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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:14:37 AM | Only things of mine that are ABSOLUTELY..
NO negotiations..
AND POSITIVELY Do NOT go / TOUCH
are:
My clothes
My vehicles
My tools
My guns
My computer..
I have no "places", areas,
or activities that I am as adamant about..
And..
I do / will share anything else..
including my shy little self..
(her Off limits are duly respected)
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:14:48 AM | parrot said:No matter how much I love you and you love me we gotta have some me time to make the we time special.
Indeed the going away and coming together again not only adds for interesting conversation but the missing you aspect gets a chance to kick in as well..
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:17:08 AM | soldier boy said: My clothes
Ahh I used to love to run around in those big T shirts!!! You know they make am excellent chemise? Just belt one and presto.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:20:17 AM | Am WELL aware of THAT.. Ms. thecatsmeoww 
with four daughters and a wife...
You have NO idea......
(but in truth.. I miss every minute.. )
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:26:53 AM | | I have to agree on the bathroom thing. I've never understood why when two people are together for awhile...they even stop shutting the door. Now that's sexy. Not! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:50:03 AM | 1..."My" time, I need some persoanl space....no need for explainations.
2...My personal finances are personal for a reason.
3...He'll never have to worry about shopping with me cause I wouldn't think of asking him to come along.
4...No interruptions when I'm in the tub....unless he's invited to scrub my back
5...No sleep overs at my house, we'll have to do the deed at his place (I'll go home afterwards)
6...Don't be bringing his personal stuff over to my house, I value my closet and drawer space... bathroom med cabinet is off limits too
7...My vacations are just that...mine.
8...Don't be calling me at work, I don't mix business with pleasure.
9...Don't be touching the dials on the radio station in my car and at home, I don't want to have to hot glue the dials.
10. The big couch is off limits too, I like to stretch out...unless of course I feel like cuddling then he can join me.
Ok, That about sums up the top 10 list of places that are "Off Limits" to him 
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:57:49 AM | maeflowers said:
Ok, That about sums up the top 10 list of places that are "Off Limits" to him
What if he also considers number 5 off limits as well? That is quite a long list you got there.. wow
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:59:26 AM | night said: I have to agree on the bathroom thing. I've never understood why when two people are together for awhile...they even stop shutting the door. Now that's sexy. Not!
Really that is news to me never happened to me, doors were always closed.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:59:56 AM |
maeflowers said:
Ok, That about sums up the top 10 list of places that are "Off Limits" to him
What if he also considers number 5 off limits as well? That is quite a long list you got there.. wow
thecatsmeoww
...I have a dry sense of humour at times, even my friends don't always 'get me'... It's all in fun, didn't you see the laughing icon?
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Posted: 6/28/2009 11:02:04 AM | soldier boy said:but in truth.. I miss every minute.
Let me pass you a little tissue solider boy I do not want you to getting soaked over there.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 11:22:25 AM | I have no OFF LIMITS places. I would rather the bathroom door stay closed when either of us are on the toilet but I do not freak out about it.
Early in our relationship my waswife opened the door while I was on the toilet (She thought I was brushing my teeth.) I looked up and told her she was just in time if she was into helping. She left quickly and even though I tried to just laugh it off she was shaken. Two days latter she came to me with a real concerned and unsure face and wanted to talk. She said she was not into kinky stuff and asked if I really wanted her to do disgusting things. She was serious so we had a long talk about what was off limits for us in all areas.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 11:24:38 AM | | My,my.....Its a wonder to me why so many people can't understand why they can't get a date....... | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 11:32:10 AM | rearguard said:my.....Its a wonder to me why so many people can't understand why they can't get a date.......
I might rephrase that to.. I wonder just how many people can kind find the right date?
Kapeesh?
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Posted: 6/28/2009 11:35:17 AM | You can go to the hairdresser by yourself as long as you don't come home with a curled helmet hairdo colored blue 
Seriously, sounds like control freak stuff, trust issues.
It's fun doing Some things together, but not being attached at the hip!!!!!! that just gets old and sooner or later leads to  
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Posted: 6/28/2009 11:35:53 AM | mae said:have a dry sense of humour at times, even my friends don't always 'get me'... It's all in fun, didn't you see the laughing icon?
Yes I did see it but can be a tad slow on the uptake?
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Posted: 6/28/2009 3:37:23 PM | | I believe that each person needs their own alone time and time to spend with their personal friends. If Paul wanted to go out with the guys or just spend some quiet time alone, that is fine with me. He feels the same about my time. Neither of us are jealous people, nor do we need to be 'attached at the hip' to prove we care for each other. If we can deal with being 9200 miles apart without any jealousy or demands on one another, then I doubt we'll have much problem when we are living together. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 4:00:13 PM | This is my answer also:
i'm open to negotiation based on mutual needs and interests.
Yep, that's the way I think, too.
Nothing is 'set in stone' just by me.
