| | why you get no replyPage 6 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | Roxy...no matching underwear!!!!! OMG!!! What would have happened if, whilst out and about today, you would have met the man of your dreams – tall, dark and handsome of course - that would have whisked you away on his white horse, far far away to his distant castle, covered you in gold and gifts, ready to drop anything just to offer you moral and emotional support, provided entertainment with just his wit and of course, let’s not forget, best kisser ever and amazingly skilful lover.....What would you have done then???????
I guess, log on POF expecting just the same apparently..... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 8:11:47 AM | | lol Freya....wouldn't matter how amazing he was and if he had one more night on earth.....if I haven't 'sorted me lady bits' out, I'm not so much as taking my coat off :) | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 8:42:30 AM | | ^^^^ a real gentleman would be more than happy to help you with your lady bits, so that your happy to take your coat of roxy ! hahahaha :O) | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 10:51:01 AM | | I think its because I come off as an unfunny jerkoff, still, I do love this site and and although out of the ten girls I have actually messaged only two have replied i'll never give up ;) otherwise what's the other alternative? bloody Craigslist?! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 10:56:46 AM | It doesn't matter what you write. You could write in such a manner as to put best selling writers to shame. It doesn't matter because if you're not a male model type, you just won't get anywhere.
So guys circumvent putting effort into writing, by just leaving it at "Hi , nice tits" . She's not going to reply, why bother?
If she's not a superficial twat with her head up her own ass, and good luck with finding someone like that here. she'll note you read her profile, and actually reply. ROFL.
Guys, it's a lottery. Even the woman who didn't reply on your first message, may reply if you leave it a while and try again.
But unfortunately, the vast majority still believe Orlando Bloom is messaging them or about to, and you're left by the wayside. Just take it on the chin and keep trying. One day, Ms. potentially right will reply. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 11:04:23 AM | Yawn.. male models.. Orlando Bloom.. I don't even like Orlando Bloom.. Well he was ok as an elf..
I reply to someone who I find interesting.. not who looks like George Clooney. Actually, I reply to most men these days out of politeness (if they are polite) as I decided that my no reply was a reply might mean that someone would come back and try again (as above). So now I reply and block.. saves messing around again.
I've replied yesterday (shock horror) to a man below the height of 6ft, nay below my own height, who by his own admittance isn't gods gift looks wise and I found him very interesting indeed.. in fact, I'm going to meet him for lunch. Gawd, I need to punish myself with that Woman's Weekly again! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 11:11:34 AM | "I think its because I come off as an unfunny jerkoff, still, I do love this site and and although out of the ten girls I have actually messaged only two have replied i'll never give up ;) otherwise what's the other alternative? bloody Craigslist?!"
Count yourself lucky. A 20% success rate is one that many would kill for.
It all comes to down to this:-
If you are a woman and a man/men do not find you physically attractive you are out of luck.
If you are a man you need to be tall/dark/rich handsome otherwise you won't even get a reply.
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Posted: 6/17/2012 11:16:09 AM | "If you are a man you need to be tall/dark/rich handsome otherwise you won't even get a reply."
er... no, not "end of".. see above
msg 137.. perhaps the difference is, the ones who may not be god's gift aren't quite so negative as you. I am the most shallow woman in the world and admit it.. and I hate the "its the personality that counts" brigade. But if a man is confident, chatty and interesting and also tries to get to know you without being negative and downtrodden then he can probably overcome a lot of things.
But true.. some men (and women) are just too ugly (inside and out) for dating in general, so if its such a terrible ordeal to date online, perhaps they should just buy a cat or something (ducks flak). | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 11:33:51 AM | "If you are a woman and a man/men do not find you physically attractive you are out of luck."
I haven't got low-self esteem by any means but I'm pretty modest so I'll admit that I haven't got the greatest looks in the world but if the girl doesn't reply to you it generally means that she's not into you it doesn't necessarily mean that she finds you repugnant or ugly. I mean it would be nice if she/he actually replies to you and gently lets you down but that's life.
"If you are a man you need to be tall/dark/rich handsome otherwise you won't even get a reply"
Im tall pasty, ginger, unemployed and moderately good looking but I still get replies, just don't give up :) | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 11:43:41 AM | Er yes it is end of.
