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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/1/2009 4:53:59 AM |
well, pookie there are going to be some very lonely 50-60 year olds in a few years - and I think it will be too late for them. the 20 somethings wont be interested, neither will the 30 somethings - coz they will want kids, the 40 somethings will have been there done that the the 50+ would have already dated them and be rejected!
Okay I felt a little bit better reading that, but it still means that the woman in the 40 something age bracket gets nothing either. So the non-relationship freaks get to grow old alone but so do I and not by my choice.
Actually is there ever a time when men want a relationship? They say women are fussy, but really whatever that magical 'something' is has to put men in the fussiest bracket since no one even knows what it is.
Your screwed, isn't that the age when they have their(our) mid life crisis.....
I have heard this argument before actually, not here but in real life. .. and I have seen cases that can somewhat back this theory up.
Sounds about right. Typical, I lose again.
I've always had the feeling that girls work out in the first 30 secs/few minutes whether they might choose to "bonk" you at some later point or not ....
if you don't "pass" you become "friend" status.
This is something I agree with also, but at least you know you are not going to get anywhere right from the start and you can stop wasting your time chasing. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:18:33 AM | Thankyou for the above two posters...some thought provoking stuff there
So I ventured out in to the real world today away from forums and bought this Steve Harvey book that was mentioned...yes a copy was acutally located here in Perth (blooming miracle) ..cheap book...very easy to read and read it in like two hours and yes it gave some very good insights into what men are thinking/feeling..if you could like possibley record it..and its told with humor so I can recommend it.........................HOWEVER
Nope it didnt answer my question....do Men in their 40's want a relationship ?....I dont think any book,except perhaps Ralph magazine could answer that...but if my dating experience of the last few weeks is anything to go by..then No I dont believe they do and I could so relate to the above two posters comments..thankyou ladies...
My good friend who posts regulary in the US forums emailed me this and she said I could cut and paste it and use it..as shes not sure if she should post in the Oz forums...this is what she says....
"Pookie ,i had to lol at this coz you have nailed it,my friend.....
That is EXACTLY how the majority of them think............ as to why they dont want a relationship? Fuknose............
Why/how do you think i ended up with "just" fukcbuudies as the years were rolling by?? Its coz NONE of them wanted a relationship with me or ANYONE ELSE !!!!
I just put it down their immaturity and the fact women are more able to put the past behind them and are more optimistic about meeting someone else.......
Im not willing to post this in the Forums but feel free to copy & paste if you want !"
I acutally think my friend nailed it....we women can put our past behind us and move on with hope ....and we are optimistic..........................
Yeah and yes I did let them get a word in edge ways...how do you think they managed to hit on me ...and do you think any bloke would take home a chatterbox ??... and so I write alot..and the problem with that is ?????????????? Oh and btw ...not a duplicate thread...Ive been on the forums for a while now...Okey Dokey | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:37:16 AM | Pookie, my last post was in jest, my apologies if taken the wrong way!
I have a cousin who is currently internet dating, she's in her thirties and all the men her age or older have let her down, after the shag they move on.... all of them, she has lucked out completely. Why I will never know. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:53:34 AM | | No no your fine Questio.....I knew that and I took no offence.. ...its the person that reported this post I have a issue with..can only think that this post got a little close to the bone for them..not open to good old fashion honest discussion...I asked a geunie question and was looking for postive feedback or if others were experiencing the same ...its called a forum for a reason.... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:56:48 AM | Pookie:
I dont think that your question is completely unanswered, I for one am in my 40's and am not afraid of a relationship, there are many more like me. There are also a lot of 40's looking to prove that they can do as well as their 20's sons in the "scoring" factor. Yes the midlife crisis in males is real and alive and well, I myself dont like to admit that im "with" someone unless im completely sure im not going to get the boot, or that i like the person. I dont think a fear of commitment is restricted you an age group, more likely the time from prevoius seperation and a need to prove attractiveness and that they can still "pull" sometimes these types of sites can be a good hunting ground for the shallow if they are good looking enough.
big tip...check out their car, its a hint. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 9:14:25 PM | hmmmm... should I or shouldnt I???
have been thinking about this thread since u first posted it pooks and have been debating whether to add my mediocre thoughts or not......so am giving it a shot ( not used to serious threads)....