EXCEPT... a closed bathroom door, to me, means don't open it to peek in... especially if we're just 'dating'!
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Posted: 6/28/2009 4:26:53 PM |
forumfilly: I believe that each person needs their own alone time and time to spend with their personal friends. If Paul wanted to go out with the guys or just spend some quiet time alone, that is fine with me. He feels the same about my time. Neither of us are jealous people, nor do we need to be 'attached at the hip' to prove we care for each other. If we can deal with being 9200 miles apart without any jealousy or demands on one another, then I doubt we'll have much problem when we are living together. LOL your posts about the rare and enduring love you and your "Paul" share crack me up. You haven't even met yet, much less lived together or dealt with real-life issues together. I hope you're still living your romance-novel drama ten years from now, really I do, but your posts make for pretty silly reading. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 4:31:35 PM | Ok, I don't get it. Boundries are a necessary part of life to weed out crazies..........why would anyone put up with this garbage.
ps...........cyber life dramas..........get back to me when that becomes real life.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 5:15:22 PM |
I might rephrase that to.. I wonder just how many people can kind find the right date?
Kapeesh?
I kapeesh cats ! As you have let the cat out of the bag for many hwho might be in denial or not really ready to date or intermingle.
And for those here many talk the talk but few walk the walk, and thats ok .
Cuz if you have built a wall and can't get around it, then I'll be looking out for all the funny icons nonetheless. And when they respond with "middle of the road reply" then methink that like what ren said,a interrogated to see what end is really up here.
That's not for me either. sorry
I'm a good listener and have a good heart, but not something else.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 5:19:28 PM | I, too, wonder just how many people CAN find the rite date, CatsMeoww ... !!
I need quite a bit of personal space ... personal time ... 1st husband worked for the U.S. Treasury Dept and did QUITE A BIT of traveling ... like I wouldn't see him more than maybe once a month or less ... maybe a weekend here or there ... I was quite ok w/that ... spending time together never got old! maybe a couple of times a year, I'd travel with him for a couple of weeks and that was always fun! maybe that amount of personal freedom "spoiled" me for a more normal relationship ... I do love my freedom and my private life ...
2nd husband (in comparison) often seemed like he was smothering me ...
specifically, I do wonder if I can find a rite date! with a nice blend of togetherness and freedom!  would sure be nice ...  | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 9:15:12 PM | HI
I think it would be fun to find someone to want to learn about his and my personal time. For me that is part of the NEW fun in a relationship. To discover all those things that eventually work into an everyday accepting thing.
So the main one I can remember..No Bathroom Access..Very private.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 11:16:40 PM | dual outhouses yikes scary business like your going to sit in there and visit.
The beauty shop is not a couple thing unless someone enjoys watching someone else cry their eyes out when they get their eyebrows waxed.lol
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Posted: 6/29/2009 2:12:33 AM | although not particularly shy, i prefer the toilet "sitting" to myself and to honor his privacy in that arena! my ex was british however, and real toilet uptight to the other extreme. G-d forbid, if you were around when he "pee'd". he even put the fan on to drown out the noise so i wouldn't hear him in the bedroom. that was a bit much. if necessary, i could "pretend" for him that i thought it was the cat in the litter box! so, is that british or just him? not sure. he's from scotland.
also, when i'm doing finances or solving a problem, i need to focus w/o interrruption. if someone needs me, they know to pass me a note and i'll respond "asap".
mostly there are times i just need peace and i would assume communication would work both ways. follow me to the hair dresser? since i'm not one for attracting control freaks, i 'd wonder if he were gay. ever see nyc housewives on tv? as a new yorker lost in CA, i get a kick out of it. one of the husbands in that show is REALLY into fashion in a very "unique" way as well. he's always being questioned as to whether he is gay. if so, come on along and we'll get your hair done too. but, don't be my SO. i do have a new transexual friend, and so i get the need. just not attracted to it on a personal or intimate level.
if someone wants to read my computer stuff, they need to ask. i'll share most things, except diary type stuff. i'll actually share that too, but i am the one to give it out and be there for the "intepretation". that applies mostly to my kids. they are very inquisitive and are free to ask anything but not to snoop.
when my kids were younger, i protected their boundaries. now they can all pretty much hold their own. i always protect my pets. nobody messes with my pets, although free to ask as well. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 7:31:13 PM | | It's not a British, thing, Serenity. I was born and raised in the central plains of the U.S. and I'm almost that bad. And yet, my ex was one who never closed the door (even when the kids got older, which actually kind of bothered me), and in fact would call for me or the kids to come in there to talk to her about something while she was taking care of .. necessary business in there. It was one of those areas we never did quite jibe on, as she never truly understood how uncomfortable it made me, and actually seemed amused by my modesty. Mind you, the bath is not completely off limits to me. Being invited in to share the shower is fine. But while my partner is attending to personal hygiene and intimate grooming? Nope. I'm fine with just seeing the finished product. I don't have to be there. And vice versa. | |
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