| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:12:34 AM | | There's a tactful, and polite way to turn someone down if you're not interested. A lot of people are rude to me when I message them and they aren't interested...On my profile...it says I will reply to everyone that messages me, and I do. Even if its to say, 'im sorry you're not my type. but thank you for messaging me'. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/27/2009 2:52:04 PM |
I don't know why..if it is just he difference between 2d and 3d..or..the animation /personality..men really like me in real life...all kinds of men...on here I tend to tick them off , or turn them off...I don't get it?????
It's what I refer to as "the vibe". Some women I know who doubted themselves then wonder how they caught the eye of their current guy. I simply tell them that they may not be the beauty queen, but they are attractive, real and their fun positive vibe makes them all the more attractive.
As someone who has been really negative and really positive at various times in my life, I have seen this in action. A positive vibe attracts everyone and gets you noticed. One man I met in person "couldn't believe" that he had never seen me on POF. I didn't say anything, but it proved my point and that was about 4 years ago. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:18:30 PM | | You know my rule that I don't take anything personal. If someone likes me great, if not then so be it. Can't make everyone happy, but you can make yourself. See, I think the problem is the women/men who have lied about being a bbw. They post only photos of themselves from shoulders up and then show up and surprise. I use honesty as the only policy. Like it or lump it. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:00:08 PM | It seems to me that there are two camps on the issue. The one camp sees weight as something that is as changeable as spelling and grammar ability or hair color. The other camp sees weight as a relatively immutable trait like shoe size or height.
I will venture that those who cry "Hypocrite!" are generally members of the first camp and those who point out that we like whom we like are typically members of the second camp.
I can't find any reason to call one starting assumption more valid than the other.
We might as easily ask why we as a society typically only apply the shallow characterization when people aren't attracted by a physical characteristic? Why isn't it equally shallow to not be attracted by a mental or emotional characteristic? We don't call people shallow when they refuse to date someone with differing religious beliefs or political ideologies. We generally don't call someone shallow if they refuse to date someone who isn't their match in intelligence or education.
If someone was a perfect match in body type and height and education and intellect and political views and religion and interests except they had much different skin tones and they refused to date. We wouldn't call them shallow, we'd call them racist. If the same situation existed, but, they differed in political views, we would just call them incompatible. If the same situation existed, but, they differed in body type, we call them shallow. I really fail to see how one is just an incompatibility while to the others we assign a perjorative connotation.
Just some random thoughts on a Sunday night. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:52:46 AM | One caveat: because I'm short and don't have the curvy hips or luscious busom, I don't know if I qualify as a BBW just because I'm very chubby.
However, to answer the question, I am one who does not find heavy men physically attractive. Why is that hypocritical? I have my preferences just like anyone else. Why should I be obligated to consider dating a heavy man just because I'm a heavy girl?
I just don't find stocky guys appealing, but if I met a stocky guy whose personality outweighed (pun intended) his looks, that would be a different story. For the record, it took my current sweetie 3 years to warm up to me, so it wasn't my looks that drew him, but now he thinks I'm adorable.
Preferences are not hypocrisies. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/29/2009 2:13:50 AM | | I have met many big women that were hypocrites, if we had nothing in common, i would understand or if she just said that she wasn't attracted to me, that would have been fine, but she just says 'nah, you are too fat' and she was just as big as me and i just laughed as a walked off. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/29/2009 3:58:48 AM | | Yeah - i am! Just being honest - if they are a real heifer I'm not interested! | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:27:39 AM | | yep being a big girl i may be a hypocrite to some.. I do like BHM (male version of BBW) but there is a huge difference between a BHM and a man who is a cross between Jabba the hut and Shrek. As long as his weight doesnt slow him down or create special needs, im ok with it . he should not be sloppy fat. come on gals you know the difference. when the guy says you have such a pretty face/personality yet refuse to associate with us b/c the men think it will make THEM look bad. the same may apply on our end too. think about it | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:57:26 AM | As a "big guy", I've always thought it's hysterical when a "bigger gal" rejects a guy because he's "not skinny".
I mean, come on! Ok, perhaps when a "big guy" and a "big girl" are together, doggie-style goes out the window (usually), but seriously!
I'm a big guy. I DO take care of myself, I just have a hard time losing weight to the extent that I'd like to. It doesn't affect WHO I am, I'm just big! :)
Sometimes, I think big men have it harder than big women. I know PLENTY of guys who love bigger women, but I have a hard time meeting women who like us "big boys".....
As I've read elsewhere on here, us big dudes will give you plenty of shade in the summer, and plenty of heat in the winter!  | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:12:57 AM | | I love big guys. Not sloppy big, I would not like to see belly slouching from underneath his shirt. But if he is big all over and dresses it up nice, it is a godsend! It depends on the guy. I think everyone should be given a chance. Now I am not sure if they think I am a BBW, I am not sure how a size 16 fits in there. Around here, there is a lot so I put average but recent photos showing me. I prefer a man to be bigger than me. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:20:07 AM | I remember when I use to have the body of a Greek god...now I have the body of just some, Greek, guy...
