| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 7/23/2009 1:10:27 AM | I've never dated a WOMAN that was Bi-polar! LOL
I did date someone that had some major issues! We always had fun together but, I couldn't quite figure out what was going on. He was taking his medication regularly then WHAM quit and became a different person! It was truly sad. You can't fix someone. All I could do was be there for him and back off of a relationship. He later had a breakdown and kindof checked out for a while. Wouldn't even leave his place. I'd bring food and drop it off to make sure he'd eat.
I didn't see anything specific in the beginning because he was taking medication. (I didn't know he was on meds) | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 7/23/2009 7:07:09 AM | | This could be very bad for you..I reviewed your profile and you seem to be a giver and me being the same. I tend to gravitate towards those who need "Fixing" I have dated bi-polar, passive agressive (those are the most difficult in my experiences) and complete and total abandonment issues. Needless to say the bi-polar was the most pleasant, of the lot, as long as she stayed on her meds. The manic phases are really high and depressions are really low, sort of obvious I know. How ever if you can keep her on her meds its very possible. Always ignore remarks "I dont need my meds any longer" or "I think I will skip them" and I assume you are a good listener. You will have plenty of time for that. Just keep your credit cards, booze, pills, locked away..Good luck | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 7/23/2009 10:10:59 AM | Hahahah, ALL women are bipolar!!!
No, really, I had a girlfriend who had some serious anxiety issues and couldn't hold her liquour-- which almost added up to what I would call bipolar...
Take care of yourself. Tell her to see a psych or go on medication. Dont waste time with emotional vampires. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 7/23/2009 10:34:37 AM | | Only partly. My ex-wife had chemical depression so I certainly experienced the sudden irrational downward swings. There isn't much to be done when those happen other than being extremely patient, careful what you say, and not taking things she might say during those times too personally. they'll likely include personally hurtful things but it's the chemicals running riot in there. Think of it like a storm. Batten down the hatches and hang on for dear life. Hopefully, somebody else can offer some insight into the other pole. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/12/2009 1:29:37 PM | | I lived with a bi-polar for four years and usually contrary to popular belief, at first, unless you know what to look for you wo uldnt know there was anything wrong. Actually, bipolars are very attractive at first, they are usually very attentive, loving, fun to be around, but they will turn on a dime without much provocation. I am now a nurse and had I had that knowledge in the beginning I would have ended things quickly. Some bipoloars depending on how bad they are can be controlled with medication, the problem there is that when they get to feeling better they think they ARE better so they go off their meds and then the circle starts all over again. I suggest you look up the condition or call your local mental health support groups if you want to know more. Keep in mind, there are MANY mental health disorders and some are very hard to detect, others are close to impossible, some are age onset, some are activated by a tragedy, my best suggestion is contacting your local crisis line, they can offer guidance and professional information | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:09:29 PM | | Well I cant lie, I have this health issue and will speak openly about it. I dont tend to see it as a burden, just a change in life that with a little help and encouragement can be helped. Yes sometimes moods can be unpredictable but if you know that the person suffers with the illness then it should be accepted. Bi-polar can range from everything to mood swings, unpredictable changes in thoughts to uncontrolable crying at low stages. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:38:48 PM | I've dated a bi-polar chic once. Although I just wanted to see how much of a challenge she was gonna be, overall she was a total certified nutcase. OP unless you plan on sleeping with one eye open at all times, I highly recommend you ditch the wackjob.
Least for your own safety and well being.  | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/12/2009 11:27:54 PM |
Actually, bipolars are very attractive at first, they are usually very attentive, loving, fun to be around...poloars depending on how bad they are can be controlled with medication, the problem there is that when they get to feeling better they think they ARE better so they go off their meds and then the circle starts all over again.
A good summary. I lived with C. for about 5 years. Most Intense Love at First Sight that I ever experienced. Mostly the Best Years of My Life but in the end, I just wore out.
Meds help.
Running helps.
Long Long Walks help
But in the end, you just wear out... | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 1:46:46 AM | | I once dated a person with a bipolar disorder and it was problematic. It becomes more evident when she would refuse to take her medication and then she got nuts. With too many insults flying and all the problems dealing with it, it took its toll on me and I decided to end the relationship. Use your own judgement, if you can deal with the problems you are faced with, that is if her tendencies is to use you as a target of her agressions then RUN, otherwise use your own judgement. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 2:33:03 AM | | dated a gal who later revealed she was bi-polar and taking meds for it...which explained some of her illogical decisions. i'd move on, if i were you. not really worth the trouble. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:15:50 AM | Unfortunately, it is pretty individual with each.
The one thing that I will tell you - unless they are treated and/or medicated - an 'event' will come and, depending on the person, heaven help you.
It is a downward spiral to a place where NOTHING will bring them anything remotely resembling happiness. That includes you.
Relationships often end for a bi-polar during one of these 'events' at their choosing.
