| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:51:17 PM | | I hate when women do it to be liked by others. That is a huge turnoff. Most of the time you can tell if they are genuine about their preferences or whether they are just dying for attention and popularity. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:39:18 AM | | It might have something to do with old world phobias. A straight guy would not do anything that would seem outre. Even the thought of it is disgusting. I did have a G/F who hosted those sex toy parties. Always women only. But the thought of any type of physical contact with another woman made her ill. I wouldn't have any type of physicalness with a gay male, but I also have gay friends. Find no difference in the work place, or at a sports bar. But, I wouldn't go with them to a gay bar. I imagine some women are exactly the same. If I was in your position, I would do the closet thing. No sense in ruining a good friendship by coming clean. But there is a strong point to discretion. And maybe doing the Bi part on the side can make you a woman of mystery. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:55:21 AM | @sxy2plusu or any of the ladies and only the ladies:
I have been struggeling with something for a while. If my girl wants oral i make sure she orgasams when i do it. if me and my girl have intercourse the same thing. i would rather have her orgasam and be happy then me. on the same token if my girl wants to have sex with another woman and be satisfied then thats fine with me. same with toys blind folds and handcuffs. i am a man that wants my woman satisfied more so than me. i cannot do anyhitng violent like spanking or whatever. there is some respect for me there. jest like if my girl said lets be swingers i would say okay to satisfy her.
am i wrong for putting her orgasams, pleasures, wants needs desires and fantasys before my own? is that right or wrong?
i mean i love to give a messauge before sex and rub my fingertips up and down thier body and gentally kiss and rub. i love to wash them down in the shower before sex.
am i truly a gentelman even in the bedroom or not. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:19:29 AM | | i have friends that are gay and i have no desire to go that way, is not my thing... they respect that and i respect them. pretty simple. i have dated bisexual women before and it didn't bother me. i never felt threatened at any point, they had sexual needs that could only be met by other females, but i was still her man. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:17:43 PM |
They love men that are gay, they all want one to be their best friend...They accept women that are gay and say it really isn't a big a deal...
i haven't found any of those things to be true in my experiences. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 5:01:18 PM | | While I have met a few gay men and we always were good friends, I haven't really met anybody (of either gender) who would be bisexual. Do I live on a different planet than the rest of guys? LOL (and by guys, I mean both ladies and gents participating in this thread). | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 5:06:27 PM |
I did have a G/F who hosted those sex toy parties. Always women only. But the thought of any type of physical contact with another woman made her ill.
That part I completely understand, why she would invite only women to the sex toy parties. It reminds of the old issue (on another forum) how some women would never work out in a co-ed gym. They feel insecure, afraid of being stared at, whatever. Similar at sex toy parties. I am pretty liberal in my thinking but maybe I would not want a guy I know (but am not intimate with) to know kind of BOB I have ordered. Maybe he would casually ask me, if I ran into him in the street one day, "Did you find your G-spot yet??"
I honestly think that if men were present at such a party, the women wouldn't order anything. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 6:13:43 PM | | I'm sorry you have a closed minded friend, I pick my friends based on the fact that they're not. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:48:20 PM | @monsoon rain"
in some states its actually ilegal to have men at sex toy parties. for some reason its consdiered prostitution. so you can only have women at fun parties as they call them. i know women who sell sex toys and thats what they say. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:06:20 AM | My wife is Bi and almost none of her friends know. She said that the biggest thing is that the girls that she knows are either too homophobic and are either so disussed by the thought of it that, that they would shy awat from her or they are afraid that she will hit on them or be offened that she didn't hit on them. Either way, she feels that it is not worth the risk. The same reason why most guys that are Bi won't tell people that they know.
Just my 2ยข worth!
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:29:01 AM | I have friends who are straight, lesbian, and bi. They are all wonderful friends and I'm blessed to have them in my life. Their sexuality means nothing to me, they are like family to me, valued, treasured friends. An ex of mine had a problem with my lesbian and bi friends (he indicated that both lesbianism and bisexuality were unhealthy and unnatural), which is part of the reason why he's my ex. It's sad that we live in such a judgmental society.
OP, hold your head up high and be proud of who you are. If anyone has a problem with your sexuality it's THEIR problem, not yours and you don't need negative people like that in your life. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:24:42 AM |
I don't have that problem.. or double standard. I DO have a problem with the bar-sexuals tho. Doing something to get the attention of a man??? Something you might not be 100% into in the first place?? Pass.
