| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/6/2009 11:23:59 PM |
What do guys think about girls who make the first move?
Flattering and it's about damn time you did it! Don't be surprised if you get rejected. Even guys say "no" sometimes. Most women are pretty sore losers when guys turn them down. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/6/2009 11:37:31 PM |
My experience has taught me that when I make the first move, the men I attract are lazy in relationships.
...and women are not?
I side with biology... sperm is cheap; eggs are not.
I gather from this statement that you have no interest in equality but that you are trying to establish some type of female superiority. I encourage you to be so brutally honest with your dates!!! lol | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/7/2009 9:41:01 AM | | heres what i always found humorous. women have fought for years for equal rights and stuff like that. but when it comes to something that works in their favor, they refuse to budge. see, men don't have the option of letting women come to them. we have to make the first move. or we don't get dates. and its not always easy for alot of guys. personally, i think women should get off their high horse and do what men have been doing for centuries, asking women out and risk being rejected. i know many men, that don't ask out women cause of t his fact. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/21/2009 10:26:57 AM | | I think if women make the first move and ask men out, they will not get rejected as often as us men do. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/30/2009 6:59:48 PM | When I was younger in HS I had the girls always making the first move, which totally spoiled me. It happened less frequently in college and has stopped now, that I am graduated, for the most part.
Nowadays (I'm 26), in the real world women rarely make the first move and honestly I am finding I like to initiate things anyway, which sort of sets the pace of the relationship, but it has definitely opens you up to more rejection.
Women Initiating reverses the roles and this can confuse things. Women seem to resent making decisions or having too much control and would rather let me do most of it, which is fine.
I do, however, appreciate some reasonable signals of interest so I don't make a complete idiot out of myself. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/30/2009 7:17:52 PM | Well, I can be a bit... dense. So when the girl makes the first move I tend to catch on :P
Yeah I think its cool :D | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:06:18 PM | | There is no one answer to this question because there is just too many variables. IMPO if a woman approaches me I would be more than willing to spend some time with her and see if any kind of relationship could form, but you must understand that the guy just might not see the relationship going in the same dirrection that you would like it to go. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 9/30/2009 10:36:01 PM | | Women making the first move? mmm never had that happen , that would be a dream to be spoiled rotten, going someplace and women initiating the talk and asking me to dance or go out, only in Bizzaro world. In my world , I have not seen it. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/1/2009 7:46:01 PM | | I love women making the first move. I was seduced by my first girlfriend. I was indeed recently seduced again. But I believe all women do that, it's only that guys are so clueless that they do not see the signs, or the clues that women give you. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 6:30:22 AM | | My kinda woman! If there were more women like you out there, a lot of us guys wouldn't be here (pof). Us guys are terrible at reading womens' minds which sometimes makes us reluctant to make the first move. How would you feel if you never make the first move and find out someday that he was interested in you too? If you work with the guy there are several ways to make the first move. You could try the direct approach where you run into him at the coffee machine or the copier. Just tell him how attractive you think he is and ask him if he would like to get together sometime. Or you could try an indirect approach. Have a mutual friend at work tell him that you're interested in him and ask if it's mutual. Or you could always send him an email. Good Luck! | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 4:06:59 PM | This is a practice that is not currently in effect on POF.
Look Ladies! If you are reading this, if you see someone you think you might be interested in getting to know....it is not against the rules to message them first.
Actually, from what I read, most guys would be flattered or totally taken by surprise that a first date would probably right around the corner. Am I right Guys???
I know that I would love to view a lady and have her view back then message me. But this is coming from someone who has been here a long time and gotten next to no responses. So maybe I am biased....LOL! | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 4:11:25 PM | Nope, it's a terrible idea for a woman to make the first move. It's a real turn off for us guys.
If I'm out somewhere, and a really attractive woman makes the first move on me, and we have a great conversation and she has an awesome personality, I still reject her because us men hate when women make the first move.
Now, back to reality. Of course making the first move is OK if you are a woman. The only thing is that your odds of getting rejected increase. Whenever you are taking the initiative, it's riskier because you have no idea if the interest is going to be reciprocated.