Have noticed on the first page theres 2 threads active this one and the other "whats the issue with men in australia" havent really visited the other but seems the poor guys cant win.
What about the women that dont want a relationship?? there may not be as many in ratio to men but there are some.. me been one!!!!!!! ( and before I get the usual "why ar u on this site for then wasting peoples time... Im not!! my profile isnt in the masses and Im here as I go to events and also enjoy posting a sentence or 2 in the forums)
Have had many a conversation with females, close friends and some accquaintances.... they all have the same catchcry " I want a relationship, but i dont need one!!!".... well Im sorry if u have that thought before u even meet someone.. then u need one and no wonder the poor guy takes off. Maybe women exude the message that they want it all and now. I know from one friend after they met someone.. they came back with I can see myself with him and she already had a plan sorted... the poor guy wouldnt haven known what hit him... funny it didnt get to a 2nd meet go figure!
Is this the fallout from being raised in our generation where society judged women harshly if they werent attached?? Knowing we were to get married when we grew up as our mothers wished for us??
I have done the "relationship" thing... married, living in sin(lol) and even a long distance one........ think Ive run the gamut of relationships so theres nothing left for me these days
The thought of having the seriousness of being in a realtionship just makes it seem too hard . Relationships seem to come with expectations, 5 year plans and conforming to what others expect. I prefer to live day by day... remaining undefined.... tho some cant help themselves and try to put u in box that I assume makes the situation more comfortable for them and even give advice out of the blue about it all!
I'm happy to go out and just enjoy the company regardless if its a one off or turns into a regular thing. I seem to make a better friend than anything else, gees u just have to look at my track record
Right now I enjoy today and live it 100% with no regrets will think about tomorrow when I get there....... as with others I suppose 1 day that may change until then am happy to just let things roll and have fun!!!!! | |
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:18:20 AM |
What about the women that dont want a relationship??
Well evidently you are not in one so what are you complaining about? This is a site aimed at people who would like to be in a relationship, and if you want to be here just to post in forums so be it, but don't forget the whole point of the site, and have some respect for people who are genuinely interested in not being single for the rest of their life.
I guess I am just unclear on the message of your post, I thought the question was whether there was some thing about men around the age of 40 having an aversion to relationships. Was your point simply that women can have an aversion also? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:35:23 AM | DE JA VU....
obviously because I am not actively looking for a relationship it seems I am not allowed to have an opinion again!!!!!
what are you complaining about?
since when did putting forth an opinion turn into complaining, all I see is someone complaining about me being a part of a discussion.
just to post in forums so be it
I also mentioned I attend the events as well.... obviously adding that in wouldnt work into ur rant!!!
Well evidently you are not in one
evidently assuming may make u incorrect on that!!
depends on ones definition of the term relationship....
[italic]noun 1. a connection, association, or involvement.
2. connection between persons by blood or marriage.
3. an emotional or other connection between people: the relationship between teachers and students.
4. a sexual involvement; affair. [/italic]
so according to the above I do have a relationship in fact quite a few. But do I feel the need to meet someone and want to know if theres a future or start working on the 5 year plan.. nope...
genuinely interested in not being single for the rest of their life.
"as with others I suppose 1 day that may change"
yup I can see how that states single for all eternity.. thanks for clearing that up!
message .....Was your point
it was simply my opinion .. nothing more nothing less!!! as for being disrespectful... I cant see that i was.. nuf said!!! | |
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:59:23 AM | I was merely trying to clarify what it was you were trying to say, which I accept is your opinion but I wanted to understand it properly, and I am sorry if it has hit a sore point with you.
You did say "What about the women that dont want a relationship??" as though you were missing out on something. I pointed out that if you don't want one and you don't have one there was not really a problem, as opposed to those who want one but can't find one.
Oddly enough I posted a couple of lines in order to clarify what your point was which is hardly a rant, merely enquiring since you seemed to have a lot of words there, something bearing more resemblance to a rant than what I posted.
