| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 5:26:05 AM |
It's not glancing that he is doing it is staring.
... He has been doing this in a more obvious way lately.
If it's staring and not just glancing, then you must be staring at him in order to determine this. If it's OK for you to stare, then why not him?
Perhaps his behavior is his way of asserting some small level of symbolic independence against your too-close supervision.
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 5:31:47 AM | come on ladies.... We all know that blatantly checking out other women by your date is totally disrespectful to us. We need to either appreciate the fact he IS out with you and not the one he is oogling at. He did choose you first.
If you dont like it you do have options.
you can always embarass him by either handing him a napkin to wipe his drool
you can say... " should i go over there and break the ice for you?"
you can say yeah she is gorgeous maybe shes my type?
you can always mention the fact that the green grass on the other side of the fence may be astro turf.
but whatever you do you need to realize hes a man and that's just in their nature.non shalontly blowing it off , recognizing it, or discrete embarrassment that you noticed the unacceptable behavior without making a scene usually quells it.
It has been my experience that some men do this behavior intentionally just to verify their date/you, are paying attention to them. they want you to catch them oogling another woman. Its all about the catch and reeling a 50# fish in on 8lb test line. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 5:45:33 AM |
come on ladies.... We all know that blatantly checking out other women by your date is totally disrespectful to us. We need to either appreciate the fact he IS out with you and not the one he is oogling at. He did choose you first.
This makes no sense to me... if all we ladies know that its totally disrespectful to us, then why on earth should I appreciate the fact that this disrespectful man chose me to go out with?
Seems more sensible to not appreciate disrespect, or the disrespector.
Am I supposed to be grateful that some drooling cloth head decided he'd go out with me then disrespect me by ogling other women?
Nope, makes no sense.
G. x | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 8:29:14 AM | I can appreciate the beauty of women...I have no problem in fun only...occasionally if the mood is right....checking out hot chicks/hot men with my guy...or what fantacys may be hiding in the shadows...I know he's my man and I'm taking care of him and vise versa. Being too obvious can be embarressing and disrepectful. If we are honest with ourselves it would be a lie to say we don't notice Peoples "looks". Ive' been known to browse through Playboy magazines before!!! If you've ever watched an adult movie...do you only check out the same sex person in the movie? Personally I think they are lame!!!
Openess is not too much to me. However, if it gets to the point where it's constant, every female we see and of every age...constant sexual remarks about every hot chick on tv...constantly talking about wanting to do the hot neighbor lady or your kids moms...giving off vibes to females that he wants to do her....blah blah blah...then it is way too much and not in fun play anylonger....that kind of guy has issues and I wouldn't want to be with him.
We all want to be "the only one" for our guy. So, if he's doing his job he will make sure you feel and know this. I would tell your husband to wear sunglasses!!! It sounds like you are clearly upset about this situation...communicate with him. Did he do this before you married him???? | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 8:42:54 AM | That is most disrespectful we all know men check out pretty girls when they are not around you but to blanantly stare at anything pretty is bound to make yoou feel insecure and like his sending the message he is looking at better...If he is unable to control his primal instincts around you...refuse to go out with hijm together..saying you are not happy with how it makes you feel and like with any other situation that makes someone repeatedly unhappy you learn to avoid it
Then it is up to him to change..or not..see friend go out with anyone but him if he keeps on | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 8:50:08 AM | "Does he know it bothers you? why not tell him what youi're feeling'
If he has that low EI that he does not know how that would make his own wife feel then prehaps he will if she starts eyes up with mouth open every fit bloke she comes arcoss
See how that makes HI M feel for understanding the situation in idiotproof manner | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:05:44 AM | | Both men and women look at people. If your man is STARING or making comments about other women, then tell him that it bothers you ! Or better yet, when he does it, and you want to make a point, make it obvious and look at guys !!! Make it REALLY obvious, turn your head as the guy walks by, say things, and then tell your man how it makes you feel when he does it to you. Ask him how he felt . Talk about it !! Men just "look" more obviously then women do. It's the caveman thing. By the way, if it REALLY bothers you, get up and leave the restaurant or wherever you are. Maybe then he'll get the point. You don't have to take it. Bad manners is bad manners. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:19:43 AM | Just want to add one thing...hope it wont stir the pot to much lol
Has anyone noticed that she is married and still on POF? now had this been a guy in here complaining about his wife , married only for a year. Im sure he would have been chewed out by now for being married and having a POF account.
How come woman can get away with it but men can't.
and why does OP choose to ignore all of us with our so called words of wisdom lol
shes busy fishing guys lol figure it out ! | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 12:42:37 PM | Nice turn-around Goodewitch.
First your preaching the Arm-pit hair movement, coining terms like "Brain washing" and aggressively addressing percieved male double standards....
only to follow up by shifting to feigned therapist mode, treating me as if I shared your emotional state or perception of the opposite gender.
I seem distrustful and bitter towards the opposite sex?
I invite you to reread your original content that inspired by initial response :)
But as a typical guy I guess this is where I'd feel challenged, get frazzled, allow my emotions to clutter my thinking and becoming inconsistent in my communication?
Maybe?
Yes?
Oh.. nope .. sorry....
Or maybe I'm just a contempary man who's observed the pattern of reverse sexism that has subtly gripped our society, especially many females, who in turn excuse their behavior,
their double standards,
their sexist choices and views,
their prejudices and hang-ups,
and filter them as "female empowerment"....
while attempting to emotionally and psychologically brow-beat any man who dares to question the status quo?
Sorry, but ladies are just as individually flawed and capable of being collectively mislead just like men ....
