| Differences between American and Colombian Women
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:33:14 AM | I'm still not comfortable with your use of the word "type"
Type as defined in the dictionary...
1. a number of things or persons sharing a particular characteristic, or set of characteristics, that causes them to be regarded as a group, more or less precisely defined or designated; class; category: a criminal of the most vicious type.
2. a thing or person regarded as a member of a class or category; kind; sort (usually fol. by of): This is some type of mushroom.
3. Informal. a person, regarded as reflecting or typifying a certain line of work, environment, etc.: a couple of civil service types.
4. a thing or person that represents perfectly or in the best way a class or category; model: the very type of a headmaster.
You live is a strange little world if you allow how people describe THEIR experience so upset you. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 8:20:34 AM | Type? My blood type is AB+ And I hope that will be ok. 
Since we are picking the difference of apples and oranges time, as we are all guilty of
some sort of pigeon holing[character profiling].
And lets be honest here, with all the posts the bottom line is it really comes down for a better way of life. If the op thinks it's him, because of his social graces,great.
imo I don't think it was a wise idea to put down American women or any country for that matter, in who is better.
That just plain dumb of the op and I'm sure it falls right in with
"I'm a nice guy" thread mentality of thinking.
P.S. Well I think I'll head out to the airport now, sneak into the landing gear of a plane to get me out of here. Bon Voyage! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 1:08:26 PM | I don't think it was a wise idea to put down American women or any country for that matter, in who is better. That just plain dumb of the op and I'm sure it falls right in with "I'm a nice guy" thread mentality of thinking.  Exactly! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 8:01:00 PM |
Lots of ugliness on this thread.
...And beauty too, for those males that are of the opinion that South American woman are the most attractive.
imo I don't think it was a wise idea to put down American women or any country for that matter, in who is better.
That just plain dumb of the op
Uh huh...think about how statements like that make the rest of us feel.
P.S. Well I think I'll head out to the airport now, sneak into the landing gear of a plane to get me out of here. Bon Voyage
...Wait for me haha
...maeflowers | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 8:59:07 PM | I used to belong to a club where I undermined my own existence and I eventually made myself belittled and hated, and everyone there (almost everyone) thought I was a stupid clod. Whereas the only thing I kept doing is not explaining what I meant when I said something. When people asked me, "what do you mean?" I thought they joked, but they truly did not see how my statements connected to the foregoing in those situations. I hadn't been explaining myself for decades, and it did a socially detrimental damage to me.
Having learned my lesson, I feel compelled to answer your question,
"You're provacative tale didn't seem to apply to this thread in any way that I could discern."
It is true, and I stand here defenceless.
My post did have something to do with the surrounding posts, though. I thought I saw a trend: A provocative, could be said insulting (unintended but real), opening post, then some almost angry opinions, then the lady posting "You ain't bad looking at all." I thought this paralleled my experience in grade 7. I thought that it was funny how in both instances it started out as volatile situation, and as a potentially damaging conflict, only to be resolved with very unlikely, surprising, but more positive emotion and activity, like admiration and sex.
In other words, I was applauding that that it was an admittance of attraction that the thread turned onto, away from antagonistic remarks.
I was too wordy for what I was trying to say, and I can see now (but could not see it then) that my story would offend some. I apologize to those whom it did. I thought I did it reasonably tastefully, but I have never had children in grade seven, the only experience and viewpoint I have is my own when I was in it. And that was definitely a viewpoint I had at the time.
Enough apologizing, and I won't take up any more of your time and attention -- unless I see the need, to explain the seemingly inexplicable connection of my utterances to the topic or things said in it. | |
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| Differences between American and Colombian Women
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:01:09 PM | Seems a LOT, repeat a LOT of anger toward the OP.
I am retired and have had it with rude Noth American women . I am tired of the entire scene when it comes to dating.
And I too know that Columbian women seem to love North American men form a lot of reserach.
And not all of them are looking for a way out or a green card.
So I plan to go to Columbia in the Fall, 2009 for a week and check it out.
So what if the women use me there. I am used by women in THIS country.
At least the women are friendly from what I have read-that is a step up from this country.
Bash all you want.
you can complain on your fourms and i hope to have some FUN with a non tight-ased woman. And Latin women are HOT.
And to those that say that the OP should retire and move to Columbia if it is so great-maybe he can't BUT I CAN. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 12:25:44 PM | Wonders what the OP's experience would be if the bulk of Columbian women were highly educated, had excellent professional jobs , in good health and not subject to blantant sexism and machismo from society?...in short in control of their own lives?....Me thinks it would be drastically different.
The moral of this is desperation makes anyone with more than you have look attractive. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 12:35:38 PM | Re: The OP's miraculous tour of Columbia....
Generally speaking, I believe none of what I hear, and half of what I see.........a good position when you read some of these threads.
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Posted: 6/29/2009 1:01:43 PM | DontWait...
I'll preface my remarks by saying that a man from a foreign country left me homeless and destitute by financially sucking the life out of me. So would I be skeptical about the motives of those overseas who come on with promises of love and devotion? HECK YES!!! It only stands to reason.
