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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:39:22 AM | | Yes, unfortunately, I can relate. I met this guy about 7 years ago on another dating site. In the beginning he was very attentive and romantic. He came on very strong initially in the relationship. I was very flattered. Then things started to change. To be honest, there were signs along the way, but of course, I wasn't reading them. Their behaviours are usually very erratic. This guy would show up at my place out of the blue. Then disappear for a period of time. He had to drive long distance to get to my place. He would run very hot and cold. His behaviour was bizzar at times. Even with medication, such a relationship is very difficult to maintain. If she comes back and wants to reconcile, I would say, "RUN FOR THE HILLS." Count yourself lucky that you got off easy. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/28/2009 9:33:28 PM |
All the perfect posters always seems their X's are the deranged people. Can this be possible?
Don't know about anyone else.
C. was open about her issues from the start. I went to the Dr. appoinments and to help her pick up the meds. In time, I became Good Friends with her ex as we shared a bond.
I think some of us (part. men) are attracted to the personality type as we view ourselves as the Hero Savoir of The Disrupted Life. I know I am; what I see as cute flirting is sometimes the confusion of a struggling mind. Now that I understand my weakness, I fight it.
I will always have the Deepest Heart for C. but never again...in the end, it wears you out. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/29/2009 5:56:12 AM | I was diagnosed bi-polar once, but it was a misdiagnosis. The time I went to the doctor I was at a huge down in my life, but on top of that he diagnosed me after talking to me no more than 5-10 minutes. I took meds for a couple months but it kinda made me a emotionless zombie.
But once things started to pick up, and I read more about it and what not, I realized theres really no way I can be bi-polar. If my mood changes, theres a very good reason for it. I won't have any strings of bad moods for no reason.
The time I was diagnosed, I was 24, living in my dads basement, working a crap 7.50 an hour job. was 100lb overweight, had no social skills what so ever. Didn't drive, and didn't have any friends cause I was away to a small town for a couple years where all I did was worked, and sat at home. And wasn't looking towards to any decent of a future, or independence. I think thats all enough to make anyone depressed.
But when things got better I kinda knew there wasn't anything wrong with me and the fact I have traits that contradict typical bi-polar behaviors. Like if someones "walking on eggshells" with me, chances are theres a VERY good reason, they did something that pissed me off nuff said. If I am in a bad mood, I don't generally go off on those that have nothing to do with why I am in a bad mood. I might talk about it, rant some, but thats it.
Everyone has their ups and downs, mine can be generally minor. I see sometimes even the average person can show more traits of bi-polar than I do. Like say theres someone at work you generally get along with. Then some morning their kinda crappy and they snap at you when you barely did anything wrong. That person is not me, but most people will snap at people that have nothing to do with why their crabby.
Now I am 30, work full time go to school nearly full time, live on my own, drive have money saved up, lost 100lbs, etc etc. And I am totally fine.
I did have a friend and have went on dates and what not with women who are bi-polar and what not. Well the bi-polar friend has more than just that, he had 2-3 other mental issues as well which made him someone I decided not to hang out with any more.
The women would have maybe been ok for friends, but dating makes it a pain in the ass. They can't keep the same emotions and feelings and keep going back and forth on things. Many times being contradictory. One I met here for example, got super jealous over meaningless my space commends made by female friends of mine on myspace(nothing that would make anyone think I was involved with any of them, which I wasn't), saying things like "why are you talking to these girls when we're potential etc etc. going from that to saying she wasn't really interested in a relationship with me and that she tried to tell me that before. But she kept going back and forth so I gave it up. She had BPD, not worth my time.
My friend that was bi-polar had symptoms exactly like everyones describing bipolar and some other mental illnesses:
Thinking their the best at things.
Thinking their always right.
Constant mood swings.
Suddenly threatening violence for no reason.
Occasionally acts on said violent threats.
Depression.
Getting overly angry over minor things most wouldn't anger over.
Lives in a fantasy world etc
He thinks he has demons(I mean literally, not demons as in a metaphor ) in his head and
has a thing for satanism and other devilish things.
I often question why this guy isn't put away some where.
But the problem is, many of these people can turn the behaviors off like a switch when people of authority are around. One instant he was literally foaming at the mouth threatening to kill me over something stupid, he had murder in his eyes. Likely we were in public in my car so I stopped at the gas station and called the police. wile he was in the car. Cops show up, talk to him and it was like there was nothing wrong. And the police didn't think anything was really going on and I tried to explain to them this guys behaviors and how it always gets shut off when people of authority show up. So unless someone records these actions(like with a video camera, or voice recorder, actual proof) people like that will never get treated... | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 10/29/2009 6:58:57 AM | I dated someone who was bi polar, don't know what stage it was.
One minute she was madly in love with me
The next minute she's cursing me out on voicemail because i was 10 mins late for a date she thought i had ditched her, my cell was dead and traffic was murder.
This went on throughout our brief dating and ulitmately killed any possibility of a relationship.
She was on meds and told me that when she gets like that i should remind her to take her meds.
I'm no stranger to caring for someone who is ill, i' have been a care giver twice in my life to two family members who were very ill but you just can't have a working relationship with someone who is bi polar because it strains you both emotionally to the point where you lose sight of where the real problems in the relationship begin and the bi polar ends. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 11/2/2009 12:50:31 PM | I will say this. Women are hard enough to understand, henceforth the book Venus &
Mars. If you ad Bi-Polar to the mix then you have a toxic brew. If she can't remember
to take her meds, well that's even worse still. Consider yourself on the edge of a cliff
& someone pulled you back. I stepped over the edge & the fall lasted 23 yrs. It ended
with my attempted suicide. | |
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| Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar?
Posted: 11/15/2009 3:12:24 AM | | Are you seriously considering the idea that there MAY be women in this world who are NOT bi-polar? Good luck trying to prove that. Even if there are women who are not bi-polar, you will never know whether any woman is, or isn't, until she proves that she is. If you can get enough info on a woman you can take a good guess...but that is all it will be at first. Bi-polars change a lot...addresses, phone numbers, courses of study, jobs, friends, etc, etc, etc. Bi-polars have wide mood swings...very happy, energetic, etc, to very lazy/mad/sad/suicidal. Such fits the majority of women most of the time. Bi-polarism is part hormonal, part attitudinal, part medicinal, part genetic, and part brain structure. You can't know such things about a woman without running MRIs, blood tests, etc, on her...or watching for her mood swings. You pays your money, and you takes your chances. Saying you don't want to date bi-polars anymore is like saying you don't want to get hurt anymore. If you live, you will get hurt, and will encounter bi-polars. The only way to avoid such is to...stop living now. Since that is also something you probably don't want to do, you are stuck. Date, and encounter the occasional (at least) bi-polar, or do not date. | |
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