| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:18:47 PM | I don't think the size of a person matters. I can't tell you how many times I see big, overweight, obese, large, or whatever descriptor used--bashed by people who are being ignorant. You have a right to like or be attracted to any person you desire, but you should not want to bash them or condemn them. Honestly, that indicates a problem within the person who is doing this. It's not as if the fat will rub off on them. If it's not your cup of tea that's great, but how about using a little mercy when talking about the larger person because they deserve love and respect just as everyone else does. Also, if anyone is wearing Lane Bryant, they are overweight. They just carry it well. Sorry for the vent. I've read quite a few unfriendly threads lately that have really hurt to see how society or a part of society thinks about large people. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:47:14 PM | I love a thick, stocky, chunky man. I did date a morbidly obese guy, he was very handsome and had great charm, but we had no bedroom activity . I'm a big girl and I don't think there was anyway that we could..well..ya know... The only type of guy I will not date is a skinny one, it's the equivalent to the way some men will not date a really big woman. It creeps me out to feel their bones. I'm so scared that I'm going to break them while we're playing around. (I love rough housing and play fighting) Besides that, I want a man that can pick me up and toss me around, let's face it, only a bigger guy can do that... | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/23/2009 3:35:55 PM | yes some women are hypocrites for instance alot of women will complain that us men are shallow for not wanting fat women yet they seek guys who are in a tank or muscular. It seems these women should stop complaining and stop being two face.
My ex girlfriend who suggested to me awhile back I should hit the gym to get a bit bigger. I was a bit insulted by that but it was not a big deal to me. Yet if I told her to go to the gym to lose some weight it would be the end of the world, she would get mad and stop talking to me and break-up | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/23/2009 3:55:26 PM | | Did you tell her to lose weight? Or are you merely suggesting what she might have done if you had said that to her? I like all kinds of men, and if I date a thin man then I do not think that I am a hypocrite. He could be a hypocrite since he is not dating woman who is shaped like him. I date the men who are attracted to me and who attract me. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/23/2009 6:11:04 PM |
My ex girlfriend who suggested to me awhile back I should hit the gym to get a bit bigger. I was a bit insulted by that but it was not a big deal to me. Yet if I told her to go to the gym to lose some weight it would be the end of the world, she would get mad and stop talking to me and break-up
Hence the reason I seek a man who already goes to the gym. We can stay in shape together. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/23/2009 7:05:45 PM |
My ex girlfriend who suggested to me awhile back I should hit the gym to get a bit bigger. I was a bit insulted by that but it was not a big deal to me. Yet if I told her to go to the gym to lose some weight it would be the end of the world, she would get mad and stop talking to me and break-up
If I told a man I was dating he should go to the gym for any reason.... I would hope his response would be that we go there together and get into shape... together.
If a man told me that I needed to get to the gym to lose weight... my response would be... "only if you come with me".
I believe I shouldn't be the only one in the relationship taking care of myself. Nor do I believe HE should be the only one taking care of himself in the relationship. After all... a relationship is supposed to be a partnership.
Let me add to my earlier postings... I do seem to like a thicker man. I have a guy friend who is 6'4". When I met him, he was about 185. Now he is about 235. To be honest, I like his body more now.
However... for the past couple years... the only "physical" requirement I really had in a future relationship is that the man be stronger than I am. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/24/2009 5:54:28 PM | | nah my ex would make up an excuse like she no money or a bad back, or her daughter would need a babysitter and that she rather go alone. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/24/2009 7:25:00 PM | ... maybe that is why she is your ex?
Note: Not every woman is like your ex. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 2:47:25 AM | | Someone once told me... your self image is a way of showing how well you can take care of yourself.... if you cant take care of yourself.. how can you take care of anyone else? | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 7:38:07 AM |
how can you take care of anyone else?
It's not our job to "take care of anyone else". It is no one's job but that person to take care of themselves. I can share weight loss information with someone till I am blue in the face... I cannot make them get in the gym and moving.
... Stop dating people according to whether they can take care of you or not.
your self image is a way of showing how well you can take care of yourself
Self image is not a weight issue... it's a psychological one.
Self image has nothing to do with a person's actual image. It is how a person sees themselves and carries themselves from that view. If someone is confident and finds themselves fabulous, they will carry themselves in this manner.
