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Posted: 10/27/2009 8:47:41 AM | Lol. I am so glad you have concerned yourself with my well being.  I have been through a divorce and I am well aware of all consequences of marriage and joining finances and combining our net worth. But again..thank you for your concern. 
*edit to add* Do you seriously think that my biggest worry if we were to get a divorce would be losing the house? My biggest concern would be figuring out why my marriage failed. F the house. I can get another house. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 9:22:19 AM | Lol again. Thank you for your concern. Really.... | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 9:44:27 AM | No you didn't. You came through as being realistic. And yes, the reality of the situation is that I could very well be screwed. I am aware of that. But then again, I could not and would not marry another man that I did not trust completely 100% and that was in love and in business relations. Just like opening a business with someone...you have to trust that person. And if I didn't then I wouldn't get married. Trust is broken everyday, I know this too, but what marriage (or business)would ever work or be successful without the trust in the partners?
Not callous at all. Just your concern for one of us reformed evil, dirty single mothers is contradictory to everything else you post. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 10:47:56 AM | | I pay all my own bills and all on time, manage my own 2 BR apartment, own my 2008 car outright, my son even said I do a "better" job of parenting and keeping things clean than his other parent (I dont even call him a "father" since he doesnt act like one or treat him like one), I will have an MISM degree in 18 months, and am a stay at home mom for the time being, all without ever asking anyone for a dime! | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 11:07:52 AM |
I pay all my own bills and all on time, manage my own 2 BR apartment, own my 2008 car outright, my son even said I do a "better" job of parenting and keeping things clean than his other parent (I dont even call him a "father" since he doesnt act like one or treat him like one), I will have an MISM degree in 18 months, and am a stay at home mom for the time being, all without ever asking anyone for a dime!
I'm just curious on how you pay bills if you aren't working and don't get money from anyone.....I would LOVE to know that secret! lol.  | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 11:53:05 AM | Not everyone has a zero balance in the bank.
Its called being sensible with cash and being ready for a recession. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 3:10:17 PM | | Holding an A average in my MBA course work. Being able to save some money, and still doing some fun stuff, like taking my son on a pony ride. Oh moving to a nice farm house last month. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 6:40:28 PM | At parent/teacher conferences today I found out just how well my 2 oldest are doing in school and was told by both teachers that it is very obvious that I am very active in working with them on their homework every night and that I am a good mom. With everything going on, this is my first quarter as a single mom. So it felt good to hear that.
My six year old is already at a reading level above where they want her class to be at the end of the year. And my 7 yr old scored above what the school wants students to score at the end of year testing on the beginning of year tests. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 6:52:47 PM | Ok, just saw this thread tonight & love it! You're right OP - too often we're told or too worried about what we're doing wrong. It's time to talk about doing it right. So, here goes my self-pat on the back. I've been a single mom for two years now. I've managed to secure a nice, safe place for me & the kids to live, my own car, work full-time, make time to help my kids with homework (they're both A/B students), take them to football practice & games 5 days per week, take them to cub scouts every week & I'm back in grad school. whew. no wonder I'm tired! Lol!!
Kudos to all single parents - moms & dads - who make it work!  | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 6:26:31 PM | | My 14 yr old daughter has ADD. Not to the point that meds are neccessary, but it is really hard for her to focus on certain types of things and she has always struggled to get Cs & Ds. This year she started high school and based on what I had seen with my older kids and their friends, I decided to put her in an alternative school. They do the same work, take the same tests, etc, etc, but the classes are smaller and they are set up differently. The classes are 2 hrs instead of 1 so they only have half as many and a semester is only 9 weeks - same class time, but not as many organizational skills required. Also the teachers are used to ADD kids and don't get mad if a kid asks them to repeat something. It was actually hard to get her into because they said it was meant for kids who are in trouble or actually failing all of their classes. My daughter offered to get into trouble and start failing her classes, but they decided that wasn't neccessary. Once accepted, kids are allowed to stay until they graduate. First semester just ended and my daughter has decided she likes history now. She got the highest grade in the class on her algebra final and is making straight As!! Best of all, she LOVES school and is talking college!! | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 11:00:07 PM | The 50/5o thing is only mandated in the 9 community property states. I can't wait to get my rear end out of Texas! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 4:06:21 PM | I can finally consider myself a grown-up.....hehehe. If you knew my life story, you would understand but I'm not getting into all that here.
