| | why you get no replyPage 4 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | | Haha am I the only person who replies to all messages? Irregardless of what the person looks like or has put in? And no it isn't desperation, but common courtesy, these people may not be partner potential but do deserve a reply in a similar tone of what they write to me. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 11:13:38 PM | Try this for a first contact mail....
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"Hi I liked your profile. Pics arnt too bad either - do you have any other animals?
Reply not required"
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This gets a reply - not always the one you want though.  | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 11:24:30 PM | Generally when it devolves into some text speak ridden abortion of the English language.
Otherwise i do reply to all that contact me. Even if i see no reason they cant be a potential partner, i still enjoy a good conversation. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 12:37:51 AM | I try to answer mail. if I ever get any
but I dont answer to one liners or sometimes just one word! I used to reply to all but when I replied they didnt answer and then blocked me ! So why message me in the first place ! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 12:43:19 AM | Delete only when I have recieved a second message always keep 1 listed so you know who you have and haven't spoke to.
Answer everyone even if its just thanks but no thanks but I am up for talk/e-mail | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 1:13:59 AM | | Kylers if the girls dont reply to you they must be lesbians honey! You are cuteness personified. Brilliant profile also I really enjoyed reading it one of the best ones I have seen. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 1:51:24 AM |
Kylers if the girls dont reply to you they must be lesbians honey! You are cuteness personified. Brilliant profile also I really enjoyed reading it one of the best ones I have seen.
Oh I agree with you there, he is adorable. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 3:59:50 AM | when they clearly havent read the profile and ask where i am what i do how old i am
or when they just say "hello" what am i supposed to do with that?
or when "u iz sexibb give me Ur mobyno mine is 07795 696969 etc
or when they say "it says im 27 on my profile im really 34 i dont know how that happened but thought i should clear it up right away im not expecting a reply haha" if youre not expecting a reply why write? and you lied about your age, automatic delete.
lol Kington wonder if it exists i might try ringing it lol | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 5:30:02 PM | I still find that the easiest way to reply to any message is to do exactly the same as the person who messaged you has done.
Recieving "Hi" recieves a very simple reply back "Hi"...it really is that simple.
Anyone who types like an idiot will recieve a similar reply, but someone who takes the time to read through my biblically long profile and comments on it will recieve a time taken reply back, even if I do not feel attracted to them. It is basic courtesy and I feel it is what is missing from these sites. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 12:44:54 AM |
What you really mean is why don't the mingers i wouldn't fancy anyway make a bit more effort....if you liked the look of the sender you wouldn't care less what his opening line was
Spot on. Thats how it would be for most people. If he's a looker you think 'mm I want to find out more!' If he's physically not your type youre not going to bother. Dont think that applies to people on the forums though. I always reply to their messages. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 12:52:15 AM | i dont think it matters with certain girls what you say, they will check the picture and decide whether to reply, yes its shallow but thats life.
You just have to keep going till you find the nice ones who do reply and actually have the ability to reply with more than one line  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 1:05:44 AM |
i dont think it matters with certain girls what you say, they will check the picture and decide whether to reply, yes its shallow but thats life.
So what do you do, out of interest when you check the picture and find you are not in the least attracted? Write back asking her to marry you? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 1:08:00 AM | No i do exactly the same, which is why i said its shallow but thats life | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 2:58:48 PM | hi everyone.. i have a interesting view on this subject...
many times ive read a girls profile and thought wow.. shes perfect..
so i say somthing like.. hi how are you.. i see you like cars.. etc... saying somthing relevant..
but still i get read delete...
i canonly conclude that teh vast majority of girls on the internet do so only to get hundreds of guys replying to them only so they can read it and boost there ego...
i think its not fare to be ignored.. if you dont like the guy just say so.. were not gonna cry and slit our wrists are we??
anyway...
i got plenty more advice on this or any other subject so will be happy to advise...
also still single ladies lol x | |
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minnx
| | Joined: 10/10/2008
Msg: 91 | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 3:12:16 PM |
i think its not fare to be ignored..
There are probably lots of ladies on this site who get hardly any or no email. They don't like to be ignored either.
So when you guys have all finished emailing all your perfect-but-shallow girls and getting no replies maybe you should try some of the not-so-perfect girls - who knows, some of them might reply to you.
Women are shallow?? No. PEOPLE have preferences, they like to be attracted to someone they are dating. Although it's true some are more picky than others.