I've yet to meet a woman to turn me down for being bigger then her...but I'm not giving up hope...unlike others, I find the whole thing fascinating and want to study her and her views of the world, probably in my lab, that's where I keep the donuts...
mmm...donuts...
Truth, you're FAT, you're UGLY....I really need to explain the concept of a mirror-TruthinessInc | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:56:44 AM | | I ma a big beautiful woman, and I like all types of men! and senko honey, you do know there are a few of us here in the south right? | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:47:07 AM | However, to answer the question, I am one who does not find heavy men physically attractive. Why is that hypocritical? I have my preferences just like anyone else. Why should I be obligated to consider dating a heavy man just because I'm a heavy girl?
yes well good luck with that. i doubt you are gonna find many athletic or in shape guys who will be interested in you. birds of a feather flock together. if they take care of themselves, then they will expect you to also take care of yourself. that's just common sense. hope you like being alone. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:59:22 PM |
However, to answer the question, I am one who does not find heavy men physically attractive. Why is that hypocritical? I have my preferences just like anyone else. Why should I be obligated to consider dating a heavy man just because I'm a heavy girl?
No eden - you are mistaken. Especially a beautiful girl like yourself, and you are not that heavy, there ARE many attractive men who are not heavy who enjoy a more feminine form. They are out there. Just because someone is not a stick figure does not mean they don't care for themselves. Skinny doesn't = healthy. Look at Micheal Jackson. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:36:56 PM | | I have a pot belly fetish. Not really into skinny or "buff" guys. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 8:53:08 AM | haha I agree!! He just seems to have that confidence about him that makes him sexy and kinda irresistable! | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:58:38 AM | | oh well I got a six pack lol . Honestly though I think any woman who finds this attractive is in dire need of glasses or it may be her own self esteem. I mean a guy who is ripped may not like her and she might have a need to be beauty to his beast. Not the other way around. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:07:33 PM |
yes well good luck with that. i doubt you are gonna find many athletic or in shape guys who will be interested in you. birds of a feather flock together. if they take care of themselves, then they will expect you to also take care of yourself. that's just common sense. hope you like being alone.
Not true. I can personally tell you I have dated an exotic dancer, a personal trainer, and a body builder. One I am still dating although it is long distance. I don't think your build determines who you are attracted to or what type of person is attracted to you. We don't all go after someone who looks like us. In fact, I find contrast to be incredibly sexy. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:11:53 PM | | I have found that many men who like bbw really like the fact that we have plump or large stomaches. I often say if I could move my stomach to my butt that my pants would fit perfectly. Most of the men I have dated have not been large men, and I do not think this makes me a hypocrit. I have dated the men who were interested in me and I was interested in them. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:29:35 PM |
there ARE many attractive men who are not heavy who enjoy a more feminine form.
Yet again I have to correct someone who thinks that in order to have feminine form, one must be a big woman.
I've known plenty of thin, average and big women who had NO feminine form because that's the way their body is.
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:29:48 PM | I am going to use the analogy I used in another thread (or maybe it was this one and I forgot)...
I do not like eating coconut. I never have. All my life, I have never developed an appreciation for the taste of coconut. I think the coconut is a beautiful fruit. I think is really is amazing. I love the way it smells and what it does for the skin. I hate the taste. Just do. No matter how many times I try it... I still do not enjoy it.
Never once has a coconut called me a hypocrite for not liking it. It doesn't sit on it's shelf pouting because I chose a pineapple over it. I do not feel guilty for not liking coconut... nor does it really have an issue with my dislike of it.
Have you ever seen the movie "While You Were Sleeping"? There is a character in there named Joe Jr. He is not a bad looking guy. Yeah, over weight... but his personality leaves a lot to be desired. Joe Jr is kind of like the coconut. Not a bad fruit at all. Just... his personality is not to my tastes.
Why should I be called a hypocrite if I do not enjoy the flavor of Joe Jr?
yes well good luck with that. i doubt you are gonna find many athletic or in shape guys who will be interested in you. birds of a feather flock together. if they take care of themselves, then they will expect you to also take care of yourself.
I have dated several very fit men. Yeap, even body builder fit. I have dated very slim men to very overweight. As I have said many times in many threads....the athletic/fit ones treat me SO MUCH better than the overweight/never looked at a gym men.
hope you like being alone.
If my choices in life are between settling for someone who treats me badly and being alone the rest of my life.... I gladly choose being alone. I'd much prefer be happy alone than miserable with someone.
that's just common sense. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/12/2009 3:19:04 PM | | I think that being alone is so much better than being in a bad relationship. Yes, I would like to be with someone, but not someone that isn't going to make me happy...or someone that I can't make happy! | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:04:54 PM | | I like a man with some meat on his bones and a juicy booty. I'm a BBW. I like all sizes. I don't really like them too skinny though. | |
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