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Posted: 2/16/2008 1:31:43 PM | i hope no one takes this the wrong way but bbw needs someone too and the need to be loved too in are out of the bed i am not saying that my mind is in the gutter. we all have needs. i would any woman that would love me back its not good to be alone all the time. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/16/2008 1:47:20 PM | bunnyslut on 4/25/2006 4 55 AM
Subject: Any bbw hypocrites?
Message: I'm a bbw .. and I don't 'date' big boys. They can't (generally) satisfy me sexually or rather, maintain said activities. If they could, I'd rather date them. I think they're such sweetie pies AND I'd never have to pretend that I don't like to eat.
Too bad bunnyslut doesn't live around here . . . do I have one for you. A good looking guy with a great personality who looks like he appreciates a good meal. And believe me, bunny, not only can he keep up with you, you would be begging for mercy.
My 2 cents . . . I've dated men who are tall, slender and quite handsome, some who were rotund and a lot of fun and a few who were short and sweet. Some were better looking than others, but if I wanted to be with them, they had something to offer. Rarely did I stay with someone who was just good looking . . . if they are an a$$, they don't look so good to me after a while and a couple of guys I dated who my friends thought were, frankly, ugly were both sweet and fun.
Don't get me wrong -- everyone is impressed by beauty, but I dare say that it is secondary for most women where looks are almost entirely the attraction for a guy (at least at first). And I know . . . I've been married several times and I never though for one second that any of those men would have stuck around if they didn't like my looks. Fair? No -- but a fact of life . . . like or not. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 2:00:45 PM | western rose...
me too i love big and tall fellas... the smaller skinner guys dont do it for me, no offence to them i probably dont do it for them either but give me a man mountain of a guy and im like hellllllllllllllooooooooooooo :)
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Posted: 2/16/2008 2:07:18 PM | I am a BBW. And I do love a big man. I'm always more attracted to a big man than to a small man. That being said, I've had good relationships with men of all sizes. One of my dearest friends from the past is only 5'8" and about 140 lbs. He was wonderful to me, both in bed and out. (We are still friends, but our relationship goals were different. ) I am now seeing a wonderful man who is BIG! and our sexual chemistry is red hot. With all that said, I will simply add that I try to take people for who they are, big or small. But I confess a weakness for a BIG, hairy man.
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/16/2008 2:10:19 PM | | I have a preference for men with a bit of meat on them. However it can't be so much meat that it slows them down in the bedroom, haha. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/16/2008 3:47:32 PM | I can't speak for BBW's... but I was thinking about the question and I wondered.. if I prefer tall guys, or blondes... or men who have a little more flesh... when I am not like that.. does it make ME a hypocrite? I don't think so... it's just preference.
Does it all have to end up at the lowest common denominator? Why is there this concept that people should limit themselves to anything? If that was the case in all of life we wouldn't get very far as a species.
In the case of whining that someone doesn't "give you a chance".. no matter what the reason, well, that's just a case of an entitlement issue. No one is "entitled" to a relationship of any type... and no one HAS to give anyone a "chance" no matter what. The heart is not an equal opportunity employer.
Just my opinion | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:03:20 PM | I don't know, I feel that because I do prefer an average to somewhat stockier guy (versus big gut, etc.) that I AM a hypocrite--I never looked at it as a preference. But I guess, if you compare it to ethinicity, general appearance (dark hair, facial hair, dark eyes vs blonde, clean shaven and blue eyed) then yea, it could be considered a preference.
My ex was only slightly chunky when we met, then developed quite a belly over the years and made it challenging during, uh, certain activities, whereas an average guy wouldn't be at risk of being hurt  with me. I couldn't do really thin though--that would just feel too awkward for me. So, a really large gut or severely out of proportion is off putting for me *looking sheepish*.
Is it hypocritical to fantasize about being with a guy who is hot AND all muscle-y and buff even though I myself, am all soft and dough-y? Or to, dare I say, want to pursue someone along those lines? I sort of feel like it is...
I feel a bit uncomfortable even admitting to this. Perhaps because I do feel like a hypocrite... | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:14:59 PM | I have no problem with people having their preference on who they want to date, you cant help who you are attracted too. What I do have a problem with is when someone refuses to get to know someone even if its just as a friend because of the way someone looks.(reminds me of highschool) And Im not talking about just weight. Good people come in all shapes and sizes :)
My personal preference is Im attracted to a thinner guy, BUT that doesnt mean they are the only type I would date. Ive been attracted to bigger guys as well, it really is about personality and getting to know someone. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:28:10 PM |
A fat woman who is attracted to thin/fit men is NOT a hypocrite. A fat woman would be a hypocrite if she rejected a fat man because of his weight AND she also complained about a man rejecting her because of weight.
