| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:58:03 PM | | Nope....Sex is great...NEVER a problem. I never ask a guy to change nore provide for me...I take care of my damn self. I dont care if he goes out. ...im not here to control his life....just be a part of it. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/26/2009 10:40:35 PM | Here are 2 good reads for you. "He's Just Not That Into You" and "Boundries for Dating".
It is not you. Many times it is the guys insecurities, and many times he's just the wrong guy.
If a man leaves and comes back with the "I made a mistake"...RUN!!! It is just an EXCUSE that both men & women use to woo their way back in.
If someone is into you and they become unsure about the relationship, they will communicate that to you. So, with that, if they leave you for someone else, only to turn around and come back apologizing....remember this: excuses=weakness
honesty=integrity
Unfortunately people are afraid to be honest. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:28:22 AM | The reason they try to come back is they get horny. They miss the sex. Most men do this once they breakup with a woman. Forget what they say, they want a booty call.
As for why they leave read the book Women Men Love, Women Men Leave
It spells it out better than I can here. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:14:43 AM | Three thoughts Zsaoosh,
1. Are you vocal about commitment in month 7? You mention relationships being fun and easy up till then, do you suddenly crank it up a gear?
2. Are you dating stinking civilians who don't understand our quaint Military ways , which we do tend to carry into our personal relations? errr *cough* so I understand
3. Ignore all approaches by exes. They're in the past . Move onwards and upwards | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:41:47 AM | first of all you are causing this drama; if you are choosing guys that are not over their ex's, then its on you too.
Also it gets tiresome when girls say, "but he said...". I guess if they said they had billions of dollars it's true because they said it right? I wasnt' born yesterday. If guys blow you off for others then they are not into you.
In your age group it's hard to date; women and men cheat like there is no tomorrow then say some crap to make them look better. Sounds like these 3 guys want girls that they can hook up with once in a while. If it was so magical with you, believe me they would stay. They just want multiple girls and they get bored easy.
I think you need to stop the nonsense of listening to cheaters and people with poor character and look at their actions. And stop falling for corny lines and what they said. Actions speak louder than words. You are being naive I think and in a big way.
The answer lies within. Choose better guys and don't be fooled by a cute smile and sweet words. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:43:21 AM | LOL; and stop it; Never once have I ever heard a girl say the sex was not good on these posts. too funny. How do you know? Oh they told you. lol;
I think you have some growing up to do and you need to choose better. If the sex was so great, you were so amazing, and it was so magical, they wouldn't go back to their scummy other girls. lol
Look at the actions. You hear what you want to hear and then go by that. Actions speak louder than words. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:19:33 PM |
2. Are you dating stinking civilians who don't understand our quaint Military ways , which we do tend to carry into our personal relations? errr *cough* so I understand
Your joking right?? LMAO @ this. I was in the marines and work was left at work. Homelife was left at home. If YOU as a person (male or female) cannot seperate the 2 then you shouldnt be trying to commit unless its to another person in the armed services. Give me a break pal.
On a side note. I dont think the army would appreciate you wearing your camo on a dating website. You should know better! 
Somewhere in here I seen a woman say men dont like strong women?? Come now let us start using the term "some" or something along those lines. I like strong women.
Also, I seen somewhere that someone say that men like ****y women. Refer to the above statement please. Keep the ****es where they belong - in heat
Anyways, back to the OP -- sometimes military life and dating can be difficult. Trust me I know. 1 failed marriage while I was in the marines left a sour taste in my mouth.
There HAS to be something that we are missing. If all is so well why are these men leaving.
You mention relationships being fun and easy up till then, do you suddenly crank it up a gear?
This is my question. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:03:01 PM | The stinking civilian reference was irony, hence the 'stinking civilians' bit. Dating inside your unit sucks for cohesion, we all know that :)
Good point on Camo, which is why there are no id badges or weapons in the shots ;)
But you picked out the point I really wanted to make , which is I think, where the problem lies MP.. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:49:25 PM | OP, I'm not implying anything here I'm just using this as an analogy for the POF website.
When men go fishing many of them follow a 'Catch and Release' policy, and some follow it strictly because they may catch a 'better' fish with different bait. Yet they may wish they had never thrown that one fish away, and remember it often.
With that, men will always compare fish to other fish, and some will wish they could still have that fish but already threw it back and are worried it will not bit again.
So although these men think of you, they like to leave you hanging because men like to fish and always feel the need to because one fish can only satisfy for so long.
Some women can be the best fish out there, but with there being so many choices, men may decide out of the blue to get rid of one and go out fishing again. Some may bring their buddies along to brag when one fish stays on the hook or bites again, its an ego thing.
So when this happens, don't think twice about it, put out your bait and let them know, you don't care about them, they only want you to keep dangling on the hook.
Guys, I know women do this too, I'm not singling you out.
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:37:49 PM | I believe in the idea that if something is too good to be true it is just that. Too good to be true.
OP, this may be the case with you. If you are too good, if your S.O. can't find anything wrong with you after 7 months there's a good chance they'll get scared and run. Then realizing the mistake they made (tragic to them) they come running back.
There seems to be a lot of good responses here already and some crap ones as always too. With that in mind I'll quote a Japanese saying:
"Human beings, when facing great happiness will become very afraid. Taking hold of happiness takes more courage than perseverance of suffering."
In other words it's easier to be miserable and stay with what you know than risk it on being truly happy. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:47:00 PM | | I totally agree. Another thing that makes it tricky is that often times, the woman or the man might say they want one thing when they actually want another. If they are not sure what they want, it's tough for the person they are courting to know. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:49:20 PM | Right on the money w/ the honesty=integity.
Yes, and many people are afraid.
Often times, we are our own worst enemy and we don't even know that we are getting in our own way. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:23:35 AM | Same thing ALWAYS happens to me. Always always lol. They say they've never felt that way before then they ump
me but the never get over me. It's years on now and they're still wanting me back.
Guys are strange like that. | |
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| Why do they all pull away?
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:55:32 AM | | Don`t worry about it until you`re 30. just keep having fun now. you`ll only be truly single once. | |
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