In closing .... If women ruled the world ... there would be no war ....... because everyone would have already been assassinated.
:)
Bitter, no.. I've just learn to never unders-estimate your gender and recognize your inherit strengths :)
Oh PS: ... Now a days MEN are worse then WOMEN for sexaully objectify, in any form, the opposite gender?
Really?
We still believe that?
Or maybe thats the only group of people your filter allows you to notice? | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 12:46:28 PM | But hey .. SEX IN THE CITY ..... thats all about girl power....... and equality... and gender respect......
(If guys made a male equivilant movie, it would be called "sexist" like "Knocked Up" was lol) | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 6/30/2009 2:04:14 PM | I sure don't want to sound negitive or bitter, but I have to speak up and say that you probably shouldn't take this lightly.
First, is communication - let him know that it bothers you.
Beyond that is my story, my ex-husband did that same thing from day one. It never bothered me, I was emotionally secure and not the jealous type. I learned a hard lesson... he was looking because he was willing to cheat. He loved me and never wanted a divorce, but he saw nothing wrong with sleeping with any woman who would open her legs.
I pray your husband isn't like mine was, and if he is - please don't wait 12 years to figure it out. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:02:20 AM | This reason that I am on here is not to look for guys, I am on here to get people's opinion and advice.
That's why I do not have a picture. This is just to be involved in the forums. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 7/1/2009 9:04:05 AM | | Your husband doesn't know these other girls, but he does know you. My guess is that he does know you well enough to know this upsets you, and I reckon if he's still staring he's doing it to wind you up. Also, what hasn't been touched on here is that it's humiliating for you. These gorgeous girls probably know full well your husband is staring at them, and I believe, if they're in the same circle as you, they will talk about his behaviour, and that's downright embarrassing. It has been mentioned that he probably wouldn't do anything about his attraction when you're sat right beside him, but what about when he's at work, in town on his own, at the gym alone? Brings to mind the celebrity equivalent of this scenario - Posh and Becks. Every pic of them seems to feature Becks' eyes everywhere but on his wife. How I would love for Posh to be seen about town with a gorgeous male friend, but instead of that she seems to be getting more miserable looking by the day. I guess it's proof that a handsome husband and lots of money don't equal automatic happiness. I don't like this sort of behaviour - it is disrespectful and demeaning, and people have said what's good for the goose is good for the gander, but why should you have to play games? | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:07:49 PM | | What are doing on a dating service when you are married? You should be talking to a marriage counselor or your pastor/preacher. Maybe he, your husband, is looking because, you are looking. Personally, I think both men and women look at others. Truthfully, I think women are much bigger critcs of other women that men ever have been. Straight men rarely look at other men. We definetly look at other women though. I do agree that staring at another woman when you are on a date is rude though. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:21:04 PM | shoot I point out hot girls to my mate. They are men...they are going to look. Beauty is to be seen, not to be ignored.
I also look at hot men...even when I am with someone. I don't dream about them. I don't think about them past the initial look. I don't express a dsire to fuque them. As long as he doesn't do any of the aformentioned then I don't think you should really care.
Next time you see a pretty girl...point her out to him! | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:52:00 PM | | marriage is to stay together through sickness and health, for better or for worse, looking at chicks and not looking at chicks, ya know. you took the oath and swore by it, now you need to deal with whatever comes between you together. you better love his woman staring ways or divorce him | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:16:28 PM | If his heart is viewing them as works of art, satisfied with the prize in his private gallery, behaves accordingly--no worries.
If his heart is viewing with lust and covetuousness, behaves accordingly--worry.
It's one thing to appreciate art, quite another to collect it. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:34:12 PM | He did it before you married so you stfu and deal with who you married instead of signing a contract and then ****ing about the terms after the fact.
Women like you is why fewer and fewer men get married. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:44:06 PM | Jealousy is a petty, destructive emotion. Having a relationship with a jealous person is tough. The jealous person acts untrusting or unworthy. Jealousy can make a person unattractive, even repulsive.
I think that men and women are programmed to look at the opposite sex, even when they are satisfied with the partner. It is a biological imperative that women and men are constantly evaluating other potential partners, but it's not an indication of unfaithfulness. You can't avoid it - it is like experiencing hunger or anger. Jealousy is a symptom of another problem or insecurity.
Even if you think they are irrational, talk to your partner about your issues. Merely looking at someone is a fairly insignificant issue. If you can find a way or a process to love or care for people unconditionally, you can find a path out of jealousy. Love your family and friends. Seek out random acts of kindness towards strangers. Read some buddhist texts etc. These processes all work, and although I've not perfected it, I've worked hard to eliminate jealousy from my life...
G'Luck......... | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:40:38 PM | | The fact that it bothers you is perfectly normal. Tell him that he's disrespecting you. Tell him to stop. Especially right in front of you. All of us check out the opposite sex, however, if you're married or in a committed relationship, you should show the other person some respect and not do it in right in front of them. He's being particularly rude. Tell him. That will show him that you respect yourself to expect him to respect you. | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:30:04 PM | You married a man and then you ask him to quit being one is a petty jealous waste of time and you will probably not like it if get what you want
look at guys ignore it and go on with life or raise hell about it until your toting his balls around in your purse then you can wonder what happened to the man you married | |
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| When your man checks out other girls
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:57:40 PM | OP, some men actually know how to enjoy another woman's beauty without making it obvious or making your uncomfortable in the process.
Your man is a d*ck with very limited discretion.
But he's your problem, not mine.
If he were mine, I'd send him to respect school after I packed his bags.
It's got nothing to do with having a man's "nuts" in a sling. It's got to do with respect.
Some men are just fecking idiots. | |
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