| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/26/2009 8:59:55 AM | To dixielady40
It's amazing how you decided to only pick and choose few facts that you liked most from that site to tell us about,without mentioning what it says at the end of page 2.
Maybe you did not read it,but this is what it says;
POST CHILD-BIRTH EXERCISES:
There are specific exercises that women can do after childbirth to strengthen and tighten the muscles around the vagina and improve the tone and feeling.
These exercises, called Kegel exercises after the physician who developed them, require the woman to contract the muscles used to stop the flow of urine. The contraction is held for 3-5 seconds, repeated ten times in a series, and the series is usually repeated several times a day. These voluntary contractions can also be done during intercourse, and some women and men find it sexually enhancing | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/26/2009 9:44:07 AM | I would not date a man with 6 kids without a LOT of hesitation and questions.
Why would anyone have 6 kids in a marriage or relationship that was failing?
I dont think it took a whole litter of kids before anyone realized there was problems in paradise. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/26/2009 3:26:11 PM | Ummm..ok pxlife..you got me! LOL  Actually, those can be helpful for many women especially as they get older and/or bear children. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/26/2009 3:58:40 PM | | In my case I prefer someone without kids but I would date someone with one kid. But two or more kids is too much for me since I would like to meet someone without kids that may be open to having a kid. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:07:09 AM | I never really intended for my first comment about looseness to turn this thread into a big flame war.
Allow me to quote myself.
2 She is probably looser than a slip n slide down there. Even if she isn't, I and most men will assume she is.
I even included the possibility that the assumption would be incorrect. Because it is an assumption. Never mind the logic behind it. I will admit that after having a child if a woman takes the proper steps, the after effects on her genitalia will be minimal as in barely noticeable. The assumption came from the logical conclusion that 6 small steps = one noticeable one. And it is an easy enough conclusion to come to.
Now here is the thing. Fact or fiction matters not.
No matter how much people hate it, I represent the majority (NOT ALL) of single guys without kids when it comes to making this snap to conclusion. And weather or not the OP is in fact tighter than when she was a virgin or so lose you can stick your head in there, shout, and hear an echo. is completely irrelevant.
She asked weather or not a guy would date her. And the tight/loose factor IS in fact a concern many single men without children will have. So it counts as a reason regardless of weather or not it is true.
And finally, for me and I assume most men. That concern is in fact the least important. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 2:35:15 AM | I am sorry that men can be superficial.  However, some of the threads here have some points. I am a mother of 2 and it is very hard for me to meet guys and date them because of the fact that I am the only one taking care of my kids. Mind you, I only have 2 children. It would be a nightmare to find a baby sitter for 6. I am grateful for school hours cause I can find time to go out to lunch with the men I meet on here and in another dating site. 
I honestly can understand Justwaiting85 pov. Cause, I sure in hell would not want to date a man with 6 kids. Bad enough I have to deal with my own let alone +6. Yikes! Sorry girls... | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 2:52:29 AM | | Thank you for telling him like it is. He obviously doesn't have a clue on this issue and needs to stay away from anyone with kids. God help the woman that he does date or marry and has kids with. I have 4 kids and am totally amazed at what "some" guys actually think about women with kids. They don't realize how well woman can multi-task, unlike themselves. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:12:45 AM |
Now here is the thing. Fact or fiction matters not.
No matter how much people hate it, I represent the majority (NOT ALL) of single guys without kids when it comes to making this snap to conclusion. And weather or not the OP is in fact tighter than when she was a virgin or so lose you can stick your head in there, shout, and hear an echo. is completely irrelevant.
She asked weather or not a guy would date her. And the tight/loose factor IS in fact a concern many single men without children will have. So it counts as a reason regardless of weather or not it is true.
Fair enough. Thanks for giving us a glimpse into the mysterious workings of the male mind.  | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:33:14 AM |
Thank you for telling him like it is. He obviously doesn't have a clue on this issue and needs to stay away from anyone with kids. God help the woman that he does date or marry and has kids with. I have 4 kids and am totally amazed at what "some" guys actually think about women with kids. They don't realize how well woman can multi-task, unlike themselves.
