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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/12/2009 3:18:21 PM | From Vicshe:
"Here's a Vanity Fair article written by Christopher Hitchens about humor and gender:
http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/features/2007/01/hitchens200701?printable=true¤tPage=all"
Do read this article! It explains a lot. It all boils down to that fact that men are more childish than women, a perception with which I am in total agreement. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/12/2009 4:33:44 PM | | Although I found myself scanning the article looking for the part that concluded that men were more childish (which btw I tend to agree with merely by observation, and have always found to be endearing and usually amusing). The point I found interesting as a woman with a great sense of humor, was that, according to that article, men don't really find women with a sense of humor appealing and possibly even a little threatening. The point was that men do not want to compete with a woman and if making a woman smile, or even laugh is a challenge men want to accomplish, how could he possibly succeed if the woman is funnier, quicker, or more entertaining than he is. So, I conclude that for better relationships, a woman should be the recipient of humor in whatever style she deems to be amusing, but not the initiator, which, if we want any humor at all in relationships makes the man having a sense of humor absolutely essential. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 1:12:42 AM | | Now you see I disagree there. I love a woman to be quick-witted, sarcastic, funny. I like to rise to the challenge. If a man and a woman are capable of cracking each other up they probably really enjoy one another and have a great relationship. That said, I have found that to be a rare quality in most of the women I've known. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 9:01:23 AM | VITAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If any woman can`t let go and be fun most of the time i will get bored but i do see your point. I havr found many want to keep it pretty stiff and hear about your plans for the future. needless to say they have now exited the building. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 9:18:40 AM | | I think a sense of humor means being able to laugh at oneself, at each other, and find humor in the trials and tribulations of life, when possible. Not to take life too seriously. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 12:23:01 PM | SpiceSea -You're right : I meant to say if you don't think that joke is funny than you have NO sense of humor.
And I agree with that statement still. It is a funny joke, always gets laughs. I use it as an example because not only is it very funny, but it is a racy joke. I like racy jokes. I would never date someone who thought that joke was "distasteful". That doesn't make you a bad person, just one probably not compatible with me.
Now let me say that I would NEVER tell a sexy joke on a first date or probably any joke at all. Neither would I do a card trick. Most of my humor is ad lib, not prepared or written jokes or material. I think a guy who tells jokes on a first date is kinda lame.
Now about whether or not you have no sense of humor if you didn't find the joke funny: You might have a sense of humor, just a more reserved one than I do. And I would judge a person based on their reaction to a dirty joke, to a blasphemous joke, to a sick joke, etc. Just as I would judge a person based on political views.
But whether or not you find jokes about masturbation distasteful or not, the joke is funny. Most people think so.
You said you agree that someone (like me), who didn't think the joke you used as the (apparent) gold standard for judging someone's sense of humor (the masturbating man) was funny, has no sense of humor. You went on to say that I "might have a sense of humor, just a more reserved one", and then in your next post (#124) you revealed that, in your "judgement", since I didn't find your joke funny, it was a indication of my sexual "appetite".
I'm kinda getting the impression that you use humor as a tool to judge a woman's sexual prowess. In your opinion, if a woman laughs at your "erotic" jokes, then she'll be compatible (i.e. kinky) like you. Moreover, I also get the impression that if a woman laughs at your jokes, you use her laughter to measure her willingness, and, of your chances with her. The more you're able to defile her ears by your jokes without protestation, the more you can expect to defile her in bed. I get the impression you like it really raunchy, and that's why you like all those "racy" jokes (that you probably bring out, what? on the third date?).
So, basically, I hear you saying you use "humor" to gauge how exploitable women are.
I didn't laugh at your joke and you knew right away you wouldn't date someone like me. Why? Because I failed your test lol.
Actually, what it means is I'm no fool. Your response to the women who doesn't find your jokes funny? You insinuate that there is something wrong with her. (Which is what you did with me.) For example you said, "Most people think its funny." and "...if you find mildly erotic jokes to be 'distasteful'..." etc.
You stand by your opinion (I have no real sense of humor) and I stand by mine: I think your sense of humor is "distasteful", especially in the manner I perceive you using it - like a bag of tricks.
Most of the women I know appreciate being treated like a lady, and by a man with good manners. If you care to really impress a women, you might consider giving your "SOH" a serious upgrade "IMHO". | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 2:54:09 PM | I have always said that everyone can be broken down into two categories of humor. Those that preferred Col. Blake MASH and those that preferred Col. Potter MASH.
The former is a love of humor for the sake of humor while the latter tends to want their humor to have a deeper meaning. You can have a great sense of humor but your date/interest be in tune with a different type of humor.
And no one trait is the be all that ends all for what people are looking for in a dating interest. Yes, they may love your sense of humor and it does go in their "Pro Column" for you but they don't like that you had the puppies printed on your personal checks. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 3:35:27 PM | Hi ItsMargo,
I should add that I don't have a problem with anyone who finds the OP's joke funny. I can see why someone would think it was funny, personally. I'm not saying that just because I didn't think it was funny that you should, too. However, the OP is saying that everyone should think his joke was funny and that if you don't, he judges you based on that. He judges you to have a poor sense of humor if you don't like his joke.