Additionally I am currently a member of a watch dog team that works to reduce internet scams and frauds. Do I have a skeptical viewpoint when it comes to the actions and motives of those who live overseas and try to make romantic connections? HECK YES!!! It only stands to reason.
Having said that...I also feel that one's experiences have so much more to do with themselves...their motives, actions and outlook...rather than what other people do and say. We are responsible for our own happiness. Not someone else...no matter where they live.
Case and point: I lived in New Zealand for a bit over a year. I befriended another American gal. We became friends based on the commonality of being Americans. Unlike me, she HATED New Zealand and made it known. She treated others in harsh and abrasive ways. And guess what? The New Zealanders she ran into did NOT like her. Whatta shock!!!
Now I will admit that I missed the US and it would have been VERY easy to malign New Zealand, be unhappy and blame it on the people and country. But I would NOT do that. I refused and guess what? I was treated well and made lovely friends that I still have.
My point? If you are having trouble with American woman and feel they are cold, heartless and rude...then look inside yourself. They are only what you perceive them to be. I suggest that if you go to Columbia or any other country...that you may find the women charming and lovely for awhile...until your own paradigms of human beings begin to surface again. Then you may very well find yourself saying, "These Columbia women!!! They are so cold, heartless and rude!!!"
This is just how life works. Every change, every change for the better is "an inside job". It means changing ourselves...not everone else in the world. So if you want to meet wonderful warm, loving and polite women...then begin to realize they exist where ever you are and where ever you go. They are there...you just have to admit it and make up your mind to find them.
I've missed my calling!!! I should be a philosopher...LOL!!!
Kind regards to all fishies...
...Barbi  | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 1:30:53 PM | I knowwwwwwwwwwwwww my Soldier Boy...oh my little Soldier Boy!!! 
What wassssssssssssssssssss I thinkin'??? I coulda hooked up with you and been taken to the cleaners is the US...and with the exchange rate my loss would have been even greater in US Dollars!!!
But ya know...you may still get your chance!!! I've recovered my financial losses and livin' pretty large these days. I'm taking estimates from men to see how quickly they think they can empty my bank account.
The front runner said he figures he could do it in 12 days. Think you can beat that? If soooooooooooooooooo I might pick you as the next man to wipe me out financially and leave me disconsolate and suicidal.
Lemme know. Waiting to hear how speedily you can accomplish this daunting task.
The Barbster | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 1:49:57 PM | Yep..........
That darn Barbi...
always did know how "to pick em"...
Girl...
I AM human..
and I got feelings...
how about I NOT "take you for all your worth"...
Instead.. since I likes you ALOT.....
I'll split everything you have with you..
ALL fair.. right down the middle.. 50 - 50..
And I TRUST you...
Just do a bank transfer and I'll accept as "paid in full"..
I told you I was a keeper AND a good guy..
xoxoxo
---SoldierByte--- | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 3:52:21 PM | Barbi, in essence your post can be summed up as
"Wherever you go, there you are."
Meaning you can't get away from yourself and whatever behaviors made you so miserable in a location to begin with. No matter where you go.
I believe that and I think you wrote an excellent post. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 4:18:47 PM | ReadyOrNot...
Thank you for your kind compliment. And yes...you definitely understood what I was saying. Only you said in manyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy fewer words...LOL I've never been known to be brief and concise.
Kind regards...
...Barbi | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:16:26 PM |
you can complain on your fourms and i hope to have some FUN with a non tight-ased woman. And Latin women are HOT.
And to those that say that the OP should retire and move to Columbia if it is so great-maybe he can't BUT I CAN.
...The only response I have to that is Bon voyage...don't forget to write.
...maeflowers | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:27:18 PM |
I'll preface my remarks by saying that a man from a foreign country left me homeless and destitute by financially sucking the life out of me. So would I be skeptical about the motives of those overseas who come on with promises of love and devotion? HECK YES!!! It only stands to reason.
Additionally I am currently a member of a watch dog team that works to reduce internet scams and frauds. Do I have a skeptical viewpoint when it comes to the actions and motives of those who live overseas and try to make romantic connections? HECK YES!!! It only stands to reason.
I'm typically not of an argumentative nature, but I guess I'm going to come across that way. So be it.
Ok, if I understand you correctly: A foreign man scammed you severely. Now you're leary of foreign men, so much so that you became a watchdog to prevent it from happening to others. Admirable, sincerely!
Yet your advice to a man that feels he has exhausted his efforts to find a mate here in America is to, look inward? Perhaps he has looked inward. Perhaps he was screwed over royally by an ex (American) wife. So, if that has happened to a man would he be skeptical toward American women? HECK YES! It would only stands to reason!
While I totally agree that looking inward provides us with the most valuable insights to finding peace and happiness, sometimes things aren't quite so complicated. For example, if I'm not finding what I want where I'm shopping, I find a new grocery store.