This pretty well sums up my opinion on this issue. But I'll add that a large woman would also be a hyporcite if she has other physical preferences (he must be so tall, or something), but complains when a man or men aren't interested in her because of THEIR physical preference of being attracted to a thinner woman. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 7:48:28 PM | Interesting thread..I find it fascinating that so many women felt they had to justify their preferences.
I am a BBW and I have always dated in shape, great looking men. Why? Because I can. It is called PREFERENCES, people, not hypocrisy.
It is amazing to me the never ending discussions and thoughts on what BBW's should and should not do; it makes me laugh.
In the end, of course, it the personality, heart and soul of a person that makes you stay with them, not their looks, but to force a preference on someone because of similarities in looks...that would be like trying to make me date men with red hair because I am a redhead, am I a hypocrite, no? I just like dark haired men and never met a red haired man I was attracted to. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 9:48:17 PM | I don't think it's hypocritical to not be attracted to someone who might be just like yourself.
What IS hypocritical is whining that "no man likes me just because I'm fat" and then whining because a fat guy is interested in you.
I also don't agree when people think that because a person is fat, that they should ONLY look to date other fat people.
I'll be attracted to who I'm attracted to, thank you veddy much. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/17/2008 4:25:15 AM | O ccasionally...I would email an overweight or chunky girl to see if she responds...to test the waters of superficality amongst women on dating sites...and sure enough I was ignored or turned down by even OVERWEIGHT women.
See how pathetic that is? | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 7:11:56 AM | ^^^ Yeah, those desperate overweight women should write to anyone who gives them the time of day, shouldn't they?
Did you ever consider that maybe they didn't want to write to you? There's a thought. But hey, thanks for throwing a dog a bone once in a while. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 7:27:39 AM | Occasionally...I would email an overweight or chunky girl to see if she responds...to test the waters of superficality amongst women on dating sites...and sure enough I was ignored or turned down by even OVERWEIGHT women.
See how pathetic that is?
You don't think it could possibly be your attitude, could it?
So, because I'm overweight, I should be grateful for every person who writes to me? Puh-lease.
I'm a BBW (who absolutely HATES the term - can't we find something else?) and I actually like bigger guys as well. I've dated men of all shapes and sizes, but I've got to say I prefer the "built-like-a-linebacker" types. What I don't get is how does having a PREFERENCE make one a hypocrite? I don't expect guys who like athletic or skinny women to be interested in me. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 7:33:46 AM | O ccasionally...I would email an overweight or chunky girl to see if she responds...to test the waters of superficality amongst women on dating sites...and sure enough I was ignored or turned down by even OVERWEIGHT women.
See how pathetic that is?
How pathetic it is that your think any woman who isn't a stick should jump at the opportunity to chat with a man who won't even put a pic on HIS profile? Yes, I DO see how pathetic that is...... | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/17/2008 7:48:17 AM |
O ccasionally...I would email an overweight or chunky girl to see if she responds...to test the waters of superficality amongst women on dating sites...and sure enough I was ignored or turned down by even OVERWEIGHT women.
See how pathetic that is?
The only thing pathetic in this is your attitude, throw me a bone why dont you? what the hell? i should be grateful someone messages me because im fat?
I DONT F U C K I N G THINK SO. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 9:05:04 AM | Well, I'm just proving how superficial people have become...think about it...some people (both male and female) don't see in the mirror their physical shortcomings, nor recognize it...and expect some "hunk" to find them attractive.
Again, this is what I consider Unrealistic expecations. Here we have overweight women and/or men who won't date even a guy of average weight proportions.
I have a friend of mine who is actually very overweight/obese....and he wants some hot babe to go out with him. I tell him, "Listen, take a look at yourself, you might want to do something about that weight of yours, because you're going to have a diffucult time finding a woman who is 5'4" 120 lbs to find you attractive.
But, he doesn't listen.
See, Hollywood, the movies, media...has distorted the reality of the situation...so everyone follows suit. | |
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| Any bbw hypocrites?
Posted: 2/17/2008 9:34:02 AM | I don't expect any less in looks in how a man is then my own self. Meaning if he's a little heavy and not perfect as I am, then fine. But he also has to be clean and take care of his overall appearence as I do as well. Being heavy is no excuse for being a slob.
What I can't stand are the men who are heavy and think they're entitled to expect women to look like those who grace the pages of Victoria's Secrets and expect nothing less. Who are they kidding?
If women were so judgemental towards men in such a way, they get called all sorts of nasty names. Yet when men do so, they say it's just being normal. It's double standards and it's just wrong.
