| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 4/26/2009 10:28:46 PM | | I'm only attracted to men with a penis. I don't have a penis myself though, therefore I'm a total hypocrite! Geez I am bad. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 4/27/2009 9:39:50 AM |
I'm only attracted to men with a penis. I don't have a penis myself though, therefore I'm a total hypocrite! Geez I am bad.
hahaha...good one laughterrules..thanks... | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 4/27/2009 10:33:43 PM | I am going to agree with whoever said that it's not "hypocritical" for a person to like just about anything. That is their preference. What is a bit of a mystery are the people who like the cream of the crop when they are not, and then whine and moan about how nobody is attracted to them.
Just my .02 | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 4/28/2009 3:53:29 AM | | The cream of the crop is a subjective term. I have been told that I am the cream of the crop because I am a cute, short, bbw who is well educated, professional, and who has not been married and has no children, hence less baggage than a lot of women (according to several men), but also have been told that I am a nightmare to many men, as I am a bbw, educated, of average appearance, without an ex husband and children, since I am unlike the norm for women my age in America (divorced, thin to average, pretty, of average height, does not have a graduate degree, and has children).....I prefer to say that I am perfectly imperfect, although I am stellar in some ways, so I seek a man who is above average in the same ways..... | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 4/28/2009 4:34:57 PM | | I prefer to date bigger men. I just can't see myself with a smaller guy, I just don't feel protected. Besides, who dislikes some meat on the bones? LOL | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 5/3/2009 11:55:21 AM | | Yes a lot of BBW are hypocrites- but thank society for that! I like "THICK" women but not sloppy women (which a LOT of BBW think they are). Everyone has their preferences. What happens with BBW being picky is that at one point, they have recieved some "play" from an average or athletic guy and it went to their head so they felt that's what they "deserve." Like who u like- just be willing to take rejection like a NBA player when they guy is not feeling a BBW! | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 5/3/2009 12:02:22 PM | | We "deserve" to be treated with respect, seen as the attractive women that we are, and liked for who we are- a total package......If the men who like us are average and/or athletic, so be it. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 5/5/2009 7:02:01 PM | Yes! I would be called a BBW Hypocrite. I previously dated any size because I thought I had to settle. Now I've realized there are all sizes of men who like BBW's (and I'm sure all sizes of men who don't) so I have a choice. Being BBW does not preclude a person from having their own likes/dislikes/preferences. I deserve to have what I want just like anyone else. A tall man should not be forced to only date tall women, etc. Maybe he likes only shorter women. What's wrong with that. The good Lord made us all different and helped to form our preferences. I'm sticking with mine and living the happy life! | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 5/5/2009 7:09:24 PM |
I'm only attracted to men with a penis. I don't have a penis myself though, therefore I'm a total hypocrite! Geez I am bad
Laughter rules....very good way to prove OP worng reasoning!!!!
I could be fat and like skinny men
I could be skinny and like fat men
Are we hypocrites then!!!! No wonder the world is how it is!!! this way of thinking scares me!!!! | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 5/17/2009 11:20:51 PM | | Guess it depends on both of us. I don't so much judge people based on it, but sometimes physically it can be ackward? | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/22/2009 1:20:06 PM | Have whatever preference you want.
Just don't call anybody a HYPOCRITE or shallow just because he/she is attracted only to a certain type of people. - it is called attraction and chemistry, which cannot be articulated.
And, please, please, don't criticize us - MEN who publicly say they want FIT girls, NOT BBW, because they worked hard to keep their body in shape and I believe they deserve to demand that from their mates.
In return, I also promise NOT to call YOU ladies superficial, when you say NO bald men or NO short men.
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 3:00:14 PM | I think men are critized sometimes due to the way they act regarding a larger woman. Some men are rude to us when we respond to their profiles, as if they cannot believe that one as low as a bbw would even dare to think that he might be interested in a larger woman.
I have worked hard to achieve a graduate degree, which has made my mind fit and I deserve to demand that from a mate. However, when I state that, most of the time I am told that I am a hypocrite since I am only a teacher who is a middle aged larger woman and I d0 not have the right to want or demand anything in a man. Maybe the deal is that things regarding appearance seem to cause more ill will and/or rude comments than other traits that someone might have? (body size or shape, height, being bald, etc. versus job, interests, educational level, etc.) | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 3:22:22 PM | Personally, I think anyone can expect what they wish from someone.
It's not the end of my world if I don't meet some stranger's criteria. There is going to be men that are not interested in me and others that are. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:21:51 PM | No I like bigger guys, but there is a point where they could be too big for me.
I really don't like skinny twiggy guys..they don't feel comfortable. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:33:11 PM |
What is a bit of a mystery are the people who like the cream of the crop when they are not, and then whine and moan about how nobody is attracted to them.
Okay, so here's a quandary. What if in the real world, one is consistently meeting and dating men whom others call "a cutie", "what a hottie", "what a great ass" etc., and on and on.
Then they come online and cannot meet the same type of man? Makes a person start to doubt themselves and wonder if they really are too picky. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:45:00 PM |
Okay, so here's a quandary. What if in the real world, one is consistently meeting and dating men whom others call "a cutie", "what a hottie", "what a great ass" etc., and on and on.
Then they come online and cannot meet the same type of man? Makes a person start to doubt themselves and wonder if they really are too picky.
