Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Relationships  > She is barely legal, He is 48      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 Mrpbody44
Joined: 10/21/2009
Msg: 276
She is barely legal, He is 48Page 12 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
I have been recently going out with a lady who is 21. We both have a passion for music and have a great time together. She is very smart and we have great conversations. Go to different countries like France and you find these relationship more common.

People look at us weird when we are out at a concert but we don't care. Do I think this is long term relationship. No I think after a year or two we may be just good friends. Nothing wrong with that at all.
 acuddler
Joined: 10/30/2009
Msg: 277
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 1:29:50 AM
Does it matter? It isn't my cup of tea, but barely legal IS legal..so it's no one else's business....if, how, why, where, when, etc. I'd guess that such young women have not had as much time as their mothers/grandmothers to really start: hating men, being bi***y, being conniving, etc, etc. Also, they have not had as much sex as older women, and so are probably more experimental...more willing to try something which is new to them, in order to please a guy they like. Also, it really puts an ex in her place if-after parting from her-a guy shows up with a much younger, prettier, shapelier, GF...especially if the ex wife is the one who dumpd the guy. Living well is the best revenge. I suppose there may be other reasons...as many reasons as there are guys in this situation. Other than guys who want to do it but can't manage, or the older women being passed over for these younger gals, who really cares? What difference does it make?
 acuddler
Joined: 10/30/2009
Msg: 278
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 1:52:39 AM
bcsofnc57...in Japan, the age of consent is 12, and American G.I. s of every age DO have sex with 12 year olds there. The Japanese figure that "when you are old enough to bleed, you are old enough to breed", and so are no longer a child...so it is not child molesting. I used to have to treat both the G.I.s, and their young lovers for STDs. I was never into gals that young, but a lot of guys are...even in this country, where they are illegal. A lot of barely legal 18/19 year old women date non-rich 40/50 something guys just out of the forbidden fruit aspect, and because it annoys their parents. The more people like you denounce such women, the more they do what you hate.
 dp503
Joined: 9/29/2009
Msg: 279
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 1:59:54 AM
IMO the guy is a pervert. Girls that age are insecure and vulnerable and can be easily taken advantage of. I'm 29 and don't even go out with 18 year old. I think it is disgusting. My niece is almost 18 and her dad is 42, i would kill a guy going after her at her age.
 acuddler
Joined: 10/30/2009
Msg: 280
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 2:10:37 AM
18 year olds ARE exactly adults in the only way that matters..legally. If American 18 year olds are as emotionally, or mentally, immature as children that is the fault of idiot American parents trying to keep them children. In Africa, 15 is middle age, so 9 is emotional adulthood...regardless of what the law says. Famine, war, disease epidemics, etc, tend to age one. A hundred years ago, in America, a woman who reached age 20 without being married, and having at least one child, was an old maid. Aside from biology-which says we are adults from our first ejaculation/menstruation-adulthood is a matter of attitude, and law. Attitude wise, it does seem to be mostly older women who complain about men dating younger women.
 acuddler
Joined: 10/30/2009
Msg: 281
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 2:31:01 AM
dp503...Be careful, there. Older men tend to be a hell of a lot more experienced at killing then you probably are. Try to kill one, and you might get killed. Your opinion matters less, on this, than a fly fart matters as a hurricane deterrence.

BTW, when I lick my eyebrows, women of ALL ages want me. The line forms on the right.
 hotrodius
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 282
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 4:34:10 AM
Ok i am 49 and all the women that i date are in there 40's any man that goes after a woman that young should be thrown in jail give me a break and any woman for that matter doing the same thing. Sex is not the only thing you have to be able to have things in common what do you talk about to a girl that is old enuff to be your Child ?? EEEEk !!!!!!!!!!
 cbd44
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 283
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 6:01:03 AM
Interesting points of view, but I thought if I told why I, in my early sixties, am looking primarily for younger women maybe it would shed some light on the subject. I realize I am in a different age group from the one being discussed here, never the less in my age group many also prefer younger women.

First and foremost, intelligence, a good sense of fairness, a give and take altitude and with opinions of their own (not just repeat what they heard last nigh on the news) type of person is what is most important to me. That said, I have been very physically active all my life and fortunately in very good health, but most women near my age are very sedentary with very few interests and a great lack of curiosity. Women in their early forties, mid fifties seem to be mature women, having lived the ups and downs of life, and tend to be more realistic about what a happy relationship is all about. I guess a mature but young at heart woman is appealing to many of us, old gizzards (lol). It appears older women (and I mean women near my age), on the other hand, think that visiting this and that, cooking a good meal and spoiling grandchildren is all there is to keep a relationship vibrant.

I am a terrible writer, but I hope you get the idea why at least this one prefers women about fifteen or so years younger.

