| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:36:30 AM | "why the hell would the womans morals come into question ??????
just because a woman has more than 1 child with more than 1 man doesnt make her morals any less , untill you know why the relationships didnt work then how can you judge , my x husbads liked his fists after i had my child and my second relationship was with a man in the army who liked to cheat and that i suppose is my morals ?????
and yes the childs feeling are my major concern as i do have morals , responsibilty etc i would not like my children involved with a man i do not know very well as i would not have people walking in and out of their lives like that "
Lisa that is why you ask. It doesn't have to do with morals, but with circumstance. Your situation is understandable, whereas, someone else's may not be. I take each person one at a time. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:05:59 AM |
All I can say is.............what a shame. To have brought 6 children into the world but the parent's aren't committed enough to their family to remain together, like the marriage vows go (for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do us part). Children deserve to grow up in a home with a Mom & Dad. I guess though, it's so easy today to just divorce, tear up a family, confuse kids, create instability and having them go back and forth between homes...while both Mommy and Daddy are both looking for new people. Whatever happened to commitment to one's family? Why keep having children if you're not both dedicated to stick it out and keep the family intact?
I agree totally with your entire post. Those are the exact feelings I had, what a shame. So much selfishness.
6 innocent lives thrown into turmoil. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:19:58 AM | All I can say is.............what a shame. To have brought 6 children into the world but the parent's aren't committed enough to their family to remain together, like the marriage vows go (for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do us part). Children deserve to grow up in a home with a Mom & Dad. I guess though, it's so easy today to just divorce, tear up a family, confuse kids, create instability and having them go back and forth between homes...while both Mommy and Daddy are both looking for new people. Whatever happened to commitment to one's family? Why keep having children if you're not both dedicated to stick it out and keep the family intact?
I can give you two reasons why a marriage could fail.
1) One person receives a serious head trauma, and is not the same person they used to be. Depending on where the trama occured it could make a sweet person, into a violent abuser.
2) One of the parents has a mental break down and is a danger to themselves and everyone around them.
Those are just 2 real life examples of why a good marriage can turn bad. It depends on the circumstance one finds themselves in. It may have nothing to do with commitment to the family, but the realization that the family no longer exists because one person is incapable of being a full partner. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:38:27 AM | I can give you two reasons why a marriage could fail.
1) One person receives a serious head trauma, and is not the same person they used to be. Depending on where the trama occured it could make a sweet person, into a violent abuser.
2) One of the parents has a mental break down and is a danger to themselves and everyone around them.
Those are just 2 real life examples of why a good marriage can turn bad. It depends on the circumstance one finds themselves in. It may have nothing to do with commitment to the family, but the realization that the family no longer exists because one person is incapable of being a full partner.
In both of those situations, the people who had trauma or a break down need medical and mental health interventions. If they are that bad they need to be institutionalized. That is far different from the OP, as starrgazerr! just pointed out. Both of those situations are out of the control of the people involved. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:49:33 AM | | There is the assumtion that mother left. Maybe the father said I've had enough of this woman, and parted company. Why are we placing all the blame on the mothers door step? Last time I checked it takes two people to conceive. Maybe the father is the irresponsiable party. Maybe the daily strain become too much for him, and he is a good father on a part-time basis? I hate to bring Jon and Kate up, but it seems dad wanted out. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:15:33 PM | | Sorry Starrgazerr that comment wasn't direct at you. I have read other posts that were more directed to the mother. I understood that you were being generic. I will endevor to be more clear in my posts. Again my apologies if you felt I was directing that at you. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:41:54 PM |
Why keep having children if you're not both dedicated to stick it out and keep the family intact?
My thoughts exactly. Pathetic. 6 kids who will be shipped from one house to another, dealing with thier parents several new relationships and other issues that come along with kids dealing with divorce. Why bother geting married if vows mean so little to you?
There are definatly valid reasons for divorce, such as severe mental or physical disabilities, but we all know those reasons are few and far between as compared with the "irreconsilable differences" most people divorce over. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:46:22 PM |
There is the assumtion that mother left. Maybe the father said I've had enough of this woman, and parted company. Why are we placing all the blame on the mothers door step? Last time I checked it takes two people to conceive. Maybe the father is the irresponsiable party. Maybe the daily strain become too much for him, and he is a good father on a part-time basis? I hate to bring Jon and Kate up, but it seems dad wanted out.
I always thought more people would assume the father left than the mother. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:54:10 PM |
My impression in this thread at least is the mommy left. At least in the type of responses I read. Could be my own bias.
My statement was about divorces with multiple children in general. Sorry, I should have made that clear. Anyway, let's look at the op:
If you met a mom who had 6 children who are all from One Father whom she was married but now divorced but the Father is active in the childrens lives and he takes care of them and there is no issue between The Father and the Mother. Would you consider dating her? Or Would you stay away?
I notice alot of people Judge on the fact of number of kids a women has. Some thoughts that may come to mind. 1. All children are from Different Fathers 2.Baby Daddy Drama or isssues. They think this before actually getting to know someone.But Really cant others try to find out the story before judging. I mean 6 children is alot but it doesnt mean the mother wants a man to take care of her children if the father is active and provides for the children himself.
Just a Thought whats yours?