And you don't realize that your reality doesn't matter at all. What matters is the perception we have of it. And whether you like it or not, such perception is mostly based on experience, ours and our fellow men's.
So the stereotype doesn't apply to a certain single mom?
Excuse me, but SO WHAT? It's the single mom's problem. Not the men's. If she wants to change that perception, she would better work at it herself, instead of complaining because we don't do anything to change it, or because we don't "make the effort" or "take the time" or "see her as an individual".
No fisher ever caught a fish by complaining and demanding it to bite the bait. If they're not biting, perhaps you should improve the bait. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:58:28 AM | i have 4 children 3 witch are learning disabled i have never found problems of dating any one i was in a long term for 4 years im the one that walked away from that relationship i had good reasons but a women or man with 4 or more children shouldnt feel theres no hope theres a person for every one out there you just have to weed the good from the bad and dont give up because youll fine that person one day | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:42:14 AM | Hi,
i read what you posted. wanted to let you know, not all guys are shallow. Children are great. But i think if a man and woman found happyness with each other, nothing should matter.
Take that for what its worth.
coming from a kid at heart! | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:52:47 AM |
No matter how much people hate it, I represent the majority (NOT ALL) of single guys without kids when it comes to making this snap to conclusion. And weather or not the OP is in fact tighter than when she was a virgin or so lose you can stick your head in there, shout, and hear an echo. is completely irrelevant.
She asked weather or not a guy would date her. And the tight/loose factor IS in fact a concern many single men without children will have. So it counts as a reason regardless of weather or not it is true.
And finally, for me and I assume most men. That concern is in fact the least important.
You speak from the perspective of a young man who has no children and has never been with a woman who has had children. People have c-sections, I had three, I was doing stomach crunches within two weeks of having my children and after my third child, I lost so much weight, I was thinner than I was when I was 18 and I was 35 at the time. I know many women who have had three or more children and look fantastic, including a friend who carried four, weighs exactly what she did when she was 18, no loss in muscle tone, etc.
As far as the time issues, did we really read the OP? Involved father means free weekends and/or time during the week when the woman does not have her kids, giving her essentially more free time to devote to building a relationship with someone than a woman with fewer children who has an absent father or a father that is minimally involved with the children.
OP, if this is your scenario and not a hypothetical, I would suggest early on that you say what you did here, there are six childen but they belong to the same man, a man who is financially responsible for his children and an active father so while there are more children than most single mothers, you do have the time to date and/or progress to a relationship.
If I encountered a man who has six kids would I be going whoohoo, where do I sign up? Probably not because with my three, my stepson and seven grandchildren, six kids would probably not be my optimum choice for a mate but I also would not run screaming because of the number of kids. I would find out what kind of father he was to those six kids and what that meant in his life. Some people actually can afford to support numerous children and have the temperament to deal with that many children so the six factor is again, a positive versus the dad with two kids who is a parent when the mood strikes and does not cope well with the demands of children or worse, resents what they perceive as the children stopping them from whatever. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:01:40 AM | a man with six kids? well, i have four... so that would make quite the household full
but if they were nice kids and he was good with them (and of course, i wouldn't be with someone who wasn't) and we could support them all comfortably, then why not
could be a lot of fun 
annnnd we'd never have to rely on anyone else to make up a games quota  | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:20:06 AM | I pity any woman who will ever date you ! how small minded can you be ! I have 4 children and before you ask not all from different fathers and so what if they were because they are small people who have feelings unlike yourself !
as for my body you probably have more stretch marks than i do and as for being loose i think you need to get a grip its probably yours that is to small as any woman who has has children does the right exercise for that but hey you cant enlarge yours big enough even with an opp !!!!!!!
oh and if i did meet someone who said my kids need another dad ? any woman with kids knows they already have a father wether they see them or not what they need is a stable friend | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:45:18 AM |
I pity any woman who will ever date you ! how small minded can you be ! I have 4 children and before you ask not all from different fathers and so what if they were because they are small people who have feelings unlike yourself !
