Anybody see the cluelessness and denial in all the above ???

No, actually they don't, you do, as they have other choices, and unfortunately for you and other single mothers your age (again age is the important distinction here) there are single women out there your age who do not have kids, and most guys your age are going to see them as better choices when it comes to dating.

Ya know, I just wish single moms would spend half the time warning other young girls/women about the perils of getting pregnant and having kids in their teens and early twenties as they do whining about the lack of guys willing to date them, instead of consoling each other with the empty platitudes about the right guy coming along, or trying to demonize guys that don’t see you as an attractive option, try telling others the truth about just how hard it is, and how lonely it is and maybe we as a society can put an end to this horribly destructive trend of children raising children, that literally is destroying the very fabric of western society.

It takes a REAL WOMAN to accept me and my poptarts.

If any woman doesn't want me because of my poptarts, I am better off without her because that means she's a poo poo head... and has bad breath... and listens to the Jonas Brothers.

I don't know why any woman would say she doesn't want me and my poptarts in a package deal. I now know how to put my poptarts in a toaster, eat them, and put them away in the cubbard. And I can and will take care of my poptarts when other women would be wanting to do silly things like going, "out" or watching movies.

PShhhhh. Who needs all that when you can watch me take care of my poptarts?

Silly people. I'm TOO MUCH MAN for these women who won't Woman UP! and date me -because- of my poptarts.

Uh huh. I went there.

If Guys cannot understand and accept you for whatever choices you made in your life (Good Or Bad) then they are not worth your time.

I also know that I deserve happiness.

Ya know, I just wish single moms would spend half the time warning other young girls/women about the perils of getting pregnant and having kids in their teens and early twenties as they do whining about the lack of guys willing to date them, instead of consoling each other with the empty platitudes about the right guy coming along, or trying to demonize guys that don’t see you as an attractive option, try telling others the truth about just how hard it is, and how lonely it is and maybe we as a society can put an end to this horribly destructive trend of children raising children, that literally is destroying the very fabric of western society.

Simple question: why?

Simple question: why?


Considering that you attend the holy church of Josh and don't believe as I do, I doubt that answer would satiate your curiosity, but if you still want to know, I'll tell you.

I'm a born-again Christian that made a BAD decision, and God still blessed me with a beautiful little girl. He worked things in my heart that may have led to emotional pain right after I went through them, but if he hadn't done so, I'd still be in an abusive relationship with a man that only cares about himself. Right now, because I decided that taking care of myself was more important than staying with my daughter's father, I'm back in school, I've put my daughter into a more stable home, and I'm actually accomplishing things in my life. If I don't deserve happiness, how can I ever give my daughter happiness? God gives us happiness because it's supposed to be passed on. He doesn't want us all miserable. Does a man want to date a miserable woman? We'd all be single moms if that was the case.

Ya know, I just wish single moms would spend half the time warning other young girls/women about the perils of getting pregnant and having kids in their teens and early twenties as they do whining about the lack of guys willing to date them, instead of consoling each other with the empty platitudes about the right guy coming along, or trying to demonize guys that don’t see you as an attractive option, try telling others the truth about just how hard it is, and how lonely it is and maybe we as a society can put an end to this horribly destructive trend of children raising children, that literally is destroying the very fabric of western society.


You know, that works in theory....but not in reality. My mom was a single mom because my father was a piece of trash, and when I met my baby's daddy, she warned me so many times about what would happen if I got pregnant. Then I got pregnant. After my daughter was born, I warned my sister because she was talking crazy, wanting to have a baby with some psycho. She told me she understood....and now I have a niece. So the whole concept of "spreading the wisdom" just doesn't work. Young women are stubborn; I'm sure you've realized that by now since you have such a dim outlook on us, so whining about us not forewarning others that would potentially be in our dilemma is just plain naive. I don't want a man to take care of my daughter. Her father is still in her life and I have no problem with him staying there. I want a companion for ME. Someone who isn't going to be a giant baby about my attention, because it takes a lot of effort for me to take care of her, and myself, which means I will get to my emotions when I get to them. If he doesn't want that, sobeit.

