| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 6/30/2009 6:01:44 PM | A game of destruction......not building a relationship......nobody wants to chase forever. And what ever happened to playing instead of destruction.
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| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 6/30/2009 7:06:51 PM | | I disagree that "game playing" is harmless. It devalues both you and the person you are playing it with. It is a form of dishonesty, and any dishonesty diminishes you and is a lack of respect for the other person, no matter how little. And if you are altering yourself to any extent (that is, playing a game) you will not get what you really want. You are ultimately doomed to failure. Further, dishonesty on your part invites one of two things: someone being dishonest back at you, or rejection when someone finds out or senses who you really are. Know who you really are, and focus on what you have to give (NOT what you NEED) and find someone who values that. Then you have the foundation of something good. | |
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| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:08:46 PM | I think agreeing to disagree is probably the way to look at this.
What makes sense to you now won't in 20 years.
As life goes on, situations change, people change and our outlooks change. | |
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| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:44:07 PM | Just keep dangling that piece of cheese in front of her an she'll keep jumping.
actually i'd rather have a man dangle a Coach bag in front of me | |
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| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:58:22 PM | Well, not having "professional prick" as your vocation might help.
And if you're after all the "super hotties"...get in line. So is everybody else bub. | |
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| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:14:46 PM | What is the secret to attracting someone that you're really attracted to? Should one simply downplay the attraction to win them over?
YES EXACTLY it makes me want it more and stronger a challenge at it's best when you know they like you but seem indifferent you bet I am going to be all over that and be indifferent too but when the opportunity arises to show him what he will be missing out on, I pull out all the tricks and most importantly BE YOURSELF
Good luck OP xoxo | |
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| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:35:20 PM |
it's best when you know they like you but seem indifferent you bet I am going to be all over that and be indifferent too
curiosity_27 : This sounds like a game of "high stakes" poker. One of the reasons why I don't play poker is I'm a lousy bluffer. I'm a straight shooter. Sometimes I hit my target and sometimes I miss, but at least I don't shoot blanks. Somewhere somehow, don't you think people should stop playing these kinds of games and just be honest with someone. If you are attracted, say so. What have you to lose? | |
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| Is this nature's joke on us?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:10:54 PM | I decided to comment on destructodave's postings because although there might be an element of truth in it, what he is suggesting will not work with a girl who has experience of dating. Also, girls need communication, that's how we operate. Lack of communication is the biggest complaint girls have about men. Men can lose points bigtime on that. Whilst some teasing and flitatious fun can be a way to attract a woman, not calling is a big mistake. If the girl is not very confident, then she will take that as lack of interest and avoid getting involved. If she thinks that it's a game, it will all be over. If she has ever had a guy do a disappearing act and not respond to calls (and some creeps do this kind of thing), then she will have vowed never to chase a man.
I've been on the receiving end of games, the not calling or contacting occasionally with a brief text and then nothing for a while. Firstly, it's childish and secondly once I realise what's going on, I rule them out and switch off. Why? Because I know this man is OK about playing games and hurting me. He's not the kind of guy I want in my life. Also, I'm not stupid enough to be manipulated like that. I have just done this in fact, decided a guy is not going to be suitable. I think he's playing games. He's handsome and intelligent and used to being able to attract women, but he's long-distance so I discouraged him. Now, he's playing games, but that puts me off all the more. He's not only distant, he's unreliable. Bear in mind, I was actually attracted to this man at first. If he'd been thoughtful and consistent, he could have really got somewhere. I'm sad because he could have been fun, but I won't risk being hurt by a game player. | |
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