| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:01:35 AM | | i find it hard to get aong with guy that have no kids. guys find it hard to accepet that i evem have 2 kids. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:24:58 AM | I am a 39 year old single mom of a soon to be 15 year old son. I have been looking for soneone for ME for a long time now and have had no luck. I prefer a single father over a guy who doesn' t have kids. However, the guys that I have met have not been very nice, or are just not interested in someone like me who isn't all that attractive and has a few physical flaws. They take one look at my picture and find out that I have a few missing teeth and become disinterested. They don't even take the time to get to know me, because if they did they would find a beautiful person on the inside. Any advice? I can't afford to get my teeth fixed right now, and am tired of being alone or meeting the wrong type of men. What am I don't wrong?  | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:09:11 AM | | Alright if thats what she said then I agree. Girls w/o kids tend to be a little annoying too, as the little things tend to bother them so much. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:18:49 AM | | Are you sure it's the kids. You said that your spelling is bad for reasons that no one could understand. I'm not trying to be offending, however I must ask, Do you talk the way you spell? | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 1:57:32 PM | I think i like single fathers better because they can understand and appreciate, that i take care of my two kids, i was young when i had them and had to grow up quickly, the same as a dad who has full custody of there child(ren), also because most guys who don't already have kids want a family of there own children of there blood and im not sure if i'm interested in starting over again with another infant.
(and if she can't spell for other reasons and you don't like it just move on to the next comment, o reason to go overit over again)
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:12:57 PM | ~Cass~ I totally agree with you as well.
Plus men that are single parents understand the responsibility that comes along as being a single parent and hopefully understand that we can't just drop everything at a moments notice, as to where a man that has no children would most likely never understand. Just my opinion and I am not saying all men with no children are that way.. I was just saying some are that way. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:08:08 PM | | ive been single now for 2 years now, and everytime i meet someone and they find out i have kids or cant have them they run! Why? my kids are my life and they have to be accepted also if you want to be with me! | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:31:35 PM | | just my 2 cents worth...I have had full custody of my 10 yr old daughter for the last nine years. I have found over and over again the women who do not want to date a single dad are usually the same self centered P.O.S. women that leave the kids in the first place. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:02:22 PM | | I agree that single parents probably have a lot more common ground from which to understand each other better - but the price for that is having so much more chemistry involved to deal with... Do the various kids like the other partner, do the kids like each other, do the parenting styles match, etc? | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/29/2009 4:53:23 AM | just my 2 cents worth...I have had full custody of my 10 yr old daughter for the last nine years. I have found over and over again the women who do not want to date a single dad are usually the same self centered P.O.S. women that leave the kids in the first place.
one of the reason i look for a single parent, i have a much high respect for a full time father who understands what a full time mother goes thru, if you are finding girls who eventually don't want to be part of your childrens life then you are chasing the wrong kind of girl!!
and yes it may be a bit of a change to have your children approve who you date and then have to compromise how you care for your child and or the other person too, but a good relationship is about compromise and communication, and if thats waht you are looking for in the end it will work out | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/29/2009 6:40:51 PM | | no, i talk bette then i spell thanks and way cuase i have a block menorey from when i was raped when i was little and yeah did offened me cause u didnt know the reason why i cant spell good and now u know. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:50:31 PM | Your a little psycho;
"fater almost killed both of them twice while i was pregent with the and then my frist girl got hurt a few times until 9 months old thats when "
I don't know about that prison colony there, but here it's illegal to say sh*t like that w/out any proof. Who'd let you near their kids if you let your own get hurt??!!! Never mind you'll prob. bust out some drama or accusations later-even if you do find someone wanting to move in second and reap where another man has sown. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:08:58 PM | | Me being a single parent of 2 I feel your pain. It's tough cause there are also a lot of other decisions. Like when to introduce the kids and stuff. I also found that women with teenage kids can be tough too, because their kids are not as dependant on them like the little ones I have. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:21:07 PM | | yeah it's trueonce the children get older it is harder to integrate the families, when my mother married my step father i was only seven but my sister was fifteen and did not like the fact that there would be three more children around, ended up stealing his car and trying to run him off, but he loves my mother and delt with it, took control and my parents are still together 20 yrs later,im looking for someone like that that can be patient and want to be with me and love my children no matter what as well as i would of him and his children | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 10:54:09 PM | I have to first say Kudo's to all of you single parents, my hat is off in recognition of the lives you live and what you sacrifice for your children. I also am a single dad and totally love it, lost quite a few women because of my decision to be one but my life is better off without them.