For me, it was just too dumb to be funny. I thought it was a dumb joke.
Do a lot of people like dumb jokes? Sure, because everyone has their own sense of humor. But to judge someone for not thinking a particular joke is funny, especially when it can easily be argued that the joke shouldn't be regarded as universally funny (which is what the OP suggested it was), is a part of the issue here.
In other words, the entire conversation has turned into much more then whether or not you think the joke is funny, or if laughing at the same joke is a test of compatibility. There's much more substance to the argument and it's gone way beyond whether the joke is funny or not in your opinion. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 4:45:42 PM |
I think that these days, a sense of humour is more important than ever & I find a man that has a good one [sense of humour  ], very sexy.
Well, HL...A minister, a priest and a rabbi walked into a bar.....
A sense of humor is important. I don't want to be with someone who never smiles or laughs.
Exactly, but you should always finish a joke for a lady:
..... where they would get together 2-3 times a week for drinks and to talk shop. On this particular afternoon, someone made the comment that preaching to people isn't really all that hard. A real challenge would be to preach to a bear. One thing led to another and they decided to do an experiment. They would all go out into the woods, find a bear, preach to it, and attempt to convert it. 7 days later, they're all together to discuss the experience.
Father Flannery, who has his arm in a sling, is on crutches, and has various bandages, goes first.
"Well," he says, "I went into the woods to find me a bear. And when I found him I began to read to him from the Catechism. Well, that bear wanted nothing to do with me and began to slap me around. So I quickly grabbed my holy water, sprinkled him and, Holy Mary Mother of God, he became as gentle a lamb. The bishop is coming out next week to give him first communion and confirmation."
Reverend Billy Bob spoke next. He was in a wheelchair, with an arm and both legs in casts, and an IV drip. In his best fire and brimstone oratory he claimed, " WELL brothers, you KNOW that we don't sprinkle! I went out and I FOUND me a bear. And then I began to read to my bear from God's HOLY WORD! But that bear wanted nothing to do with me. So I took HOLD of him and we began to wrestle. We wrestled down one hill, UP another and DOWN another until we came to a creek. So I quick DUNKED him and BAPTIZED his hairy soul. And just like you said, he became as gentle as a lamb. We spent the rest of the day praising Jesus."
They both looked down at the rabbi, who was lying in a hospital bed. He was in a body cast and traction with IV's and monitors running in and out of him. He was in bad shape.
The rabbi looks up and says, "Looking back on it, circumcision may not have been the best way to start." | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/13/2009 4:53:17 PM | ^^^^^ 
That's a great joke. And if definitely appeals to my own sense of humor. And yes, humor is absolutely essential to a relationship. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/15/2009 2:17:35 AM | ou said you agree that someone (like me), who didn't think the joke you used as the (apparent) gold standard for judging someone's sense of humor (the masturbating man) was funny, has no sense of humor. You went on to say that I "might have a sense of humor, just a more reserved one", and then in your next post (#124) you revealed that, in your "judgement", since I didn't find your joke funny, it was a indication of my sexual "appetite".
I'm kinda getting the impression that you use humor as a tool to judge a woman's sexual prowess. In your opinion, if a woman laughs at your "erotic" jokes, then she'll be compatible (i.e. kinky) like you. Moreover, I also get the impression that if a woman laughs at your jokes, you use her laughter to measure her willingness, and, of your chances with her. The more you're able to defile her ears by your jokes without protestation, the more you can expect to defile her in bed. I get the impression you like it really raunchy, and that's why you like all those "racy" jokes (that you probably bring out, what? on the third date?).
So, basically, I hear you saying you use "humor" to gauge how exploitable women are.
I didn't laugh at your joke and you knew right away you wouldn't date someone like me. Why? Because I failed your test lol.
Actually, what it means is I'm no fool. Your response to the women who doesn't find your jokes funny? You insinuate that there is something wrong with her. (Which is what you did with me.) For example you said, "Most people think its funny." and "...if you find mildly erotic jokes to be 'distasteful'..." etc.
You stand by your opinion (I have no real sense of humor) and I stand by mine: I think your sense of humor is "distasteful", especially in the manner I perceive you using it - like a bag of tricks.
Most of the women I know appreciate being treated like a lady, and by a man with good manners. If you care to really impress a women, you might consider giving your "SOH" a serious upgrade "IMHO
I didn't think there was anything wrong with you before, but I do now. You have no sense of humor plus you're batshit crazy. You would have to be to draw those conclusions from what I've posted. You have serious issues, girl. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:29:33 AM | Hi GeeJToon,
Sorry if I misjudged you. If I missed the mark I'm honestly sorry. Perhaps we both made the mistake of misjudging each other.
My apologies. | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 9/30/2009 10:11:41 AM |
A sense of humor is extremely important, but, yes, compatibility in humor is essential.
BINGO..!!!
Ms ismene2 I think you hit right on target...
I wants my mate laffin WITH me...
-------------------NOT at me...
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| How important is a sense of humor anyway?
Posted: 9/30/2009 10:19:08 AM | ^^^I can't imagine you have any difficulty with this issue. Most of the women here seem to be delighted with your sense of humor--including me.  | |
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