case was the total pain he caused. Suddenly, the love and mutual words of tenderness expressed constantly on a daily basis for over a year became the phrase from him that we are just friends and surprise that I felt otherwise. Followed by the revelation that he had been obsessed with another women the whole time he had known me.
So after fourteen months of loving him and thinking he loved me I felt so much incredible pain, that the love turned into hate. And the hate turned to indifference finally. There are 5 stages of grief:
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
I suspect what you are terming as "hate" is the "anger" stage which as you say, eventually turned into "acceptance".. and now indifference. Everyone goes through those stages when a relationship ends (or a when the death of a loved one incurs) We all take different times to go through them and you can jump from one to the other and back again. But.. can you honestly say you HATE or hated him?
It sounds like you had a wonderful time with him while it lasted and that he enjoyed himself as well. Be thankful for that. However; for him he was most likely rebounding from this "obsession" of the other women. Unfortunately many people make other's their "bandaid" when they are too weak to go through the pain you did alone and so they take comfort in someone that helps them ease through those 5 stages.. It seems more times than not, when they've healed, or when the other pushes for the relationship to progress is when they bale.
I'm sorry this happened to you. :0( | |
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