People bleat on about such things as personality counting for infinitely more than looks, money etc, but the fact is they don't and of those who say otherwise only a tiny, tiny fraction actually mean it. The rest are just those that fall into these "shallow" types and are trying to portray themselves as anything but.
You may fall into that tiny group that I mentioned, but without knowing about this person you have decided to meet, he may well be better looking than you make out, rich/well off or in a position of responsibility/power, however if not then I commend you on not being part of the "norm".
Like I said the fact is if you happen to be a short, not well off, not particularly handsome guy (which is me to a tee) then you do not have a snowball in hells chance of getting anywhere, regardless of how many people tell you that you are "one in a million" and how many people are out there that falsely claim they are looking for a "Nice, genuine, honest" man.
If you had trouble in the real world when it comes to dating, you will find that online dating will only confirm what you already know to be true i.e. if you fit in with what is seen as "attractive" or "datable" you'll get lucky on or off line, if you fall outside of these groups then you would be wise to save yourself a lot of trouble/pain and not bother. Yes you might get lucky, but then again you might also win the lottery and you shouldn't pin your hopes on that either.
@ msg 136 :- You are tall and moderately good looking. That is enough. Trying being short and 'ugly'. Different story. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 10:10:55 AM | And ignore the poetry thing.. please please please please please.
Methinks the lady doth protest too much !!!.......
Not all of us think "Mills and Boon".. some of us think Red Dragon when we log on...
Not having much of clue who or what Red Dragon is I took it upon myself to do some research. Well not so much research but I Googled it and clicked on the first thing that came up. Now whilst I can accept that we are all different in this cracy crazy world we call Internet Dating, I stand by my claim of 99.9% of girls logging on to this website do so in the hope of getting a 'fix' of anticipation, or at the very least an immediate fantasy rush, as opposed to thinking about the horrific murder most horrid and untimely death at the hands of a cannibal mass murderer that confronted me in the Red Dragon movie that my search came up with. Maybe Fred Wests wife, Mira Hindley or Lizzy Borden might prefer Red Dragon but on the whole, Mills & Boon wins hands down for most, ha ha ha.
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If your supposition that looks are paramount is true Knight Time Noodle then how do you explain my, and others in here, success at getting responses?. Even the most cursory clance at our two photographs should be enought to tell anyone that I have been beaten about the head with the ugly stick just as hard and just as often as you have but I manage to get at least a 50% success rate at getting replies, most from girls many would quickly say were 'out of my league' and I get as many girls writing first messages to me as I send messages to them.
The importance of looks in a man diminishes rapidly with age when it comes to dating.
Girls are very lucky in that as they move from one phase of their lives to another they accomplish the amazing feat of being even more beautiful each time than they were before. We men on the other hand just get uglier and uglier. Girls know and understand this and make appropriate allowance for it when searching for a new beau. Just look clean, tidy, have a nice smile and show interest in them. The importance of your looks, or any perceived lack of them, will soon fade away to nowt.......... | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 11:15:37 AM | Hmm.. the Red Dragon comment was more regarding the main character.. but never mind, the comparison was obviously lost on your gentle poet soul. No I don't protest too much.. really, I would run a mile from someone sending poems (and most women I know would too).
"The importance of looks in a man diminishes rapidly with age when it comes to dating" er... who told you that?
Thing is though.. this whole thing about "well I get lots of replies".. it seems only a good thing if you are actually getting replies in the positive rather than the thanks (for the poetry) but no thanks. I'd rather have no reply from lots and get one good reply from someone who wants to get to know me and get the hell out of Dodge!! (I'm giving an example, not that I am short of messages of course.. being a girl in the next phase of my life). | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 11:40:09 AM | The OP would do well to pay attention to msgs 122 and 138 [GP]. They were responses designed to offer genuine advice, which he took the trouble to write and from a women's perspective were good advice at that.
If some embittered hardened old trouts, who think they're such stunning catches, apparently inundated with mail anyway, pour scorn on it - well what better filter would any man hope to find? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 11:53:23 AM | "The OP would do well to pay attention to msgs 122 and 138 [GP]. They were responses designed to offer genuine advice, which he took the trouble to write and from a women's perspective were good advice at that.
If some embittered hardened old trouts, who think they're such stunning catches, apparently inundated with mail anyway, pour scorn on it - well what better filter would any man hope to find?"