There are alot of times when we feel like the "odd duck" but in spite of it there are members of the opposite sex that have good compassionate hearts and can be excellent step parents. Don't give up just be selective, and whatever you do protect those kido's.
I am very encouraged by what you have all written, I am not such an odd duck after all.
Good luck to you all!
Prurientfella.... (means curious fella) | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/30/2009 12:00:03 AM | | u can believe want u want to. i was working two jobs when all of it happened and now its been two and a half years i've been single for cause i dont trust men. i left him twice befor i fully left him cause he did the whole lay thing to me saying he'll change. i tryed to leave but now they dont have a father or a dad just me. and im not a psycho and u have no right to call me that. and yes there is prof. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 6/30/2009 2:50:20 AM | Hi an yes we al like perfect sentences but we all when type here not bothered about perfect sentence as i am not..so ignore the others please..next is that be yourself an meet an chat to pple an then maybe you will find th eman of your life b eit as a frnds or frnds of frnds but do not restrict or hinder urself..you just ned be careful who oyu meet especially if going start a relationship to make sure that person is there for themself then you and th ebaby an not try be daddy but be true frnd partner companion then love rif it goes that way..so hang in there lady an yes we cna chat as frnds ye si will like meet nice lady an settle again but i iant rush i on this site to meet pple an maybe meet my soul mate in the proces si fnot the at least i hope i wil lmeet som egood pple to be good lasting frnds..
hook me if you wish i got no issues and ask nothing not criticis enor condemn you either we all human an make mistakes an dbest to have a frnd who will guide an chat be true frnd comapnion if it gies further then so but fo rme i say lets be frnds..ok an have a nic eday  | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 3:06:35 AM | | cool hey saw ur profile and figured im the man so hope to hear from u | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 7/6/2009 6:53:06 PM | we all know what you are trying to send,message.i also am a single dad and can so relate to single mothers,women who dont have kids think they know but are far from the reality of the kids world,understanding.
Single dads also id say have to find the balance of future wife/girl etc and also kids so they would be more cautious as far as introducing women to kids bla bla.
Overall i must say that honestly it would be alot harder for a single mum to find a guy because of society,pressures,looking good but i guess its a confidence thing totally and if they get the negative thing out of their head which can arrise,look at the positives and things that keep you smiling like kids : )
Keep options always open single dads or not there is the ultimate partner out there !
Godd luck : ) | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:58:58 AM | | im sorry 2 say but u cant alway chose ur childs dad. like mine some pregnances r unplanned. and some times like me they dont want a father for the child just a friend and a partner for them selfs. while i wish i could have chosen the father of my child im glad the real father wants nothing 2 do with us. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:02:24 AM | | if guys dont want 2 take the time 2 know u then thats there loss. keep ur chin up and u will find someone. u still have plaenty of time 2 find a good man. good luck. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:06:10 AM |  you got one here ; ive stood up for almost 24 years. what do you need? | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:16:39 AM | drak, reading your profile and reading your posts, you sound like a woman who is hoping that a man will be the answer to all your problems. While there are some men around who will gladly be your "knight in shining armour", there may be a price attached to it that you don't want to pay for that "protection". One thing I have noticed about men is that they generally don't want to "take care" of a woman who is needy on many levels and to be honest, I do not blame them.
You are a beautiful woman who seems to have had a very difficult life. You can provide most of what you seem to want a man to do for you, but you need to have some faith in yourself and be willing to work hard. Achieving some degree of independence (less emotionally needy for example) will make you more attractive to many more men. You will attract a higher quality of a man as well.
Men who want to be your "knight in shining armour" may prefer to assume that role because it gives them power over you. Be aware of the risks associated with these types of men and choose wisely or you are in for a world of hurt yet to come. | |
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| looking for a single dad
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:48:18 AM |
while i wish i could have chosen the father of my child im glad the real father wants nothing 2 do with us.
I am so sorry that you were sexually abused, but saying you are glad that your child's father doesn't want anything to do with his child is very selfish. A child's bond with their father is incredibly important. | |
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