| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/19/2004 8:50:53 PM | Well I am new to the forums, because I don't spend alot of time on here........
But the girls have it just as rough as the guys........
sometimes I respond to a profile, and I don't receive any responses back?
And I am kind of like the other guy.......why in the heck should I pay for something, when you don't get any responses?
There are good and bad ladies out there, as well as good and bad guys.......
and alot of women are tired of the "players" and bullsh*t artists......
any woman who has been in a bad relationship, will not be so easily to jump into another one.
And I also agree about the place you stay........
seems like there are no single men in my area?
And it's hard to talk to someone, who lives half the world away from you, knowing the two of you may never meet?
Just don't give up and keep the faith........
the more you search for it, the more it will escape you......
and to get something really good, well you more or less have to wait a lifetime.
I was in a really bad marriage for 10 yrs., and I have been single for 12 yrs., even though I have made alot of good friends, I still have not met that special someone?
I don't search as hard for him anymore, but I also refuse to give up completely?
I have searched half my life for that special someone, and I figure it's just gonna take awhile for him to find me...........
so keep the faith, good things really do come to those who wait...............
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/19/2004 9:39:34 PM | CAR, chill out!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am not by any means rude or mean but I am extremely forward and blunt and in no way is your profile remotely intriguing or attractive. Quite frankly it's nothing but a turn off!! Honestly it screams psycho to me, if thats what your going for then by all means leave it but if you want responses you need to do some serious thinking about how to present yourself to women.
I do not think I am a beauty queen nor a godess but I do know I am an attractive woman with a brain, a huge heart intact and many things to offer.Many times I dont not respond to emails for many different reasons not because I am a calious b*tch who wants Brad Pitt with a huge checkbook and a mansion. I reply to emails at times that there is no way anything can come of it but I do it because I have manners and I am respectfull.
A 52 yr old man sent me the most sincere and sweetest compliment I have ever recieved and mentioned at the same time I know I am out of your age range but felt compelled to pay you a compliment. He was refined in his email, respectfull to me and mannerly with his words ( oddly from LA, no offense) and for that reason I replied back thanking him and have actually had more communication with him than most my age. NOthing will ever come of it but he knows how to approach a woman and not make her run like hell. Throw some manners in there and you might be surprised where it will get you.
In case you havent noticed being a man is quite different than being a woman. The genetic makeup and neurochemistry of a mans brains allows him to be "jazzed" by almost anything about a woman. We could cough and serioulsy you could get a hard on, it's really that simple, you cough and we say cover your mouth. Our brains are just not made that way. It's a fact that women use different parts of their brain than men, parts that encompass reasoning and selectivness. Think about how animals choose their mates in the wild. They do not just take any run of the mill male ( the of the group thats gonna get her eaten), they look for the strong, protective hunter that will provide for their young and ward off any predators. Unconsioussly our brains do the same thing, even if we are not looking to settle down. It's a womans human instinct, for most it is and for most its just part of our genetic makeup.
When we read your profiles we look for so many different things and it's not all about looks, what I find attractive is different than the next woman. I look to see does this guy have his head on straight, is it possible he might freak out one day 5 years down the road and kill me, are there any signs he might get pissed off and just loose it maybe on our child. These are things that, honestly, by looking at your post sent red flags up in my head all over the place. Your so defensive and hostile because women wont respond to your idealology of what we want. That should tell you it doesnt turn us on to come on so dam strong, your profile smothered me
. Dont get me wrong be confidant in yourself and what you have to offer a woman just be a bit more refined when doing so. When I look at you, your not attractive to me at all. The reason for this is not because your a hideous man who should go hide in a cave somewhere but you are not appealing in any way. If your trying to get a womans attention take some pride in your appearance, be clean, be mature and show her what you have to offer is gonna be worth her time and effort, worth weeding through BS emails to reply to you. You cant force love!!!!! No matter how bad you want it, it's not gonna be there until you quit searching so dam hard for it, when you quit trying to make it happen and its right itll knock you off your feet. You dont need to tell us 100 times your looking for love, once is plenty. Arent we all looking for love in some form or fashion, afterall thats why were here unless stated otherwise. Basically it's a given and should not make up your entire profile and give us the perception that your not even remotely sain without LOVE. Thats scary!!!
I apologize to all of you reading my novel but I felt compelled to share my opinions. Men it's hard, it really is when you log in and there are 50 emails and maybe one has substance and the rest say sh*t like....uh wanna ****....suck me......bend over please and on and on and on. Manners and Respect all were asking for. | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/19/2004 9:57:10 PM | One last thing. Take just now for instance, I have not been online in about a week or so, I have quite a few emails to go through but I have several in particular from one specific guy who I responded to thinking maybe ok-maybe not. He had me puzzeled but I thought he seems like he might be thinking semi normal (plain normal is boring, you cant be a walking pupet of everyone else but be your ownself and little unlike everyone else).