By the way, it is not sexual: many older women are as sensuous, sexual as younger women and I, once again, am very fortunate to have a strong libido that does not require any chemical assistance.
 hotrodius
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 284
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 7:54:34 AM
I have been acused of using Viagra (never tried it and dont need it) i have a killer Libido at 49 and i still dont want a woman that's 18 or 19 sorry.
 Trueblooo
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 285
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 8:37:29 AM
The opinions on this never vary, always stupid.
Who cares? I mean really.
A guy will date younger because he CAN.
If the young woman is of legal age, it's nobody's business.
As hard as it is to find any sort of relationship, I fail to see why this
is such a great concern to anyone.
I'm sure that the older guy who is able to attract a good looking young woman couldn't care
less if you call him names!
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
Msg: 286
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 8:59:04 AM
Its a quest to try to find thier fleeting youth, the same reason a women in her later years trys to look younger and find a younger guy and drives that convertable sports car. You see these gawdy people on the prowl. Most pursued financial success and later in life realized they were older with no emotional connections. So they pursue what they lost during those years of climbing to the top.
 Tarah0128
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 287
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 9:15:46 AM
I think it's a good idea

All 18 yr old women should date older men ~ the older the better
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 288
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 9:56:21 AM
OP: So? So what? If they're both happy, what business is it of yours anyway?

Uh, for the man, the appeal would be:

Visual: She looks good.

Tactile: Her skin and hair are silky-smooth to the touch.

Emotional: She's sweet, vulnerable, impressionable, teachable, an open book (not yet jaded by experience). And sex is a brand-new thing for her...hence the sexual excitement and willingness to experiment with her own body...and his. As long as he's in reasonably good shape so she's not grossed out (ewww), who cares?

Ego: Sure! Even if she's only out for dough, there is a sort of thrill and ego gratification in the elder thinking "I've still got IT".

From her standpoint, he probably treats her nicely than the horn-dogs her age and buys her nice things.

And the problem is-?
 Whoopty Dew
Joined: 9/21/2009
Msg: 289
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 11:23:21 AM
That's NONE of your business or concern.Look at your own life.All these drama queens.Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh
 dp503
Joined: 9/29/2009
Msg: 290
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 2:00:26 PM
acuddler. Watch your children around this dirty old man. Anytime old man anytime.
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 291
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 3:40:36 PM
CindyA.S...maybe they do it because they have the money and are tired of old,fat,negative grouchy hags.
 lost in space 21
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 292
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 4:56:34 PM
Wheres your problem you want someone attractive/inteligent,i want someone young n dumb,dont mean to say were going to get it, its just what we prefer, were all differant thats what makes the world go round, so grow up get on with YOUR life and leave the rest of us alone
 Trueblooo
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 293
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 5:27:24 PM
If you analyze the replies that go with the pics.....it breaks down like this: older women who don't want the competition so they say horrible things about any guy who would dare to date younger, out of shape funky looking older guys who wouldn't get any play from a younger woman anyway so they talk shit about the guys who CAN, younger guys who get mad at the older guys for poaching, etc.,etc.,etc.

In other words, most of the people who have "issues" with this actually have their OWN personal issues that really have nothing to do with the subject at hand, and have more to do with their own petty jealousies and insecurities.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 294
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 5:38:41 PM

There is no better way to attract men than to stay slim and fit.

That still doesn't work!!!
 barbyanne2
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 295
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 6:07:19 PM
Capt Blaugh.

Thee dost protest too much.

The reasons I have been dating younger men are the very same reasons you cite that older men date younger women. But I want a man - that guy is looking for a GIRL.
That aside, men my age and older are seldom in goos physical condition (I am), they are slowing dowm sexually just as I am gearing up, and they often have dated attitudes about gender roles and try to TELL ME what to do. (doesn't go far with this gal). Older guys are just too controlling for me, and oh, BTW - I don't want to entertain them in their retirement, or do their housework either.

Needless to say, however, I'm sure there are some good guys out there in their 40s & 50s. Just as some of us older cougars are awesome & hot..........grrrrrrrrrrr
 barbyanne2
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 296
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 8:25:18 PM
oh relax cw35

geez half of what I say on here is tongue in cheek. (yes I'm a cheeky one)

I thought that true of most?
 ninjaeleven
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 297
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:42:24 PM
AWESOME!!!, but she is stilll legal :)

Teach her...
 Tarah0128
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 298
view profile
History
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 11:06:11 PM
^^^^ Legal, schmegal ~ don't be such a wuss
 Gone To The Beach 09
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 299
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/15/2009 11:24:55 PM
" ^^^^ Legal, schmegal ~ don't be such a wuss "

Tarah, Be careful... if you were a man, there would be POF Flamers lined up to call you a Pedophile.

There ARE women who prey on under age boys. And they've been in the National News, in recent years. And they've been in Prison.

To the OP : If it's legal, and consensual, who cares ? I'm not paying their bills, so it's none of my business. And I'm not forcing my values over their's.
 FriendlyFreeSpirit
Joined: 7/27/2009
Msg: 300
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 11/16/2009 12:14:14 AM

Legal, schmegal ~ don't be such a wuss

Yeah, I'm sort of curious as to what you mean...you're joking, right?
Show ALL Forums  > Relationships  > She is barely legal, He is 48