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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:00:58 AM | have you thought she may be using you until someone better comes along?
if, as you say, the sex is so good she's probably happy to continue this relationship with you.....after all good sex isn't that easy to find.
when she finally dumps you neither partner will have their feelings hurt.
clever girl! | |
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| is it ok to continue a relationship when i know i don't love?
Posted: 7/3/2009 2:16:53 AM | OP,
Put all the cards on the table....maybe she is also enjoying the sex without more expectations, then you are both cool...
Main thing here is you are 100% sure she knows and is fully aware how you feel about th relationship. | |
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| is it ok to continue a relationship when i know i don't love?
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:19:54 AM | | ITS Very Wrong. I was in a relationship for almost 4 years and the man didnt love me. I dont even think he loved himself. Anyone who cant be honest or isnt honest, doesnt deserve love or affection from anyone. If you dont love her LEAVE. DO her and yourself a huge big hairy favor. | |
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| is it ok to continue a relationship when i know i don't love?
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:53:47 AM | | dont waste her time. love is a strong emotion and should not be wasted on someone who cannot reciprocate (unless she's the female version of jesus christ). dont be subtle then. in a respectful manner, let her be aware of your feelings and let her go. she deserves someone who can give her the same affection she can give. the only drawback is when you realize after she's gone that you actually love her. it has happened a lot of times. but before you start being selfish again, think. she is not your mother. she is not obliged to love you. | |
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| is it ok to continue a relationship when i know i don't love?
Posted: 9/11/2009 12:28:54 PM | I saw an explanation on another thread that really makes sense. The woman was explaining how the man she met wasn't that attractive, the chemistry wasn't all that good, he was smart and funny but she just didn't feel it. Something was missing. They dated for similar reasons that you say you are now.
This was the kicker: He had to move away for a couple of months because of his job and suddenly she missed him unbearably (her words there). She missed all those things they had been doing that she didn't much care about before.
Her end result was they ended up being married because she came to realize that although he wasn't in the perfect catalog, nobody else is either. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2009 9:33:38 PM |
girls do this all the time to guys
- True, but that does not make it right.
First of all, she's probably too young to know what she's doing or what she wants in a relationship.
Second, there is no second thing... her age is reason enough right there to let her go, makes everything else a non-issue.
School/college age young adults have a very high relationship falure rate. Most are not ready. | |
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| is it ok to continue a relationship when i know i don't love?
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:03:03 PM |
i don't love her.
quite honestly, i am with her b/c i don't have someone else
its just convenient. and mainly sexual
i feel guilty.
i've told her numerous times she should be looking for other guys
Any man that acts like this needs to take these words to the lady he's boinking and ask her if she still wants to continue the sex.
Also, ask her the reasons why she is settling for this. Ask her if she feels she loves you.
Then you will have honesty across the page. Straight goods. That should fix your guilt feelings if anything.
i think, is she loves the sex.
Presumptious much? Are you bragging? Let's see how much she loves the sex after the honest conversation that is overdue on this.
Really!
What OP related is NOT unheard of. Many men are in this kind of situation.
If the woman ain't gonna say anything about anything, then the men DO ASSUME that you love to wallow in sex with no feelings or emotions present. | |
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| is it ok to continue a relationship when i know i don't love?
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:28:06 AM | gopensgo,
ouch!
you need to stop playing your game and let go of her because you're highly aware of what you're doing and it sucks.
when and if you do break it off with her, be nice.........she has feelings you know.
rotten thing you're doing there, you should be ashamed of yourself. | |
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