Well guys I was dead wrong. I sent one message about the typical chit-chat 1st msg stuff. He sent a reply asking me out for 3 days from then, wanting my #, giving me his and so on and so on, and all the time I am still trying to try to chat with him even though I see red flags dancing in front of me. I replied and told the honest truth I had plans to be going out of town for several days and I couldnt do anything so soon, south texas and my friends were calling my name and no stranger was breaking that one.
Men after one breif email with maybe 5 lines I am not going out with you 3 days later even if you are brad pitt. But did it end there, no there are 10 msg in my inbox from this same individual begging me and pleading with me to give him a try when he clearly freaked me the F**K out. For real this is crazy sh*t and is no way to get a woman to reply. Is there any question or shadow of doubt why some of us dont reply? | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/19/2004 10:33:11 PM | I'm sorry you feel that way. I've recieved msgs on here from guys. I admit I do not respond to all the messages I get on here.Not because of what they look like but just what there intentions are and the fact that.When they type there not writing anything of importants. I like a guy who actually takes the time and reads my profile and doesn't just said a msg. Hi, your cool get back to me.
It's all in the way in which you send a message out.The more creative you are the better chances they will respond. Perhaps, I'm wrong.That's just my opinion.
I have also deleted emails of people without reading there emails by checking out there profiles and see if we have anything in common.If we don't I just delete it or if my mailbox is full. I delete all of them.
I hope things do work out for you .I'm sure with this message I've limited the amount of people who actually message me but whatever.This is me and I'm just being honest. | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/19/2004 11:49:17 PM | Yo Guys, Don't be so much of a hurry to connect with some of these beautiful girls on here. You have to remember that they are getting bombarded with e-mails and have heard every line a guy can use on them. Just like us when they do see a guy that is interesting to them they get their pretty little hopes up and then it happens. The guy they like is married, or he is a jerk, or he is a player and they get disappointed just like we do. Maybe more so since they are more in tuned with their feelings than most of the male universe. You have to take a little bit of the advice from each person on this post and form your own opinion. Like some do post an ad and don't come back. Some do find soemone and don't come back. Some just gave up on being disappointed on here like all on all sites. Some are real and some are phonies just like all sites and that goes for guys and girls.
I myself have been doing pretty good on this site and have met some nice, pretty and some sexy girls. Most of the ones I have been in contact with seem nice and for real. None of them have rocked my world as of yet and totally seduced me : ) but I am in no hurry. Just don't put your expectations, rules, demands and hopes to high for anything. Be your self or clean up your act and your pictures and try a new you. Weather you are loking for a fling or a serious relationship or both, so are some of these wonderful girls. Be polite, be nice, be cultured and be clean. Some like bad boys, some like nice guys, but all like interesting guys that they are attracted to and you can't take it personal if you are not ones type.
Don't ever give up on yourself and your dreams. Just be flexable with them.
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/27/2004 11:35:45 AM | i just want to say
AHAHAHAAHAHAHAHHAHAAA
WTF are you people
bored like hell?
you respond so much on this infact typer a fukin essay
cause you got nothing better to do to give me you wat
negative advice
I DIDNT SAY I WANTED IT YOU DUMBASES(meaning to tha ones who did give me negative advice)
dont you got lives?
you wasted your time, but im sure you dont care
i have met some girls to know worth on this site but tha oens from toronto,i think their psycho now and tha girls who respond to me in my topics in this forums are losers to even try hard to be give advice
cause their in denial
i treat girls fine i know how to treat girls right
so dont even think you know dat i dont
you have wasted nothing but complete text
it's really sad
anyways anyone else wit positive advice cause really im just goin wit tha flow now
some girls just make us guys into jerks we are not today,
dat's sad yea
but it's tha truth
and i dont even like sluts lol | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 34 | |
| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/27/2004 11:52:57 AM | exactly no doubt bout it
they wasted their time lol
they actually type essays to me
it's time to truly change now=)
not giving into girls anymore
and im goin into half go wit tha flow anything goes type of guy now
if i cant get love..i guess i will have to get at least some lust
slut=lust lol
cool huh?
i guess dat's how tha word was formed lmao | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
Msg: 35 | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/28/2004 1:37:35 PM | I have to give credit to beautifuleyes475202 for her posts in this thread. I especially liked the comment "In case you havent noticed being a man is quite different than being a woman" although I'm still not exactly sure how one notices the difference in "being" a man or "being" a woman unless they have actually been both...
In all seriousness the content was great and it looks like Car was banned so all is good.
I would add this though, men are by nature conquerers. The exhilaration of the chase and the hunt is what drives men during the start of the relationship. It is this very attention to the woman that drives the woman as well. The problem comes in when the man begins to feel that they have conquered or won the heart of the woman. It's at that point that much of the extra attention directed towards the woman starts to decline, and it is the decline of this attention that begins creating concern for the woman.
