| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 2:17:55 PM | Duct tape, vice grips and super glue..........................and some severe meds
Ok back to being nicey nice, time hun, pleny of time, sucks but it is the truth. You take what you learnd about the good and bad, mull it over, shake it up with a martini, and chug......crap there went my nice mood. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 2:48:29 PM |
Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Have a sandwich.
Okay, seriously...
Got one you can use.
Write down your pain. Put your feelings on paper, and visualize the irritation. You'll say, "What do I want to do that for?"...
Simple answer is that as painful as a breakup can be, the worst thing you can do is keep it inside. Don't waste it in a bottle, or on psuedo-knowledgable friends. Put this all on paper...in fact, write it down as many times as you need. Then when you've done so....throw the sheets away.
Burn them even if you need... | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 3:45:19 PM | Nothing that hasn't been said before. I tried being "friends" with my ex immediately after we broke up, but it just doesn't work. Complete cutting of ties, immerse yourself with happy people, exercise (I found a punching bag helpful), and don't be afraid to cry. Time does heal, and soon you will just feel really glad that you met and shared time with a special person - better ot have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.
Good luck, take each day as it comes, each minute or hour if you need to. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:50:57 PM | This is what you do:
1)The first thing you do is go to your calendar or Outlook and mark 60 days after the last time you talked to her.
2) Then you cut out all communication for 60 days. -- Ignore phone calls and e-mails and let any messages go to voicemail.
3) Play some noisy and pounding hard rock loud as long as you want.-- Dream Theater, Ozzy, Earthless, Rage, you know, etc.
4) Eat what you want, work out as much as you want, watch the tv programs you want--in other words, do the things that you didnt/couldn't when she was around.
5) lose weight if you need to
6) do NOT contact her for 60 days
7) date other women or at least be with other women if you can -- the prettier the better
8) take up a hobby that you'd like -- learning Kill'em All is a good idea
9) throw your self in to work/school
10) Get in touch with family and friends and pop in unexpectedly just to say hi.
11) Go ahead and piss and moan about the opposite sex and find things to complain about her -- its healthy.
After the 60 days, the perspective you'll gain is very freeing. You'll still care for her, and want her, but now you got a better fix on your situation. And maybe she'll be wondering what happened to you, but by then it won't matter. That may give her time to open her legs to someone else and then you're really off the hook. And you can pray for the guy. If she doesn't find anyone else, that may be good too.
If and when you call her after 60 days, you'll be much more ready to talk and she will too. Just be a man, call her when you know she might be home (not when she's at work--that's weak), If you gotta leave a voicemail, leave one then no more. Maybe when you talk you can find out what happened ("Wow, we were having such a great time then it blew up -- what happened?")
I just went through it myself... just to say "give it more time" doesn't work becuase you're always thinking maybe now you could call her. I read somewhere that 2 months will do it, and it really worked for me. Still think about her too much, though! | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:53:09 PM | Well first of all...cut all ties from her. When you see or talk to someone you care about it makes it all the harder to heal.
Let your emotions take their natural course, yes of course you will feel sad that is very natural.
Surround yourself with friends and let the healing begin....you need time...how much no one knows....but it does get better.
When you start feeling like yourself again, get right back on your horse and try to find the one that is a keeper and you can be happy with forever.
 Good Luck | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:55:28 PM | | Here is how I get over a nasty breakup. Keep in mind that the time it takes to get over are different for everyone. One of the first things I absolutely had to do because of school and work was keep it together so I literally set aside a time where I could feel sad about it all I wanted but the rest of the day I had to stay focused on school and work and when those negative thoughts came I hit the books harder or worked more hours. It was not the healthiest thing but it strangely enough made me competitive for a program I wanted to get into and made me some cash. Several months later I can say it thickened my skin a little and made me a better man. I hope you get through it. Do not take a lifetime to worry about one single bad moment, I assure you more will come so you better get stronger. This will also help you to appreciate the good things. With time to reflect you will have taken from the relationship what you need from a woman and how to make it work when you find someone with most of the pieces ( no one ever has it all). | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:57:17 PM | Go outside her window, stand in the rain with a boombox over your head and play a sappy love song ( like Cinderella's 'Don't Know What You Got Till It's Gone') until she sees you and falls romantically back in love with you...or calls the cops.
Lemme tell you, if you truly love this girl, you'll do anything you can to get her back, send her flowers, gifts, whatever, and work your butt off to get her back and show her that you will do whatever it takes to make her happy.
If that doesn't work, then you better just suck it up and go to a good counselor for a while until you get over her. Took me several years to get over my ex-husband and it sucked.
I am sorry for you. I wish you the best of luck!
Beth | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/24/2009 7:11:32 PM | | Thanks for all the ideas everyone, I really appreciate it. This is really the first time I have had to go through something like this so I honestly don't really know how to deal with it. But now I have a better idea of I will handle the situation and I know I will get over it one day. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/25/2009 1:01:50 AM | Friends!!! Get as many as you can and spend each day with one different friend. I do it, and it works! I sure beats the loneliness, and you sometimes learn how to forget the pain. Sorry Buddy I know how you're feeling. I loved not only once but a few times, and only ended up jaded. Some ppl just don't know what love is all about. You will find her... Promise!  | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 6/25/2009 2:57:56 AM | This is a very relevant question for me as this girl I knew recently hurt me. For the past two weeks, I've been coming up with positive thoughts to clear my head and get closer to recovery. I'll rattle them off right now.
