| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 2:36:19 PM |
I "thought"- that IF a woman really loves her guy emotionally AND sexually, and she KNOWS that she is the love of his life- then she can relax into a much better sexual relationship that involves really letting go and feeling the real highs of sexual release....?
Goodness no. If you never really learned how to communicate about sex, that could be a gap. If the two of you have different sexual drives, one doesn't care about sex so why would they bring it up? One person not communicating can subdue the other into not talking. It happens alot with couples younger than 30. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 2:43:09 PM | I would think it would depend on the importance a woman puts on sex...
If she feels sex is just a release, then she would not have the bonding that goes with it... nor is she as likely to have mind-blowing orgasms...
I've met a few women who say there are orgasms and then there are ORGASMS! And as a guy I'd have to agree.... Regular average day to day orgasms are not all that over-powering.... whereas a massive, earthquake-shaking, blood pounding screaming orgasm can't breathe, can't walk, paralysed... now that's going to make you want to bond a lot more....
But you don't tend to get those kinds or orgasms unless you are already bonded anyways.... so it might be a circular argument.... | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:37:25 PM | | I wouldn't get more attached to the man - just the sex! Often times the sex begins to over power the actual relationship and you loose yourself in the sex! I once had a relationship that was soley based on the sex - it was amazing - mind blowing - the best ever - but there was nothing else - the relationship wasn't going anywhere - no further commitment for a future together - so I ended it! I really like the guy - he's awesome - but I wanted 'the whole package'! | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:42:24 PM | I don't know about attached, but their tolerance for BS from their SO seems to skyrocket.
I have a few female friends who embody the "no sh*t, independent" woman. But I've seen the same women put up with some real idiots because they could curl their toes. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:35:20 PM |
But you don't tend to get those kinds or orgasms unless you are already bonded anyways.... so it might be a circular argument....
I'd have to agree with that. The more I trust and can be vulnerable and open with someone, the better it is. This also means that the man has to be open about sex, communicates about sex etc., this by far was my best experience.
After that, I decided that I wanted to bring my sex life to a different level and casual sex just isn't going to do that for me. FYI, this doesn't mean that you need wait 6 months to have sex with someone either. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:57:05 PM | | Perhaps I'm under thinking this or something...but I'd say it isn't a yes or no question exactly. If someone does something we enjoy, and most people enjoy good orgasms, we like them more. We become attached to people because we like them, enjoy their company, value them internally and externally. It seems obvious that at the least it increases attachment a minor amount more than if they guy/girl hadn't been able to make them cum. And a lot if you happen to value someone good in bed more than other things...similiar hobbies, goals, compatability, ect. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:17:25 PM | When I was in my late twenties I met a guy who I had no particular interest in. We both had mutual friends so we would run into each other occasionally. He kept following me at parties and I would say I wasn't interested. Then something odd happened. I had a little too much to drink one night and I succumbed to his advances. It was amazing. I very quickly became addicted to having sex with him but never ever wanted a relationship with the guy.
So while others may not be able to separate the two things I have done it. However I didn't really like this guy much as a person so it was easy not to become interested in him. Perhaps if he was sweet to me, not just during sex, I may have fallen for him. Depends on the person I guess. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:24:02 PM | Yes. The female automatically produces more oxytocin when she orgasms...the bonding hormone. Don't kid yourself...she's just feeling her physiology. In the end, the attachment is all biological...but our brains usually rule in the end. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:05:12 PM | OP -- Based ONLY on my observations, experiences, and word of mouth passed in my circle...I can say that good sex DOES change someone's stance on whether they'll stay or go or get more attached.
But it has to be damn good.
Might not even involve orgasms per se...just damn good sex.
When I have asked why some of my harem chooses to stay with this guy or that guy when all they seem to do is whine and complain about them...two things come up always.
He has money.
He is great in bed.
Looking at the latter, they have explained to me that it's hard for them to find someone who can make them orgasm so easily or seems to know the art of sex so well...that sure they could dump him, but then they'd be paired off with some schleb who wouldn't know her vulva from a Volvo. Probably less to complain about but they'd be sacrificing great sex. To them, that sacrifice was too much.
Hell, even my ex and I talked about this subject once...and even she explained to me that for a woman, it's almost impossible to find a great lover...so that if you do happen to find one, you'll start overlooking other issues for the sake of that great sex.
Yea, I think it was a dig too.
So just based on my own personal life, I can say that you're not imagining this. I've seen it. I've heard it. I've experienced it. So it's not just you. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/23/2009 12:51:44 AM | | I don't think its the orgasm that makes the woman attached to the man. I think its more becuz the sex is soooo good you keep wanting more and more. Then the more u think about having sex with him, the more u miss him and look forward to being with him again. This will make u "think" ur in love, but in reality ur just in love with the penis. I learned this the hard way... n now i realized that i can do without him... i just miss the sex. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/23/2009 4:02:12 AM | My first POF post. I had to do it with this thread, didn't I? I have *never* had a problem with orgasms. Just lucky, I'd guess. It's too easy to train a guy to finish the deal with me. If he loves me, he'll comply every time I need the extra attention if he's already finished. That means just about every guy can satisfy that part with me.
It does not mean I fall in love so easily. I orgasm easily, they are *completely* different things for me. Just because I have a great time, doesn't mean I'm smitten at all, not at all. Sometimes complete jerks have good sex. Guys that are crass or pedestrian can be repulsive or boring people to be with, (which ruins the sex too). My advice is, don't assume great sex equals influence in love and relationship points. You still have work to do to please that part, love. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:35:48 AM | | Here`s one for you Msmicki,I knew a Woman once(didn`t we all!) who Told Me,Her Puss knew Before she Did When She Wasn't in Love anymore,Whattt???? Anyone Want a Crack at this.Feel free | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:44:22 AM | | Honeypie, that's easy. She could tell when how she felt about the sex that the relationship was going downhill. In fact, it reinforces what I say above. Love and relationship status affect the goodness of sex, not the other way around. She was just saying that bad sex broke her suspension of belief and she then recognized she no longer wanted the guy. | |
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| Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum?
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:52:10 AM | Is this the thread where guys get to show off? Because the same outcome could be attained with/without toys. There is absolutely nothing wrong with someone feeling emotionally closer because she's been intimate with a man.
This would be why I don't do casual sex, especially when the man feels the need to tell about it to boost his ego... In my opinion, a gentleman does not tell. M | |
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