| Not sure she was that into me
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:51:08 PM | OP I think your overanalyzing way too much, way too soon.
Yes it is rude for her to text during your First Meeting. But that doesn't make her "Not that into you", it just makes her "rude". Those two things can be mutually exclusive. If you don't like that behavior then (politely) tell her you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't text or talk on the phone while she's on her date with you. If she then continues to do it, then she is not respecting your very reasonable request.
I have a great friend who always texts people whether she's with me, or a guy she really likes or whoever. That girl can't live without her phone for two seconds! I don't like that aspect of her but no one's perfect.
She only wanted your first meeting to be 1.25 hours? That would be about three times as long as I'd want my first meeting with a guy to be, even if I did like him. I feel a first meeting is just that: a first meeting. You meet, chit chat, go your separate ways and decide if you want to see each other again for a first date. You 'assumed' it would be longer, but that was obviously not a safe assumption on your part.
I don't blame her for not rescheduling plans with her friends. I wouldn't either for a guy I just met, or even for a guy I loved. (Unless it was urgent). Respecting the fact that other people may have plans already is part of a healthy relationship.
As far as your plan to NOT call her as you had told her you would, that would be your bad, and no excuse for that. | |
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| Not sure she was that into me
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:54:16 PM | Behavioral Psychology time, looks like you have a knack for it like me :D.
Anyways, breaking down the main points.
1. She accepted a date with you via POF
2. You went on said date -- sorry if I missed it, but did you pay for the entire meal?
3. You asked her out again (basically) -- she said yes. This could either be a genuine yes or a "I don't have the balls (literally) to tell you I don't think we'd work out."
4. While the texting thing is rude, some people are simply like that. I wouldn't use that as a precursor for writing her off.
5. It was a first date, an hour and 15 or so isn't TOO bad -- personally I'd do near a whole day and others would consider that too long. Everyone defines this first date stuff differently, I'm sure you've noticed that in profiles.
There's a bit more to break down, but regardless all you really have to do to find out is call her on Sunday. You get your answer then, till then don't sweat it. To be honest you're overthinking things way too much (I do it too at times) and are probably just going to make yourself sound like a putz when you have no confidence when you call her up.
Best of luck with it -- for what it's worth the text thing would be a deal breaker for a lot of people in your shoes. Most of us wouldn't put up with someone who did something like that. | |
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| Not sure she was that into me
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:55:28 PM | | Look she may not be into you as everyone is saying, but you said you would call so you keep your word. Call be polite and then be done with it, if you don't call it makes you a liar and gives her justification for not liking you. Be a gentalman and in this way you make her the loser. | |
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| Not sure she was that into me
Posted: 7/3/2009 3:55:09 AM | | Wow! I want to thank all of you for your great responces.It really made me feel better and helped me sort things out in my head.I see some think I should call and others see no point.Truthfully having had time to think things through I cant say I am intereted now and I have already started chatting with someone who I can relate to more.So should I call her Sunday even though I am more than convinced that she has little or no interest in me and I have lost my own curiocity?If I do call what would be the nature of the call ?My gut feeling is that she will be relieved I didnt call as one of the previous posters said. | |
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| Not sure she was that into me
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:06:07 AM | | You would be calling because she told you to call and you said you would. I dont know why you would waste anymore of your time on someone who didnt even have the decency to stay off her cell phone during the date and then made up an excuse to leave. I agree with the previous guy, call her to clear your conscience and see if she wants to go out again. If she doesnt big deal, move on....there are plenty of other fish in the sea. The simple thing to do is ask her up front if she has any interest whatsoever...saves you all this time of wondering if she likes u or not. | |
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| Not sure she was that into me
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:29:41 AM | ScrewsForCorn (???????)
I don't usually side with what a woman says (just as a basic operating principle) but in this instance, I have to agree with you. You hit the nail right on the head. And hey, what's with your screen name? Just curious. | |
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| Not sure she was that into me
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:45:22 PM | ask her out again. If she says yest, she enjoyed the first date. If she says no, then things didn't go well.
I remember one girl. After the first date, she said it wouldn't go anywhere. after the Second date, she said it wasn't working for her. After the third date she said she didn't see it going anywhere.
We were together for four years.
We're still friends.
Ketch | |
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