Unfortunately, many women interpret this type of rejection as proof that men don't like to be approached. Nope. It's just the odds are no longer in your favour. If a guy is into you, he'll love the fact that you made the first move. If he's not into you, he won't be so wild about it. Which is precisely the same thing that happens when a man makes the first move! | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 4:18:57 PM |
Wow, this was exactly what I was thinking. I have always said that the odds of a man saying no to a woman who makes the first move, is much less though. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 4:28:11 PM | ^^^
Well, when a woman makes the first move I'm often very impressed since most women are too fearful to do that. They get points for initiative and that's actually something of a turn on. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 5:14:21 PM |
Its perfectly fine for women to make the first move.
But remember NEVER CHASE!
Ugh I agree. If you have to chase something by default, it's not really for you (or that into you). That goes for men do. Just don't do it....no means no. Period.
your odds of getting rejected increase. Whenever you are taking the initiative, it's riskier because you have no idea if the interest is going to be reciprocated.
It's amazing to me how many women don't really get the fact that most of the men they approach won't be interested - because those are the odds and you can't know before approaching who's going to be mutually interested. As clueless as some men are reading body language - women are worse. And men are easier to read, since they're not experts at subtlety. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 6:04:03 PM | I've never made the first move, probably because I am way too shy. I do fantasize about this one person who I want to make the first move on, as we head up on the glass elevator on the CN tower for dinner, something about him being younger I think and well it's a long ride to the top.  | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 7:16:33 PM | Actually I find it a bit of a turn on if a woman makes the first move. I know some of them are afraid in fear of rejection, or maybe the fact that they could be a shy person.
Confidence plays a big part in this, but most of all, just be yourself. Whenever you decide to approach a guy, be sure to go full speed ahead, with all guns blazing. Otherwise don't bother approaching at all.
Roguevampire....Yes I agree, some of them should take the time to get off their high horses for once. Only problem is that some of them get a little to 'comfy " up there. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/2/2009 7:19:59 PM | Sweeeeeeeeeeeeeet, that is until you see the pic and their lack of aspirations and want to toss your cookies.
But it goes both ways. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/5/2009 12:44:43 PM | I think if a woman can make the first move weather its asking the Guy out or even just making the first move for that first kiss or what ever..Its show they Guy that the Woman knows what she wants ,and for me well thats a plus if a woman know what she wants.. then there is no playing Games & you are both on the same page ,& I am sure if the Guy has a problem with it, Iam sure something would be said Just as if a guy was to make the first move with a woman. .. 2 Thumbs Up for Weman who can Make the First Move..LOl
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/6/2009 10:36:51 AM | | why do you think girls do not take the initiative or make the first move as often in college and after? why do mostly high school girls do it? Why do they stop being so aggressive after high school? | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/6/2009 1:17:49 PM | OP, go for it.
Most guys, as other posters on this thread have attested, love an assertive girl and actually welcome the chance to have a woman make the first move - it kind of takes away the whole pressure that we deal with constantly.
Though, be careful about the whole work romance - especially if you work close together. While it can be fun and exciting, especially the first few months (or days/weeks, whatver) if things end and end badly, seeing someone on a daily basis that you are not happy with or pretty much despise is not a fun time at all. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/6/2009 11:29:11 PM | | Any girl that makes the first move definatly earns brownie points with me. I admire her confidence and respect her independence. Though I find in my own experience, (which I admit is limited in this subject) most girls are terrible at making the first move. Seems they either go too subtle and I'm not sure exactly what's going on, or too forward which comes off as a bit desperate. Please don't let that discourage you though, most guys would love you to make the first move, just try to find a happy medium between sublte and forward. | |
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| Girls making the first move???
Posted: 10/7/2009 5:42:25 AM | i was in town early one evening making my way home when approached by a woman who said " iam glad ive caught you on your own , as you are normally with your friend ", she asked how i was and then i said " you will be after my phone number next "................anyway that was a thursday evening, she invited me around her place saturday night, put it this way she got what she was after........and so did i.
i would`nt think any less of a woman coming forward and chatting to me or even asking if she could bed me.
c`mon ladies get out there and start chatting and messaging us guys.............its not that pain full is it......lol
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