| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/26/2009 10:06:13 PM | Only you can 'allow' that person's words to have an effect on you...the best way is to ignore, ignore, ignore....why give that negative-filled person something to feed ego on? It isn't worth worrying over.
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:21:18 AM | Let's see; people reject other people because,,,,,life is unfair.
Now don't get me wrong life is also good, rewarding, fulfilling, but also unfair.
Most of us learn this in sixth grade, some of us don't... | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:11:41 AM | Whenever I'm not interested I just delete immediately after reading. That sends a strong hint and nobody has ever bothered me.
As for Jerko.....that goes to show how f*&^%d up some people are. You're a beautiful woman, and WAY too good for him. Just block him. You owe him no more explanations. That way if he has any more words for you, (even an apology) he'll have to just keep them to himself. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:22:26 AM |
"I DONT date fat women! Dont bother contacting me again!
That happened to me on another site. Actually, he was the one that told me about POF. Funny, when I lost the last 30 lbs, he didn't recognize me and tried 3 times to get in touch through here. I ignored him - of course! He's too fat for me 
OP, you've got to grow a thicker skin. A lot of people don't mind their manners on here. Its a fact of life.
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:17:44 AM | I love nasty emails. Makes my day. They go great with morning coffee. Especially ones who feel the need to contact me telling me how upsetting my profile is to them. I've been told my profile is fake. I mean, seriously, if I was going to make a fake profile don't you think I would be more accommodating to the masses? I feel I made an impact on them they just had to write to me how angry I made them. Silly fools forget to block me before I write them back. The internet is fun!!!! | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:23:30 AM |
I love nasty emails. Makes my day. They go great with morning coffee. Especially ones who feel the need to contact me telling me how upsetting my profile is to them. I've been told my profile is fake. I mean, seriously, if I was going to make a fake profile don't you think I would be more accommodating to the masses? I feel I made an impact on them they just had to write to me how angry I made them. Silly fools forget to block me before I write them back. The internet is fun!!!!
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:44:24 AM |
I love nasty emails. Makes my day.
Damn that sounds stressful... I remember when things were going downhill with my last gf and she used to just love sending me really poisonous emails. I got GREAT pleasure by deleting them, without even reading them, and promptly bragging to her about it... Goading her to please send me more so that I can keep my email bin occupied. 
I really can't be asked to divulge into negativity.
If two people can't get along, so much so that it devolves into an online slagging match... Delete, move on and ignore!
There's far better ways to waste time. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:16:22 PM |
How do you deal with this?
Realize that there are a few nasty jerks in the crowd. The best way to deal with it is to not deal with it. If you write back with a nasty one-upmanship, an apology or begging an explanation, you are staying engaged with a jerk. Meh. Let it go. Be glad you found out that he was a jerk sooner than later. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:20:27 PM | HA...delete delete delete.....if you're bothered by what someone says online...you probably shouldn't be here. Have enough self respect and confidence in yourself to know who and what you are.
It's like taking what someone passing on the street says to heart....they don't know you...and obviously you do not need to know them! | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:28:32 PM | One, kind but no thank you response, is enough for any email, and if a reply comes, it is your choice to open it, or to just delete it and then block.
Just remember to treat others the way you like to be treated, and somehow if you emailed a man showing interest, and all he did was delete, not read, or read and deleted, it would make you wonder as well.
If one replies back in a rude manner, that is how the reaction should be as well, by just deleting and blocking the idiot.
I have been on here for a long long time, and have never not responded to that first email, with a kind statement, or at least one appropriate to the contents of that email.
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:10:33 PM | Yes, best advice is to block the user and move on. There are truly a lot of pretty sick people on these sites. Best to avoid them.
On another site, a couple of years ago, I starting talking with this guy from Maryland. I commented that the powers that be had done a great job cleaning up the Inner Harbor area and revitalizing that whole area. I should mention that is guy wrote like he'd swallowed a dictionary. His writing was very flowery and he was trying to sound like he was really deep or intelligent. Anyway, he asked if I had seen the Harbor before it was cleaned up. I said only in pictures. So his reply was, "then you really didn't see it."
I said, "What?" and he repeated his inane comment. I said, you have a nice day and signed off.
He proceeded to send me the most vulgar, vile e-mail I'd ever received, calling me some pretty nasty names. I reported him to that site's overseers and blocked him. He was just plain crazy. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:29:27 PM | | I have learned something very valuable by getting on these sites....you have to be comfortable in your own skin and be able to just ignore the jerks. You know what you are and what others think doesn't matter. You are looking for someone and those guys obviously don't fit the bill so just keep looking and let it go. Some people have nothing better to do than throw knives at others learn to but up a shield and forget em. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:23:16 PM | You just never know what people are going to do. I met someone from here, enjoyed spending a day with him talking, dinner, drinks. I didn't feel he was the right match for me and we didn't see each other after that. I see him a few months later online and thought I would send a nice email to him just to say hi and told him that I had hoped he was doing good......guess what, he read it and deleted it, he decided not to respond. Rejection comes in many forms. Obviously some can take it like a man and others cannot. I never put too much thought into it after that, I don't waste my time or energy on being worried about what another person thinks as they are going to think what they want to one way or another.
Do what others have already said, read, block, delete. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:49:33 PM | | You're doing the same thing most big ladies (and I am one of them) on here do .. you are not posting no full length photos of yourself yet sound like you are accepting your weight and happy with it. That aside, he is hiding behind the monitor to send miserable insulting rude emails because he is a miserable sad coward with no life and don't let a few pictures and a punch of words fool you into thinking otherwise. He is rude because he is a typical sado. He is insulted because a big woman emailed him because he is here to revel in the fantasy that he should be craved by the Heidi Klums. So you tresspassed on his lala land lol... how very dare you? lol | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:40:13 AM | Sirenbliss, you are a beautiful woman. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise!
I had a similar experience but it arose after one brief date with a guy from here. He's younger (29) and kept telling me how he could have any girl he wanted. He said that older women throw themselves at him. I didn't feel any great attraction to him but thought he was nice enough.
I told him when he pestered me for a second date that I would consider it but wasn't rushing. He got angry and said he was going to block me as a result. I guess he's not accustomed to a woman not throwing herself at him! The temper tantrum did nothing to make him look mature or date worthy in my eyes. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:55:17 AM | I'd much prefer that women simply delete my email if they aren't interested in talking to me and don't want to respond with a negative. I totally understand that women are getting a hell of a lot more horndog emails than us men (  its so unfair!). If you just let the email sit there then the guy might not get the idea. If it sits unread they may think that there's still a chance and you just haven't gotten around to read it.
Personally if I get no response within a couple of days I just chalk it up to me creeping out yet another woman.
If the email is out to lunch then blocking is probably a good idea as well. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:23:26 PM | | I have had this happen. I read the message, pitied the unhappy soul who sent it my way, deleted it, and then blocked the person, just in case this person planned on any more hijinks. | |
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| Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:45:07 PM | Bluez,
I believe that's precisely the rudeness and condescending replies from other members that the original poster was talking about.
Sheesh, this is a forum, people are allowed to post questions and shouldn't have their concerns or questions belittled or talked down to unless they're just being a troll.
Anyway, I don't know what's up with the rudeness OP, but just try to ignore it and only focus your attention on people who you are interested in and who are equally interested in you or at least in getting to know you. Good luck! :D | |
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