You are the common denominator in your story but here is another common denominator -
Why would the girl be the one to initiate
Sounds like you are passive and wait for women to come on to you. Why not get pro-active and search out profiles that appeal to you and contact *them*.
I remember an Ally McBeal episode where she has met a Doctor, incredibly handsome, refined, volunteers with underpriviledged children, leads a fascinating life and on the whole, is an amazing man. He takes her out to a beautiful dinner and reveals the most revolting laugh one has heard come out of the mouth of a human being. And throughout the dinner, he laughs a lot, mouth open, full of food. What's your laugh like?
You sound wonderful and you are attractive, but sometimes one thing can be overpoweringly annoying. Horrible breath, body odour etc. Have you done a check with your closest friends as to why every woman who has come on to you has left you in the lurch without even a polite good-bye?