I did not say you were intent on being single for the rest of your life, I said there are people here who do not wish to be that way. You seem a little bit touchy on the subject so I apologise if I said anything which has upset you. | |
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:47:26 AM | Well I can't comment on being a male in my forties not wanting a relationship because when I was in my forties I was in a relationship and not looking.
Now that I am in my fifties and am passively looking for a long term relationship I have come to the conclusion that I cannot afford a lot of women in my age group.
I have met some women from this sight and I can honestly say that all bar one have wanted to be fine dined, want a guy with a very healthy bank balance and be willing to take a back seat several rows back.
I think that some guys want to be the imagined stud of their age group or want to have notches on their bed posts and this makes things difficult for the genuine guy as the honest guy has to convince a woman that he is interested in a woman without being accused of trying to have meaningless sex.
Also I believe that the current thinking for some people is everything that needs to be involved in a relationship has to be done at light speed and this doesn't auger well for any long term relationship.
I would like to think that if/ when I start to get into a relationship then I do not try to rush things but then again I am only human, mind you not as young as Bucky or senor Sanchez but a lot younger that the esteemed senior citizen Mr Greying nomad....
Mind you tho Pookie you haven't painted a good outcome for me, so I guess I will have to behave myself and apologise to Greyingnomad so I can learn some of those card games the senior citizen play.... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:38:20 PM |
I have met some women from this sight and I can honestly say that all bar one have wanted to be fine dined, want a guy with a very healthy bank balance and be willing to take a back seat several rows back.
So glad at least one didn't want that, I know that is not something I am after.
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:56:31 PM |
well, pookie there are going to be some very lonely 50-60 year olds in a few years - and I think it will be too late for them. the 20 somethings wont be interested, neither will the 30 somethings - coz they will want kids, the 40 somethings will have been there done that the the 50+ would have already dated them and be rejected!
I do think they end up very lonely.
There are a few 40 something 'players' in my office and sure the married guys enjoy the stories of the women he has hooked up with but the nights I have worked late, mr player is there in the office working until late at night. I bet the married guys don't envy him at all when they go home to their wives.
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:09:45 PM |
I do think they end up very lonely.
There are a few 40 something 'players' in my office and sure the married guys enjoy the stories of the women he has hooked up with but the nights I have worked late, mr player is there in the office working until late at night. I bet the married guys don't envy him at all when they go home to their wives.
They work late hours and weekends because they don't have anyone to go home to.
It is interesting that lots of studies have shown that in general men who are married are happier and live longer than men who are not.
Yet we still have all the jokes about men dying before their wives because they want to, that they don't live longer it just feels that way etc. Will I believe the jokes are right or the studies that have been done, well I will believe the studies. Is it sour grapes I wonder. If you can't have a relationship perhaps it is better to go on about how you do not want it, that awesome single life you lead is so wonderful, being a free spirit, no one tying you down etc. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:06:31 PM | OP thank you for starting this topic.
I must admit I have been thinking exactly the same thing and here I am in a completely different state to you so obviously it's a big problem....................LOL.
I agree with every word that Message 5 has expressed. I couldn't have said it any better. | |
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:19:26 PM | A wise woman (ok my mother...irritating when she is right  ) once said to me, "when you are a single woman in her mid 30's to 40's finding a decent man is almost impossible....it is better to wait for the men who have been widowed and concentrate bringing up your children on your own ( no man in his right mind truly wants to bring up another's child). They make the best partners because they had successful, happy marriages and bring mostly only pleasant memories."
Not all but a fair amount of the men who do want lifetime relationships do so in their relative youth. say up to 30. The rest that are left are in the boxes of gay, commitment phobic, stupid, incapable of forming intimacy, violent thugs, poor sad geeks,...oh take your pick, you get my drift.( I have noticed a lot of the geeks are called Denis, Derek, Garry and Wayne.)
Some reasons why men in 40's just want to have fun.
Some just genuinely want to live and be autonomous for sometimes the first time in their lives. They have done the fairystory, had the kids etc and do not view the next part of their lives as repeating it again. Fine.....but go buy a prostitute for your needs and don't play the 'in like' game on the gullible and or hopeful.
