| | Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???Page 2 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | Its never bothered me to be the first one to make a call.........
Hell.............ive even been the first one to initiate a kiss on a first date,but,then,im just a HUSSY........................
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 6:07:21 AM | | Hussies make the world go 'round. Then again, church ladies provide some tasty baked goods. Why must a man be forced to choose between sex and brownies? The world is not as fair a place as some will make it out to be, if you take into account these niggling details. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:14:57 AM | ^^ 
The first call? I don't care if I do it or he does. We would have already talked a bit in email, anyway, to get the phone numbers!
Subsequent calls? I lean just a bit towards him being the initiator more than me.
Not real sure why. | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 8:33:09 AM | | If I give a woman my phone number, which I usually do not give out, then I would be very happy for her to call me. I personally am not going to take it as any more than a friend calling to chat or talk about a problem or just checking in to see how I am doing. Again, for me personally, I am reluctant to attempt first contact with anyone on any level but am happy to respond to a friends call. Course the old parrothead is not like anyone else, and thank god for that | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 8:52:13 AM | Interesting topic. Take a journey with me, back in time. A gentleman years ago would simply ask a woman for her number if they were interested in talking with them. The woman would either give the man her number of make one up if she didn't want to talk with him. Because of the way things are in this day and age, many times a woman will be reticent about giving someone her number or posting her number on a site or even sending it in an email.
I would say half the women I have "talked" to on this site, when it came time to actually talk, have asked for my numer so they don't have to give me theirs. There are several reasons this could happen. One, of course, is that they don't want to talk with me. Then there is the security issue.
So, please. Is there a right way or a wrong way? I would just like to know. I think it all depends on the person and the situation. I could be wrong. What else would be new? | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:35:54 AM | To OP: rjoyful
Your discomfort is understandable; it comes with the territory when taking the initiative. However, taking the initiative has the obvious advantage of acting on your preferences.
I have no problem receiving a call from a woman, especially when I have already given her my number, which is my way of indicating an initial interest.
The protocol I use when making an unplanned call is to immediately ask "How is my timing?"; that gives the person receiving my call an opportunity to indicate whether they are preoccupied or ready to accept an impromptu "social call".
If you and the person you are calling both have a high speed internet connection and software such as Skype, you can make zero (marginal) cost computer-to-computer telephone calls right around the planet. Technology and social conventions are both advancing!
Happy tele-fishing! 
4_All_Seasons_CA | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 9:42:52 AM | | Why do so many women have a hang up on this subject. It's 2009...there's no...norm. Life is no more than what you make of it. Do what works for you by all means, just sayin in this day and age thinking it's up to the guy to call first is kind of like saying women are not actually equal to men. JMO | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:44:27 AM | Hi,
I am usually a positive person, but I am really surprised at the number of responses, including mine now, to this question. Wow! We are not given a spirit of fear. Take care of business. What is your ultimate goal anyway. In fact, what's the reason for the question at all? Insensitive you say? On the contrary, feelings are important, however, let's get to a deeper level. What I saw in the original question was a request for validation from others for the feelings already present regarding making a phone call of all things. If you are comfortable, make the call. If you are not don't make the call. But, please don't be fearful about it and realize you are your own person and do not require the validation (sheep herd mentality) of others. You are strong in who you are and whose you are. God bless each of you here.
Jim
Advertsing Alabama | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:50:20 AM | Dear R,
It is hard to speak for anyone else, but I have tried to teach my bairns and live myself by the ideals of our law. The Court has ruled that gender, race, and religion are protected categories, therefore there is no difference between men and women, unless you are on the gynaecologist's table or in bed.
The proudest moment of my life with my son, when as the kids' handball king in lower forms, he told his macho classmates when girl wished to play, that if she did not, he would not.
It deeply saddens me that, after all these years, anyone would treat a woman taking any action whatsoever, anywhere whatsoever, in anyway whatsoever differently than a man. That someone in 2009 would ask the question makes me wonder if we have made any human progress at all.
The only hope is that this is in the old folks' place, as I would hope no one under fifty would even be able to grasp the question, or envision a world in which Ken is the doctor, Barbie the nurse, Ken is the lawyer, Barbie the secretary, and Ken the firefighter, Barbie the woman's auxiliary member.
That such a question can be asked causes me to mourn our society.