There are some very thin people in the world who slomp around hunched over, hiding from the world because their self image is in shambles. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 8:47:20 AM | | The "take care of yourself" idea means that the person is not overweight to most people I assume. When I see that written in a man's profile I move on. To me, taking care of oneself does not mean that the person is not overweight. Their appearance might be part of the equation. Someone can be of average weight and nice looking, but a total disaster when it comes to taking care of themselves as far as a job, how they treat others, if they take care of their children, do they pay their bills, are they interested in the world around them, do they have interests and hobbies, etc. Some of us do not always see someone's weight as an indicator or how they take care of themselves and self esteem. I prefer to look at each person on an individual basis. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 9:21:57 AM | I've lost 50 lbs so far but still considered "overweight". I guess I am not taking care of myself.  | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 9:37:03 AM | | Sure you are, anyone who says that you are not is no one you need in your life. Congrats on the weight loss. I am trying to lose 50 pounds in the next 2 years, as I know that losing it slowly is the best way to do it. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 9:51:29 AM |
Congrats on the weight loss.
I second this!! Many of us on this thread know just how hard that was for you!
I am trying to lose 50 pounds in the next 2 years, as I know that losing it slowly is the best way to do it.
Congratulations on making a plan! And a REALISTIC one!! Just make sure to find a work out regime that you enjoy! (and maybe join the chats on Health and Wellness?)
I have been doing a "one pound a week" plan for a while. Pretty much means I burn at least 3500 (500 a day) calories a week on a 1500/2000 calorie diet. Because I AM looking to build muscle... and a lot of it... I know the weight loss will be slow. I give myself another year and a half (maybe two) to be at my "goal". | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 10:38:41 AM | I lost 45 pounds myself.
And I think you're being a lil heavily defensive on what I'm trying to say here... I'm only giving my opinion. Being obese is a health issue. I know... I used to be there. I even have proof lol. In fact, i'm still classified as over weight in the bmi. but anyways, I even documented it on youtube...
http://www.youtube.com/user/Tishy205
Theres nothing wrong with having meat on you, but when it effects your life style... then there is a problem. <-- and that is the type of bbw I'm talking about. Regardless, I agree, attraction is based on MANY things, not just weight and I understand that and have been through that as well!
Being obese can mean a lot of things to a lot of people...
lack of control... a way to deal with things... enjoyment...
A bbw is a person who is really obese to me... and that to me is in no way healthy. You're right... do it for yourself, no one else. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 7/25/2009 8:10:51 PM | of course not everybody is the same some people are born with different sizes of bodies therefore its not all there fault. However I will never date a women who is big like a hot air balloon. I have dated some women who are big boned, average, and bbw, and thin. Some bbw look good and healthy being there size.
My only concern if I see my gf weight fluctuates and does nothing to rectify it consistently it irks me. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:14:19 PM | | Anyone read the article today about how excercise can actually be a factor in gaining weight? No real surprise but it triggers hunger in most people. It was interesting to say the least. Kind of refutes the idea that fat people are lazy. There was actually a part in there that said overweight people tend to excercise more than average weight people. I believe it was a Time article. Not to say excercise is not good for you because it has many health benefits but it was not conducive to actually losing weight. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:34:35 PM | I read that Kathy and was really surprised! It makes you wonder about metabolism and all that and how they really work. You think you can do one thing and it turns out you are doing another.
I go with being healthy.
I'm not a bbw, but I have gone out with a larger man and won't again. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 9/5/2009 7:19:48 PM | | I definetly am a hypocrite when it comes to dating heavier men. And I'm not talking about having a gut. I don't knock anyone for not being attracted to me or having interesting or picky preferences in what they find physically attractive, so don't start with the hate mail. But, there is only one person allowed to have breasts in my relationships, and right now I currently occupy that spot. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 9/5/2009 8:08:10 PM |
I don't think the size of a person matters.
Depends on how you define "matters." Does it matter how much they weigh if you're determining their worth as a human being? Of course not. Does it matter how much they weigh if I'm going to be attracted enough to want to start a relationship with them? Yeah, probably. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 9/5/2009 8:20:47 PM | | I don't think that just because you may not find men with a belly attractive, and you as a BBW makes you a hypocrite. People like what they like. BBWs come in different shapes and sizes, yeah most might be round but all have a right to a preference. There are apple shaped BBW, regtangles, pear shapes the list goes on. I like my men thin but I'm also big on individuals, so if I found a guy with "gut" with a cute face and we clicked- it's on like donkey kong | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 9/5/2009 8:47:48 PM | | Generally it seems that big women like us skinny guys. We like big women. Works for me. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 9/5/2009 9:44:14 PM | lol gals like blubber around here? now come to think of it i was 200 pounds in high school and i had hits lol. so i trimmed down for nothing? lol, well keeping my current weight i'd live 10 yrs longer... hopefully not alone  | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 9/6/2009 7:16:07 AM | op,
nothing matches having a big girl in the winter....damn cold canada. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 9/6/2009 7:44:49 AM | Senko I'm in Ga....but your profile sais you're in Texas?.... I like the bigger men. I feel safer with them. They can protect me from the monsters under the bed. I wouldn't feel right with a guy that was smaller than me. | |
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