Many more men than women who have had unhappy relationships seem unable to grasp they too played a part in the debacle. They seem to blithely go on assuming they are perfect so when the new woman blunders into a 'memory gameplay of conflict' due to unacceptable behaviours, the man subconsciously goes back to the former relationship and bammo.......another one hits the dust thus reiterating all women are the same and after several such experiences he only wants his pipes cleaned without the agro.
The gay, commitment phobic, stupid, incapable of forming intimacy, violent thugs, poor sad geeks are also now in their 40's and still tend to be called Derek, Denis, Garry and Warren which is great cos you can dismiss them without even going on a blind date. They have learnt that there is now no hope of finding the one and will take what they can get.
The idea that I will be single for the rest of my life has begun to seem more of a reality than when I was newly single some ten odd years ago. I knew then that it would be years before I could actually have a live-in relationship because with five children it would be too hard on them, him and me, so the odd fling was the go. I found my Mum's words really rang true and I learnt a lot about categorising men (yes I know how terrible but tis an efficient way of saving time and energy). So I figure that disbarring actually going out and murdering some blissfully happy married woman for her wonderful hubby I will just have to wait a bit longer. Dang it, falling in love as a crumblie, sooooo unfair but a gals gotta do what a gals gotta do and hopefully he will have glaucoma (nature's natural vaseline on the camera lens).
If I was a man I would ask you out on a date Pookie but have a horrible suspicion that my name would probably be Derek.
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:33:36 AM | Ok I am Canadian and a long way from your Island :)
Men of any age.... Most men in my opinion are very uncomfortable when it comes to dating.
We are not crocodile Dundees , Robert Redfords or Frank Sinatras.. We do not sing real
well or wrestle gators and make cute little quips that melt the women like they do on the big screen . Most of us did our dating in awkward backward ways when we were kids. We could make mistakes and they were over looked because the girls were just as awkward. Today as the world of dating has become so much more sophisticated the women , whom have really always had the ability to keep looking for the stability and security of a relationship are facing the same men whom have really never learned to date or they have discovered the men who have had long term relationships and are now not prepared, for today anyway to
reenter another if the opportunity to have more if it is available .
There is nothing wrong with you ladies and nothing wrong with us men , its just the dating is different today as adults than it was when we were kids. I think change is harder as you get older, and entering a relationship that changes the way you live your life is sometimes
overwhelming to some who are pretty set in their ways . Something to think about...
Take stock of your own life.. what are you prepared to give up , where would you move too,
how much are you prepared to put into a relationship , are there things like parents , children, pets , property , it is all very complicated. Its late and I am rambling but this is just a thought, not set in stone and could change tomorrow.
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:56:33 AM |
I must admit I have been thinking exactly the same thing and here I am in a completely different state to you so obviously it's a big problem....................LOL
Thankyou to all our posters...I appreciate the feedback....and trust me when I say Im not having a shot or go at the guys in their 40's if you know me you will know that I did write half of it tongue in cheek ...I respect their choice and perogativess but I think its also a little sad...Im lonely now and I think in time..they will be too..
In reference to the quote of above..
Its worse here in WA - Perth...so many of the men work away from mining to gas to working on oil rigs etc and trust me they work bloody hard but get paid accordingly ..some work like 4 weeks on 4 off, 6 weeks on 2 weeks off etc...so they fly in, party hard for the time that they are here and then off they go again where they usually are working tough long hours, in woeful conditions - anything up to 18 hours a day..and most work 7 days a week..I know this , as pretty much every bloke Ive met..is in a fly in fly out situation...this has its advantages and disadvantages....however its also the best excuse a bloke can use in Perth for not having a "relationship"...Ive heard it time and time again..that they are away so much for so long etc....that they just cant have a relationship - it wouldn't be fair to me etc.......Im giving you the edited version here...its a good excuse here..used widely in Perth for not getting involved...
Give me some credit...if Im into you...I will wait for you...cause gee I just mite like/god forbid love you...and some us can and will stand by our man till you return !!!.... be here when you get home..ready to pick up and continue on and wont screw around on you whilst you are away....yes there are some loyal women left in the world !!!!
