| i cant beleive someone would talk about their mother like that
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:57:06 PM | | I'm not sure OP but the issue your having may not be the comments that wer said. Your issue could be cuz you do not know the whole story. When your having a private conversation with your g/f drop some hinted questions to try & find out what's really going on. Maybe she'll want to talk about it but if not, don't push her to. I heard a recent statistic that least 50% of marriages end in divorce now so situations like that defiantly aren't uncommon. | |
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| i cant beleive someone would talk about their mother like that
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:05:13 PM | | The kids talk like that because it's obviously been allowed all along and has become a learned trait. If it was out of the ordinary, the girlfriend would have said something to her kids right then and there - no matter their age. There is little respect shown to the grandmother likely because the girlfriend doesn't respect the mother. More disconcerting is the fact that this is brought up in front of someone who isn't part of the family. I can only imagine what might be being said about you behind your back if this is the way they routinely talk about family members. If nothing else, it's certainly lacking in couth. | |
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| i cant beleive someone would talk about their mother like that
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:30:09 PM | Ive always found that if you allow peoples actions to speak for themselves children will make their own judgements about the person given time and personal experience.
It was totally unneeded for me to tell my son what his dad was about- he descovered that for himself. I kept him from as much hurt as I could but that relationship has never been mine to nurture or to destroy. His dad did that as best he could with out any words from me.
Does his dad blame me? sure thing.... does my son know the truth about it? sure thing.... but not from my mouth.
There are ways of allowing the truth to speak without taking it on ourselves decide what it is. That Grama well.... the daughter should have closed her mouth and just let actions speak for themselves. And if you never had any contact with the grama then there never would be any reason for you to know all the ins and outs of that relationship except ... that the daughter might still be dealing with the reminants of it...... be aware if she is still this bitter she hasnt delt with her own pain. | |
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