1. There will always be somebody new. You refuse to believe this when you've had your heart broken, but there is always someone else who turns up, who makes you totally forget about the heartbreaker, and will make you wonder what is was you got so worked up about.
2. She will think back on her decision at one point in her life and wonder what could have been. Unless you threatened to kill her, or made her absolutely hate you, this goes without exception. All women eventually question their decisions in life and can only wonder what it would have been for them. This goes for all human beings as a matter of fact.
3. You're young. It's not like your life is over, just because you're in a bad place, emotionally right now. Think ahead- well ahead- to 35 years from now when you're at your son or your daughter's wedding and you feel like the happiest man on Earth. A moment like that in your life is worth waiting for, and will make this brief period of sorrow seem absurd and inconsequential.
And most important of all, remember this.
4. The one who rejected you is losing something as well. She is losing you. Just because she made the decision to end things, it doesn't mean she walks away whole as if nothing happened. She will only notice that loss when she starts feeling empty, or when she starts dating a guy who will make her regret leaving you, whichever comes first. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/7/2009 5:44:24 PM | The best thing for you to do would be to keep busy. Hang out with some old friends, find some new hobbies, etc. Do your best not to dwell on the matter.
And when you do think of her...don't think about how much you miss her. Think about the things she may have done that you didn't like. Try and think of reasons why its best you two are not together...always works for me. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:00:55 PM | 'cut all ties' may be good advise but I've never tried it and things work out fine keeping in touch as long as you're not haunting.
Thirteen years back I worked with a girl who looked precisely like Ariel from the littlest mermaid, but she liked translucent clothing and dating married guys. That turned out great and was very entertaining for my buds (they'd charge up huge bills on her tab then ditch -- or attack her **** in public) --- then things soured and she moved on, but not really. We still hung out a lot, she'd drop by my place, we didn't get back together exactly but during a friends marriage she insisted I share her kingsized bed, lots of seriously oddball stuff like that (her boyfriends were insane about our situation - one threatened to kill all her exs). The long decline of the relationship eased some of the heartbreak for both of us - and maybe it might not have been meant to be.
I doubt there's many opportunities to have a breakup turn into something else that's new and interesting on its own, and maybe the girls are right about 'treat him like he's died'-- but I'm very happy with the way that went. Real is good. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/9/2009 12:30:58 AM | One last thought.
It's hard to objectively contemplate when you're wounded, but the person who does not love you back, wills you to go out and find someone else.
You should view it that they support you going your own way and finding somebody better. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/9/2009 12:40:24 AM | So sorry for you sadness and pain. Just go with the flow, how your feeling is normal and part of the healing process. Surround yourself with good friends and family for support, keep yourself active and your mind busy participating in activities you enjoy. Unfortunately breakups are part of life, they suck, but we can learn from them and grow  | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/9/2009 12:55:56 AM | | Brother, the best way to heal anything, especially a broken heart, is to simply disconnect from the world and create your own life per se. Dig into work, dig into yourself (if you get dumped there's normally a tangible reason, find it, deal with it, fix it), and dig into things that make you who you are thus giving you a lil more passion and dedication to life and it's vast array of purposes. There's so much to life, it's truly short but beautiful, that sometimes the best route is to just go within yourself for a bit. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:25:00 AM | Well, you didn't say how long you were seeing this girl. But usually, for instance, if you were seeing her for a year, it will take about that long without her to start feeling like yourself again. Don't rush it. The more pressure you put on yourself to 'get over it' the
longer it will take. Instead, try to make note of how long you go without thinking of her.
For example, go out and do something you like to do, probably something you neglected to do for yourself because your relationship with her got in the way. You might find that you didn't think of her for an hour or two, to start. Be kind to yourself and pat yourself on your own back for your accomplishment. The next time, you might notice you didn't think of her for four to six hours. And the next time, maybe eight to ten hours and so on. Until it goes into a day or two. Then a week or two. Then voila! You'll turn around one day and notice you haven't thought about her for months. The funny thing about situations like this is that once you feel yourself 'free'. That's when they decide to come back and say they're sorry and want another chance. That will be your test. If you can say, 'nicely' sorry, but, I've moved on. Then you'll be cured. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:32:28 AM | I just became immersed in my work, my pets, my friends, books, and then I felt better. Now, I just shoot pool and listen to music or dance. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:42:33 AM | And yet this thread survives while many a more valid one ceases to see the bright light of day - careful wicked tread the line, he muses whilst munching muffins galore in the manner known as bemused and bewildered
Still, tis normal for one to like the other on the adage known as unfair equilibrium and time is a good healer so they say
Not that any of us have an inclining as to who they be :O
Meh, lines are to be stomped upon, much like hearts
Shes no interested let her go.If no-one(her) dosnt want you this is pretty clear
Why on earth to people insist on wanting someone who dosnt want them (insanity reasons aside)
let her go and find someone who loves you for you. | |
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| Tips on how to heal a broken heart
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:49:59 AM | If reincarnation is true, we are screwed. How many times do we have to come back and revisit various types of pain just to learn a lesson in life? The buck stops here, and I mean it this time!    | |
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