| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 6/25/2009 10:27:04 PM | | Go for it. Women do construction work, become cops, and play professional basketball now, so what's the big deal about women making the first move? It's just harder for women to get over their fear of rejection (most of them would rather lie and say that it's because it's not lady-like) because they've never had to deal with it. In school, when a girl liked a guy she would usually tell her friends with the biggest mouths and they'd get the word circulating and before she knew it the guy would know. But we're not little kids anymore and it's time to grow up. I say go for it. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/3/2009 2:44:42 PM | Ok, I've been on both sides of this fence. And I choose to be pursued.
Its not so much how I think/feel guys perceive it. Of course most guys prefer girls to make the first move... it requires no effort on their part. And what kind of precedent does that set?
My experience has taught me that when I make the first move, the men I attract are lazy in relationships.
I side with biology... sperm is cheap; eggs are not.
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/3/2009 10:03:00 PM | | women can be lazy in the relationship as well if the man makes the first move and initiates also. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/4/2009 7:14:25 AM | What? I always thought women made the first move...hmmm, that certainly explains a number of things ... darlin, this is not the Victorian era, and if you feel the impulse to be "first" then by all means knock down the door. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/4/2009 7:25:43 AM |
It's great, but don't try to be overly subtle about it... we guys can be pretty dense about picking up on the 'signals'... or at least I know I am
Amen to that.
I hate having to decipher "signals" like she flicked her hair 2 times then blinked and that should be a sign she's interested.
I like it myself as it shows the lady knows what she wants and isn't shy about making it known. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/4/2009 8:12:00 AM |
Either way,if he likes you or not,he'll like the attention,very good for the ego!
Trust me!!
Doing anything based on ego is an outdated concept. If I can live without ego strokes, so can others. Therefore doing things for a man's ego is irrelevant. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/4/2009 1:44:19 PM | Guys love it. Yes you should do it.
This worked on me real well: get one of those chocolate hersheys kisses and remove the tag thats in there and replace it with a little slip of paper with your name and phone number in it.
Place it on his chair. Wait for the phone to ring. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/4/2009 5:42:00 PM | Bookbelle msg 35...........
............ladies if YOU dont ask you wont get it either.
OMG i wish a hell of a lot more women would make the first move..........this would prove at least one thing-by her doing this she must be at least showing SOME interest in that guy.........when guys show interest in a woman more often than not she shows NO interest in return..........very sad but very true isnt it ladies !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/4/2009 8:45:15 PM | | There is nothing more alluring and sexy than a woman with the confidence to go after what she desires. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 2:11:45 AM | | OP the only problem with making the first move is that the guy will then expect you to always continue to make the moves....after the first move or even a couple of moves...a person would ordinarily expect some level of reciprocity to transpire if indeed the other person is as equally interested in you as you are with them...but often the guy will just stand still and continue to wait for you to make the moves...however a normal person would just soon think that the other person is not interested if no initiatives are being made by the other party so you move on only to have them complain months later that you didn't initiate further communication but by that time that situation goes cold...be forewarned that that these are some of the repercussions of boldly making the "first" move....I didn't understand this scenario until a guy friend explained it to me...so good luck!! | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 6:20:40 AM | ^^^^^^^^^
so if a guy makes the first move a woman wouldnt expect him to keep making the first moves on everything..........what !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i would love it if i was out in town and women came up to me and started chatting..........i wouldnt turn them away.
but thats the difference between the sexes, if i went up to women and started chatting to them , i would have a guess that most of them would think i was a pest and tell me to leave them alone........lol | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:30:03 AM | The best thing you can do is to look him straight in the eye and say, “I don’t know you very well but Id really like to f*ck your brains out.” And that tell him “You can take me out for dinner and drinks afterwards.”
Now that… is a conversation starter! | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:31:59 AM | | Find someone you don't work with to like, then make the first move!! Ever heard the expression "don't s*** where you eat"? Dating people at work is a bad move. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:32:48 AM | | For women who are afraid men won't ever put in effort if you make the first move - just don't make the second move - those who die out are your suckers. Those who make a second move might be keepers. Duh! | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 11:45:04 AM |
For women who are afraid men won't ever put in effort if you make the first move - just don't make the second move - those who die out are your suckers. Those who make a second move might be keepers. Duh!
It's not an issue of being "afraid" per se...it's just been my experience and that's how a guy friend explained it to me...and it just got tiring...why these guys needed to continue and wait to have me make the moves...that's their issue...I just chose to move on. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 11:49:51 AM | ^^^Ok, maybe not afraid - a different word. But you do the right thing. You show initial interest and they don't respond - you move on having saved time.
You won't end up with a guy who makes no effort unless you make all the moves. Refuse to make the next move unless/until it's matched from the other end that's all.
I will let a guy know I like him and move on - it's up to him to stop me and make an effort to do something about it. Those who don't I know would have just humored me or were too lazy to elaborate. Simple. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 1:06:06 PM | | Are you saying that men will be lazy or make no effort during the relationship if the woman makes the first move? | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 4:53:46 PM | | When I asked a buddy about this situation as it seemed to be a recurring theme...he said it was because I made the first move/don't have an issue initiating things so they just expected me to continue on or carry the relationship...as it wasn't because of a lack of interest in their part as they complained months later that I failed to make more of an effort when I wasn't really seeing any on their part...one even suggested he could have easily married me but I never came to visit him...why he couldn't call me up and invite me up or make an effort to come see me if he truly saw me as his future is beyond me. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/5/2009 5:19:34 PM | | In 3/4 of my ltr's the woman made the first move. It can be a smile, eye contact, a comment, whatever. Essentially you are letting the guy know your are open to his advances. I rarely approach a woman unless I get a subtle "invitation". Some men are clueless so women may have to go a little further. However, do not become the aggressor. That is the man's job. It will turn off most men. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/6/2009 1:29:48 PM | | Go for it, it's pretty damn sexy when a confident woman walks up & picks a guys as the object of their affection. Seriously it doesn't happen that often & would be pretty refreshing every now & then. & as many of us have already said ... I cosign what Mr/ Witty has said... the subtle approach really doesn't really work all that well with guys ... Not sayin you gotta beat us in the head with a frying pan or anything ... just be confident & direct so it leave no room for guessing ... But do please be careful of workplace relationships... Corporate America does tend to have issues with that. | |
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Really, you ought to be able to find someone in the big, wide world who doesn't happen to work in your office/store/plant. It's a huge loser move for all sides concerned. My brother-in-law, who is an M.D. had an associate (also an M.D.), who almost ruined his whole practice over a relationship with a receptionist. How laughable and unseemly is that? Might as well have flushed his medical license down the toilet. No matter how well-meaning both parties are, these office relationships stink up the workplace and tend to distract all the other colleagues/employees/coworkers. 