Hey Tito - good to know you have a heart....never thought you didn't. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 7:59:57 PM | Hm. I feel the need to brag a little.
I already have one degree I recieved in May. I'm working towards another one and should have at least my masters and possibly doctorate before my son starts to school. Yay!
I'm finally able to afford a house. I've been seriously looking for one here and in another state. I can't wait to finally find one. But I don't have to worry about rushing as I'm renting a nice 4br 2,200 sq ft house on over a half an acre - in a nice neighborhood. Yay.
I have a decent job that allows me to live comfortably AND I still get a lot of time to spend with my son!
And I don't have to worry about car payments as I had the cash to buy a nicer used car.
Life is good. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 6:08:47 PM | Good on all of you ladies, although I do think some of you will have had some money to start with and some not all will get support for your children from your ex.
To me a single parent who has achieved something is someone who has never had that kind of support as in no father present or not even married if you catch my drift.
I am in a different postion as I am widowed, I had no payout as no insurance or not for cancer anyway, but feel lucky that I am able to survive just on a state pension I get , but get in the uk if you get a little they take it off you , I dont get the benefits of being a sinlge parent ...never owned a house I could sell etc etc ...I have moved house , I dont drive... my son is stable and doing well at school , never as yet been in trouble doesnt drink smoke or do drugs is not anti social .
I am back at college doing a masters degree, will get me a job that I want ...I notice the guys post on here saying he had brought his daughter up on his own , that to me is an achievement.
I have always worked and paid my way even when my husband was alive , but I really did have to start again from the begining
I guess I am just a bit lost , when I hear that you have managed on your OWN when really you do have some support if your husbands pay for their children , so you were never really derelict ..if you get were I am coming from please explain if you can or am I reading things wrong
I wish well to you all and hope you are all successful in what you do
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Posted: 11/1/2009 6:32:16 PM | ^^^Madam, I can only speak for myself, for those are the experience I have true first hand knowlegde of.
I had been to a point where I was living out of my car. I have some pretty terrible disablities as a result of the War on Terror. The courts did a number on me, where they ordered the support to my ex-wife first, then several months later, I recieved custody of our son. I've had experiences where I had to choose gas over food for myself so I could continue to work and make sure my son ate. Throughout it all, I never gave up faith, or hope. Now a few years later it was exactly (3) yesterday, I live in a nice home. Drive a car that is paid for, am able to continue my education. I still pay the ex-wife, oh well. All of this was because of hard work faith, and my beleif that I live in the Greatest Nation on Earth, because here you can fall, but pick youself up, bush yourself off, and become greater then you were before you started.
In short, count the Blessings everyday, and the irrations won't look so daughanting.
Here wishing to wishing you success, happiness, and luck in all you choose to do.
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:51:32 PM | I always do, I am assumign you are talking to me as it is hard when your not allowed to address anyone by name ..good luck to you .
and yes I have been there too more than once for different reasons, I am good now too and have no intention of going there again, but at least it taught me that if I did , I would keep getting back up ;D | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 6:11:04 PM | Soulfire, I was addressing you. I used the arrows to indicate that. I am happy that all is well with you. I too have no intention of ever returning to the circumstances that led me to my hardships, and like you it taught me to embrace the suck and drive on. I think that you and I would get along well, and that we have a lot in common. I brought up my experience, because none of us really knows what another person has gone through. It is a shame that you do live so far way.
Again I wish nothing but blessings and happiness on you and your family. Best of Luck to you.
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Posted: 11/8/2009 4:50:30 PM | hey you too, some people really dont know how lucky they are and appreciate what they have, until they lose everything .
i hope you too have much happiness and good luck ;) | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 8:18:39 AM | | I have raised my daughter alone for the past 4 years and I am finally in a position where I can afford to buy my own house! I see all these guys "falling" for the damsel in distress and for a split second wish that I could be those girls just because I miss being in love, but then when I take a look at everything I have and everything I can do without the help of a "hero" I'm proud to be just who I am, a single mommy! | |
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