They are clutching at straws. They feel as though everything in their life is causing these feelings - and they 'purge' all of that from their lives at these times. Changing everything that they can. A new hair do. New clothes. Job. Relationship.
Maybe a treated and medicated bi-polar MIGHT be able to weather these episodes. But for those that don't fully take ownership of being bi-polar and seek to do something about it - they will let it stear their lives. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:38:47 AM | | So, I guess the question begs if pof is the best place to meet others if having a mental illness. Do you disclose right up front about your illness, or do you wait until the person has fallen for you somewhat? I am not suggesting there is a right or wrong answer here...just curious how folks go about it. The great thing is that there are a ton of members on here, so I'm sure every once in a while you can approach someone who doesn't care if someone has mental illness. But I have to imagine the stigma is a huge barrier. I read an interesting AP article about this, but posting links is not allowable. You can google "foxnews mental illness dating" and it will come up. At any rate, how do you go about it?? | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:27:02 AM | | Run like mad. She'll break up with you in the morning and get back together with you in the evening. I've dealt with the bipolar thing before where she didn't have it controlled. It's not fun. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 11:32:57 AM | | I dated a Bipolar Manic Depressive and all I will say is never again. She was fine but when she forgot her pills, watch out. You could totally tell because she would be all hyper and then all calm and just act real crazy. You could tell the attitude changes. It was a crazy relationship but when she was on her pills she was ok though. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 4:11:33 PM | | I used to date an Italian woman who was bi-polar and it seemed that at times she spent money and didn't know where it came from or was drinking heavily. Sometimes she blamed me for things that I had nothing to do with. I think with her and her drinking the relationship took its toll on me since I don't drink or smoke at all. So our relationship didn't last and she broke up with me and we both agreed on it. I could deal with a lady who is bi-polar since I used to date one but it depends on how extreme of a bi-polar case she is and whether she is taking her medication regularly. Sometimes people with bi-polar disorder can lead quite normal lives with the proper medication and other times they seem so normal that the mental illness is hidden and only surfaces on a rare instance. Normal people also go through mood swings at times and sometimes they can have a symptom of bi-polar but maybe they just control it better than someone who actually is bi-polar. As long as a person is not a danger to themselves or others than I can deal with bi-polar person whether it be male friend or potential girlfriend. The best thing to do is to recognize the early phases of bi-polar and provide some assistence and help. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/13/2009 4:23:41 PM | Been there, girl i was with we fell madly in love at first it was like we were made for each other, we had some happy times quite a few low times and nearly a year down the line we got engaged, the same week told she me we were over for nothing although i never believe her when shes said it before.
We broke up so many times because of her swings, the relationship at times was a fear of whether i was coming home to a locked house or not she sometimes locked me out for no reason sometimes she didn't want me even wanting other people.
Anyway we broke up in September shes with another guy and she broke up with him already after a week but now they are back together.... Glad i'm not with her now.. Its harsh but i'd say avoid at all costs!! | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/14/2009 10:39:39 AM | I was married to one for twenty years. In my experience, there are those with mental or other problems who accept responsibility for themselves and their disability, and those who do not. The ones to avoid are the ones who expect the world to do the adjusting to them. My wife was and is one of these. The ones who accept their disability, and work to make their way through the world with appropriate medical help, can be very worthwhile people to have in your life.
The best advice to follow is the same as you would to avoid someone who is overly selfish, callous, or otherwise emotionally irresponsible: take you time getting to know them, and if they regularly upset you, use and abuse you, or disappoint you, keep them at arms length. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/14/2009 12:46:01 PM | | HI there, I just recently broke of my engagement to someone who is bi-polar. I have to say, like you, it stung a bit, but was the best thing to do for the long run. The thing with being bi-polar is that you have intimacy issues as well as the mood swings, which ruins the relationship as you just cant get close to them. I see you posted this in June, which is when I broke off with my ex, but have bounced back. I hope you have too and found someone on your wave length and mental health? I'm still looking. px | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/18/2009 12:03:17 PM | LOL Women, they've all been kicked in the head by the same mule! Just some have been kicked a lot harder than others.
Gals, please don't take offense as none is intended. I still love ya, just being my typical smarta** self. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/23/2009 4:20:32 PM | Wow can anyone believe that there are so many perfect POF'es as there on in the forums? Seriously I have never in real life known so many people who have dated bipolars or personality disorders as those right here.
All the perfect posters always seems their X's are the deranged people. Can this be possible? | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/23/2009 5:03:23 PM | My ex-wife (for around 12 years now) was either bi-polar or had borderline personality disorder. She was diagnosed as bipolar/manic-depressive, but she never felt she had any problems. I dealt with it for 13 years because I couldn't leave my boys in that situation. Finally she started running around on me and it was time to call it quits.
When she wanted to be she was a very believable, nice, popular person. Her true self didn't start to show until after she let her guard down. | |
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