But to no avail....Oh I hear from them when they are flying back in..yeah I even go and pick them up from the airport - btw you want to meet a man, any man, any shape, any size, any nationality, an income bracket..Perth Domestic Airport Sunday evening...never have I seen sooooooooooooooooooo many men in my life.........EVER...... its a like Sizzler buffet x 1000.......
But no...I am still convinced that men in their 40' s (Not all obviously) have reverted back to their 20's.....get as much kitty kat as they can and then bugger off....Ive yet to not to see this happen especially here in Perth .....do men in their 40' want a relationship...Nooooooooooooooooo I dont believe they do.................
As Partickle said..perhaps what us women think constitutes as a relationship is not what they...do ..yes your rite...I like to date - read - go to dinner movies footy even !!! (if Geelongs playing) , they like to fcuk and fcuk off..so yes we definitely have different ideas on what a relationship is..
To my darling friend Namaah...I did drop below 40..I think I went to 38...he was cute and gorgeous and funny and smart ..and way too much stamina..I was exhausted, Im old now and I cant keep up !!! ( and I think Hilly is much better at cougaring than I am) ...no there is no pleasing me.................this I know so I went back to my own sandpit....................but damn that 30 something boy did know how to.. um ... er ...um... er | |
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/3/2009 2:33:25 AM | Pookie, perhaps you should join a chess club? there are probably a few hot nerds with free friday nights there???
On the fly in fly out thing, it actually ruined my marriage, and many others of friends that I know, I would have given it up earlier if i didnt have to support the kids, even now i travel and often think how this will affect the next "manager" | |
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:30:27 AM |
Ok firstly I want to point out that this is not a “woe is me” thread…this is a genuine observation of which I do hope to get a lot of response from our male posters out there and also some great feedback from our lady posters as well…but in order to do so, I must share my own experience.
After almost 18 months of mourning my last relationship (read weeping, wailing, rocking backwards and forwards and making voodoo dolls of HIM,,, oh yeah I’m not bitter, ) with great reluctance and also because I got a good ass kicking by my bestie…I have re-entered the world of dating……..now I’ve had a profile on this site for quite a while, I hoped to have met someone but alas that has not happened…..and in all honesty, I have given up on ever being messaged by someone DECENT…(having said that my g/f just got engaged to her b/f and they met on here so there is always that small smidgen of hope !!!)
On this site I seem to attract 30 and under – I must have that Cougar glint in my eye, or men over 60 who are obviously looking for a nurse, or guys who um ah like um er MARRIED/ATTACHED…..guys do you really think we want to go down that path strewn with broken hearts and promises ???…no sorry, some of us would just like to meet someone nice and maybe build on that …………….ANYWAY
So I ve started dating……I’ve met real men in real life in like real places..I have met men via the internet and thru friends and work ..so my options are open…I’ve yet to met any man doing any of the classes that all the single/lonely hearts psychologists recommend…and I do really want my new guy to salsa better than me ??………………ANYWAY
So I’ve done the “lets meet for drinks” thing..Nope not coffee, I don’t drink it…and I figure I do need a stiff drink to get me thru some of these dates, plus I work and only around at nites, …………….. ….. ANYWAY
Now I want to point out..I’ve actually haven’t had a bad date….all these men have been quite lovely…smart, intelligent, witty, (smell nice) interesting jobs, fascinating stories to tell, so I can honestly say I’ve enjoyed myself and I believe the nite has been reasonably successful and yes I’ve gone to like fourth base with 2 of them- yes home runs have been hit..But I’m a big girl and if I wish to sleep with someone after a first date I can and will (damn those hormones) and I’ve not been sorry…….ANYWAY
But this is what I have noticed………………..the story is all the same…………I’ve been dating guys in my age bracket……in their 40’s and even before we meet and then “ITS” reiterated at the ‘MEET”, that they are not interested in a relationship – unless SOMETHING happens (not sure what that “SOMETIHING ” is. Is it like a world wide warning that a gigantic meteor is on its way to Earth to like wipe us out and therefore we must have a “relationship” , is it like the Biggest Meanest Tsunami ever ????) ..Im not sure what this SOMETHING is….it is yet to be defined…………….but apparently that SOMETHING is not happening to men in their 40’s…so they reiterate that they aren’t after ANY relationship, they just want fun, casual sex etc etc etc….in other words…a bootey call, a Friend with Benefits etc unless SOMETHING happens (whatever that is..)