Obviously our opinions differ.. but to be insulting is rather a low blow.. especially as my comment about all the messages I was getting was tongue in cheek.. because men seem to think that women get hundreds apparently. I certainly don't think I am stunning.. and if you actually knew me, or listened to how much I put myself down you wouldn't say such a ridiculous thing. I've written plenty of sensible advice on various threads, as do other women, but it doesn't mean every man takes it on board.
Why not put your own advice on here, or do you just enjoy putting other women down (if you are a woman, I have no idea without looking at your profile)? - Edit: A 96 year old woman apparently.. oh joy, a person with a "fake"? profile making digs .. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 12:06:44 PM | Several women were critical and scathing, why would you think I meant you?
My advice would be that being a bit more approachable would go a long way, too many people on here with a hardened exterior that does them no favours at all.
I know these things from my many many years of experience! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 12:10:19 PM | A person's attitude and demeanour can also play more than a bit part in attraction.
As can a sense of humour
Apparently
:-) | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 4:16:14 PM | | The worst thing a man can be is lacking confidence. Women hate it, even though they expect men to accommodate their lack of confidence, Nothing ever works both ways. I don't even know why we have equality laws, because men and women aren't equal, they never have been and never will. Women can give birth, men can't etc etc. I hate all these policies that discriminate against men so women will equal them in a particular job. Labour creates womens shortlists to get more women MPs, but the thing is, the vast majority of women hate politics, just as the vast majority of men hate knitting. Women might still earn less than men, but that's down to the jobs they traditionally do, rather than them being women. Counter in the fact a lot of women take time between jobs off to raise families etc which doesn't help womens average earnings. On the other hand, women can retire 5 years before men, despite the fact they pay less into the pension pot over their lifespans because of the traditional jobs they do, and they live on average 4 years longer than men, what's fair about that? I blame the Spice Girls for everything lol | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 4:25:17 PM | ^^^^
And are you saying you get no replies?
because....?
Only teasing :-) | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 5:38:58 PM |
Girls are very lucky in that as they move from one phase of their lives to another they accomplish the amazing feat of being even more beautiful each time than they were before.
I've never needed one before but I think I might need a Tena Lady after reading that.
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Posted: 6/19/2012 6:26:36 PM | Maybe it's just me but I think some people take this inboxing thing a bit too seriously (in general I dont mean people on this thread) i've read some people are too scared to message certain people before etc. Why is this? No one knows you, it's just a message over a computer so how can it be embarrassing or worrying? If somebody doesnt message back get over it as it's not the end of the world. I would imagine most people read profiles before they message to see if interests are similar. What can be annoying is when somebody is online you have been talking to and they take ages to reply you know they are probably chatting to another 50 ;) Sometimes hi is all you can start with unless you dont see an interest on their profile you want to know if they like something so you ask them. Personally if somebody doesnt want to message back their loss.
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Posted: 6/20/2012 1:46:12 AM | Hmm.. the Red Dragon comment was more regarding the main character.. but never mind, the comparison was obviously lost on your gentle poet soul. No I don't protest too much.. really, I would run a mile from someone sending poems (and most women I know would too).
Did you just reply to a line of poetry?, and after you made such a fuss about sayin' you wouldn't too... (Dancing Banana carrying a big placard saying GOTCHA on it icon thingy, lol) | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 2:19:15 AM |
What makes you delete and what makes you answer?
in order of importance. 1 being most important
1) Looks
2) Breast size
3) Message content
4) Common interests (something to actually talk about | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 6:51:32 AM | | Where did I reply to a line of poetry Graffi_Poet? I really don't understand your post (or was there poetry in the other post, but I just didn't notice it?). I was talking about a book with a main character in it, who is hunting a less than good looking weirdo.. not about poetry.. I just meant that your gentle poet soul is obviously not a fan of Thomas Harris and thinks women read Mills and Boon all the time! Some of us like gritty forensic thriller/killer stuff. It doesn't mean I want to practice that in real life, so not really sure why you think only someone like Myra Hindley would read that! Tad off the mark. My 75 year old mother likes a good thriller too.. and my brother who is a right ole romantic at heart. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 9:17:26 AM | Never read or bought a Mills and Boon in my life! And to clarify...never read or bought the equivalent in my native language either.....
FB: Have you had your lunch date yet? | |
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