It is not the children's feelings that come into play when a woman has children by many different fathers. It is the maturity, responsibility, self-esteem, morals, etc., etc., of the woman which come into question. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:38:25 PM | | Really it all boils down to $$$$. It is about being able to take on that responsiblity if your not just looking for a bed partner. If you want something that will be long term, then you have to think about sheltering everyone, food, transportation etc. The other stuff comes to mind about shape, and the vigina. Those are more seondary, and at least for body shape unless, a man is blind he can tell right away. Those men tend to avoid plus size women, childern or not. So that perferance has little to do with childern. I don't assume if woman has multipule children that they have multipule fathers. Maybe because I tend to date women closer to my own age. If the woman was in her early 20's it might come to mind. But I can ask in a tactful way? Such as How long have you been divorced/split up? Or what happened between you and the father? People will volenteer if they have multipule daddies or not. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:29:01 AM | why the hell would the womans morals come into question ??????
just because a woman has more than 1 child with more than 1 man doesnt make her morals any less , untill you know why the relationships didnt work then how can you judge , my x husbads liked his fists after i had my child and my second relationship was with a man in the army who liked to cheat and that i suppose is my morals ?????
and yes the childs feeling are my major concern as i do have morals , responsibilty etc i would not like my children involved with a man i do not know very well as i would not have people walking in and out of their lives like that !!!! | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:15:05 AM | | Even before I had my daughter I didnt have a problem if a girl had one kid. I would push it to two kids now these days but I honestly dont think Id go out with someone if they had more then that. One of my best mates was going out with a girl who had five kids so there is actually guys out there who would go out with a girl who had about five kids but I will admit that for both sexes Id say those people are few and far. In my experience I find that alot more women are more closed-minded towards guys who have kids then guys would be towards women with kids which I find quite shocking considering that the vast majory of guys dont have there kids living with them while women do and having kids doesnt effect a mans body the way effects a womens. Doesnt say much about the open-mindedness of the majoriy of woman about guys having kids compared to guys open-mindedness towards women having kids. Ofcourse the closed-minded people we refare to here are ones who have not had kids yet. Maybe ending up on their own with a child or two would then prior open all their closed-minds. Im 34 and all of my mates are in their thirthies aswell so all Ive said here is more then just an opinion, from all my experiences I know Im not far of the exact mark here at all. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:45:53 AM | the number of children is not important when you are dating someone, because during the dating period you are trying to decide if this person is someone you want to spend you life with. if it gets more serious, then that is a matter of logistics, (number of bedroom, bathrooms etc).
In this instance all the children are from one father, they were married and there are no issues, so if I thought there was chemistry between the mother and myself, I would date her.
ps children are a gift not a burden | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:55:48 AM | | at last thanks happy pappy you are right children are a gift and as most women my age do have children its a loss to the small minded blokes cant call them men who wouldnt date a woman with children | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:16:46 AM |
why the hell would the womans morals come into question ??????
just because a woman has more than 1 child with more than 1 man doesnt make her morals any less , untill you know why the relationships didnt work then how can you judge , my x husbads liked his fists after i had my child and my second relationship was with a man in the army who liked to cheat and that i suppose is my morals ?????
and yes the childs feeling are my major concern as i do have morals , responsibilty etc i would not like my children involved with a man i do not know very well as i would not have people walking in and out of their lives like that !!!
First of all, I said many different fathers, not 2. Second of all, I was referring to women who are unwed mothers, and I should have made that more clear. Sorry about that. Thirdly, it is just my opinion, but I think women (and men) who have children when they are unmarried with many different partners have questionable morals.
It is not the children's feelings that come into play when a woman has children by many different fathers. It is the maturity, responsibility, self-esteem, morals, etc., etc., of the woman which come into question.
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:20:37 AM | its a loss to the small minded blokes cant call them men who wouldnt date a woman with children
"They're small minded, I can't call them men, yaddayaddayadda. Why won't any of them want meeeeee???????"
Frankly, after the third time some loser questions your manhood only because you don't want to clean her mess, it gets really old. | |
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