Ok that’s fine………………..their prerogative….as you chat to these men over endless glasses of bourbon..(an expensive issue when you live in Perth – 9 bucks for bourbon over here) ….these men will tell you about their lives, which includes how much he hates the ex whose ripped him off in the divorce settlement, how pissed he is with CSA agency, how the new blokes in the exes life is a tosser…..etc etc etc
I sit there nodding my head in all appropriate places and then subtly or bluntly as the evening wears on I will be hit upon for sex…………..and yes to a degree it is flattering or is it? I then have like ooo’d and aaahged for like 34 nano seconds to decide if I’m “up for it” or not…ok twice I was…I’m human ok !!! and the rejection of these men, well there is a whole other thread in that but …ANYWAY
Now I tell this story not for sympathy but so you get a feel for what my observation is…am I the only one who is noticing this ?
I’m 44, been married, widowed and no kids. I’m financially secure, I have a career and I’m not bad on the eye, can string more than like 18 words together …so not a total looser!!! (am today in dressed in like trackies and looking like I could give Amy Winehouse a run)
I reckon – my observation - that guys in their 40s are reverting back to when they were in their 20’s and trying to get laid as many times as possible – their last Hurrah before prostate cancer kicks in….to prove something to themselves and their exes (like she gives a toss)….no man APPEARS to really want a relationship (yeah I know I had to look it up in the dictionary too to remind myself what one was too) …they basically just want a Fcuk buddy !! which is fine………….but I ask you then what hope for us girls ? Do we like just not “date” for like another 6 years or so and then hold our breathe cause the guy that we liked NOW wants a RELATIONSHIP ?
Guys in their 30’s well I’m not going there…and guys in their 50’s – getting in to their 60’s they appear to want a relationship but its gonna involve a woman in their 40’s more than likely nursing them as the years go on (statically speaking guys….you are far more likely to get sick at these ages, than we are) so these guys in their age range appear quite happy to commit (read – stay over on a Sat nite) than their counterparts in their 40’s
Am I being jaded and cynical ?……………………..could it just be I’m meeting all the wrong guys alas…..their common denominator (apart from me) is that there in their 40’s, but I’ve “dated” from all social backgrounds and different careers etc…..or I am more than happy to admit……that indeed it could just be me (however real life besties and women in the same age brackets assure me its not) …ANYWAY
So I’m not asking for comments on my own experience….I wrote that so you could understand why I now pose this question.
Do Men in their 40’s REALLY want a RELATIONSHIP? …..you know…a RELATIONSHIP ?
Or do you just want to play tiddly winks for a couple of years and then we can like check back with them when their like 55 and we can take it from there ? and yes guys out there, I know it’s a broad question and I’m sure not ALL of you think like that…however where is that one, that doesn’t ?
Please posters ..be grateful if you address the actual question……………..I’m already facing self esteem issues….don’t need you to reinforce that there is no hope for me…..I already know this as I chose to stay home last Sat nite and watch a MJ special rather than face another nite/ followed by a Sunday of “will he, wont he call/sms/email me?”
Cheers
Pookie
There's two things you can do here:
1) Go to the video store and watch Tyler Durden get beat up in Fight Club
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| Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!!
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:09:52 PM | Hello Pookie:
I read your posting, and wow you are being realistic and not cynical at all, I am in the same boat as you mid 40's been marry, no kids, financial independant, look good for my age, and yeap men in their 40's only want a booty call, I only seem to attrack older men, so perhaps is the reality of things, but boy it sucks. and the worse part about it, I want to stay in my house by myself and he can live in his place, just to have a monogamous relationship and go out, I pay for my stuff thank you, but not is not happening , oh well, you know what is their loss. Mr right is on its way that's what I keep saying to myself, so hang in there girlfriend. | |
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