I would think that such a person would then determine that continuing to meet and date men in the real world as opposed to on line is best for them.
I'm not attractive enough in the on line medium to score the same types of men that I do in the "real world". Evidently I am more attractive 3D than 2D. It doesn't make me doubt what I'm attracted to, it just illustrates that I do better off line than on. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 7:17:18 PM | | The same with me. I was on vacation at the beach last week and attended a conference this week out of town. I seemed to gain the attention of at least several men, maybe cause I was very sunburned last week and they felt sorry for me lol, so the 3D seems to work better for me than the 2D even when my pic is posted. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 7:24:35 PM |
I'm not attractive enough in the on line medium to score the same types of men that I do in the "real world". Evidently I am more attractive 3D than 2D. It doesn't make me doubt what I'm attracted to, it just illustrates that I do better off line than on.
I have to agree with prurire , wild heart...I call it that I translate better in real life..I don't know why..if it is just he difference between 2d and 3d..or..the animation /personality..men really like me in real life...all kinds of men...on here I tend to tick them off , or turn them off...I don't get it?????
I started doubting myself too after reading forums that made me feel like I was wanting" out of my league"...and kept questioning myself...but..if every man I have ever dated/had a relationship with had the same qualities ( intelligence, wit, good looking ( not necessarily hot, though I have dated a couple of those), successful etc...why would that be so?
This is just a different medium..plus, I think men have so many more choices to pick from than real life...and most are going to go with the youngest, hottest etc if they can..especially the kind of men I am used to dating...
I don't believe we are wrong...just a different world online...
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 7:36:04 PM | | Well, I'm actually like the original boy crazy. I like all kinds of men, all heights and weights. It just depends on my chemistry with them. I find myself checking out men everywhere I go. Its just something about the way a guy carries himself...its like I sense it... | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 7:43:29 PM |
Do any of you out there NOT like men who are heavy? I'm not talking about a belly, girls, I'm talking about a gut! Any bbw who is a hypocrite?
Honestly... I am feeling more like a hypocrite as I lose weight. I have been working very hard to lose weight and gain muscle. I push myself and expect myself to get into better and better shape.
... however.... I prefer thick men. Not overly fat... but thick. Example.... I like Vince Vaughn when he has to play a role where he is heavier/thicker than he normally is. I have a guy friend who, when I met him was about 185 pounds (he is 6'4"). It's been a few years and he has gained several pounds. I think he said he's about 235 now. Still not big for a 6'4" man ... but one can definitely tell that it's not muscle gain. I absolutely love his body right now.
It's really not fair to call someone a hypocrite for having preferences. It's just a preference... not something that really can be helped. That's like calling a woman a sinner for having naturally large breasts. Or saying that women are less clean because they have a period. Or that men are pigs because they can't stop themselves from having morning wood. None of these things can be helped. Nor should someone feel guilty for them.
It's not being a hypocrite if a man just doesn't make me feel all funny inside.... and I shouldn't have to force myself to.
P.S. Every time I HAVE tried to force myself to date a man I just wasn't attracted to simply because society told me I had no right not giving him a chance... he turned out to be the most abusive jerk I'd ever met. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 7:44:48 PM | I have been with all types of men from big to muscled but I have found that I don't care for big Ruben Studdard type men but I don't care for skinny guys either. I like a nice medium, preferably football player's type build. It doesn't have to be muscled up, in fact, I do like a bit of gut/belly on a man, that way I don't feel so self-conscious (sp?) about mine. lol But when our stomachs are having a slap boxing contest or it is hard to hit it from behind because your gut can't make it past my ass then it's a problem.
Going by POF's vocabulary, I guess I like "average" to "a few extra pounds". | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 11:21:50 PM | im sure im just repeating what others have said, but it always seems odd when you have a person who has bias against them because of how they do/don't look, then turning around and having a bias/preference; esp when the people they don't like or want have a similar situation or issue.
i think people have pref and that is fine; but it's odd to someone who says you should accept me regardless of my size, but then say they won't accept/date someone who is heavy/etc.
but its all about your pref, what you want what you like and if you like athletic or skinny guys then that is fine; just as long if you don't get mad if/when guys pass on you cus they prefer skinny/athletic women, that would make you a hypocrite | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:57:10 AM | | I know someone who is 5' tall, close to 250 lbs (not muscle), and she will not consider/accept men that are heavy. She said she doesn't like men that are overweight/fat because it's gross and unattractive. I would definately call her a hypocrite. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:21:57 AM | | I think everyone is entitled to their own preferences on what is attractive to them. BUT.. I also think that if you are a person who whines and complains about others not seeing the "lovely" person inside your physical appearance, then goes ahead and refuses to see inside others IS a hypocrite. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:57:56 AM |
but it's odd to someone who says you should accept me regardless of my size, but then say they won't accept/date someone who is heavy/etc.
I may not be sexually attracted to a man of a certain size... but I am not going to be cruel to him either. It WOULD make me a hypocrite if I was an a**hole to a man... any person... because I wasn't into their looks. Not only a hypocrite... but pathetic too.
I do not expect every man to stand at attention whenever I walk by them. I am not interested in turning on every man I see... or who sees me.
On the other hand.... I do find someone rather shallow if they do not accept me for being a human being... no matter what I look like. Someone who treats me bad because of the way I look is just simply a jerk. | |
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