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| | Does chemistry happen immediately?Page 5 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | Yup, very important aspect. Most often the determining factor on future developments. We can chat and chat and chat, both online and on the phone, but it's only when we're able to evaluate the chemistry generated during an initial meeting, that will set in our minds to the direction one would wish to guide the experience towards. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 7:56:17 AM | I agree with some of the other posts that chemistry and attraction are two different things. Yes, I have had instant attraction attacks and they are wonderful. I've had them lead from just a quick meeting to an afternoon spent talking to dinner an onward. Nice!
Chemistry has to set in once the attraction part is broken in. Then comes the part of compatibality etc. That takes more time and is the most important of all.
Attraction to me is not what it was when I was younger. I look for someone who I think I would enjoy being with in numerous ways, not just what they look like. The chemistry part. I look for someone I can talk to, have fun with, is affectionate, intelligent etc. Instead of a narrow view of what I wanted and would accept when I was younger, that view is now quite wide. Much more open and accepting, as it should be. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 7:41:44 PM | I think every one is placing there own def. on chemistry. chemistry is a phisical atraction, that atraction can be visual and or mental and even verbal. two people meeting for the firast time have to have a reason to meet the second time. hence i think people at this age evaluate better than they did years ago. i think years ago we thought from our crouch, both men and women. but now i think responsable adults think from the brain. i was once told by a wize tail by a 90 year old women. she said to many people forget that you can love some one with out being in love with them. loveing is short results. being in love with some one does take time and nuturing.
so in a word i personely believe that you can tell in just a few minutes that,
(a) you like some one or ( b) you dont like some one. like going to an interview for the first time. as they say first impresion usually makes and or breaks the deal.
so i believe in chemistry and should no with in a few minutes. That is allso taking into concideration you no what you are wanting and looking for, from a relationship | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 7:56:51 PM | I think my definition of chemistry is odd,,,
it's not based on looks or physique
not based on smell or touch
I can look at someone for a brief moment and have a feeling for their personality and I'm not talking about pictures, I mean in person and up close. It's a sense that I can't describe. I know people have bad days and you can feel it. If I were to approach a woman that may have a look of cranky and I say something stupid, goofy or sympathetic,,,depending on what I see (pain, sorrow, anger) their reaction tells me the rest.
I wish I could explain it better but I guess what I'm trying to relay is the personality is what I have a "chemistry" with,,, and yes, that can develope sort of quickly,,,
Love and attraction physically are totally different for me,,,
chemistry to me is the beauty that is the person,,, not the shell,,,, | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 8:51:47 PM | Does chemistry happen immediately?
It may and it may not. I had a great rush upon seeing someone the first time yet the other may be unaware of my emotions. Also I had known some lady for a while and at a certain moment my world may start to spin on me.
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Posted: 8/6/2009 5:38:28 AM | Yes it can happen immediately...First time I met him, I was weak in the knees, couldn't keep from touching his arm or hand. I felt like a darn teenager..and I'm 60. I felt it was like magic..
And after a month, I feel the same way when I see him or hear from him. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 7:57:45 AM | OP for me, it's either there or it's not. When I started dating again around 4 years ago, I followed the "conventional wisdom" that you should go out with someone a few times, to see if something's there. All that led to, in my case, was having some very nice, good men getting all gaga over me - and me eventually having to say, I'm sorry this isn't working for me. I hate doing that...LOL, the psychologist I work for has diagnosed me as "having too much heart"...but truly I do hate to hurt anyone's feelings.
If it's not there at the first meet, I'm done. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 6:01:48 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Me chere amie,
Can you imagine how many wonderful men you walked away from because you are unwilling to get to know them who could have been your soul mate? WOW!!!!
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Posted: 8/7/2009 11:18:36 AM |
When both parties are over 45, does chemistry happen immediately, or can it build over time? What do you think?
I believe that as we get older, immediate chemistry might not be as important as we were in our twenties. However, some new friendships just SIZZLE right from the start.
"Chemistry", by definition, IS INSTANTANEOUS, and INVOLUNTARY.
What people call 'Chemistry' is actually a release of brain chemicals (hence the term 'Chemistry') in the brain.
Those chemical compounds/hormones are called 'Endorphins',
And are usually triggered by 'Smell' (Pheromones) or visual stimulus (hot looking guy/girl), and sometime by sound (Voice that just resonates with you)...
Two problems with that right now,
1. As we get older, our hormones/brain chemistry balances, so we don't have that 'Rush' as easily,
2. As you become accustomed to someone, the 'Rush' lessons every time until it's just not there anymore.
So that's why relationships FIZZLE over time when based on primal urges or 'Chemistry'.
That's why some people are like sharks, keep moving for the next 'Rush', or 'die' in a relationship the 'Zip' has gone out of.
These relationships often turn UGLY when the parties replace the 'Rush' of fighting with the 'Rush' of lust or chemistry.
On the other hand, if you have a relationship that is based on trust, common interests, ect.
Like getting to know someone at work before you engage in a relationship,
Usually last MUCH longer than relationships formed in 'Lust' rather than love.
I'm not trying to make any religious or moral points here, the heart wants what the heart wants, and if you want the 'Rush' of 'Chemistry' then by all means, pursue that goal, just don't confuse the two... | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 3:16:12 PM | I think there are two kinds of chemistry. One based on initial attraction, one that develops over time. But I don't think initial chemistry is entirely based on looks, either.
Haven't we all had the experience of seeing someone we thought was hot, only to approach them and discover within the first few minutes that there was just nothing there? Much as you wanted to like them, they were just empty, or boorish, or vulgar, or whatever it is that turns you off.
And haven't a lot of us had the experience of being around someone who was just..."there" initially? Have you known someone at the office, someone at school, and over time, usualy not even quite sure how, you started realizing you looked for them at the usual places and were disappointed when they weren't there? When they called in sick that day, you realized you missed them being there. And you realized you were concerned about them.
But I do think that whether or not there is ANY chemistry is something you can tell relatively quickly. Though perhaps not always on a first date, when someone may not be their most at ease, their most natural, their most "authentic" self. | |
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