This is a HUGE pet peeve for me. When I used to go out to bars in college there were always these girls trying to get me to join in with their little Girls Gone Wild show. I don't get angry very easily but I seriously almost got in fights over this. I felt like I was being sexually assaulted. Then everyone gets mad at me for being "uptight." It got to where I didn't even want to go out on the dance floor because I was afraid of being groped in front of everybody by the GIRLS.
On the other hand, I had a girl from an ocean swimming class ask me out on a date. I just said thanks but no thanks, and I felt bad that she probably felt bad when I turned her down. She's really nice and I would probably be friends with her but now I'd feel weird about it. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/14/2009 10:23:22 AM |
An ex of mine had a problem with my lesbian and bi friends (he indicated that both lesbianism and bisexuality were unhealthy and unnatural), which is part of the reason why he's my ex. It's sad that we live in such a judgmental society.
He is as entitled to his opinion as you are to yours. you were equally judgemental unless you can accept his view. Why should he accept your view over his? What if he was right and you were wrong? | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/17/2009 7:03:48 AM | | Monsoon. I believe there was only ladies present because these parties had lingerie and other items that they could change into. Her reasoning was having b/fs there would mean that the girls would not come out to show off and get opinions about the attire. Maybe the g/fs didn't want they men ogling other girls in sexy things. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/17/2009 11:22:10 AM | I would date a bisexual man if he could prove he practiced safe sex at all times.. this includes a raincoat on during 0ral.
Also, I'm a fairly dominant woman I'd prefer if I had a bisexual boyfriend that he be a 'top'.
Apparently, I've put a lot of thought into this.
Also, would the man continue to have sexual encounters with other men while we were in a commited relationship??? Unless we agreed to be poly.. I have a hard time thinking that would be an okay senario.. Just because it's a boy and I'm a girl doesn't make it not cheating. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/17/2009 12:33:57 PM | I've only met about two women in my life that I honestly believed were bi. They mentioned it to me in a private one on one conversation and didn't go around advertising it.
The ones you see slutting it up at the bar/club, are not bi. I don't care what anybody says. They're straight girls with self-esteem issues. I think that's what most people have a problem with. The blatant lack of self-respect. I won't lie because I am a guy here.... while the act itself can be cool to watch, the mentality behind it is pathetic.
Those are the girls you take home and have a fling with. You don't date them because they've already advertised themselves as throw-aways. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/17/2009 12:52:31 PM | OP, you hang around women in suits competing with men. Think of it as an alliance in one of the reality shows. They have an "us against them" mentality. If you are straight, you have sex with men but are are on the women's side. If you are gay, you have sex with women and are on the women's side. If you are bi, you have sex with everyone and could easily be a spy for the other side. Can you be trusted to have the backs of your alliance when it comes to tribal council?
It's also very hard to stereotype someone that's bi and that makes people uncomfortable. There is some comfort in knowing what to expect from a person.
I've always thought it would be nice to walk into a club and have everyone in there be a possible date. It's too bad that I am stuck with only loving women. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/17/2009 12:56:56 PM |
Why do straight women have such a difficult time accepting or understanding bi-sexual women? They love men that are gay, they all want one to be their best friend...They accept women that are gay and say it really isn't a big a deal...
oh please............ enough with the guilt displacement accusations........... | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:00:41 PM | When my best girlfriend found out I was bi, she did start acting quite strange. She started parading around more (often semi nude), and joking about how I must have a huge crush on her, etc etc. I found it extremely annoying, and still do to this day. I don't think she was grossed out by it, but it obviously strikes some kind of chord with her. I think she likes the attention and idea that I might have a crush on her... even tho I honestly don't, and I would never do anything to ruin our friendship.
I've only met about two women in my life that I honestly believed were bi. They mentioned it to me in a private one on one conversation and didn't go around advertising it.
The ones you see slutting it up at the bar/club, are not bi. I don't care what anybody says. They're straight girls with self-esteem issues. I think that's what most people have a problem with. The blatant lack of self-respect. I won't lie because I am a guy here.... while the act itself can be cool to watch, the mentality behind it is pathetic.
Those are the girls you take home and have a fling with. You don't date them because they've already advertised themselves as throw-aways.
This dude has it right. I think a LOT of girls do it to get attention. It annoys me endlessly when I see girls taking pics of them kissing each other or boob grabbing to put up on facebook, etc. The attention grabbing bi girl usually has a host of other mental problems and should be avoided. | |
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| Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:49:07 PM | | I am a 'true' bi-sexual. I would be equally happy to be in a relationship with a man or a woman. I also hate the girls that feign it to attract men and it really bugs me that because of those girls most bisexual woman are classed as 'greedy' or out for whatever they can get. | |
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