And for those of you who reckon you are getting hundreds of emails read/deleted - would it really make you feel better to get hundreds of emails telling you people aren't interested in you? | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 3:58:34 PM | | hmmm, have you not found cybertext/chat to be just a little different to one on one chatting? You know,theres a few minutes more to make the response just a tadge more interesting than what may have surfaced in real conversation? I`ve met people who have had the most upbeat/innovative profiles and could not live up to anywhere near them in person . Maybe its just a false medium | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 4:08:41 PM | How about thinking outside the POF box for a moment.
How much junk mail comes through your door ?
Curry house menus
Chinky menus
Pizza a go go and Pizza Hut etc
Do you give each one a try? Or do you you bin them by preference ?
I buy supermarket pizza so the pizza ones are binned straight away. I am not a fan of Chinese so bin them. I love curries but have my fave suppliers, I look at the menus and check if they have what I like, compare prices and they are binned or not depending.
Perhaps we apply a similar criteria to messages received ................... so make your messge appealing and not run of the mill, but be prepared to accept that we don't like the recipe | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 4:20:14 PM | | Yes but this is not a forum for stuffing your face.. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 4:44:18 PM | message 63.
POF.............................
'Tis the domain of the superficial.............the inarticulate,.................... the shallow.
*sighs deeply* so endeth the lesson | |
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lmc2
| | Joined: 6/23/2009
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:24:41 PM |
Apparently (in his mind) a profile and one message is all you need to decide who will be your long term partner, and he is certainly not about to waste time chatting with anyone.
I hate that. I'll go further. I hate that for some guys saying "yes" to meeting up apparently means "yes" to any or all of net/text sex, actual sex, exclusivity, long-term commitment, marriage. I say guys, because I don't date women, but accept that way too many of them probably do the same.
I chat to people to get to know them, and potential partners are just that. POTENTIAL. Talk/date/get to know each other. If it goes well then at some point there will be a conversation about stopping seeing whether the grass is greener somewhere else. Both of us. This conversation will probably take place fairly quickly - i.e. are we going to give it a shot or just stay friends - but always AFTER at least one date. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 3:13:12 PM |
I don't understand why you even bother to look
coz if someone deletes why should you give a fuk
just write them a note then delete from your sent
then move onto the next and forget where it went
one day you will wake up and a message is there
and that's when it's time to be bothered to care
This is the correct attitude; if you think too much about it you'll soon be on here writing self-pity threads boo hoo
From about 38 mail outs I've had about 5 reply's. 2 led on to phone chat, and one led to a date with a a girl who made Droopy look out of control with hysteria
Great fun, I love it | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 5:01:28 PM | I actually realised that I like spending time on this forum/site but I do not want to be obliged to have to answer the messages if I am not in a mood
I am currently not in a mood to meet anyone new, not in a mood to go out and be chatting with strangers and not in a mood to answer any kind of personal questions about myself, my aspirations, goals or private life
I have no time to meet my real life friends so absolutely no time to meet unknown people
This doesn't mean I cannot log on this site and have to answer the mail but in a way I feel guilty about it and I do not want to feel guilty about it. | |
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Joe1uk
| | Joined: 6/10/2009
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Posted: 6/30/2009 6:43:07 PM | | Something must be wrong with the way some of you message cos I get loads of replies, I even get rejection replies to which I usually reply thanks good luck to you too, I get so much mail on here I struggle to keep up, I've got invites to go for dinners, meet up, I've got girls arguin over me. I wanna know why I don't get a quiet life like you guys. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 6:55:39 PM |
Something must be wrong with the way some of you message cos I get loads of replies, I even get rejection replies to which I usually reply thanks good luck to you too, I get so much mail on here I struggle to keep up, I've got invites to go for dinners, meet up, I've got girls arguin over me. I wanna know why I don't get a quiet life like you guys.
Lots of people get lots of mail on here, however it's the quailty of the mail that counts isn't it? Something that makes you want to engage in conversation with that person and keep that conversation going. I think when people get out there on meets and meet more people then they might get more messages after as a result, I've seen people on the meets threads ask about people who were there but they were too shy to talk to. It's a lot easier to start a conversation when you have something in common to talk about. I think the original comment was about getting a message saying hi babes/sweetie etc, you can tell a mile off when someone has emailed other people exactly the same rubbish or is looking to talk to anyone. Then starts threads on why all women are ****es because they don't reply to the mail that gets sent. | |
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