No matter how evolved we like to think we have become, we're still motivated and conduct our relationships by primal instincts. It is the people that recognize this and make adjustments who have those long, loving relationships that seem to be the envy of everyone that knows them... | |
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| Don't give up
Posted: 10/28/2004 1:43:32 PM | | It's kinda like practicing to improve your game. Thats the way i see it and it works for me. | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/30/2004 12:15:55 AM | I think you need to look at this differently. What you are saying is bullsh*t, nothing else. Maybe you are doing what most guys do and only going for women who are way out of your league. That is what men usually do. No offense, but that is my guess.
Typically guys only reply to women who are centerfold material, have money and are under age 30. I get no replies but for men over 60 or boys with no job, no car, and living with Mom.
Why? Because I am not thin. I'm not whining, I'm just telling the truth. If someone like you, even living 2000 miles away, was interested in me- I'd f*kin fly up there in a minute.
My advice to you is...
Keep trying and go for more types of women than you are inclined to. You never know what someone is actually like until you meet them in the flesh. Unless someone literally makes you sick or fear for your life, keep communicating.
And no it is not because you live in Toronto. I live in Phoenix, there are more single people here than anywhere and I can't find a date either. So there. | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/30/2004 11:22:36 PM | By reading the date on this, you send this long ago. I hope that by now you have had luck finding the lady you so desire to write to. I am bored tonight and was just looking at the old forums. Boy, what the heck is wrong with some women. I would love to find a Christian man who respects ladies. Usually, men will respond and then the next thing you know, here come the "do you want sex" questions, which are a total turn off. MEN, not all women are here seeking a one night stand. Some of us are actually looking for a good man. Which now day's seems to be hard.
Sincerely,
Ally | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/31/2004 12:06:32 AM | im a woman and you know what i have posted on 4 other sites and have maybe if im lucky had 5 responses period between them all i have found too many people judge on looks alone
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 10/31/2004 2:36:25 AM | I've seen your postings before and all you give is negative attitude! I think I recall you telling people to end the thread as it was stupid and you told them all to shut up...
Looking at your profile, you come across as an absolute w@nker. You also look as "fun and crazy" as a manky wet sponge! How about smiling or are you incapable of being happy???
Not to sound cliche but I think you better start to like yourself before venturing into the dating world!
Maybe this post was a desperate attempt to get some attention??? | |
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Posted: 11/1/2004 7:57:16 PM | Well guy all I can say is I joined yesterday and had 2 emails today.
Like the others have said this site is free, so it would seem to be alot cheaper than going to bar, getting shot down and then feeling like crap the next morning.
And I think the forums at site site are really good, there seems to be some pretty cool people on them. | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 11/5/2004 7:11:47 PM | Well car let me say first off....how ya doin man....long time no see!!
And i kinda have to agree with you, i have had zero luck in here, although, i can understand why....i live in the middle of no where...sooooo its a little tuff, when the majority of the ppl on here live south....very south of me.........i think that a couple of the other ppl on here are right, smile in a pic man.....your great, hang on....hang out....maybe they will come to you, its a little tuff when its just through these forums now....but you never know eh........... | |
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Posted: 11/11/2004 12:58:19 PM | Hello,
Much of what you say is true. I do believe, though, that the world where you could say hello or pass the time of day with a woman stranger are coming to a close. People are far too suspiscious and cynical. A man says hello and the woman cringes back, if she hadn't already crossed the road to avoid him in the first place. | |
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| Im official done searching for girls on this site
Posted: 11/11/2004 2:07:43 PM | | im with raven on this one, im also going to say from a women point of view that i for one reply to almost every guy unless they dont have pick or dont live that close, personally from how you come off judgemental on thinking every wmoen the same id never message you back, not every lady like that. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2004 2:29:34 PM | | Yes, I do tend to agree with you, though I'd really like to keep my Dorothy in Kansas kind of belief in the human condition, though it gets more difficult each day. I don't understand why people feel the need to not communicate with each other, be kind to each other, accept each other's good and bad points, and understand that we are all virtually the same, it's just how we look at things sometimes, that really does make us different. Instead, I think that people are too easy to dismiss each other, be mean and self-centered instead of having any sort of compassion for the other person or just totally walk away without thinking about what is truly going on and how and what the real circumstances are. Our society has become filled with "get out of here quick, hurt them before I get hurt" types. Thus, the cynicism and inability to truly experience people for what they are and cherish them for these qualities - good or bad. | |
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delmar
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Joined: 6/18/2004
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| Never give up
Posted: 11/14/2004 6:53:36 AM | | Shake it up, change it up, don't ever give up. Finding that "special someone" (so cliche) is one of the most important things you will do in life. | |
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