Peace,
CdC | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 4:09:41 PM | rjoyful wrote:
I am uncomfortable calling a man. I know!!!! I have been told to get over it. What do you all think about this. I am not sure if I am bothering a man when I call and don't know for sure if he is irritated and I am not sure what most men think about being contacted by a woman. I will usually call the first time and hardly ever contact again, and if he hasn't asked for my number, he may never hear from me again. Please let me know what some of you think.
Darlin', you aren't the only one uncomfortable in making that first call. When I harken back those "good" ol' days I recall vividly the terror I felt in calling a young lady.
Well, the ladies aren't so young anymore but while the terror has abated abit, the fear of rejection is still a recurring nightmare. I think we have reached an age when the old hangups over "rules", protocol, or whatever, ought to be shelved like an old hat that don't fit no more.
Personally, I would welcome an appropriate first call from a woman. What a boost to self esteem, self confidence to know someone is out there willing to put their heart on the line.
TK
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Posted: 6/29/2009 5:17:35 PM | TARNISHED KNIGHT
Heard you LOUD AND CLEAR. LOL. Nice to know what others are thinking. Nice to get so many responses. I think the fear of rejection is the main reason for not wanting to call. But men have been rejected since the dawn of dating times. Don't know who set this up this way and why it must be the social norm for my generation. Today's generation seems to be doing fine. I guess I am just thinking in the past and the Victorian times are gone. I mean, really gone. LOL | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:31:41 PM |
Hussies make the world go 'round. Then again, church ladies provide some tasty baked goods. Why must a man be forced to choose between sex and brownies? The world is not as fair a place as some will make it out to be, if you take into account these niggling details.
Fear not, fair farceur! Some of us are church ladies in public and hussies in private. The world is still fair a place.
So, please. Is there a right way or a wrong way? I would just like to know. I think it all depends on the person and the situation.
I have a theory that says you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. Farceur disagrees with me, but that makes the world all the more fair. If he agreed with me all the time the world would be boring indeed. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:15:33 PM | | I don't like IMing or texting.....sorry I just can't quite wrap my mind around it. I want to talk to a real live human being ..... or male being. So I will offer up my phone number to someone I am interested in. And yes I take turns calling if they sound interested and give me the go ahead. I don't like playing games with anyone. The phone call stage is to see if we have anything in common....and if its someone I like and have gotten to know them I will call them. Why shouldn't I? If they like me and I like them then I want to talk to them get to know them. And hopefully the same with them........To find someone that you have great repore.....should be celebrated it doesn't happen often.....and I get tickled.......now to find that someone. | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/29/2009 8:27:35 PM | Be careful, dear SoldierByte. Some of us are hussies in public and church ladies in private. It's up to you to take the time to find out.
Just keeping it real (and everybody guessing . . .) | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/30/2009 6:44:42 AM | I gave you my number. I even left you a message and you never called back. And you don't return emails either. What's up with that?
So be real careful what you post. | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:55:47 AM | | The calling thing is something I like to give control of to the women. It's not that I won't call her, but that I give her the choice so she can feel in control of the situation. Male or female it would be nice if it was made clear when the best time to call is. I do have some female friends that call me on a regular basis, and many more that just send me texts, "usually to call them???", it doesn't bother me one way or the other, but if I don't know when it is best to call I follow my own set of rules. | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/30/2009 2:59:52 PM |
gave you my number. I even left you a message and you never called back. And you don't return emails either. What's up with that?
So be real careful what you post.
This is not the place to do this.....It is a unfair way of attacking people.
If I call someone and the phone calls aren't returned. I stop simple.
My feeling aren't hurt. It just means that aren't right for me. But being able to pick up that phone and call someone that I am interested in is nice. Hopefully they will think its nice also.......And sometimes they don't answer.....and that's alright also. | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/30/2009 3:06:29 PM | Gosh Ms.blueyesrsmiling
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That does look scarey...
reminds me of my third wife...
she'd be acting all crazy and violent whenever
I never came home after pay day and spent
the month's bill money..
She was so unstable....
But she did know how to rock MY world..
more later..
(and hey.. DON'T geve her MY number..!!)
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it???
Posted: 6/30/2009 4:04:14 PM |
I have a theory that says you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. And there in lies the rub; getting to the place in a relationship is why we're all here.
Why must a man be forced to choose between sex and brownies?
Au contrair! I offer both! Here fishie, fishie! 
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