Hmm, I don't know who left. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 1:11:40 PM | | Going back to the orginal post. I don't think it has much to do with drama issues, or with how many people fathered the childern. It has to do with the long term picture, and support. As for myself I perfer to date people that I think there could be some long term potential. If I were to date someone with 6 childern, plus, my son, that is 7 childern, 2 adults, so 9 people to feed. Then there are those times that I watch my son's half sister so that would be 10 people to feed. It would be hell trying to get a table at a resturant. Then you figure the ages of her childern. Unless, she had them back to back you'd have pre-teens/teens to grade schoolers to feed. That as we know they have very differing appeitites. Then you'd have to have a min. of a 3 bedroom 2 bath home. Even then it would be tight quarters. One for the boys, one for the girls, and then one for you and her. The smallest automobile that you would have to own would have to be a wagon of some sort. More then likely you'd need a mini van or large SUV with a third row. So, you fuel bill increases. You have more people in the house therefore your energy and water consumption increase. When you start looking at it logisitcally like that, it doesn't make much sense to date someone with that many childern. It would take a fourtune to commit to a long term relationship with some with that many childern. That is why I wouldn't date a woman with that many childern, I don't see the long term potential in it. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 1:31:04 PM | Funny how when your in a relationship and you have these kids and you are the faithful wife and you live the "perfect" life its encouraged to have big families. When $$$$ goes south in a marriage and the guy walks away leaving you caring for what was an agreed situation.
What are you suppose to do?
say oh wait we had kids together and you say you can't handle this anymore so you get to move on and go move in with your new girlfriend who only has one kid and I get to play mommy and daddy.
I don't know any GOOD mom that would be happy about the situation but we as woman pick up and move on and love our kids because it's sure not their faults that the dad and mom couldn't get along.
So you won't date a girl that has multiple kids...but yet if you were married and you had one then you had another and another and another would you leave? These are the kind of men that piss me off. You can't handle the fact that a woman can have these kids and not NEED you in their lives.
I sure the hell ain't looking for a dad for my kids or someone who lives in Riss Lake to take care of me and my kids I want a man so that at the end of the day I can have adult time and enjoy being a woman when the kids are asleep. I am not loose down there and I have no problem getting sex when I want it. I am just choosing to find a good man that is up for a challenge....oh there's the problem with these men they can't handle a challenge they just want $$%% to come easily and probably wants someone to take care of them...like moms do!!!! | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 1:49:24 PM | | I thought my arguement for not dating a woman with 6 kids as logical. As far as being married and having more childern. I would take the necessary measures not to have anymore childern then I thought I could handle. Even if that meant getting snipped. I would prob. limit myself to dating a woman with 3 childern. Even then that it's pushing it for me, because I'd might like to have some more biological childern of my own. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 2:30:15 PM |
So you won't date a girl that has multiple kids...but yet if you were married and you had one then you had another and another and another would you leave? These are the kind of men that piss me off. You can't handle the fact that a woman can have these kids and not NEED you in their lives.
Many men feel differently about another man's child than they would feel about their own children. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:55:30 PM | yes, i probably would date her, maybe because i feel she definitely needs the break from the kids! is that wrong?the fact that she has a lot of kids doesn't make her a bad person., and i like kids anyway.enuf said. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:27:45 PM | | Six children would probably be to much for me to handle.I'm not trying to be mean its that I don't think I have what it takes to help with that many. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:37:01 AM | I have had 7 children....natural birth/vaginal birth.
I wear a size 4 in jeans and weigh 135 - 140 ..Everytime I had a baby I would instruct the OB to take an extra stitch or two, lol
Has no one ever heard of KEGALS...KEGALS...KEGALS....(spelling,lol)
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:44:14 PM | | It doesn't always destroy your figure when u have multiple children. Look at Michelle Dugger. Pregnant with number 19 and I happen to think she looks great for having had 19 kids. She's no size 4 but she isn't huge either. | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:57:38 PM | sassysouthernbelle is a great example guys, giving birth doesn't equal bad figure, not taking care of it equals bad figure. 7 kids and still hot, awesome example!! | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:05:45 PM |
The lose assumption come from the fact she has passed 6 children through her vagina. Each probably weighing around 7 pounds.......... I don't know of a man alive with a penis that could come close to comparing to that. If she isn't, it would take some sort of surgical procedure.
That is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Are you really that ignorant? | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:15:25 PM | I have had 7 children....natural birth/vaginal birth.
I wear a size 4 in jeans and weigh 135 - 140 ..Everytime I had a baby I would instruct the OB to take an extra stitch or two, lol
Has no one ever heard of KEGALS...KEGALS...KEGALS....(spelling,lol)
Wow, 7 children! Did you and your husband always want a large family? I cannot imagine getting divorced after having been through so many pregnancies and childbirths with someone. I hope your ex sees the children regularly, for their sake anyway, and also so you can get a break! | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:55:46 PM |
It doesn't always destroy your figure when u have multiple children.
Does it mean that women can't use the "I've given birth" when justifying being fat anymore? | |
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| Would You Date a Women with 6 children?
Posted: 10/24/2009 5:28:39 PM | A single mom with one child has high expectations in light of the responsibility she has.
A single mom with 6 kids would have expectations 6 times higher.
Ask any man who has dated a single mother, and you will find how hard it is to find and devote the needed time to have a sustainable relationship.
Make it 6 times harder on yourself and that guy, and you cannot possibly expect it to be easy unless your last name is Dugger. | |
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