My point? If you are having trouble with American woman and feel they are cold, heartless and rude...then look inside yourself. They are only what you perceive them to be. I suggest that if you go to Columbia or any other country...that you may find the women charming and lovely for awhile...until your own paradigms of human beings begin to surface again. Then you may very well find yourself saying, "These Columbia women!!! They are so cold, heartless and rude!!!"
I'm sure you forgot to add a qualifier, such as "some Columbian women", because you have in another post. I hope so, because painting with a broad brush often says more about the painter than the painted.
My points?
Just because someone is making a choice that is, or was, wrong for us.....doesn't mandate it's wrong for them as well.
It's better to look inward and accept responsibilities for ones choices and not blame them on a race, country or creed.
just a few 'live and let live' thoughts | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 7:31:35 PM |
“I'm sure you forgot to add a qualifier, such as "some Columbian women", because you have in another post. I hope so, because painting with a broad brush often says more about the painter than the painted.”
I stand corrected. Sort of. Sure, I hope we all know that not every single person of a sect or persuasion is going to act identically. However there was a qualifier and that was the word “may”. Anyway…it’s really a hypothetical situation.
“Just because someone is making a choice that is, or was, wrong for us.....doesn't mandate it's wrong for them as well.”
You are absolutely right Levi’s. I simply say these things because I would never want to see OP or anyone to go through what I went through or what I see people going through on a regular basis because of the scams and frauds that I see in the work that I do. Hopefully he won’t have to. If he does, it won’t be because neither I nor anyone else said anything to him.
Levi’s, you have a balanced and logical outlook on this issue. All I can say is…I would never want anyone to go through the heartache and horror that I went through. But…we can only do so much to warn or help others. At the end of the day…we each make our own choices and hopefully they are good ones.
Maybe I do sound a bit jaded and bitter over this point. Maybe I wish I could get back the $250,000 fluffing bucks that my “beloved” snarkeled me out of and maybe I wish I could keep other’s from having to go through anything close to what I went through.
I do believe in “live and learn”, “live and let live” and also…”you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink”.
To be honest, I would be interested to hear OP’s take on the messages that have been posted. It seemed he had a burning issue to present and yet we have heard very little from him for quite a while now. Three days “OPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP…oh OPPPPPPPPPPPPP…where are you?”
Maybe he’s hopped a plane for Columbia?
Thanks again Levi’s…your points were relevant and pertinent.
Kind regards to all fishies…
…Barbi | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 9:32:24 PM | | Can anyone say "green card???" My Ex married a Columbian women and she treated our daughter like a "red headed. freckled faced, step child" after they got married. Have no use for her!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 1:09:20 AM | An illustration from a manuscript of Vox Clamantis, showing Gower shooting the world: "I throw my darts and shoot my arrows at the world. But where there is a righteous man, no arrow strikes"
Vox Clamantis ("the voice of one crying out") is a Latin poem of around 10,000 lines in elegiac verse
The psychological implications of this screen name in this context should be obvious. Although the poem is in Latin it was written in medieval times regarding a peasant uprising against Richard the 2nd. One might think that a "voice crying out" might hang around to hear any answers but it has not apparently. So,maybe this op needs more attention than a dating site can provide and might be interested in taking his voice to a professional. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 3:01:07 AM | Because some Colombian men are "very old school".
Hanging sheets out of the window after their wedding night to prove she was a virgin.
Holding them to strict and ridgid standards while they themselve are free to wander and do what they please.
And then again.....
Maybe you have "Green card" written all over you.. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 4:24:14 AM | You're confusing one thing with another. Sure cultures and attitudes are different everywhere. Economics, politics, religion, family dynamics all play a part.
Move there. The attitude will change. The numbers giving you attention will diminish. What will be left are the few that feel they have enough power within them to fvck you all the way back to America.
Ladies. Don't be too hard on the guy. It's his first blow job. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 9:36:18 AM | [Actually, this post was more for the guys than for y'all women anyway. Spanish isn't that hard to learn. I got from 0 to near-native in about 3 years]
Greetings VoxClamantis and thanks for the information. I travel frequently to that area Panama several times over last few years and Chile, Argentina and Uruguay. My Spanish is horrendous and for business was contemplating hiring an interpreter? Nonetheless I digress, believe from cursory sampling of your post that there are some opposite sex poffers with a real axe to grind on this subject. I have been alerted to dating in other countries by some fairly successful and hardy world travellers, and here is just a sampling of their advice--Russia--(do not even have to leave your hotel--just go to dinner), Ukraine, Argentina--where female enhancement industry is flourishing along with their gorgeous women, Thailand etc. I am planning a visit to the area you mentioned Cartagena as have heard it is incredibly beautiful.
Believe many North American men caught up in this are tired of North American women and culture and lean or look to older more traditional cultures that how would one say render the female to similarly more traditional roles with men--I deem it more subservient--maybe not the right word but sure some in the group will point that out.-- It is not my cup of tea as I for one appreciate feisty debate and independence!
In closing was warned that Columbian women are similar to Argentinian women --that is --dangerous--smart as well as beautiful! From my dealings in the south so far can agree. thanks for your post | |
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