Of course, this simply goes back to the idea of daddies stepping up and taking responsibility to teach their daughters what it means to make that decision, and to set an example for what they should be looking for in life. Isn't it odd that my ex is almost exactly like my father? Nope. Dad never taught me otherwise.

You know, that works in theory....but not in reality. My mom was a single mom because my father was a piece of trash, and when I met my baby's daddy, she warned me so many times about what would happen if I got pregnant. Then I got pregnant. After my daughter was born, I warned my sister because she was talking crazy, wanting to have a baby with some psycho. She told me she understood....and now I have a niece. So the whole concept of "spreading the wisdom" just doesn't work. Young women are stubborn; I'm sure you've realized that by now since you have such a dim outlook on us, so whining about us not forewarning others that would potentially be in our dilemma is just plain naive. I don't want a man to take care of my daughter. Her father is still in her life and I have no problem with him staying there. I want a companion for ME. Someone who isn't going to be a giant baby about my attention, because it takes a lot of effort for me to take care of her, and myself, which means I will get to my emotions when I get to them. If he doesn't want that, sobeit.

Of course, this simply goes back to the idea of daddies stepping up and taking responsibility to teach their daughters what it means to make that decision, and to set an example for what they should be looking for in life. Isn't it odd that my ex is almost exactly like my father? Nope. Dad never taught me otherwise.

But your mother DID try to teach you otherwise. Why do you think you would have listened to him when you ignored your own mother, who lived through the life she was trying to help you avoid?

Why did you ignore your own mother, anyway?

The thing about stereotypes is, they exist for a reason, most guys I know have been, or were willing to date a single mom, until a few bad experiences convinced them otherwise.

I ignored my mother because I was convinced that I loved him and he would marry me and all would be fine and dandy. Stupid me, I got pregnant the very week I moved in with him.

Dad never taught me otherwise.

What people call “stereotypes” are what scientists call “empirical generalizations,” and they are the foundation of scientific theory. That’s what scientists do; they make generalizations. Many stereotypes are empirical generalizations with a statistical basis and thus on average tend to be true. If they are not true, they wouldn’t be stereotypes. The only problem with stereotypes and empirical generalizations is that they are not always true for all individual cases. They are generalizations, not invariant laws. There are always individual exceptions to stereotypes and empirical generalizations. The danger lies in applying the empirical generalizations to individual cases, which may or may not be exceptions. But these individual exceptions do not invalidate the generalizations.

An observation, if true, becomes an empirical generalization until someone objects to it, and then it becomes a stereotype. For example, the statement “Men are taller than women” is an empirical generalization. It is in general true, but there are individual exceptions. There are many men who are shorter than the average woman, and there are many women who are taller than the average man, but these exceptions do not make the generalization untrue. Men on average are taller than women in every human society (and, by the way, there are evolutionary psychological explanations for this phenomenon, known as the sexual dimorphism in size, but that’s perhaps for a future post). Everybody knows this, but nobody calls it a stereotype because it is not unkind to anybody. Men in general like being taller than women, and women in general like being shorter than men.

However, as soon as one turns this around and makes a slightly different, yet equally true, observation that “Women are fatter than men,” it becomes a stereotype because nobody, least of all women, wants to be considered fat. But it is true nonetheless; women have a higher percentage of body fat than men throughout the life course (and there are evolutionary reasons for this as well). Once again, there are numerous individual exceptions, but the generalization still holds true at the population level.

Stereotypes and empirical generalizations are neither good nor bad, desirable nor undesirable, moral nor immoral. They just are. Stereotypes do not tell us how to behave or treat other people (or groups of people). Stereotypes are observations about the empirical world, not behavioral prescriptions. One may not infer how to treat people from empirical observations about them. Stereotypes tell us what groups of people tend to be or do in general; they do not tell us how we ought to treat them. Once again, there is no place for “ought” in science.

to read the rest:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200804/all-stereotypes-are-true-except-i-what-are-stereotypes

At least your honest about your situation, again though, how do you stop your daughter from doing the same thing ????

futureshock, thank you for sharing that because that is essentially what I've been trying to point out..