As far as some of these dating sites. I've seen guys profiles where they're looking for petite and slim women. Most guys don't post pictures of themselves and for good reason. They might put on their profile that their own body type is "average ", they haven't seen "average" in years and posting old pictures when they were far lighter. Then when upon meeting them in person you see someone you barely recognize because they're so heavy. The date ends quickly for the reason they were misleading and lied about their looks over the fact that they were heavy. For me honesty is a must and there's no room for error. If they lie about something like this you can bet there's even bigger lies lurking around. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 9:46:40 AM |
Then when upon meeting them in person you see someone you barely recognize because they're so heavy. The date ends quickly for the reason they were misleading and lied about their looks over the fact that they were heavy.
LOL....and then WE are shallow for rejecting them.....it's a vicious cycle..... | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 9:49:29 AM | | I am not a BBW but I like a man who is bigger. Not that I sam saying I don't like a tight in shape bod, but I have met alot of guys that are a little overweight, and they are very sexy. I like they can wrap all of me in that hug. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 9:54:20 AM | Okeedokee: You aren't proving anything. All you're proving is that someone like you thinks that because you wrote to a fat chick, she's obligated to write back because she should be thankful that she even got an email.
Why would you assume that she has "unrealistic expectations" simply because she didn't respond to YOU? Maybe your profile does nothing for her. Maybe you're too old. Too young. Too big. Too small. The fact that your profile pretty much says that you're just here to observe...
Here we have overweight women and/or men who won't date even a guy of average weight proportions. You're basing this on you not receiving emails back from fat women. That's hardly science. Maybe they didn't like you.
I would date a man who was bigger (I like "beefy" guys), but just because I'm overweight, I'm not obligated in any way to automatically like a guy who is extremely obese (or thin/athletic/average). Just like I don't expect a guy to be attracted to me despite my size, if that's not what he's attracted to. Believe it or not, we DO have the right to be attracted to whoever we want.
Now, the problem is sometimes in the attitude and the presentation. Should a person who is overweight tell other overweight people that they're disgusting pigs and that they're unattractive? Hell no.
But neither should the self-appointed Perfection Police.
Basically, the impression you give is that if a woman is 400 pounds, she HAS to be attracted to every man that writes to her that is 400 pounds or less...because she has no other options.
Would you argue the same if a woman said she didn't want to date a guy with "man-boobs"? She has boobs, too. Is she is obligated to date him? | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 10:13:24 AM | | divared I agree with you on much of what you said. However, I have found a red haired guy i'm attracted to! LOL As far as this thread goes, I'm attracted to "bigger" guys but not very over weight guys. I"m a big girl myself and did date a man who was 5'6'' 310lbs for 3 months. As one other poster put it, the bedroom was a big problem. He was a very nice guy but he was lazy and had no energy in many areas. I know i'll catch slack for that reference but I experienced it so in this case yes, it's true. I need someone who can keep up with me just in our day to day lives, nothing out of the ordinary and he couldn't. It's not hypocrisy to have this preference AND be a big girl. Like most people are writing, it's a personal preference. I love men and have been known to chase one down in a parking lot to ask him out, if I see a cutie. hahahaha( obviously, no self esteem issues here! lol) Either you like big guys or you don't. Not a big deal And for you guys who don't like big girls, not a problem. We will survive. hahaha | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 10:19:04 AM | Response to felldownstairs msg 17
Well thank you, finally, a voice of sanity! I am a BBW, but we come in all shapes and sizes. Personally, I find it rather distasteful to have to label myself as such since we don't ask slender ppl to identify themselves by saying I'm slender, thin, anorexic??? Anyone, male or female, may or may not be attractive at any weight. There are so many physical features to take into consideration. In the end, whomever you are attracted to on a physical level, may not meet the other needs you have on other levels. Our society places way too much importance on physical appearance which I think has forced us to date, marry, and stay with certain ppl to satisfy family, friends, and society in general. It's really quite sad in my opinion. And for those wondering about my answer to this query, I usually am attracted to larger, teddy bear type man. However I have dated all types and heights and must say I am more attracted to a "bean pole" type who knows how to approach me on every level. Unfortunately, I do think about how we would look to others and if we would be accepted as a couple on many levels. Makes me very angry that such thoughts even enter my mind, but I also know exactly why such thoughts occur to me. Pressure from society, family, and friends. In the end, I sincerely hope I do not allow those "voices" to make my choice for me. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 10:30:35 AM | This is a response to okeedokee444 msg 162
Wow, you must think rather highly of yourself. Wonder if you have also been turned down by other women with varying body types. After all BBW encompasses a vast array of body types from curvacious and big breated to apple shaped and more. And speaking of "superficiality", which you spelled incorrectly (lmao--HUGE turn off for a woman when a man can not spell as it indicates a low level of education or IQ--omg I'm roflmao), how superficial is it to send ANYONE a message when you are not sincerely attracted or interested in them for any real reason? If you ask me (and probably most other mature men AND women of any shape, size, or ethnicity), THAT is probably the most sad, sorry, AND pathetic thing you could do to any other human being, BBW or otherwise. At least you spelled "pathetic" correctly... | |
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